abayomi27:
She supported me throughout my uni days, made some sacrifices without blinking. So i married her without wasting time too and all along, i was right with my choice. 7years and we still waxing stronger

Congrats man...a lot of girls nowadays don't understand how to support a man and making sacrifices in a relationship.

luscioustrish:


Friends with benefits

how can one go about getting FWB?

The major reason why every youth who plans for a bright future should stop listening to these Rascals and thugs called hip hop artists...your life won't get any better by listening to them...rather listen to pure and sensible secular songs.

Hmmm...won deep gan

All you need is the vibe and confidence to do it the first time and to never give up if you fail for the start.

If you have a friend who has developed such confidence, tell him to follow you and show you in a live session so you can see that it's not a death sentence, even if she doesn't give you her number, you will feel happy for making your attempt.

My close friend pushed the timid me into it and now, I can approach any girl so far she is alone.

Another tip for you to start is that, you should do it at night....it will help both you and the girl to overcome shyness.

You just need to see yourself as very valuable and worthy of those girls you want to approach... It will boost your confidence.

I once approached a girl who didn't return any of my talk at all...I just kept following her and blabbing till I eventually gave up and stayed back. Failure is part of success.

aaking:



God Bless you. May the Lord help the understanding of the youth.

Amen and Amen.

chibuzorAbia:


You’d better avoid going to any western country with this rulership or headship mentality, otherwise you will lose everything you work for. In the west marriage is a partnership of equals, and the courts would seek to equalise you in every situation. That’s why the rich don’t marry the poor. The working class do not marry the jobless, and so on. Jay-Z married Beyoncé, Kanye West married the Kardasian etc etc

I can't marry from there in the first place, same way I can't marry any girl brainwashed by the western civilization.

The devil is really working hard to destroy the institution of marriage in this era we are, it's a pity that many ladies and people like daddy freeze are the tools of this evil plan.

God who instituted marriage gave the rules to make marriage work but civilization is making men see the rules as archaic. No wonder we now have so many divorce cases nowadays.

Marriage is very enjoyable but can be disastrous if not done well.

Can two work together unless they be agreed?

Wives, submit to your husbands and husbands love your wife.

Shalom!

Ladycewhy:
I am quite intrigued by your choice of words "rulership". . Let me help you with other words, "slave and master"

Rulership or headship... That position is for the man in marriage, any lady that can't accept that should remain single. I see divorce cases rising very high in coming years.

Ladycewhy:
And do you also know the percentage of women who pay the bills of the house hold yet cover it up just to massage the ego of their husbands .


Some Nigerian women would rather die as Mrs ,and it's nauseous. They have been so brain washed by religion and culture .smh

Despite the fact that some wives pay more of the bills, their percentage is very small in a poverty stricken country like Nigeria.

And even if such women don't have that much money, they will keep pushing their husbands to find money anyhow he can because culture and religion has put men as the one to provide.

And do you think marriage can even work when wives are not taught to be submissive?

God who instituted marriage knew the rules that would make it work. Two can't be together unless they be agreed.

Your quest for liberation of females from their husbands' rulership is why we now have more divorce cases all over world. However, I do not support unnecessary control from some wicked husbands but who is to be blamed?

Girls must be wise enough in choosing men that won't become a controlling freak in marriage.

Ladycewhy:
So have you heard of the national anthem " I am staying because of the children"? If push comes to shove, alot of women can actually take care of their children alone.

Infact , Nigeria has no alimony and child support laws , Nigerian woman basically take care of their kids alone after failed marriage.Evrlen in many homes , women fund the bills while those that don't share it with their husbands. So what's the responsibility you are talking about?

Forget that one....A large percentage of women have no where to go and only use children as excuse to stay, how many percentage of Nigerian women do you think are independent of their husbands?

I read a thread on Nairaland about an husband beating his wife everyday, yet the wife refused to leave the marriage. Such wife will claim she is taking those beatings because of children when in reality, her life is totally nothing without that man.

DragonFire433:


You Dey mind that one ?

Her comments alone, reveals her upbringing and where she is coming from.

you just said the plain truth about her...by their comments we shall know them.

Ladycewhy:
Apart from children ,there has never been use for Nigerian men ,go figure.
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I totally disagree with this! The same culture and religion making women remain in marriage also put men as the one responsible for a lot of things if not all in marriage, so you can't claim there is no use for Nigerian men except the busy body husbands.

Most girls (especially virgins or non-sluts) in relationships don't give intimacy to their male partners majorly because they are not certain if the guy will marry them.

They feel they will have so much to lose if the guy doesn't end up marrying them even if the guy is committed and clearly ready to marry her because of how much sacrifice he is going through for the relationship to work out.

I know guys also have things they will lose too if it doesn't work out eventually.

So is it right for girls to hold back this way?

Does it portray her trust in the relationship?

Most girls (especially virgins or non-sluts) in relationships don't give sex to their male partners majorly because they are not certain if the guy will marry them.

They feel they will have so much to lose if the guy doesn't end up marrying them even if the guy is committed and clearly ready to marry her.

I know guys also have things they will lose too if it doesn't work out eventually.

So is it right for girls to hold back this way?

Does it portray her trust in the relationship?

Chaiii..I sha hope they all pass well...we don't want the worst WAEC result ever this Coro2020.

Saynotoapc:


How far hope it not too late
I go like see the almighty omolara.

Too late ooo, I don forget her username but if money dey involve I know how to do my research again

Macqueeny:
You problem is u r just having feelings for d other guy because u guys became so close, it normal for we girls to always feel such wen we r so close to someone apart from our bf, that why wen u r in a serious relationship don't get too close to any guy apart from ur bf, u said u love ur bf so my advice is u withdraw ur closeness from dt guy, just be formal with time do feeling. Will die offf

best advice so far

Hmm..Pastor Odumeje but you said it yourself that "Everyone can never be preaching love, you are not a man of preacher of love, you are a War, You are a fight, you are Indaboski Pahose....


so why are you apologizing when this could be another opportunity to launch your terror and war to those communities...smh...

oloripelebe2:


They do daily maintenance for parked aircraft, the Engineers give DSR (Daily Status Report) for all the serviceable aircrafts. Nothing to fear

Can you so trust Nigerian airports?

May God help us from recording further cases

No more lockdown, let churches and mosques opened and let the schools be opened but measures should further be taken to prevent further spread.

And also no wasting of time on criticizing the Covids organic drink from Madagascar, getting a solution as quick as possible should be their major goal now, not how to fucking lock us down again without palliatives and support....spits!!!

Nwanyiogwashi:
Nonsense what stops you people from trying Madagascar vaccine must you people follow America recommendation

Naa pride dey kill them...giant of Africa indeed

Good one

mumumugu:
people like that will hardly cheat on u. no seducer can sweet talk tgem

Hmm..I can reason with you

Stacyomolola:

SHE ONLY NEEDS TO NOD AND AGREE WITH WHAT A MAN HAS SAID (WHETHER WRONG OR RIGHT) Wonderful, so she doesn't even have a say of her own. odikwegu

I mean when what I said was right initially.

Stacyomolola:

U're so sure op is intelligent

Of course I am

czarr:
There is nothing wrong with your woman airing her views and opinions on sensible issues, it is even attractive in a way as long as you make more of a discussion and sharing of ideas than an argument.

But if for any reason you sense that she always wants to have her way in every conversation and pressure you to accept her view cut contact immediately.....or do not indulge her in any potentially argumentative discussions.....just be silent everytime she tries to engage you and she'll tire eventually.

Thanks I grab the point

scoundrel:
It’s her character. I’m sure you guys have already done the hanky-panky hence the matter becoming an issue. I see it you guys grew under separate roofs so it’s her means of either communication or defence. If it annoys you too much you still have the freedom to pull out of the relationship. Marriages with once lavish weddings end in divorce so I don’t see the special thing about a mere relationship.

She doesn't talk that way every time so I guess she uses it as a defence whenever she feels intimidated.

tsmith:


And you have a problem with someone that has her own mind and not afraid to air her opinion? What do you want, a doormat? I definitely see plenty red flags and they are all emitting from you.

As much as I see nothing wrong for her to air her opinion, I still believe arrogance is why a lady will always want to sound right even when she only needs to nodd and agree with what a man has said.

Davash222:

Nothing like partial feminist.. She's a prospective feminist. Dump her immediately!

Hmmmm..I grab your point but do feminists do well in marriage?