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When people find out about infidelity, they often make all kinds of assumptions about how and why people have affairs. The assumptions, however, are probably wrong. For example, would you believe it if I told you that most of time affairs happens to people who aren’t looking for it?

We live in a hush-hush culture – when it comes to infidelity, there’s a lot of BS out there – and most of what you think is true just isn't. Here are the nine most common misconceptions about infidelity, and the real take on what you need to know.

1. Once An Affair Is Out In The Open, A Couple Can Never Be Happy Again
Affairs happen, and people do recover – you hardly ever hear success stories because no one's talking. Couples can learn to successfully rebuild their relationships, and many of my patients say their bonds are even stronger once they’ve worked things through.

Distinguishing infidelity fact from fiction can help you and your partner gain a better understanding of how an affair happens, what to expect if one does and what you can do to prevent infidelity. Truth is a powerful tool that can help you recover.

2. Infidelity Is Never About Sex; It's About Other Marital Issues
Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, and sometimes extramarital "sex" is just about sex. For sure, some affairs are about unmet emotional needs, but for other people – not the majority – an affair is just about going out and getting laid.

3. You Can't Call It Cheating If Sex Wasn't Involved
Many affairs happen without any sex at all. Is staying up half the night secretly texting an old classmate about your most intimate thoughts being unfaithful? The person doing it may not see it as cheating, but you can bet your partner sees it this way. When you give an emotional part of yourself to someone with whom you could potentially cheat one day, it's cheating.

4. Affairs Are All About Sexual Attraction
Sure, some affairs are only about the sex, but lots of the time, affairs happen because of an emotional connection. Sometimes, hanging out together and sharing feelings is as far as the affair ever goes, although it’s true that the sense of emotional closeness often leads to sex.

5. Affairs Happen Because Of Problems In The Marriage
Here's the truth: almost every marriage has problems. Affairs don't happen because something’s wrong with the marriage; they happen, in part, because couples don't know how to work together to solve the issues they have. Having problems in your relationship doesn't justify cheating.

6. Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater
Yes, there are some real scumbags out there, but not everyone who cheats is evil incarnate. Many affairs are a one-and-done thing. What happens after the affair can set a marriage on a course for stability, or blow it out of the water. After ending the affair, for healing to take place, the cheater has to tell the whole truth about the affair. Knowing the truth is the first step toward healing.

7. After An Affair, Kiss Your Marriage Goodbye
Not so quick! Over half of marriages survive infidelity. Although the relationship may break up from other issues in the future, when couples are willing to work together, they're surprised to find they can rebuild the trust. The most common reasons for marriage dissolution, at 53 to 55%, is “growing apart” and not being able to talk to each other.

8. Affairs Happen With People Much Younger Or More Attractive
OK, sometimes the 60-something corporate CEO might seek out younger playmates, but, typically, paramours are no younger, richer or more attractive than spouses – they're just someone new.

9. Affairs Happen Because Guys Are On The Prowl
No – most of time, an affair happens to people who aren’t looking for it. This is particularly true in cases in which a partner has only cheated with one person. Affairs often begin as feeling really comfortable with someone, like the person in the cubicle next to you at work. That cosiness is followed by sharing intimate secrets, which can then shift into an emotional connection that's consummated with a full-blown tryst.

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am still celebrating my 10years on nairaland..

land for sale

SEGIO RAMOS TATOOS SEEMS TO BE HIS CHARMS.CUZ THE GUY HAVE MASTERED A NEW STYLE OF SCORIN
THIS PAST WEEK.THE LAST MINUTE GOAL MAN.THESE TATOOS DO THE MAGIC FOR HIM.
#TEAM_RAMOS

i have said it many damn times nigeria and fake things are like butter and bread
only GOD WILL SAVE US.
EVEN THE PRESIDENT IS FAKE

the kids wont be able to work that far as adult.but its nice to make them happy thought
in this xmas season.well done papilo
money good ooo

i thoght they want to build a stadium
GOD HAVE MERCY

so she was very skinny in the name of beauty pagent.
thank GOD you get over it and added flesh to body

hungry dey catch her wellai

villagers and there village sense have been in existence since i have not even concieved.
if the little boy still vant work they will say iys the work of the witches.
haba......

lovely pics here

funny but ..some people falll for someone they can kill and they cant kill
them .so they wont be lonely....

she must be a sex change police officer with that hand bag.
how can a sane man work in that

thank you all for your kinds words..i do appreciate you all
may you all also live long to enjoy this our forum
i learn many things on this forum which help me in my
growing up as an orphan..

seasons greetings and happy weekend to you all
#raphycares

favourmic:
Who you epp

i help many people bro
am still helpin and wont stop helping
i just cant name them .

KAHNUL:
ARE U OKAY?....QUIT MASTURBATION NOW B4 U GO MAD

LOOK AT THIS ONE ...may GOD have mercy on
your soul .,and may GOD forgive you..for taikin
rubbish on my thread.

yarimo:
Op videos of you while registering on NAIRALAND in 2006 or it's a lie

VIDEOS ON PHONE WAS NOT INVOGUE BACK THEN
I WAS A LIL KID NO GOOD FONE YET

optional1:
op congrat is not easy to b alive upto this time..

10yrs on NL no b beans.
Op hope say u don marry bah? Cos u don over old urself....

thank you very much daery...GOD BLESS YOU

Edwinmason:
you are ten years on nairaland and you've only spent 14 days online....op explain

am not always online dear am not an addict like you .i came anytimwe am less busy.

ExAngel007:
congrat , u r a faithful nairalander

thank you very much GOD bles you

hello friends,

i join this site in march 2006 .i will be celebrating 10years on this site .
you guys should show me some love...
am now a grown man ..

thats the best way to celebrate your birthday not just to party all night
show love to the less priveledge is pays to do good.the will cherish the
moment when she is no more on earth.tears fill my eyes...
i wish i could do same ..on the 18 this month

she has married then let her haters go to hell

she don chop naija money come fat like this.....haba..

naija and fake things are like 1+1

so na Moses tell him to come bend down like that

that is nigerian for you..when they give them money to renovate
the school they will share it among themselves....GOD HELP US ABEG

crazymommy:
which one be worstest again??

no blame am he did not go to sch na.
to err is human

i came to check the names
no wahala na dem ....n.c.a.n over to una

china with there fake things be like ....A+B

THESE VILLAGE WITCHES GOD IS WATCHIN YOU ALL
MAY GOD PROTECT US FROM EVIL IJN AMEN

very good girl,GOD HAVE TAIK TO HER SERIOUSLY I HOPE HER PARENTS
ARE STILL ALIVE TO THANK GOD FOR THIS MIRACLE.
MAY ALL THE OLOSHO FO NAIJA FOLLOW HER FOOTSTEPS IJN..AMEN

very cute couple ,may GOD PROVIDE a good girl for each and every barchelor on nairalanad ijn....amen
been a very long time people....its well with you all.