WebSurfer:

And the sweetest part is with all , months will pass but they won't tell you about any financial issue like our Nigerian sisters

Months ke..I've never seen them ever brought such issue up...Doesn't mean our sisters are bad...they just need to relax

WebSurfer:

Shebi I told you I am a billionaire ni ? But even if I was one you think it's fun feeling played all the time abi ??

ah so someone can not find Mr Right in peace again

WebSurfer:

Hardly check mails, are you on IG?

Nope


If you got the whatsapp? I will be online in the evening.

Have to get back 2 work.

Duty calls.

Cheers.

rabazamba:


Just go for white gals or chinko..

Working on relocating already.. maybe that's where my destiny is bro

alexialin:





Nope


If you got the whatsapp? I will be online in the evening.

Have to get back 2 work.

Duty calls.

Cheers.

Ok

biacan:

ah so someone can not find Mr Right in peace again

Are you on Instagram ?

WebSurfer:
Are you on Instagram ?

yes

biacan:

yes

what's your handle ?

WebSurfer:
what's your handle ?

hit the mail

biacan:
hit the mail

Doesnt work

WebSurfer:
Doesnt work

I responded

WebSurfer:

please let me know when you get it so i can delete from here

Av add u up.


You can delete

I see the way guys complain about ladies and girls also doing the same


but we fail to realize if both genders were brought up well we won't b having issues

Elder brothers no longer discipline their sisters when they go astray same goes for girls

in the early 70's 80's n 90's you could just pick up a girl u watched for a week n marry her without fear but now series of interviews ve to be done but still we still fear


ask yourself this when last did u chastise your younger one for an unruly behaviour since parents are no longer concerned about upkeep


a guy wants a good girl while his sister is a slay queen


hmmmm

chidichuddo:
I see the way guys complain about ladies and girls also doing the same


but we fail to realize if both genders were brought up well we won't b having issues

Elder brothers no longer discipline their sisters when they go astray same goes for girls

in the early 70's 80's n 90's you could just pick up a girl u watched for a week n marry her without fear but now series of interviews ve to be done but still we still fear


ask yourself this when last did u chastise your younger one for an unruly behaviour since parents are no longer concerned about upkeep


a guy wants a good girl while his sister is a slay queen


hmmmm

I can beat my chest this is not same with me.. I make sure I discipline my sisters when necessary till date.. especially the one graduating next week

The alarming number of threads I come across each day aimed at bashing the female folks ehhh. No day passes by without me reading such and it leads me to wonder what exactly is wrong.

Most atimes it's as a result of a sweet relationship turned sour. Y'all suddenly forget in a twinkle of an eye how things were once rosy and how you picked up subtle signs but chose to ignore them.

Let me paint a popular scenario here.
You meet a lady oozing with class, posh, pretty and all, maybe in a club or some high class place. You succeed in exchanging contacts and hit things up from there. It's obvious she's of a high taste but you feel as a guy you can roll on her levels.
She's probably still a student living big and you wonder how she's able to maintain such a luxurious lifestyle from her monthly allowance coming from home or maybe a working class lady still trying to figure out her career path yet living big. But then she suits your exact taste and her source of income is of less importance to you.
You ask her out without doing due diligence on her background and all, that's when the true nature of things begin to unfold. Numerous calls from other admirers, her suspicious unavailability on many occasions, subtle signs but because she satisfies you sexually and is the sweet kind of girl, you ignore.

All of a sudden, truth hits you like a timed bomb right back on the face and you come crying all girls are evil.

Did you do your background checks?
All those subtle signs, did you act on them?
Were you completely fair from your own end?
Your answer is obviously no to all the questions above.

Now to my fellow ladies
You have alot of guys at your beck and call flaunting their wealth right on your face. You don't wanna pick one to stick with but you feel playing your cards right and having all of them right under your control is the best, no problem. You can go on right ahead, it's your life to live. No one's gonna judge or condemn you.
But please do well to let them know you're in it for the money. You satisfy them and in return they part with the cash, a reward for the services rendered (well not like you didn't enjoy the act itself).
Any guy that plunges in with emotions should be ready for the outcome.

Don't go and trap one innocent guy who's obviously head over heels in love with you and does everything within him to see you're happy.
This is strictly business for you, emotions are kept far away from it.
You're in it for the money, be fair enough to keep the gullible and soft hearted at bay.

But no!! Will they hear?
The guys won't hesitate to opt for the hot classy ones all to themselves when it's obvious you're way below their level, the ladies still wanna eat their cake and have it yet in their hands.

Later they come here crying fowl.
Nonsense!! Suits y'all right
It's a crazy world y'know

Luckygurl:
The alarming number of threads I come across each day aimed at bashing the female folks are alarming. No day passes by without me reading such and it leads me to wonder what exactly is wrong.

Most atimes it's as a result of a sweet relationship turned sour. Y'all suddenly forget in a twinkle of an eye how things were once rosy and how you picked up subtle signs but chose to ignore them.

Let me paint a popular scenario here.
You meet a lady oozing with class, posh, pretty and all, maybe in a club or some high class place. You succeed in exchanging contacts and hit things up from there. It's obvious she's of a high taste but you feel as a guy you can roll on her levels.
She's probably still a student living big and you wonder how she's able to maintain such a luxurious lifestyle from her monthly allowance coming from home or maybe a working class lady still trying to figure out her career path yet living big. But then she suits your exact taste and her source of income is of less importance to you.
You ask her out without doing due diligence on her background and all, that's when the true nature of things begin to unfold. Numerous calls from other admirers, her suspicious unavailability on many occasions, subtle signs but because she satisfies you sexually and is the sweet kind of girl, you ignore.

All of a sudden, truth hits you like a timed bomb right back on the face and you come crying all girls are evil.

Did you do your background checks?
All those subtle signs, did you act on them?
Were you completely fair from your own end?
Your answer is obviously no to all the questions above.

Now to my fellow ladies
You have alot of guys at your beck and call flaunting their wealth right on your face. You don't wanna pick one to stick with but you feel playing your cards right and having all of them right under your control is the best, no problem. You can go on right ahead, it's your life to live. I'm not gonna judge or condemn you.
But please do well to let them know you're in it for the money. You satisfy them and in return they part with the cash, a reward for the services rendered (well not like you didn't enjoy the act itself).
Any guy that plunges in with emotions should be ready for the outcome.

Don't go and trap one innocent guy who's obviously head over heels in love with you and does everything within him to see you're happy.
This is strictly business for you, emotions are kept far away from it.
You're in it for the money, be fair enough to keep the gullible and soft hearted at bay.

But no!! Will they hear?
The guys won't hesitate to opt for the hot classy ones all to themselves when it's obvious you're way below their level, the ladies still wanna eat their cake and have it yet in their hands.

Later they come here crying fowl.
Nonsense!! Suits y'all right
It's a crazy world y'know

But this op wasn't bashing naija gals. He said he is tired.. Wey the bashing

rabazamba:


But this op wasn't bashing naija gals. He said he is tired.. Wey the bashing

He didn't do it expressly with his first post. Subsequent replies did.

My reply isn't just limited to this op's experience anyway.
Let's just say it's something I've discovered over time surfing Nl, romance section especially.
I had to use this as an outlet to bare my thoughts

Luckygurl:

He didn't do it expressly with his first post. Subsequent replies did.

My reply isn't just limited to this op's experience anyway.
Let's just say it's something I've discovered over time surfing Nl, romance section especially.
I had to use this as an outlet to bare my thoughts

Ok. But naija gals are kind of difficult though.

rabazamba:


Ok. But naija gals are kind of difficult though.

Y'all keep on saying this.
Much emphasis is laid on naija girls.
Why the negative stereotype?

Every nationality has it's own fair share of the good and bad.
Pheeww!
I don't get it at all

WebSurfer:

I can beat my chest this is not same with me.. I make sure I discipline my sisters when necessary till date.. especially the one graduating next week

cool bro

Luckygurl:


Y'all keep on saying this.
Much emphasis is laid on naija girls.
Why the negative stereotype?

Every nationality has it's own fair share of the good and bad.
Pheeww!
I don't get it at all

But people can judge from within their sphere of experience.
If you live in naij which is filled by Nigerians predominantly, your dating experience is limited to that pool. He has dated naija girls mainly and has found them wanting. No point in whinging because it's HIS experience.

Of course if he dates outside, he will find that it aint perfect either.
No need to be upset about the stereotype, unfortunately we all do in one way or another.

WebSurfer:

I'm tired bro.. really tired of trying one after the other only to find out i keep wasting my time and resources

I know your story as I have been following you since the last topic of engagement. I used to complain like you as well.

My assessment of you is that you are a down to earth lover boy. You have so much love, you show it and give the Nigerian girls this same gesture.

Now here is the truth... Over 80% of Nigerian girls don't want or deserve someone like you, especially those ones you really want.

You should hide that personality as much as possible. Yeah, don't let them see it. Gold has value because it's hard to find.

But do you know what I have learned from a Lady I met here?

When you meet a girl... Find out what she really wants. Find out if she wants you. This is the easiest part but often ignored and we end up crying later.

You will know if a girl really wants you or not...

Your first job is to find out if she wants you or wants what you are offering.

Luckygurl:
The alarming number of threads I come across each day aimed at bashing the female folks ehhh. No day passes by without me reading such and it leads me to wonder what exactly is wrong.

Most atimes it's as a result of a sweet relationship turned sour. Y'all suddenly forget in a twinkle of an eye how things were once rosy and how you picked up subtle signs but chose to ignore them.

Let me paint a popular scenario here.
You meet a lady oozing with class, posh, pretty and all, maybe in a club or some high class place. You succeed in exchanging contacts and hit things up from there. It's obvious she's of a high taste but you feel as a guy you can roll on her levels.
She's probably still a student living big and you wonder how she's able to maintain such a luxurious lifestyle from her monthly allowance coming from home or maybe a working class lady still trying to figure out her career path yet living big. But then she suits your exact taste and her source of income is of less importance to you.
You ask her out without doing due diligence on her background and all, that's when the true nature of things begin to unfold. Numerous calls from other admirers, her suspicious unavailability on many occasions, subtle signs but because she satisfies you sexually and is the sweet kind of girl, you ignore.

All of a sudden, truth hits you like a timed bomb right back on the face and you come crying all girls are evil.

Did you do your background checks?
All those subtle signs, did you act on them?
Were you completely fair from your own end?
Your answer is obviously no to all the questions above.

Now to my fellow ladies
You have alot of guys at your beck and call flaunting their wealth right on your face. You don't wanna pick one to stick with but you feel playing your cards right and having all of them right under your control is the best, no problem. You can go on right ahead, it's your life to live. No one's gonna judge or condemn you.
But please do well to let them know you're in it for the money. You satisfy them and in return they part with the cash, a reward for the services rendered (well not like you didn't enjoy the act itself).
Any guy that plunges in with emotions should be ready for the outcome.

Don't go and trap one innocent guy who's obviously head over heels in love with you and does everything within him to see you're happy.
This is strictly business for you, emotions are kept far away from it.
You're in it for the money, be fair enough to keep the gullible and soft hearted at bay.

But no!! Will they hear?
The guys won't hesitate to opt for the hot classy ones all to themselves when it's obvious you're way below their level, the ladies still wanna eat their cake and have it yet in their hands.

Later they come here crying fowl.
Nonsense!! Suits y'all right
It's a crazy world y'know

Best

robotix:
I know your story as I have been following you since the last topic of engagement. I used to complain like you as well.

My assessment of you is that you are a down to earth lover boy. You have so much love, you show it and give the Nigerian girls this same gesture.

Now here is the truth... Over 80% of Nigerian girls don't want or deserve someone like you, especially those ones you really want.

You should hide that personality as much as possible. Yeah, don't let them see it. Gold has value because it's hard to find.

But do you know what I have learned from a Lady I met here?

When you meet a girl... Find out what she really wants. Find out if she wants you. This is the easiest part but often ignored and we end up crying later.

You will know if a girl really wants you or not...

Your first job is to find out if she wants you or wants what you are offering.

Thanks bro.. i will do this from now on

WebSurfer:

Thanks bro.. i will do this from now on

I'm going to ask you to ignore that advice. No offense.

Want a partner who may go the full distance, you must always be yourself.
This isn't some fairy tale where you have a true reveal. This is real life bro.

Secondly, what do you want? I mean in life? What is the picture of the life you want, I mean not now, in 5 years, 10 years?

What are your dreams?

Identify those and find someone who shares the same dream i.e wants the same things and is willing to work with you to achieve the life you both want.

shaybebaby:

But people can judge from within their sphere of experience.
If you live in naij which is filled by Nigerians predominantly, your dating experience is limited to that pool. He has dated naija girls mainly and has found them wanting. No point in whinging because it's HIS experience.

Of course if he dates outside, he will find that it aint perfect either.
No need to be upset about the stereotype, unfortunately we all do in one way or another.

Correct!

shaybebaby:

I'm going to ask you to ignore that advice. No offense.

Want a partner who may go the full distance, you must always be yourself.
This isn't some fairy tale where you have a true reveal. This is real life bro.

Secondly, what do you want? I mean in life? What is the picture of the life you want, I mean not now, in 5 years, 10 years?

What are your dreams?

Identify those and find someone who shares the same dream i.e wants the same things and is willing to work with you to achieve the life you both want.

Gbam!

I like this lady

shaybebaby:

But people can judge from within their sphere of experience.
If you live in naij which is filled by Nigerians predominantly, your dating experience is limited to that pool. He has dated naija girls mainly and has found them wanting. No point in whinging because it's HIS experience.

Of course if he dates outside, he will find that it aint perfect either.
No need to be upset about the stereotype, unfortunately we all do in one way or another.

You couldn't have said it better @emboldened

Luckygurl:


You couldn't have said it better @emboldened

Stay blessed sister.

shaybebaby:


Stay blessed sister.

Oh dear!
Same here too

shaybebaby:

I'm going to ask you to ignore that advice. No offense.

Want a partner who may go the full distance, you must always be yourself.
This isn't some fairy tale where you have a true reveal. This is real life bro.

Secondly, what do you want? I mean in life? What is the picture of the life you want, I mean not now, in 5 years, 10 years?

What are your dreams?

Identify those and find someone who shares the same dream i.e wants the same things and is willing to work with you to achieve the life you both want.p

What i understand from what he explained is, getting to know first what she wants from me firstly.. you see, at the end of the day, i shouldn't go into relationships with those whom are more interested in what they are going to benefit from me other than those who should rather want to create a future with me... there is a difference and its what i saw from his post

WebSurfer:

What i understand from what he explained is, getting to know first what she wants from me firstly.. you see, at the end of the day, i shouldn't go into relationships with those whom are more interested in what they are going to benefit from me other than those who should rather want to create a future with me... there is a difference and its what i saw from his post

Well examining what they consider as benefits should give you a good inkling as to what they consider as important, their values.
No one goes into relationships if they do not envisage some sort of benefits. We all do, you wouldn't date if you think it would be deleterious.
So I'm saying kind of like the opposite, what are the benefits you desire from your partner, find someone whose thoughts align.