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I have been hearing that females want DARK,tall and handsome guys and if females are to choose now on nairaland,most will prefer the dark guys and glory to God,am one of such but my darkness (black and shine) no reach high level because some people are darker than each other..

So I want to know the reasons why a female will choose a dark guy over a light-skinned guy as most guys also prefer light-skinned girls to the dark ones......

Omimah:
That place looks like SL Akintola Hall (sports). He was lucky he was not taken to Obafemi Awolowo Hall. He would have first been paraded nudèly in the academics areas and the female halls of rescidence before finally taken to Awo Dining Hall (cafè).

Yeah,that's Akintola hall,he was taken to all the female halls with the boxer only on him......

As a Great Ife student and a nairalander,I thought of creating a thread for it but later had a rethink not to do so but let me say somethings.....

He raped her at his house meaning the female student went to his house in Ife town and during the "maximum shishi" the rapist was taken to all female hostels(4) where female volunteers came out to give the guy strokes of cain after he had almost been beaten to something else by the males in charge but he was not taken to any male hostel so that he won't die especially if taken to Awo hall ,although some females chanted "Awo Hall" "Awo Hall" but the union leaders didn't concur to it.

What you are today is a product of your thoughts --Rapsodee

Naa d truth...Ladies should cram them all ASAP

One last chance......that's if you can from your heart!

Child abuse

Lovechyld101:
Please oh people I need you opinion on this I find this confusing. I and a bunch of friends had a conversation about celebs and some came to a conclusion i.e wizkid is just a fine boy and not sex appealing that davido has more sex appeal than he does but I beg to defer, can some one Just be handsome alone and not sex appealing or vice versa, your opinions needed.

Wizkid is not handsome per say but good looking,so he may not be sex appealing but he gat MONEY and FAME .......what else do females want ....


In short, an handsome guy should be sex appealing to girls and you can also be sex appealing and not be handsome.

#my 50cent

Raymondenyi:
Ladies please learn , U can never have it all

I wonder why our ladies that want u close, but not romantically involved (in there words, they see u as a besty, a brother, a .confidant)... n when u make it obvious to them, that u cannot be friends (as u ain't okay with that), it's either u involved or not.. They still try to stick their head, calling, wanting to stay put.

I think, that is just plane silly, please ladies try to learn, if u really don't want "anything" from a guy, u should be bold enough to bear the consequence, allow him to leave, n please and please stop requesting for financial favours and other favours, it is not just right.


Just trying to enlighten fellow nairalanders, as I have experienced same, n I really seem not to understand, why our ladies are just so covetous. n indecisive , I choose to come down here n educate ya all.please and please, ladies try to read this and learn. Thank u n good night..

True talk... it annoys

Still in first year...first semester....

the craziest thing so far is searching the whole campus at around 11:30pm with rechargeable lamp looking for toads to use for zoo103 dissection practical ....chai ..we trekked and trekked and trekked till we almost got shot by a security man guiding the ICT building....dat nyt was funny ehn!

With females,am still the cool and handsome-one that females admire but while in the process of wooing a course mate,she left the school for another school recently coz of a better course...fish still plenty to catch sha

eyzeberg:
I ignorantly wore a yellow baseball cap;yellow T-shirt and yellow canvas.I went back home bare footed and without the cap. Neva knew the color belonged to the big boys and the opponent were the one ruling my school. I Neva bought anything yellow. I was embarrassed.

lolz...Got a room mate that dresses like that but nothing of such has happened to him altho we warn him sumtyms

sheyman4phy:
I went to white house with boxers to pick a note...at night though.

haha...funny

Typing.....

msrita:
So I really like this guy , we're in the same faculty and level but different departments so we share the same lecture venue for all our lectures.
He's really cool and quiet and that's what I like most in a guy. I stare at him a lot though I try not to and I catch him staring at me sometimes too , sometimes we turn at d same time to stare at each other, the issue is he seems to be ignoring me, I mean he talks to almost every one I relate and associate with ,but he acts as though he doesn't see me , he'll walk up to where I'm standing with a group of friends and greet everyone there except me ,sometimes he passes too close for someone who doesn't like me , his body brushes mine lightly, well we've greeted a few times . I get a lot of attention from guys in my class dunno if that's why he doesn't wanna get close or because the most wanted guy in my class is my best friend though people believe we are dating and I'm an easy person , it even shows on my face. But common I like this guy naturally and wanna be friends with him , I don't think further than that or maybe I do, and oh! He has a favorite girl in our venue , he walks mostly with only her ,u hardly even catch walking with guys its either only him or her. So what's your take on this people, please no harsh comments ,a sister is just sharing her feelings. Thanks.

Hmm ..which university is dat before I proceed further?

along11:
Bale is injured but he might still make the match... Evn if he is not available , Isco will play really well... Real madrid re juz perfect presently.... I doubt Barca can contain them..... Messi+Suarez+Neymar cnt work on Saturday cuz they haven't played together that much in a competitive match.... Barca might work out something only if Suarez doesn't start... Messi nd Neymar re functioning well for now....

Madrid won't find barca easy either and Suarez is very likely to start coz he has been long ready for the clash.

Tweetums:
yes

Hmm...try him in real life,he is not as you think

Tweetums:
The man too dull.. I so much hate him

because he acts that way in films?

Emi Alhaji Orezi..mo tun ti gbe Car tuntun de o..skelele!

nomabeeee:
thank u vry much for saying dz

Dats it nah...the op generilized it too much

you welcum

The fact that non-virgins are now very rampant doesn't mean everyone is a non-virgin.


People are different!

females take it too far sometimes, they expect the guy to show all the attention and do everything while they will just be like figure head as if d guy dey collect salary on top her matter

julisa2020:
just in case...

hope a female is allowed to comment...if i am....then nice stuff@op...but its too long,i almost got tired of reading halfway....although this trend is so on point...

Sure,you are allowed to comment!
Everyone can comment ,Hermaphrodites inclusive!


Thanks,Was browsing the web then I came across that wonderful package so I decided to share it here,although long but i believe people will gain one or two things from it.

kennyslim1:
SB = SpaceBookers

ASB =Another SpaceBooker

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The biggest problem with most advice from the
seduction community is that it’s so longwinded and
needlessly complicated. Therefore, I’m posting my
most valuable lessons to date as a simplified tip
sheet.
This is the result of all the hard work I’ve put into
my development as a DJ and everything included
here comes from personal experience and
observations. Treat it as a guide to steer you clear
of my failures and point you in the right direction.
Putting it into effect is up to you and your efforts.

Self Improvement
Self improvement is the surest path you can take to
being successful with women, developing
confidence and a better lifestyle. It takes time,
sacrifice and dedication, but if you are willing to
take this route, you will eventually experience the
payoffs and be in a position to use it in whichever
way you choose.
Just remember, it takes more than looks to be
successful with women and self-improvement
entails more than just getting in shape — it also
involves developing social skills, gaining experience
and working on a better way of life for yourself, a lot
of which is covered below.

Trial And Error
Study as much seduction theory as you wish, but
until you have seen it working, it is just theory so
don’t expect miracles!
You will hear/read many theories, lies and
exaggerations, even from the "experts", so never
follow anything blindly. Get in the field and see for
yourself whether it works or not! If it doesn’t,
reevaluate it, adapt it or simply drop it and try
something else. Learn from trial and error.
Strategies, techniques or lines merely act as a
crutch — at some point you are going to have to
walk on your own. The more you practice, the
sooner you can do this!

Social Experience
Go out and mingle, spend time with friends and
friends of friends, strike up conversations with
people, get rejected, get numbers, make calls,
arrange dates, arrange group meetings and nights
out, and learn from your experiences. The more you
practice, the more experience you will gain, and the
more proficient your social skills will become and
the more comfortable you will feel around people.
If you can’t get out for some reason or you
currently feel too shy, it’s not a bad thing to chat to
women on the internet. It’s risk free conversation
practice and cyber-socializing is better than not
socializing at all.

Learn To Move On And Let Go
You will get rejected! You will get insulted or hurt!
It’s unavoidable and happens to us all.
Suck it up, don’t ask questions, don’t try to salvage
any losses, explain yourself or repair any
mistakes... just let it go! Embrace your failures as
part of a learning process that will add to your
development as a DJ. The more you fail, the wiser
and stronger you will get!
A woman may come back to you for a second
chance, she may not, but in all my experience and
observations, she will only come back when she is
ready and only once you have let go.

Get In Shape
Your body can excite or repulse women, it’s your
choice. Get in shape! Working out also keeps your
mind focused and gives you purpose, while
weightlifting increases testosterone, and can help
you develop a bold, masculine and confident state
of mind.

Women Have Free Will
Women can think for themselves, and the idea that
you can control their minds with your words and
actions is a lie! Not even hypnotists can control
people without their consent and cooperation. So
stop trying to control, persuade and convince
women and learn to accept their free will and work
with them.
A woman should be with you because she wants to,
not because she feels obliged or because you
talked her into it.

Improve Your Appearance
People do judge on appearances, so think of the
statement you wish to convey. Men who look after
themselves are men who respect themselves, so
always dress and groom well!
Look after your skin, teeth, nails and hygiene. It’s
time and money well spent, because looking good
will make you feel good, and will also earn you
respect from others. Get some opinions, take some
tips from the male models in catalogues and the
male pinups that make women drool. Do not be
afraid to take a few fashion risks and ignore those
who think taking care of yourself is for gays only.

Eat Healthy
Your diet is essential to looking good and feeling
good. Not only does a nutritious diet improve your
body, but also your skin complexion, mental
functions, health and your moods.

Overcome Your Fears
Free yourself of fear. If you’re shy, scared to
socialize, scared of rejection, afraid to flirt or go for
that first kiss, you MUST eventually overcome this
if you ever hope to be successful with women, and
you know it!
Whatever the consequences, billions of people have
suffered it before you and worse than you, and not
only survived, but emerged stronger for it. Also, try
to consider the consequences of NOT acting! These
are often worse! If it takes baby steps to overcome
it, then take baby steps, but never retreat from your
fears!

Chill Out
Don’t take yourself too seriously. Learn to laugh at
yourself and shrug your shoulders at life’s trials.
Bad stuff happens and no amount of analyzing or
worrying is going to change it. It will only prolong it,
so why bother? Go watch the Simpsons or
something instead. Maybe you screw up a few
times. We all do! At least you’ll know better next
time.

Slow Down And Stand Tall
Slow down and take everything at your own pace.
Rushing causes people to make mistakes, speeds
up their heart rate, their breathing rate and
increases anxiety.
Your posture is very important to how you are
perceived by others. A man who hunches his
shoulders and holds his head down is perceived as
scared, weak and insecure, while a man who
stands tall, holds his head high is perceived as
strong and confident. More importantly, your
posture has a subconscious effect on how you feel.

Learn To Appreciate Your Value
You are the most important person in this entire
world! This is your one shot at life, don’t throw it
away! Respect yourself and never sell yourself
short! Don’t let people walk over you. If people don’t
show you the respect that you wish to receive or
drag you down, ditch them! It’s better in the long
term.
Set standards and stick to them. Never settle for
anything less than you deserve.

Get A Life
Women are a nice addition to any guy’s life, but
they are not essential to it. Find something you
enjoy doing and do it. Get a hobby, start a project,
seek to achieve some goals. Basically, occupy your
mind with enjoyable activities.
This way, if you experience a bad period with
women, you’re not going to be sitting around
dwelling on it, calling her up and making a nuisance
of yourself.

Be A Man
No, I do not mean a Neanderthal, a controlling
chauvinist or a lecherous pervert. What I mean is
that you must embrace your masculinity. Don’t be
shy of flirting and (tactfully) expressing your
desires. Women have sexual and emotional desires
too and seek men who can fulfill them.
Women also like a man who makes them feel safe,
who will take the lead, and who they can look up to.
Women don’t want a wimp, an ass kisser, a sucker
or indeed anyone who doesn’t respect himself.
NEVER play for sympathy, run yourself down, show
weakness or whine to her about your problems!

Be Cool
Take everything one step at a time, hold no
expectations and keep a healthy degree of
emotional detachment. Avoid throwing yourself at
women, pestering them and craving their attention.
Avoid throwing tantrums or getting mad at her when
she lets you down, and learn to contain your
frustration and anger.
Don’t get involved in their drama, guilt trips or
attention seeking. Women often create drama to
manipulate guys, then disrespect them for being
under their control. So walk away from it and show
her that you are the one with the power and give
attention on your terms.

Know When To Exercise Indifference
Similar to the above, if a woman disrespects you,
disappoints you, plays games with you or starts
showing low interest, respond with indifference.
Anger, jealousy, frustration and desperation are all
responses that will feed a woman’s ego and give
her some degree of power over you. Indifference
shows that they cannot control you or take you for
granted and places the power back in your hands.
People value most what they fear losing or cannot
have. Giving her a taste of loss can give her chance
to appreciate your value and teach her not to pull
any little stunts on you.

Keep Your Options Open
Unless you are in an established relationship, you
should never focus all your hopes on one woman.
Even if there is one you like above all others, you
need to continue talking and flirting with other
women, so that if one fails, you can move on and
explore other potential opportunities.
Also, it doesn’t hurt to subtly let women know about
these other options, just to express your value and
to let them know you can’t be taken for granted and
won’t be available forever.

Dates Should Be Fun
Dates should not be focused on scoring with a chick
or getting laid, because that gives her all the power
and puts you with all the other average chumps
she’s ever dated. Dates should be enjoyable and
memorable experiences for both you and her, and
should leave her wanting more.
A fun date also distracts from the tension between
you, increases comfort levels and associates you
with fun.

Being Nice Is Not A Bad Thing
Many of you have been conditioned to think that
being nice is a turnoff for women, and you must
therefore go to the opposite extreme to be
successful. That’s wrong! When girls talk about
"nice guys" they are talking about guys who are
nice with ulterior motives, guys who supplicate,
won’t stand up for themselves or lack sexuality.
Being friendly, upbeat and respectful can only be a
good thing because it draws people towards you.
You can be an arrogant jerk and prove to others that
you are better than them, but no one likes to feel
inferior so don’t be surprised if you find yourself
very lonely. No self-respecting woman will tolerate
a jerk, just as no self-respecting man will tolerate a
bitch.

Learn How To Pay Compliments
A well timed and sincere compliment can make a
woman feel good, and make her feel great about
being with you. It also starts her guessing if she
has a chance with you. But use them sparingly and
on your terms.
Avoid generic compliments like calling her "hot" or
"sexy" or even "attractive", and sexually forward
compliments about her body. Good examples
include complimenting the way she is dressed, has
her hair on a particular day, or about her
intelligence, determination, or on how you enjoy her
company or conversation.

Learn How To Flirt
There’s a difference between a flirt and a leech and
it’s important to know the difference.
Flirting should be subtle — a light show of interest,
such as eye contact, smiling, compliments, pet
names, discrete touching and verbal expressions of
interest and alike. Then learn how to escalate it.
If one day you’re tapping each other on the arm
during conversation, then try to escalate to putting
your arm round her once in a while, then escalate to
tickling her neck and on towards the first kiss.

Avoid Attention Whores
Majority of the problems, mind games and cynicism
towards women posted about on the discussion
forum originate from attention whores. The best
way to deal with them is to learn how to recognize
them and then avoid them completely!
Even if you can win them over, it will not last. They
will always crave attention from other men, tease
and disrespect you, manipulate you, seek power
over you, and they cannot be trusted. They are a
drain on a man’s time and emotions, and will
usually damage your confidence and faith in women
for a long time to come.

Learn How To Read Signs Of Interest
Learning to gauge a woman’s interest through her
body language, words and signals can be very
useful indeed. Not only do they give you a green
light to make your move, but it’s a good indication of
how well or how badly you are interacting with her.

If A Woman Is Interested, She Will Make It Easy For
You
Seducing an interested woman is simplicity itself! If
a woman is interested in you, she will make it very
easy for you to seduce her. She will make an effort
to see and talk to you. She will send you signals
and drop hints that she likes you. She will get close
to you. She may even try to create opportunities for
you to kiss her.
A girl who is not interested, however, will make
things a lot tougher, brush off meeting you, turn
away from you, keep her distance so you can’t
touch or kiss her. Time to move on.

Never Over-Analyze
While it’s useful to know what women mean when
they say or do certain things, you should never
spend time analyzing. People say and do things for
a variety of reasons and your (often subjective and
emotionally clouded) interpretation stands like a 1%
chance of being accurate.
Sometimes it’s best to take things at face value,
because over-analyzing is a downhill slope towards
insanity, paranoia and delusion!

Keep Your Cards Close To Your Chest, But Not Too
Close
In the initial stages of seduction or dating, you
should never reveal how you feel, even if she tries
to prompt you or asks you. Showing your interest
should be treated like a volume slider: if you raise
the volume too loud, she’s going to get freaked out!
So you need to turn it up gradually so she feels
comfortable as things progress.

Have Female Friends
"Female friends" is a much feared phrase among
many guys, but they have great benefits. You can
learn a lot from listening to and observing female
friends, how they interact with guys and what they
go for in a guy. They also make for good flirting
practice, social proof and can introduce you to
other women and new social groups.
And obviously, regularly spending time in female
company will improve your conversational skills
with women and your comfort levels.

Conclusion
Whether you’re looking for a relationship or just
looking to get laid by multiple women, this advice
should serve you well. What I’m talking about here
is not a list of techniques, but rather a long-term
development. It will take time, but treat every day
as an investment in your future and you can
become naturally successful with women, confident
and contented.
Every average frustrated chump in the world wants
quick and easy fixes to his problems and spends
his life running in circles searching for them.
Meanwhile, those who persevere with their goals
will soon pass them by and go on to great success.

Good luck!

SOURCE: http://www.sosuave.com/articles/tipsheet.htm

rakaasta:
@op rhapsodee. what happend pls tell us.... after all dis contributions whats ur conclusion

What else have I to say when all have been said

"Live for now and hope for a better tomorrow"

donroxy:
I have never date a girl that is not a toast of Marriage because I wouldn't wanto mistakenly give her belle and forcefully make her my babymama ... I don't like condom too !!

so its only when you pregnate her that you will marry her....

What if she has been emotionally bonded to you?
You will break her heart by not marrying her?

DesChyko:
This isn't advisable, except in the younger stage of life when marriage is still a far cry from reality.
But it helps, knowing what makes women tick.

but dating during younger stage may lead to marriage too,if both are such type of person that can date a person for long....




Making "front page" for the 3rd time on Nairaland!

Not bad at all!

Its me #Rapsodee

Is it dangerous?
Will you advice someone to date a girl he knows he will not marry?
And why say so?