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nadesh:
Merike , Dialo, Kimshola and Froddster aremy ultimate loves. i no dey for that sugar mommy arrangement

while Mike and Perri are the ultimate couple!


love rules any day and every time

we don't pakiSTAN 'hate and bitterness'

listening to Johnny drille's 'Romeo and Juliet'

nadesh:
Merike , Dialo, Kimshola and Froddster aremy ultimate loves. i no dey for that sugar mommy arrangement

while Mike and Perri are the ultimate couple!


love rules any day and every time

listening to Johnny drille's 'Romeo and Juliet'

Mercy's house is foine and classy!

She's truly a blessed child


I tap into this favor

Lol...
This kind pepper ehn

I think I like the girl in gold Kiki hair.
Will matchmake her with the dark guy on dreads., unfortunately I don't know their names yet
They look cute together,saw them holding hands in the morning
I also like Rose,I think she's bossy but knowledgeable


And they couldn't even bring a guy that's half as handsome as Mike

sit him down and speak with him. if there are no changes since he's fast becoming an addict,then you will have to let his family know

such an irresponsible dad

@op,if I were you I would have left the house a long time ago. after your Nysc you shouldn't have bothered coming back home. you shouldn't have given him your CV, for what exactly? not just once, but multiple times. leave the house and go and hustle, same thing your sister should be doing. you shouldn't beg him to give you a better life that is what he must do__taking care of you and your sister not some random girls. and I hope those his babes will take care of him when he's old and sickly as he's taking care of them now.

All these ones that are talking trash here,shebi it was in the other thread that someone complained that his friend's wife refused to pay their kids school fees and other bills despite the fact that she was doing well, you all pounced on her and called her unprintable names but here they are now saying those bills are privileges just because the blame is on their fellow man...

@op, I feel for you and your wife too

just go for the therapy as others suggested.purge yourself of all the anger and hatred you have built up over the years due to your foundation..they won't do you any good. your child/children shouldn't grow up in an abusive home if not the cycle continues,and they also become damaged like you

mysticwarrior:
You mean you bit your wife? Chai oga you are worst than Suarez.

lol... that part really got me

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I will be seeing Mercy live on my TV screen tommorow
hei Gawd..on DStv screen o not WhatsApp status
there are levels!
I hope to see Mike & Perri, it's an ultimate love season
haters don't have any choice but to stay glued

Gbegirisoupp:
Perri. We know!
Not the other clout chaser!


May God bless your sincere heart Perri.

are you minding those copy and paste people
Perrispopup.. I like that

sassysure:
And that's why we keep having problems

Instead of ladies to use number 6 to take care of their homes, they are subconsciously flexing muscles.
We destroy everything in our quest for power.
Who losses at the end of the day, women.
Check out all divorced people out there. I hardly hear or see a divorced man because as soon as u are gone, he moves on.
What about divorced woman? At every corner, she carry the tag of a divorcee.
So hard to get married again. Even if she moved out with the kids, when they grow, they will go back to their dad.
When odds are against u due to the patriarchal system we practice, why not apply wisdom in marriage.

Has it occurred to these ladies there is something called winning over?
U can win over your so called wicked in-laws. Who don't want to be surrounded with people who love her?
Women are very subtle when they chose to be and very wise. Use that wisdom to win over your husband's family instead of fighting them always.
Who gains more? U.
U have your husband's undivided attention as well as his family. U wanna get your husband's undivided attention even if he is the devil? Take his family as yours.
Your family are not perfect and the best out there. U just endure them cos u love them
Endure your husband's people too. Are u as a person even perfect.
U can as well walk into your nebors house to cause trouble knowing u have people backing you( rhetorically)

Too much nollywood. Territorialism has destryed more families than it build.

seriously?a woman that is physically, emotionally and mentally abused should sit still in the marriage because of a mere tag? like really?
most divorced women don't want to get married again, they just decide to hustle and live for their kids. if their fellow divorced men decides to get married,then fine for them. the women fight to have their kids with them rather than having a step mum maltreat their kids.

what is wrong if they kids grow up and decide to look for their dad? it's that a sin too. He is their dad, that it didn't work out for their parents doesn't mean they no longer have his DNA.

unless the dad disowned them ,(which is very unlikely sef), the mum can't stop the kids from relating with their dad in future. they bear his name!

there are divorcees that still relate inspite of whatever issues they might have had,they don't just turn sworn enemies overnight.

this tag on divorced women has made women take all types of shit all in the name of 'staying married'

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Oh yes. If any of the mum that comes around for Omugwo is either too old or too lazy to do the needful,then the husband should be the one going to the market or better still employ the services of a nanny to do that if he is too busy. Not a woman that just put to bed.

Do you know what these women pass through during and after child birth? The squatting,the very hot water massaging to heal her if there was a cut during the process of pushing? Or stitches in the case of surgery?

If men can't protect their wives,who will?.

Note I never said men have lazy mothers.I don't know where you got that one from.

My wife gave birth and I was the one that prepared her food that day and took it to the hospital before her mum came.

your last paragraph says it all,
you are an understanding man,pls keep it up not one advocating a woman should jump into the kitchen direct from hospital. to prove what and to who exactly?

sassysure:
U don't know me so don't go personal here.
After giving birth, after few days rest, u are good to go.
Don't sugarcoat it.
U did not win any award.
If it's pregnancy, it's understandable cos pregnancy can deal with lots of women but once u offload, u are as free as air. All those fictitious entitlements are for people that haven't done or seen em all.

As for the single mothers, make your enquiry very well.

Go to markets and see market women that put to bed barely weeks tying their new born on their back and hustling.
No time.
By the way. I am always a big mess when pregnant.
If I can contract that out, I will eagerly do so but upon how weak and colourless i am before I put to bed(CS)
Once baby is out, that is the end of all the agony.
I have lots of married friends, cousins, men in my family are married, nebors, name them etc and they can comfortably take care of themselves and baby.
By the way, we love to emulate oyibos very well, they don't even know what òmùgwò is. Why can't we emulate them on this? If and when u need help, involve your husband.

Misplaced priority.
That is why we take lots of things for granted.
Ur family or husbands family don't owe you anything by being at your beck and call cos u gave birth.
U can comfortably take care of yourself and child.
Don't shift that to any one.
It's wrong that need to be corrected.
It also put heavy toll on the family finance.
Do u know what men pass through to host òmùgwò people? Because they want to impress you, the madam?
Do u know how this so called òmùgwò has driven husbands outside?

Entering into marriage isn't the problem but the wisdom to stay at peace and happily married.

If your friend has hbp and died, that is her problem.
She should have taken her health serious. That has nothing to do with what we are discussing.

And I will tell you that if my husband waited till I put to bed to buy a car for me, I will eye him with corner eye.
He is more in love with that child than me. I'm just an avenue. If the child die nkò?
Will he take his car back?

I don't even know what you are on and off about

God forbid that my friend died, what I wrote there was that a woman who gave birth when my friend did.

you cannot tell me all women recovery period after childbirth is one and the same.

if the mil will come for omugwo and add stress to the woman, it's better off she doesn't come. omugwo is not by force,if the woman can take care of herself and her baby alone,then the in laws should respect that and stay off instead of adding stress to the woman in the name of omugwo.

you cannot tell a woman that just put to bed and needs rest with her baby to jump okada,go to market,cook for her husband, cook for you too and still take care of her baby while you sit and watch TV all day. there are mils that eats separate food cos of their health and age so you are preparing two different dishes two or three times a day.some will still pack dirty clothes for you to wash.

coming 6weeks after,is better not immediately the woman puts to bed.

sassysure:
U know, we Nigerian women take this òmùgwò to the extreme. I wonder who did òmùgwò to all the single mums out there.
We lap on pregnancy and òmùgwò stuff to extort our husbands like there is no tomorrow. Unless u have a major tear and broken hip bone, even with CS, u are good to go after few days rest. Let's stop pretending about this.

If like u said the woman has started work( maternity leave in Nigeria is 3 months or even more) what do u want again?

If u have problem with the relatives, handle that with your husband but remove òmùgwò out of it.

single moms go to their mum for omugwo or their moms go over.
if you have it all good and going during pregnancy and after doesn't mean all women have it that way.it takes a minimum of 6weeks for a woman to heal (internally) not just physically.that's y post natal is slated for 6weeks, during that period you are not supposed to lift anything heavier than your baby. I know of a woman that went into coma and died in asokoro hospital when my friend put to bed. she had a very high BP and the mil and hubby told her to sign for them to go home, that she will be strong when they get home, just for them to wheel her back two days later because she had slumped.if a woman after childbirth decides to take care of of her baby only and rest,then let her be. you can do macho if you wish, your choice.

what do you mean by a woman extorting her husband? at least it's her husband, she can go ahead unless the husband is complaining. there are husbands that witness the birth of their child and decides to buy a brand new car for her.the wife should enjoy biko

crackkhaus:
If your own mother has not acted that way to her DILs or your MIL has not acted that way to you, then you've got nothing to say about it being normal.

As you can see, I took ImaIma's post to .heart because it's her own personal experience and it's hurtful. It's not something any woman in my family (nuclear/extended) and social circle can do.. so it's absolutely rare to me.
Perhaps if you have such in your family, then just say so instead of basing your opinion on what you heard.

oh please!!!

we hear this stuff every time it doesn't have to happen to me personally before I know it exists..

if men won't learn to protect their wives,let the wives protect themselves in the best way they can

budaatum:
Women do take on quite a lot of financial responsibility actually.

In the old days it was the woman who ensured there was food on the table while we were waiting for father's yams to grow. It was the woman who made palm oil to sell from the few trees on the farm. It was the woman who sold the eyins and the akuros. It was the womsn who collected the fire wood too. And it was the woman you likely went crying to when you could not get any money from your pa.

But because she does not boast about it, you are here belittling the contribution of the woman to a family as if you did not see mother contributing in your home!

I forgive you!

did our mothers contribute to their weddings?

crackkhaus:
I think you've shared this experience before, and I admit they were very insensitive to put you through that.

But this kind of situation is quite extremely rare.
Care to share what led to that behaviour from them?

what is extremely rare? this particular situation happens every damn time, it's common, very common. matrons during post natal emphasize and always talk about this,because they have seen and heard what women go through when they put to bed from their in laws all in the name of 'omugwo'.

this topic has long been over dragged, you men speak like you don't know what women go through in the hands of in laws

talking about house helps?if the in laws are of help and cordial to the woman,then it's ok.not that they will come and raise both legs for the woman and still expect her to carry her newborn baby/come home tired from work and cook, clean and serve.

men should talk to their relatives too and not just seat and watch their wives turn slaves. most women that don't want in laws for a long time in their homes knows what they want to avoid

AmazonHippolyta:
I understand audio sweetheart that gifted you audio pads I get it.

Now run along now and lie no more.

You don't understand anything

You can't read so how do you want to understand?

Mike,Y are you this cute?

Sweetpink:
Did you forget that I'm an ancestor?
Meanwhile,its better to be menopausal than to pick used pads and dirty rags on the streets and use them as pads....no wonder you smell like rotten eggs.
Tueh!
Craw craw sef don tire for you,na flies dey follow you up and down.
You will soon be quarantined!!!
Lmao!

I'm not Tarsha oo
This is rain21

I'm wondering y you keep talking of smell and craw craw like you don't know who is the queen of them all

AmazonHippolyta:
Your sweetheart from where?
Have you left the country before to know her from the UK.Don't tell me na pad sharing turn her to your sweetheart ooo.

You are the one pained because pained people lie.So stop lying.

Why are you crying and tearing yourself apart?
Perri shakes is my sweetheart,are you still crying?
Perri shakes is my sweetheart,cry some more.

I have no pity for you

My precious baby is one today

His Royal majesty direct from above

It's a parte after parte

And the Queen wore her crown on this date

6th is a date every winner should have,marked on their winning calendar

AmazonHippolyta:
You are now becoming paranoid when did perri give them to you.Why would she give loads of pads to only you that will last you a century who da hell are you.

Aunty stop lying and take your L in peace you are even the one sounding stupid

Who am I?

Do you read at all?are you also a dropout?

Perri shakes is my sweetheart,stop being pained

Sweetpink:
Why are you menstruating under my comment?
E pain you?
Ntor!
Keep wailing!

Oh it a good thing I'm menstruating just fine

No go kill yourself o

No be me send you enter menopause

AmazonHippolyta:
Lying to yourself is allowed it does not change reality.so at your age you can't buy pads for yourself.

Pained fellow Ntoor

I don't know if all Titans stupidity is 'follow come' like chiwawa like fans


l got cartons and loans of pads from my sweetheart, Perri that will last me a century..y do I need to still buy pads again?

nah I need not to

run along and go contribute your money to your daftian queen

Sweetpink:
Even a street urchin with an Android phone and free data has the guts to brag about pads...meanwhile,she uses condemed pieces of clothes as pads.
Lmao!
Beg Agama to dash you cheap wipes or better still,buy you good quality pads!
Kwa kwa kwa kwa
I laugh in genital warts!

see this one...
hope you are on the queue waiting to receive your own free 'craw craw'

are you not team 'sold out'again?

carry go, I don't need them 'craw craw' pads

you need them more

copy cats

AmazonHippolyta:
Stay pressed.
She will give you your own when she does don't take your bath remember to go to school tomorrow Tacha may just stop by

lol....
I still have loads and cartons of pad that I got from Perri shakes that will last me a century..

I don't use pads that will give me scabies and craw craw

Now all secondary School children will stop taking their bath when they are on their period

Everywhere will now start smelling

Mtcccheew...who send her message na?

Keypazwad:
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He abuses my family and I almost every day.
He slaps, punch, kicks anytime he feels like

How come you have not furthered your education. Is he against it?

Iwantpeace:
like I said before I spent the yuletide season in their family house and never will he do that. i m very positive about that . how comes he is doing this now??

Cos he thinks you have no probs since you never complained in the first place.
He feels he's very free with you hence the attitude