₦airaland Forum

CJStarz:
That's what makes us Nigerians, doubling words, so no worry yourself, we like it that way.

You should say 'You', and not 'We'. Who you and am dey like am that way? Na small thing dey make people fail exam. Na people like una dey make Moniepoint CEO dey talk nonsense about Nigerian youths.

davidodiba:
You seem to know a lot about it. Can you answer further questions please?

I pity that guy that answered your question. Are you a security agent? Why question people on a public forum?

richmond500:
Nigeria is around 100 dollars

And what is the minimum wage? A mere 48 dollars. So someone who earns 48 dollars per month should spend 100 dollars per month?

Some see children as retirement plan.

flexyrule:
Look at this clown!

Married for over a decade.

Stop churning out useless topics here!

There are already too many of them.

Been on Nairaland since 2008.

Yen Yen Yen.

Nobody gives a damn of you invented the internet.

Channel your miseries and frustrations to the appropriate quarters. I am not the cause of your suffering. If you weren't empty, you wouldn't be jumping from thread to thread to see who is churning rubbish or not.

Sccarrr:
which one of the abroad used cars?

Mention one person in your family that has attained the level of the man.

Sccarrr:
Lol billionaire...still finding the signs of billionaire in that compound ....is it the abroad used cars den park everywhere? 😂😹

But you do not even own a bicycle or keke. Na poor man brag pass.

flexyrule:
Damn.

Why all that noise?

You have been a member of Nairaland since 2008.

Should I fry beans?

GTFOH with your lame assed 1 paged article man!

I wasn't the one who forced you to impregnate a girl while still broke. Channel your miseries to the right direction.

flexyrule:
If you check am now... OP and his host of commentators aren't married and probably don't have any children.

People who have never worn the shoe are the ones who are good at using AI to generate topics and set expectations.

You must be deluded to sit in your house, wherever it is located, to jump into threads that are too difficult for you to comprehend. If you find out that a topic is too complex for you to comprehend, move to other topics that discuss the simple things you can comprehend. I think this one is too high for your level.

I have been a member of Nairaland since 2008. I am not one of your Gen Z/ChatGPT group member.

pocohantas:
I hope Nigerians would listen.



Maybe men should be more present, because last time I checked, single mothers have both sons and daughters. So I wonder why it is only the daughters that are unmarriageable.

Poco, my friend, sons are also involved. It is an all-round stuff.

LordBiden:
Mtweeewww, billionaire in Kobo abi na shillings.

Formula to be a billionaire in the south east,just wear good designers,rent a rolls Royce or any luxury car,pose with a mansion,pay one Pr expert to tag you billionaire on social media.

This your bitterness towards successful people has kept you stagnant.

This is Leo Chinedu Edochie, the first son of veteran Nollywood actor, Pete Edochie. He is the eldest of six children, and the eldest brother to Yul Edochie. He is a quiet billionaire who doesn't make noise.


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I fault the Moniepoint CEO on some grounds, but not all. Many Nigerian employers are not concerned about helping you grow, just as you are putting in efforts to grow their business. They want to pay you 60k but want you to render 5 million Naira services.

I once worked for a school owner. I was writing movie scripts for the school which they were using to promote their school. I was also giving the students who featured in the movies proper and professional trainings. The school management hired people from Lagos to work with me. All the people working with me were heavily paid, but each time I requested for motivations, they reminded me that I was being paid a salary. Salary wey no reach to feed for 2 weeks. I resigned, and that was how their movie sector and social media platforms collapsed. You cannot cheat me with my talents.

Though, we have very terrible graduates who have no skills, ambitions, or even direction. Some sorted their way through school with money.

One thing Nigerians abroad who involve in crime do not care about is that their actions are making it difficult for good intentioned Nigerians to travel.

I am Most Rev. Dr. Sigidi Igbinovia Eruakokoye.

I vividly remember what Mr Akin, my Maths teacher in secondary school told us many years ago. It was a beautiful Monday morning in the month of March, 1999. I should be in SS 2 then. After our Maths class, Mr Akin was admonishing us, and he said something that we were not expecting to hear. In his words, anyone who cannot take care of a child, should not give birth. At first, I assumed he was too harsh and brutal on folks with such remarks, but when I starting growing from a boy to an adult, I realised that his words were paradoxical. They might be absurd or funny, but they could also be true.

Many Nigerians have this unexplainable mindset that children are already blessings to their parents, and as such, they can gabbage anything into these kids, and get their desired results. No, you won't get your desired result, but instead, your deserved result. Yes, because that is what you deserve.

Our society today is as complex as complexity can be. Gone are the days when communities raise children. Today, the burden of raising a child from just after birth to adulthood lies on the shoulders of the parents. You have to be intentional in every aspect of your child. You have to be intentional about their education, skills, vocations, association, relationships, etc. God will never raise your child for you. You will. It is what you sow in them that you will reap from them. If you are a nonchalant father or mother who doesn't care about the academic growth of your child, who he/she associates with, their passions, skills and vocations that can propel them into enviable paths, you will reap the rewards in time to come.

I had a neighbour back in Enugu who had 3 daughters. This man has a routine. He wakes up in the morning, goes to a nearby shop, sits there, drink all sort of mixed alcoholic drinks, smoke Indian hemp, argue loudly about useless issues like football or who is the richest man in Enugu, and all that. His kids would be looking at him through their sitting room window. His daughters were not attending school. In fact, they stayed at home for a whole year. Imagine kids that were in their formative stage. And such man would be expecting the kids to turn out successful and functional adults!

Many years ago, when communities were still raising children in Nigeria, we saw children of drunks, miserable fellows, helpless folks, nonchalant parents, etc get scholarships to obtain academic excellence and become successful adults. Today, communities do not do that. The society is now complex. If you are a misfit parent, you will bear the consequences.

I saw a video of a woman from one of the East African countries stating on a podcast that she is from a home where the father was absent. She stated that marriage is not for women who grew up in a home where the father is absent . This has a deep meaning even if many people would want to criticise her for her opinion. Again, it is a paradox, because there is truth in it. The number of women who have successfully built a home raised in single-mother homes are far fewer than those from homes where the two parents were present and supportive.

We should understand that giving kids quality life is more important than just bringing them into the world to become a menace to society. Be part of their growth. Be concerned about their education. Make it to school Open Days and discuss their problems and growth with their teachers. See which skills or vocations that can help them in life. Be concerned about the type of friends they keep and who they associate with. Check their results and school works, and see if they are progressing or not. Everything does not lie in running after one business venture or the other.

One last take. If today's Nigerian community helps you raise your kids, I bet you, you won't like the results in the coming years.

I am WarriParrot

planetx:
You are not saving any generation by relocating to the UK, make una stop deceiving yourselves. The streets of the UK are littered with wayward Nigerian young men born in the UK, in gangs, dying and going in and out of jail.

And the streets of Nigeria is filled with well-bred, fresh, educated and financially stable young men bubbling with life, abi?

Na our old school bouncing castle be this

Love800:
Is plaza roadside too?

So where can one buy new phones?

I have provided you with two places you can purchase new gadgets, and they are found in every Nigerian city.

Anything for social media engagement.

galantjoe:
I bought brand new Compaq laptop in 2008 for N150,000 it came with pre installed Windows Vista and 1GB RAM, 100GB HD.
Am still using the laptop, after upgrading it currently to window 7, 4GB RAM, 250 HD. It is working in perfect condition. Am intending to upd'grade it to 8GM with 500 HD.

Buy brand new gadget if you get money, that time I bought my laptop N150,000 was when US$1=N60
Meaning that I bought it for US$2,500

That is the gospel truth. Buying new gadgets will give you that inner peace of mind. Na small thing dey lead to depression these days.

SouthSouth1914:
Haha! Phone seller’s patronize these used phones, change their parts and rebrand and sell it as brand new. Very few people Know about this.

If you go to a phone plaza, there is a word for it- First user or so. There are many used phones branded as new and in cartons! You won’t know the different unless you check the phone records and IMEI, not may people know this!

That is when you buy from roadside people. Slots, 3CHub, and others do not do that type of stuff.

Due to the economic situation in Nigeria, many people go for fairly used phones popularly called 'UK-used phones' in Nigeria. The truth is that not all of these phones come from the UK. Apple controls about 50% of the phone market in the UK. Samsung controls about 30%, and the rest 20% is shared among Google, Xiaomi (Redmi and Poco), Huawei/Honor, Motorola/Sony, and Nothing (a London based phone manufacturer.

Some of these phones are from Asia, China to be precise. You should also know that some of these phones have been declared missing or stolen, and as such, their IMEI numbers have been blacklisted.

There are also others that have had their IP reported due to one fraudulent or illegal activity or the other initiated by the owners. That is why you might find it difficult to use certain used phones to access Google services and some other platforms.

Others could have hardware issues that make the batteries overheat and runs down quickly. These are the type of phones that make you talk to yourself on the road while walking like an insane person. The phone could be 100% charged, and within few minutes, it is already at 10%.

From my personal experience, buying new gadgets, be it phone or laptop is the best. It makes you enjoy the product peacefully the way you should. I bought my HP laptop brand-new in 2020. It is almost 6 years now, and I have never taken it to anywhere for repair, but I know people who bought so-called UK used laptops. Everyday, na one issue or the other. Today, na RAM, tomorrow na screen or flex.

If you must buy a fairly used gadget, be it phone or laptop, make sure that you do a proper background check before buying. Do not just rush to pay. Make you nor go cry nwii for Nnewi.

Lanretoye:
But if them deport you there ,you will know that home sweet home.
People like this one and his family will be begging Abike dabiri and foreign affairs ministry to come to their aid or evacuate them when problem start abroad….see the slowpoke that is talking about $10m,he may not even have money for return ticket as he is.useless people without brain

Why are you angry at him for making his choice clearly? He does not owe you anything, he has made his choice to remain in the UK. Why you dey vex for another man choice? Don't be bitter about other people's personal life choices. If you decide to stay and die in Nigeria, that is your business.

I will pick 6. It's good for all Nigerian schools.

pocohantas:
I love as NL ladies be moving these days.

See Poco sef involve for the matter. Kai!

There are some bitter truths that you must realize as a man, and the earlier you acknowledge them, the better it is for you.

1. The only man who wants you to be more successful than him is your father.

2. The only women who love you unconditionally are your mother and grandmother.

3. Whenever you see a random girl on the road or elsewhere, and she gives you greenlight, it is out of need and not attraction.

4. Never make either short-term or long-term plans with any woman that you are not married to. She probably has her plans that you do not know of.

5. The same society that tells you to stay away from romantic affairs when you are broke, will still tell you to abstain from cheating when you achieve financial success.

6. You cannot help the poor if you are one of them. Your circle can quickly sell out where you are heading to.

7. Your decisions are very important. They create the future. You already know where poor ones will lead you to.

8. When you start becoming successful in that struggling environment you grew up in, leave immediately for your own safety. A hungry man has no dignity.

9. When you meet a girl's father for the first time, the first thing he wants to know is what you do for a living. Dey play.

10. Don't accept help from people who want to carry you on their back, but your legs are still on the ground.

Oyindamolah:
In Taraba a man has 16 wives and 65 children as he doesn't even know them all as at the time I was leaving he was planning on marrying the 17th wife guess her age 17yrs

Na wah for them. Why give birth to kids you cannot cater for?

Folks give birth like rabbits in the north.

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There is a particular Igbo culture which allows a woman to marry her fellow woman into a family for procreation. It is mostly done if the family is in a situation where:

1. There is no male child to continue the family's name.
2. There are no children in the family, because the only male child is dead.
3. The only child in the family is a female, and she is not allowed to get married in order to keep the family name alive.

With the situations above (particularly No.3), a woman in such family, if allowed to get married, will erase the family name and that could mark the end of such family. The only child who happens to be a female marries another woman who will begin to give birth to children that will bear her father's name.

You may want to ask who is going to impregnate the woman that has been married into the family. Well, she will be impregnated by random men. That is where the main problem with this cultural practice lies. The married wife can meet with different men and give birth to as many children as possible as possible. This means that she can have 5 children with 5 different men.

THE PROBLEM: The children begin to live and grow without anyone to call father. Their father is the woman who married their mother, and not the men who impregnated their biological mother. Whether we like it or not, a balanced family is one where the child/children get support from both father and mother. A woman cannot walk in the shoes of a man. A woman cannot play the role of a man to the extent to which a man can go. Most times, the kids grow with little or no discipline, because we all know that mothers are usually soft with children even when they misbehave, unlike how a man would handle a misbehaving child.

In such situation, you will see the struggling woman trying to cater for her children all by herself without the help of the men who impregnated her. This is so, because it is not allowed in Igbo culture for those men to be seen or called the fathers of the children. This practice has produced many miscreants and social misfits in the society - children living without a father figure. If the family of the woman who married their mother is not financially buoyant, those children will have to struggle on their own to become someone. If life becomes too hard, they may embrace crime or get exposed early to the tough life on the streets which is ever ready to mar than to make.

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