₦airaland Forum

iamJ:


September

pressplay411:
APC is not Buhari. Kindly read and digest that again.

shaybebaby:
Lol@bolded. But you should be grateful, she didn't waste your time for too long.
Anyways, that's her idiocy showing right there. I certainly wouldn't want to be with someone who reasons that way so yeah, it's better they excuse themselves.
Seems like you seek someone is who is open minded and flexible in their thinking. It's going to be a bit more difficult in the nigerian environment to find girls like that.
It's through no fault of theirs though, it's the pressures put on them by the society with you menfolk not excluded from culpability. I remember a guy posting on here that he likes older gals and he was laughed at. The norm in naij is older guy, younger girl. It takes a certain resilience to be able to ignore what people consider as conventional. She, quite rightly for the environment is worried about if she can withstand possible future jabs(women generally age faster than men bullshit and all that). Also worried about if you may cave in to the same pressures to conform(finding a younger counterpart).
You may say foreign girls are different but that is because the society here generally doesn't give a Bleep. No one bats an eyelid. So people are generally free to make their choices without fear of censure. Put a foreign girl in Nigeria and watch her succumb to the same pressures.

WebSurfer:
She said so but I gave her guarantee I'm not one of those

Infact I only just found out last week my dad and mum were mates before she passed on.. they didn't have any such issues or ever had any relationship outside marriage but that wasn't enough.. I guess it's just an excuse after all the guarantee I gave.. I tire mehnn

shaybebaby:
I'm going to ask you to ignore that advice. No offense.

Want a partner who may go the full distance, you must always be yourself.
This isn't some fairy tale where you have a true reveal. This is real life bro.

Secondly, what do you want? I mean in life? What is the picture of the life you want, I mean not now, in 5 years, 10 years?

What are your dreams?

Identify those and find someone who shares the same dream i.e wants the same things and is willing to work with you to achieve the life you both want.

shaybebaby:
But people can judge from within their sphere of experience.
If you live in naij which is filled by Nigerians predominantly, your dating experience is limited to that pool. He has dated naija girls mainly and has found them wanting. No point in whinging because it's HIS experience.

Of course if he dates outside, he will find that it aint perfect either.
No need to be upset about the stereotype, unfortunately we all do in one way or another.

Luckygurl:
He didn't do it expressly with his first post. Subsequent replies did.

My reply isn't just limited to this op's experience anyway.
Let's just say it's something I've discovered over time surfing Nl, romance section especially.
I had to use this as an outlet to bare my thoughts

Luckygurl:
The alarming number of threads I come across each day aimed at bashing the female folks are alarming. No day passes by without me reading such and it leads me to wonder what exactly is wrong.

Most atimes it's as a result of a sweet relationship turned sour. Y'all suddenly forget in a twinkle of an eye how things were once rosy and how you picked up subtle signs but chose to ignore them.

Let me paint a popular scenario here.
You meet a lady oozing with class, posh, pretty and all, maybe in a club or some high class place. You succeed in exchanging contacts and hit things up from there. It's obvious she's of a high taste but you feel as a guy you can roll on her levels.
She's probably still a student living big and you wonder how she's able to maintain such a luxurious lifestyle from her monthly allowance coming from home or maybe a working class lady still trying to figure out her career path yet living big. But then she suits your exact taste and her source of income is of less importance to you.
You ask her out without doing due diligence on her background and all, that's when the true nature of things begin to unfold. Numerous calls from other admirers, her suspicious unavailability on many occasions, subtle signs but because she satisfies you sexually and is the sweet kind of girl, you ignore.

All of a sudden, truth hits you like a timed bomb right back on the face and you come crying all girls are evil.

Did you do your background checks?
All those subtle signs, did you act on them?
Were you completely fair from your own end?
Your answer is obviously no to all the questions above.

Now to my fellow ladies
You have alot of guys at your beck and call flaunting their wealth right on your face. You don't wanna pick one to stick with but you feel playing your cards right and having all of them right under your control is the best, no problem. You can go on right ahead, it's your life to live. I'm not gonna judge or condemn you.
But please do well to let them know you're in it for the money. You satisfy them and in return they part with the cash, a reward for the services rendered (well not like you didn't enjoy the act itself).
Any guy that plunges in with emotions should be ready for the outcome.

Don't go and trap one innocent guy who's obviously head over heels in love with you and does everything within him to see you're happy.
This is strictly business for you, emotions are kept far away from it.
You're in it for the money, be fair enough to keep the gullible and soft hearted at bay.

But no!! Will they hear?
The guys won't hesitate to opt for the hot classy ones all to themselves when it's obvious you're way below their level, the ladies still wanna eat their cake and have it yet in their hands.

Later they come here crying fowl.
Nonsense!! Suits y'all right
It's a crazy world y'know

biacan:
You don't want to NO

biacan:
sis GOD bless your hustle

OboOlora:
Ankara lori sneakers
Money can't buy class, see interior of the house like shrine

Uniqueness01:
It is either she didn't get full satisfaction or she felt she shouldn't be paying for what she and Olu enjoyed hence she refused to pay

oselydia:
you got a beautiful respond, Thanks

Divay22:
Lol.
Oyinbo girls.. Okay o

Divay22:
Lol..
Do you know it's possible to mould a woman, to your spec (that's if she loves you tho)

WebSurfer:
Class has been putting me in troubles since 1960 these days I'm getting to think I should go for lower classes if maybe those are the ones who will be real in sincerity

MaritzaNL:
My conscience is not dead yet but the rate at which you guys whine on nairaland is alarming, go get a fuccking life, and maybe just maybe you will find true love in a Nigerian girl .

Slayer2:
Some will just keep quiet all the time and expect you to talk to them all the time. Even when you talk to them, they can't keep a conversation, they have nothing to say. Mtchew.

I they plan to relocate from this country to Cameroon.

Shinarlaura how u see am? Ma come, make I just wife u if ah come

Divay22:
I wonder which girls, some guys are getting married to every Saturday
Abi it's not the Nigeria girls, this one is complaining about.

Well the ones you met are full of pride and misplaced priorities, not all.. But If you say you're tired,you can go... We won't stop you.

WebSurfer:
I'm tired bro.. really tired of trying one after the other only to find out i keep wasting my time and resources

frankputer:
I schooled in ilorin.
You make a request at the restaurant ,
You pay for the meal ,
And serve your self before you eat.
And it's in Nigeria.
I love their restaurant policy.
Most their restaurant practice that even in the school(Uni ) and in the town.