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JesusSonOfGod:
God is not looking for perfect people, He's looking for obedient people so He will make them perfect. He's a perfect God, when we obey Him, He makes us perfect through His own perfection.

We can never be perfect on our own, we can only have perfection of God as a gift. So stop thinking you are too sinful to serve God or not qualified, just come to Him, accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Personal Savior and He will live in you, His Spirit living in you automatically makes you perfect, but to preserve this perfection you have to let the Holy Spirit lead you.

You must let the Holy Spirit lead you by spending time with the word, praying and obeying the commands of Jesus Christ. That way the Holy Spirit will lead you in paths of righteousness and empower you to overcome sin. But remember, you become perfect by just accepting Jesus as your Lord and Personal Savior, but this must be preserved through continuous obedience.

Your being perfect is not by your own effort, it is a gift, but preserving the gift of perfection is by living in continuous obedience to His word.

John 14:23-24 Jesus replied, “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them. Anyone who does not love me will not obey my teaching. These words you hear are not my own; they belong to the Father who sent me.

Galatians 3:2-3 I only want to learn this from you: Did you receive the Spirit by the works of the law or by hearing with faith? Are you so foolish? Having begun by the Spirit, are you now being perfected by the flesh?

Galatians 5:16-21 So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will never fulfill the desires of the flesh. For what the flesh wants is opposed to the Spirit, and what the Spirit wants is opposed to the flesh. They are opposed to each other, and so you do not do what you want to do. But if you are being led by the Spirit, you are not under the Law. Now the actions of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, promiscuity, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, rivalry, jealously, outbursts of anger, quarrels, conflicts, factions, envy, murder, drunkenness, wild partying, and things like that. I am telling you now, as I have told you in the past, that people who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

1 John 1:8-10 If we go around bragging, “We have no sin,” then we are fooling ourselves and are strangers to the truth. But if we own up to our sins, God shows that He is faithful and just by forgiving us of our sins and purifying us from the pollution of all the bad things we have done. If we say, “We have not sinned,” then we depict God as a liar and show that we have not let His word find its way into our hearts.

deeming justice comes through the faithfulness of Jesus, the Anointed One, the Liberating King, who makes salvation a reality for all who believe—without the slightest partiality. You see, all have sinned, and all their futile attempts to reach God in His glory fail. Yet they are now saved and set right by His free gift of grace through the redemption available only in Jesus the Anointed. When God set Him up to be the sacrifice—the seat of mercy where sins are atoned through faith—His blood became the demonstration of God’s own restorative justice. All of this confirms His faithfulness to the promise, for over the course of human history God patiently held back as He dealt with the sins being committed.

MzBreezy:
it's supposed to b ur priority as a woman stp finding a way to defend ur self. The tin is dat all sins r d same fornication o lying o... Virginity is nt overrated it is a tin to b proud of.. Pple in d village offer full kegs of palmwine nd d white bedsheets used during d wedding nite.. Even dat men usually kinda treasure nd respect deir wives jst fr dem been deir first so no... Sex is actually overrated nt abstinence

safarigirl:
This topic came up because I was having a discussion with my room mates and I told them simply that anyone who thinks she's ready to have sex, should equally be ready for the consequences.

Then they said that it isn't really a girl's fault if she sleeps with a guy who 'deceives' her into thinking he's genuine thereby getting pregnant.

Now, there I fully disagree. Isn't it always easier to blame the guy for impregnating you? "Oh, he told me he loves me and that's why I slept with him"....um, if I want something from someone, of course I'll say all the right things. Or, when you wan collect money from the guy, shey you sef no dey abuse the 'L' word?

Any girl sleeping with a dude because he 'professed his 'undying love' is either a 12-year old or re-tarded.

The next thing they said is "It takes the grace of God to overcome temptation"...leave it to black people to pull God into their mess. When you put yourself in a risky situation, prepare for risks. If you decide to go to a man's house- a virile man's house alone, be ready for certain things that could arise. This isn't about just the grace of God, this is about being smart and cautious.

Unless in rape cases and those involving minors, there is no sort of sexual relationship between a man and woman that is non-consensual. You were of sane mind when he touched you, kissed and fondled, comot cloth, comot undies and finished project, so why make excuses?

One was even askinng me that so if I had a bf I wouldn't sleep with him. And I replied that it's only in this century that sleeping with a man just because he's courting you is viewed as perfectly normal. That view is what made me realise that the world has been taken over by madness the likes of which TB Joshua cannot cure.

I have made a personal decision not to involve myself in fornication and I have been pro-active about it by ensuring that I stay away from 'dangerous' situations. I have tons of male friends some of whom have expressed their interests and have been turned down, if I must meet them, we meet in public places. I do not subscribe to meeting males in private, staying out late with guys who I know little of or generally being in uncomfortable situations. Of course I sometimes come off as a shrewd or frigid, but you have to take some things, better that than ashawo or public toilet

If you have made a decision to be sexually active, then don't make excuses for it. Don't present yourself as a victim of the 'superior male intellect'. I dey kpansh, I dey kpansh, dem no fit kill pesin ontop that one. Call 10 litres of petrol what it is, don't present 10 litres as 15 litres or say "it's supposed to be 10 litres, but the attendant cheated me"

Be who you are and stand for something.

Thank you

odufanabasa: But y will a man want to know everything about a lady? Then when she opens up,and they know they ugly truth(if there are any),they back off? Abeg every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future! If u can't stand by her after
hearing, pls respect urself and don't ask.... curiosity kills d cat..

jaystunt: I am the first born in a family of 6 but I hardly ever get the honour or respect that a first born is entitled to.
I'm what u can refer to as a 'figure head' as my dad who's never scared to show his favoritism to my immediate brother thinks he as the 'real deal', hence leaving me relegated to the background. He(my brother) was not quite good with his books but skilled with his hands, and I was the opposite. My dad is a sucker for people like that but to do it in his home at the detriment of his first child is what I've been grappling with for over 20yrs of my life.

Right from when we were very young my kid bro has been very close to my dad and when I got to secondary school and subsequently the uni, it only made the gap btw him and myself wider. We never got together like a father and child do. I remember poisoning myself in junior high when I just couldn't cope with the situation.

Fast forward 5yrs after college, the family split only (a yr ago). Dad relocated to Ibadan and I and my two brothers stayed put in Lagos but in my apartment. He visits every month, but I see nothing changed in the way he behaves towards me.

Only recently I got to know he's about selling one of his houses out. He gave my immediate brother the papers and the all clear to sell It. When I got wind of the information, I wept like a baby as I never thought he could do that to me.
My immediate brother knows pretty well that dad is on his side and hardly respects me in my own flat. It's even gotten to a stage where I feel like throwing him out. He's such a nuisance this days to me not because I'm jealous but his disregard for me as his senior.

I'm a year older but his attitude towards is dat of an elder brother to his junior. My dad still gets things from me but his loyalty and love rests on my brother.

I honestly don't know what to do to get this depression of me.

Guys how can I stay and lead a happy life amidst dis mess! Pls help!

Ranti Fadahunsi: wa

I think you said it all. YOU WANT THE SEX. Fine. If you find a babe that wants the sex. Bleep her as many times as possible. You are lucky. I WANT THE SEX TOO. MORE THAN YOU WANT IT. But I have decided to keep myself till marriage. Hard. But doable. And any babe who has the self control to hold on till marriage is rare, and should be highly commended. SELF CONTROL. That is the message. Saying you have no self control before marriage makes me wonder how you will cope after marriage. What happens if you are in the USA for a two year program, your wife cannot go with you. WHAT WILL YOU DO? Self control. Sleep around and risk the well being of your family? If you cannot hold yourself before marriage, YOU CAN NEVER HOLD YOURSELF AFTER MARRIAGE if there is a long time separation. I have friends who are married, have lovely wives, BUT STILL CHEAT. So many of them. It is all about discipline.

Babes, if you are a virgin, zip up your pants until he rings up your finger. No better advice I can give you. If you are not a virgin, zip up your pants until he rings up your finger. The fact that you made a wrong turning on the way to Ibadan from Lagos does not mean you should keep on making wrong turnings till you make a catastrophic mistake. I am a guy. I love sex. I want sex. BUT, mu greatest passion is bringing out the best in people and telling people the truth. And the truth is if you are a virgin, YOU ROCK. Keep on improving yourself. If you are not a virgin and have decided to keep yourself. Good. You also rock in your own way. I will be praying for you. It is hard, I can testify to that, but very doable. And if you are not a virgin and you love regular sex. Good for you. Do as it pleases you. But be ready for the consequence and don't EVER GO ANYWHERE SAYING THAT YOU GAVE HIM ALL AND HE DUMPED YOU!!!! I hate it with a passion when a babe willingly opens her legs for a guy and claims the guy used her!!! I have had a babe say that to me before. She wanted the sex. Told me she wanted the sex. We had the sex. I realised I could not marry her. Wanted to break up with her. And she was asking me why I used her!!!!!
The guy did not ra..pe you, you suggested that you wanted to sleep with him. He slept with you. There are consequences and you cry and say the guy messed up your life!!! Any babe that says that is an ID.I.OT> It was your choice. If he did not ra..pe you, please never go anywhere saying a guy messed up your life. YOU HAD A CHOICE. So if you want to enjoy sex, please go ahead. But know that that is your CHOICE. Period. And finally, Virgins rock. Keep it up babes (if you are a virgin). YOU ROCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

deavicky: and why is it that we talk about the virginity of the female only and nobody talk about the guys or our own is not important?

Ranti Fadahunsi: wa

I think you said it all. YOU WANT THE SEX. Fine. If you find a babe that wants the sex. Bleep her as many times as possible. You are lucky. I WANT THE SEX TOO. MORE THAN YOU WANT IT. But I have decided to keep myself till marriage. Hard. But doable. And any babe who has the self control to hold on till marriage is rare, and should be highly commended. SELF CONTROL. That is the message. Saying you have no self control before marriage makes me wonder how you will cope after marriage. What happens if you are in the USA for a two year program, your wife cannot go with you. WHAT WILL YOU DO? Self control. Sleep around and risk the well being of your family? If you cannot hold yourself before marriage, YOU CAN NEVER HOLD YOURSELF AFTER MARRIAGE if there is a long time separation. I have friends who are married, have lovely wives, BUT STILL CHEAT. So many of them. It is all about discipline.

Babes, if you are a virgin, zip up your pants until he rings up your finger. No better advice I can give you. If you are not a virgin, zip up your pants until he rings up your finger. The fact that you made a wrong turning on the way to Ibadan from Lagos does not mean you should keep on making wrong turnings till you make a catastrophic mistake. I am a guy. I love sex. I want sex. BUT, mu greatest passion is bringing out the best in people and telling people the truth. And the truth is if you are a virgin, YOU ROCK. Keep on improving yourself. If you are not a virgin and have decided to keep yourself. Good. You also rock in your own way. I will be praying for you. It is hard, I can testify to that, but very doable. And if you are not a virgin and you love regular sex. Good for you. Do as it pleases you. But be ready for the consequence and don't EVER GO ANYWHERE SAYING THAT YOU GAVE HIM ALL AND HE DUMPED YOU!!!! I hate it with a passion when a babe willingly opens her legs for a guy and claims the guy used her!!! I have had a babe say that to me before. The guy did not ra..pe you, you suggested that you wanted to sleep with him. He slept with you. There are consequences and you cry and say the guy messed up your life!!! Any babe that says that is an ID.I.OT> It was your choice. If he did not ra..pe you, please never go anywhere saying a guy messed up your life. YOU HAD A CHOICE. So if you want to enjoy sex, please go ahead. But know that that is your CHOICE. Period. And finally, Virgins rock. Keep it up babes (if you are a virgin). YOU ROCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

Ranti Fadahunsi: The Bible states a true fact: The race is not to the swift, the battle is not to the strong, but time and chance happens to them all. TIME AND CHANCE. The most brilliant guy in the class may not be the riches in the class. But his hardwork will give him a better chance at success than the lazy guy stabbing classes. The most beautiful babe in the class may not marry the most handsome guy on earth. But her beauty gives her a better chance of guys chasing her than the ugly babe. There are no gurantees in Life. If you are the best in Maths and you are average in other subjects, what you should do is maintaining your performance in mathematics and improve in other areas.

1) Virgins are the best in terms of sexual purity. A virgin is a babe that has decided to keep herself until marriage.
2) If you are a virgin and you are not a good cook, not doing well academically, etc. YOU CAN WORK ON THAT AND GET BETTER. BUT ONE YOU LOSE YOUR VITGINITY< YOU CAN NEVER GET THAT BACK.
3) If you are a virgin, you have absolute peace of mind. No STDs. No unwanted pregnancies (I know many single mothers. Was jisting with one yesterday and she lamented the mistakes of her past cos all the guys she has met run from her once they know she has a child!!!). No emotional damage from giving yourself wholly to a guy and you are at his mercy if he rejects you and you have to do everything to please him just to retain him. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!!! Place a VALUE on yourself and live true to the value.
4) Virginity is not about hymen. If your hymen is still intact, congratulations!!! But not all babes medically have hymen. Virginity is about the PRINCIPLE OF VALUING YOURSELF, KEEPING YOURSELF UNTIL A MAN WHO LOVES YOU ENOUGH TO WAIT FOR U PUTS A RING ON IT.
5) If a man loves you and truly loves you, HE WILL WAIT. If he wants sex now, HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. Otherwise why are you disvirgined and not still dating the guy who disvirgined you. Sex as a proof of love is a lie from the pit of hell. If he loves you, he will wait.
6) There are no gurantees in life. The race is not to the swift, the batle is not to the strong. So being a virgin does not mean you will be a good accountant. In fact, there is no basis for comparism. Why compare the presecence of self control and discipline to being a good and successful career woman? that is bollocks. No basis for comparison. I know babes who want to be house wives, revrernd sisters, etc. No basis for comparison there. Pure bollocks. Please dont let any body fool you with that comparison. LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY DOES NOT GURANTEE THAT YOU WILL BE A SUCCESSFUL ACCOUNTANT EITHER!!!! THEIR IS NO CORRELATION BETWEEN THE TWO. While being disciplined will help you in all you do in life, if you don't want to be a career woman and you want to work in a charity organisation, do what gives your life purpose and meaning
7) There are some things we cannot control and somethings we can control in life. I know people that smoke indian hemp and are doing very well in their career. But I know many more that smoke indian hemp and their life is messed up. Why risk smoking indian hemp because you see one or two people doing it successfully. I know one aristo babe that is married (but the husband is a runs man). They are 'happily married' in a way. Some babes do it and get away with it. But if you are a babe, why take the risk? You may not survive it. You can control what goes on between your legs. EXERCISE THAT CONTROL. Self control is the only thing that separates humans from animals. A Virgin who keeps herself exercises self control. And she is the very best. If you have self control, you can succeed at anything. Because discipline is the fundamental requirement that any organisation, school, wants first. KEPP YOUR VIRGINITY. YOU CAN NEVER REGRET IT. AND YOU ARE THE BEST.
9) This is for the virgins out there. Guys that want to add to their number of babes they have slept with will tell you what is beneficial to them (your virginity is worthless). Babes that have messed up their life will tell you what will make you join them (virginity dey get person job for Shell??). Babes, never ever listen to them. Their arguement is worthless. They will never tell you about the risks you put yourself through if you lose your virginity. And let me tell you one truth - ONCE YOU DO IT, IT IS VERY VERY HARD TO STOP!!!! I AM TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE. IT IS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE TO STOP AND TAKES THE GRACE OF GOD. DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! If you have to change your friends, change them. Anybody giving you an advice that does not add value to your life should not be your friend. There are many good babes and guys out there who will look out for you. Look for them. Keep your virginity. Give it to your husband. Marry the RIGHT guy. You will never ever regret it.

OILOFGLADNESS: my fellow babes, its a very good experience to marry as a virgin, i have heard 101 goodnews on that, your husband will give 100% respect and in turn you will ever give him 100% and love cos he is the only one that made you enjoy that which God designed for couples.

PEOPLE WHO HAS LOOSED THEI VIRGINITY WILL ALWAYS BE LOOKING FOR CONVERTS" CAUSE THEY ARE JEALOUS, THEY WILL NEVER GIVE YOU ANY GOOD ADVERSE, MEN THAT HAD DISVIRGIN A LOT WILL NEVER CHERISH IT COS ITS NEVER A NEW THING TO THEM.

THEY WILL ALWAYS TELL YOU THAY YOU ARE DECEIVING YOUR SELF, YOU ARE WAISTING YOUR TIME, YOU ARE NOT GETING YOUNGER, YOU ARE MISSING A LOT,BLA BLA BLA BLA, BLAAAAAAAAAAAA........., ALL LIES DONT MIND THEM, THEY ARE JUST JEALOUSOOOOOO.
KEEP IT, GUIDE IT, DONT TAMPER WITH, SO THAT IT WILL BE VALUED AT THE RIGHT TIME, CHEEEEEEEEERRRRRRRRRRRSSSSSSSSSSSS

swiftycool: Hahahaha so my argument is right u could get married to a virgin who is exactly like the one I described and there is NO way on Earth u can check, after all the precious hymen is there, ur not thinking about it doesn't let the fact go away!

Virginity doesn't prove sh*t because most are secretly PROMISCOUS VIRGINS! Who are involved in stuff as I described and if u found out this about them won't u rather prefer an honest "virteous" non-virgin to that?! If u think am lying get to find out if the virgins who have boyfriends around u or if their bf wud confess. Remember spermz can enter a woman by 3ways not just 1!

Yes there R some all round good ones but many more are not worth it cos even though their hymen is intact they R sluttier in every other way than many non virgins which u cannot check, therefore I still maintain my argument- OVERRATED!!!

swiftycool: @Ranti
Oh ok I get it. From all the arguments I can deduce that virgins are urged to just protect their hymen becos society expects that of them in order to wade of stds and emotional trauma.

But riddle me this like one self acclaimed virgin on some old nairaland thread who says she gives and gets head, gets 4uckd up d arse by various guys but never let's a man penetrate her kitty; how does she escape the emotional trauma or std. She's still a technically "virteous virgin" and deserves Ranti's respect right?

Bro. I like ur point of view, but I asure u if u have seen some virgins behind d curtains like some of us guys have, I promise u would have a change of mind and agree with me Virginity is Overrated!

Shawl001: Ladies nd gentlemen, i only read d 1st page of dis article and i saw so many views, though contradicting. D main point is dah, VIRGINS ARE STILL DAH BEST. Always "most preferred" wereva dey fynd themselves in life. Girls, der are blessings attached to u keeping ur virginity. It always delight Gød. As 4me, I love to get married 2 a virgin one day. And am sure that is Gods plan 4 me too. So i want to encourage odas not to b discouraged with wat dis article is tryin to portray, i mean 2 dos who are stil virgins. Thanks nd God bless! Shalom.