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Iamdazzle:
You are very silly for your lack of comprehension skills. Rather than read to get the salient points you read to come back with viciousness.

Don't you ever insult the over 200 million Nigerians again, show some respect.

My write up didn't imply Kelly is innocent. I'm rather buttressing on what really is 'the price for fame' especially when you fall out with the elite class, I know the submission is beyond you hence you would react appropriately.

Now kindly take a hike!

This is my last response. Falling out with the elite class is not why he's in jail, he is there because all evidence (of over a decade) is pointing towards the fact that he is indeed a pedophile. His first wife was underage when he married her which is well documented. He openly admitted to rape and sexual misdemeanor in his song 'I Admit'. Stop making it look like he's being demonized. There are many black artists who are living peacefully out of jail in the US and around the world. This is the same thing people were saying about Naira Marley. I suggest you gather more information about these people and look at their rap sheet before blaming the 'system'. When you do the wrong things in life, you are always at risk of your actions catching up with you. Celebrity or not, one can get away with various crimes, but one day, it might backfire and the culprit will have to pay for those evil acts. I sincerely hope that with this, you can learn something. Thanks.

Iamdazzle:
Once they're done with you, that's it, they mess you up big time.

They replace the fame with obscurity, from hero to zero, from someone to noone...

I wonder what crime he committed to the inner circle for this humiliation, there are other members who have cases of pedophilia and rape filed against them but the system protects them.

Fear the elite ooo, they are the true devil messangers, they give and take back.

R Kelly sorry, it's your turn now. I wonder who is next.

If your wealth and fame doesn't come from above then sorry is your case when the jig is up.

Nothing is free...

Are you implying that because other influential people are rapists and pedophiles that it is right for R Kelly to do it as well? Does that justify his actions? It's the same thing with people who have a similar flawed line of thought that think that since our politicians steal, it's okay for youths to engage in online fraud as well. There is a fundamental problem with the way Nigerians act and think. Our problems are far more complicated than we think and we're not close to getting out of our predicament as a country. If everyone is contributing to the downfall of the country, why not be among the few who would do the right thing and set a good example for others to follow?

This is certainly not a trivial matter. The world must stand up and leave no stone unturned in the bid to stamp out all forms of racism, chauvinism, anti-semitism, bigotry, tribalism and all forms of discrimination. Let us remember, mourn and honour the lives lost to this senseless acts of violence and hatred #SayNoToXenophobia #SayNoToViolence

BobiNick:
Lol

Only God knows who is lying. As for me I know sex was involved but what I dont know is if the sex was rape or not.

It's unfortunate that people still don't understand the full concept of rape. Even if the sex was consensual, if Busola was underage at the time, it is still rape. That's what is called statutory rape. However, hardly anyone knows what truly happened. Only God knows. Let's hope both parties get what they deserve.

Seun:
Even if Serena loses this match, she will get $1.9 million as prize money for reaching the final. That's more than 700 million naira.

Aside this, she's currently the highest earning female athlete in the world according to Forbes. She'll lose all or most of her endorsements and the prize money she makes from competing in tournaments if she retires so, it's obvious why she still needs to remain on tour especially if she can still compete at a high level. This applies to Federer as well.

NwaAmaikpe:




Otedola may have money, but he is poor.
He has poverty of the MIND and that is why he is always on the quest for validation through announcing his good deeds and other show-offs.

This has made me never to appreciate any of his supposed acts of generosity because the idiot is a classless inverted philanthropist.
Dude will never give you even 10k if no one will know about it.

Like Jay-Z rightly said, "you can pay for school, but you can't buy class".

What of people who don't do good at all or fail to express any form of generosity? Would you prefer that? Stop looking at the negative in every situation before it rubs off on you in your endeavors. It's similar to the optimist who says 'glass half full' in contrast to the pessimist who says 'glass half empty'.

desiregold:
An average Nigeria man is a misogynist. He will hate a woman, slut shame a woman, deny a woman from having means of livelihood, talk down at a woman, hit a woman, bodyshame a woman, make a woman feel inferior, marriage shame a woman. Just to boost his ego and hide his insecurity.

It has nothing to do with NL, it is how Nigerian society is.

Do I take it serious..? No. Why? Because, I know at the end, they still can't do without us and we can't do without them too. Even, in all their shaming, they will still marry us and we will still raise their kids for them.

I stand up for myself when in the mood or when I have the strength, when I am not, I overlook them and walk away.

Lastly, I feel is our duty(women) to start raising our sons differently, so that our daughters don't grow up to experience what we did.

It hurts me, to say the least, that you feel this way about Nigerian men. I feel it is necessary to let you know that there are still many decent men out there. Do not allow the misdemeanor of some deviants influence your opinion of the whole bunch. Men who will love, respect and protect women are still very much available in our society. Don't give up on humanity. Don't give up on us.

Houseofglam7:
Your opinion
My opinion
STFU and stay off my mentions or you may fie of a heart attack.
Retard

Calm down lady. He ain't worth it. I enjoy reading your posts without the hostilities. Don't get into the mud with every dick and harry.

lilianofentse:
Hello all,

So today I was chatting with an old friend and I was like, I don't really fancy relationships these days and he asked me why? because y'all aren't honest.
Seriously guys this days just want to have a taste of what's under your legs, and after that, they either start losing interest, zoom off, or ignore you till they're hornny, then they start sending messages of how they miss you, love you blablabla, calling you every evening hoping you could give them a visit. A visit to do what exactly?? Sometimes they think all girls are gullible.
So in all truth guys should up their game. If you want a fling tell her, instead of hiding under the guise of relationships and dispose of her when you're through with her.
I know one of my male friends who can sleep with a girl now and won't even recall her name the next minute. Its sad though.

If guys see value in you, they'll stay. Now, there are certain steps you need to take. First, work on yourself. Are you someone that people would like to befriend on a long term basis? How is your character? Are you the dream lady for most men? If that isn't the case, in most cases, the right guys won't stay in your life. Don't get caught up in a stupid ideology that the man meant for you would like you for who you are; Nobody likes someone who has a bad character. Nobody likes nonsense. You can work on yourself and become a better person. Contrary to popular opinion, people change.

The next step is try and meet the right people. If you meet guys who just want to have fun, there's a tendency they just want to get in your pants. Make a conscious effort to associate more with career-driven, focused and responsible individuals. These are predominantly the kind of men who value and are prepared for serious relationships which can lead to 'happily-ever-after'. In the event that these category of men feel that they have met their dream woman in you, they feel compelled to stay and make significant effort to remain in your life. What's more? They are the right kind of men for you. To be honest, I have met a few stunningly captivating ladies who I lusted after; but when I got involved with them, I discovered the personality behind that pretty face and perfect body was even more desirable.

kennygee:
I'm not talking about requests here. I am totally against materialistic women who want to slay at the expense of men. I'm talking about decent women who are unable to meet a need or the other. If you are in a relationship with a woman who has a need that you know is a need, is it wrong to help her if you can afford to?

Is being a poor woman now a criteria for dating or dumping a woman?

If the woman can't ask you for help, who else can she ask? Makes me even wonder if such men will take care of a woman after marriage.

I'm not talking about the human hair, iPhone and make up slay queens.

This particular guy said that gf was a really sweet woman but they broke up cause she was too demanding. If he hadn't brought it up here, I wouldn't have made reference to it cause in my opinion, his was a relationship, not a leech trying to be greedy on the first date.

I understand you clearly. It's a fine line and it's all related. Materialistic women also make their requests look like important needs. The fact is most people don't like someone who asks for money or favours all the time. That's why I used the word 'incessant'. Your man knows your needs, if he really wants to help, you don't need to burden him all the time with your problems. It's a turnoff, no matter how sweet the lady may seem. Some women know how to suffocate you with all their 'genuine' problems not caring or being sensitive to the fact that everyone has his own problems.

pansophist:
Why do you guys see sex as a reward, a goal or something divine? To the women, the sex is nothing, it's like giving you a cup of water to drink from an endless stream. The lady is the smart one here, she has used up his resources, which he spent at least a month slaving to get (he admitted it), and also, still spend more to get a few mins of sex. Pathetic.

I actually don't blame women for being so vain and materialistic, men enable it, and with your outlook of seeing sex as a reward, a trend like this will continue.

I agree that sex shouldn't be put on a pedestal or over-valued else some women can exploit that as a weakness and use it to manipulate and get whatever they want from a man. Although, I do think sex means a lot to some ladies. This idea that ALL women can just open their legs for every dick and harry without having affection towards them is a far-fetched theory. These same women who gobble up some men's resources use those same resources on other men to which they are emotionally invested. It hurts ladies deeply when they truly give their heart and body only to realize they've been played for a fool.

Again, it's nauseating when certain men feel they are immune to falling head over heels for a woman, especially men who often boast that they never spend on ladies but it is the other way around. Does that not make you the 'leech' which you have branded most women? In their naivety, they think it's some form of prestigious thing they can use to gloat. In my experience, these sort of men are the biggest prey to needy and deceitful women. Wiser and stronger men throughout history have fallen to the schemes of women. Having said this, a good relationship should be symbiotic. Each side needs to sacrifice for the other party when it is required.

kennygee:
Ladies. See the comments in this post. The one that really saddened me was the sweet girl who got dumped cause she was "demanding". Were her demands really a necessity or were they vain demands?

If you can afford to help out a woman you claim you love when she was in need, not out of vanity, is that a bad thing?

Maybe she was poor and couldn't afford those things she needed, if you could afford it and you've ascertained it is a necessity, is it too bad to help her out?

I pray she is able to hustle, get through this poor phase of her life by getting a decent job or business so she can stand on her own.

If you hustle your way through and become financially independent, they'll say you won't be submissive. If you ask them for money for needs, they'll say you're demanding.

If you dim your light so they can shine, they'll say you lack ambition. If you go to school, gather degrees paid for by yourself and your parents, they'll say you won't be submissive.

If you're a working career woman, they'll say you are not fulfilling your wifely duties, if you're a house wife, you're a liability.

The Nigerian woman is screwed either ways.

Make your own money ladies, work hard to achieve your dreams. Carve a path for your self and observe and look out for the one worth committing to.

In all these, stay off fornication and live the kind of life Christ wants you to live.

Shalom.

You made some really good points. I actually feel Nigerian ladies are unfairly vilified at every turn generally and on this forum especially. I have met some really desirable and decent women. However, being submissive and independent should not be mutually exclusive. You can be independent, success-driven and still be respectful to your man. A woman's greatest asset is her character.

A decent lady should know not to over-burden a man with incessant requests. Everything should be done moderately and in order. If a man truly loves you anyway, he'll do much more than what you expect or ask cos he knows your needs. Personally, I have spent over 250k on an ex for shopping. She deserved it cos she was there for me when the going was tough. However, the relationship wasn't meant to be but I have no regrets whatsoever over everything I did for her.

pocohantas:
If one has a job he/she is proud of, why will that question be a problem?

It's a problematic question for ladies who are jobless and are living off of men who use them for transient pleasures.

lilianofentse:
woah woah. Chill dude. I never mentioned you.

Lol. I know, right? Just felt compelled to do it cos someone could benefit from it. So, take it easy and drop the 'knife', huh? I actually enjoy reading your posts.

lilianofentse:
its whoever dear. Whoever.

Whomever is absolutely correct in that context. It's a dependent clause and it applies in the way it was used.

AntiBrutus:
Sensible foreign workers.

If it were NL (Romance) guys...

They will write another note and give to her

Note 1: Olosho! What did you do? When you will not control your mouth.

Note 2: Silly feminist. After you have chop his money finish, you want to japa.

Note 3: I am not saying what he did is right, but lets hear his side of the story.

Note 4: After God, fear women. No man will just wake and start threatening his woman. Madam be submissive.

I know the writers of these notes, but I will not mention them.

I think you are right about this but slowly, you're allowing the disposition of some men define your opinion on the whole bunch. You are also allowing them win the 'battle'. They want you to become like them; individuals that criticise, condemn and form general opinions on a particular gender in a place; and it seems they have won you over to their unenviable side.

For instance, when someone triggers an histrionic outburst towards you, throws tantrums and starts name calling, the greatest proof that you're not what is being associated with you is not throwing tantrums in return. That's the underlying dynamic that seems oblivious to you. Don't let indecent people drag you into their mud. Just my opinion though.

x6blade:
you must really hate yourself to feel so strongly opinionated about someone else's life

Bro, I really don't care about rating a fellow man's pic. I'm attracted to ladies but you need to learn to ignore trolls and hateful people. Nothing pains them more than that.They ain't worth your time and thought. If someone has nothing nice or useful to contribute, use the report button and throw their hateful talk into the trashcan.

MissRaine69:
Nothing reminds you of Nigeria then my people’s ability to attach religion or spiritual to anything.
No other nation can boast of something like that.

Miss Raine, you have to understand that the spiritual controls the physical. Your whole existence doesn't come from thin air. You were created, by a spiritual being. People are influenced by spiritual forces. People die from spiritual attacks. A lot of mysterious things happen that we cannot explain or understand. There are way too many mysteries in the world which lends real credence to the spiritual dynamic. Even in the Western world, a lot of people recognize this fact. Simply because you don't understand the things that happen spiritually doesn't mean you should deny its existence or try to explain or rationalize what you don't understand. We humans fall into that trap too often. If you choose to recognize or remain oblivious to it, it changes nothing. I don't know if masturbation is influenced by spiritual forces or not but one thing is sure: there are spiritual forces controlling and influencing things that happen in this world.

ire803386:
How did he know he was going to be king?
Tyrion: “I know you don’t want it. I know you don’t care about power. But I ask you now, if we choose you, will you wear the crown?” Tyrion asked. “Will you lead the Seven Kingdoms to the best of your abilities from this day until your last day?”

Bran:“Why do you think I came all

Remember when bran told sam he was waiting for an old friend just before jamie arrived.
Bran just played them all thats why its called GAME of throne its a game, if he said anything earlier he might be dead by now who gave arya the knife she used? Bran

Good question. Like I wrote earlier, Bran had the power of seeing the past and also things currently happening all over the world. He usually controlled legions of ravens to enable him see what is transpiring everywhere. This is how he knew Jaime was coming to Winterfell. He must have seen Jaime on his way to Winterfell with one of his ravens.

Even when Jojen Reed was helping Bran understand and control his powers beyond the Wall, Jojen never told Bran anything about him having powers to see the future. Bran is an advanced warg, nothing more. He can enter and control people like he did to Hodor but he uses ravens mostly. Go back and rewatch the part when the former three-eyed raven (the old man) in the tree was explaining what it meant to be a three-eyed raven to Bran, he NEVER inclined towards Bran being able to see the future. They both always travelled to Bran's past and things currently happening in real time like when Bran saw the army of the dead marching and the night king put his mark on him. All HIS visions under the tutelage of the old man were things happening in real time or past events.

If you think Bran was the playing the game of thrones to claim the Iron throne, then you haven't been paying attention. He never wanted the Iron throne. Never. However, with his power to see things happening all over, he must have known from hearing discussions of Lords through his ravens that they would choose him. It was not a coincidence that everyone accepted him at that meeting. Immediately Jon killed Dany, it ruled Jon out for political reasons from seating on the Iron throne. The Lords of Westeros would have begun deciding amongst themselves at that point who would be the King and Bran knew ahead of time because he can see everything happening around the world. Tyrion was just the mouthpiece. Bran chose to accept it because they all chose him. He never wanted it or forced them to choose him. So, how did he play them?

lilianofentse:
After alph lukau decieved us. This pastor is now deceiving nigerians. These days i think am starting to agree with atheists.

Please don't agree with them. No individual whether pastor, bishop or regular church goer is the yardstick. God is the benchmark and he knows his true children. 2 Timothy 2:19. Please don't do it. God is real. Have a great day.

melodyogonna:
The vale and the northern army also joined the fight against the dead. even if they weren't, they can't defeat the unsullied. unsullied are not the better fighters, they are the best in the world. drilled from when they were old enough to hold a sword they have been training all their lives, fears nothing - even death.

Only fools will be foolish enough to face the dothraki in open battle, the dothraki themselves fear unsullied, maybe you don't understand what those guys are capable of.

I'm not interested in any back and forth so this is my last response. No army is invincible. The Unsullied can be defeated and killed. In Meereen, when the faceless men in masks came to attack Dany in the fighting pits, it was her dragon who rescued her by carrying her away from the skirmish. I seem to recall many Unsullied being killed in that fight by untrained men in masks. GreyWorm himself was almost killed in an encounter with the men in masks. Against a much larger force, they will be soundly defeated. Plain and simple.

melodyogonna:
the northern can't stand the unsullied in open battle.

The Unsullied are the better fighters, no doubt; but if the Northmen have a larger force remaining, then the odds may not be firmly in their favour. The Dothraki are one of the fiercest fighters too but they were decimated when they met a large force of dead men in the Great War.

Bottomline: No army is invincible. Strategies, size of an army and other external forces can sway the odds.

Keep in mind that if the GreyWorm and the Unsullied try to put reason aside and forcefully kill Jon, they may not only be fighting the Northmen; the Northmen may join forces with the men of the Vale who are led by Sansa's cousin Robin Arryn and forces from House Tarly who would be led by Samwell Tarly (best friend of Jon) since his father and brother were killed by Dany. All this should be put in consideration. If I was a betting man, I'd stake on the combined forces from the great houses of Westeros defeating the Unsullied. King Bran controls the six kingdoms. He can surely summon all the armies of the six kingdoms along with Sansa who would also summon the Northmen to fight the Unsullied if the Unsullied go against their family's wishes and kill their brother Jon. Both sides had to compromise, in Tyrion's words.

For people who dislike Sansa because of her suggestion to Bran to make the North an independent kingdom, I really don't think it was for her own selfish reasons. She never tried to take the Northern throne away from Jon and never showed jealousy. Even when Jon was going to Dragonstone to meet Dany, she begged him not to go so that no harm would befall him. Regardless of whoever was chosen to rule the seven kingdoms, Sansa would have still asked that the North be an independent kingdom.

The North are hard to control. The Northmen have always sought to break out from the seven kingdoms. The North only follow their own. Death in masses has always befallen the Starks and other Northmen anytime they came to King's Landing at the orders of a Southern ruler. With the recent tragedy as well, it would have made pledging fealty to the Iron throne in King's landing even harder. Recall that they made Jon the king in the North. Jon bowed to queen Dany but his people (the Northmen) never really accepted her as their queen. Sansa and Arya repeatedly called her 'your' queen when talking with Jon. The Northmen and their Lords were done with taking orders from a Southern ruler. They made that clear a long time ago. They wanted to have the liberty to always stay safely in the North where they belong along with their ruler which is why they always said, the King in the North should stay in the North.

Fadedvoices2:
Indeed.

Sansa’s Statement about thousand northmen made me laugh


The remaining northmen can’t stand the unsullied in battle and besides , at that time . The some Dothraki were still around


The northmen would be decimated in no time

All this is speculation. Both the Northmen and the Unsullied suffered casualties fighting in the Great War and the Last War against Cersei. We don't know the actual number of soldiers left in both armies.

lifedynamics:
I digress. Jon should have been killed by Drogon, Drogon saw Jon holding her ,1+1=2).
Even if Drogon spared him, the Dothraki or Grey worm, in the Got world we've know from Season 1 to 7, would have taken off his head on the Spot.

Bran is an evil piece of shit for not warning them of Dany's plan.

The Dothraki, Unsullied have leaders. The leaders are the ones who get to choose whether to kill Jon instantly or imprison him. Obviously, they made the latter choice. Even Dany didn't kill all her enemies immediately. She imprisoned people at certain times. Keep in mind that Jon also led a host of Northmen to King's landing in the fight against Cersei. His soldiers wouldn't stand pat if GreyWorm or the Unsullied tried to kill him. It was a complicated situation which required allies killing each other so they had to reach a compromise.

Bran cannot see the future. He can only see the past and things happening in the present all over the world. This is what he said to his sisters when he was explaining what it meant for him being the three-eyed raven. Recall that when Jaime was discussing with him regarding their fate after the Great War, he asked him: 'How do you know there's an afterwards?'. He also said before the Great War that he doesn't know if fire could kill the Night King. Obviously, he couldn't see the future. The only people with the powers to see things which haven't yet happened in the movie are Jojen Reed and Melisandre. Hence, you certainly cannot blame Bran for failing to warn anyone of Dany's evil plan. Recall also that he severally only referred to himself as the one who would preserve the history (past) of the seven kingdoms.

Seun:
I've been laughing for about 5 minutes. What a stupid ending. So the lords of Westeros unanimously voted for Bran the Bland? Really?

Jon killed Dany and they didn't even have the balls to let Drogon kill Jon in retaliation. He directed his anger at the Iron throne. Why?!?

Grey Worm was loyal to Dany, ruthlessly killing Lannisters who had surrendered, but he didn't kill the man who murdered his queen?

I had been trying to understand why Dany did what she did last week. Apparently she just 'snapped' and turned into a generic cartoon villain.

I feel so sorry for all the people who have wasted large chunks of their time analysing this show, crafting clever theories, etc.

I also feel sorry for the women and girls whose empowering Khaleesi was turned into a cartoon villain overnight for no reason whatsoever.

Jon is a Targaryen. The dragon has a strong bond with Tagaryens. Jon was the only one who could ride a dragon alongside Dany. Obviously, the dragon wasn't present at the moment Jon killed Dany and it knew Jon was friends with their mother. I think that's the rationale behind Drogon not killing Jon.

GreyWorm wanted justice for Dany but Jon was the king in the North. Killing him instantly would have started another war between the Unsullied and the Northmen. That's the only explanation behind GreyWorm not killing Jon. He was not interested in a war between the Northmen and his soldiers. They were allies (they fought together at the Great War and also helped conquer King's landing). He simply wanted punishment for the queen's murderer.

Seun:
The Lords could have agreed to pardon him, just as they agreed to elect Bran as King. Jaime was pardoned after slaying the Mad King, afterall.

Jaime's case was different. He was pardoned by Robert Baratheon at the sack of King's landing.

Torgo Nudho (Grey Worm) who had arguably the greatest army in Westeros (Unsullied) at his command demanded justice for the queen's (Dany) death. If the Lords of Westeros had not obliged and given Jon Snow some form of punishment for his crime, it would have led to another war between the Northmen and the Unsullied.

In contrast, it was easy for Robert Baratheon to pardon Jaime since his crime was killing the Mad King who Robert himself was rebelling against, and that royal pardon came at no cost of war.

MariaLavina:
Let him breathe....

One thing you must understand about guys is they are easily bored and love varieties. The more they get to know about you, the less interested they get. You as a lady must know how to remain intriguing, mysterious, attractive and enticing else you will lose him.

Now the question is who is worth the stress? A patient man who values you enough to stick around a little more hoping you will bring the fire back. Is your man worth it? I doubt that! The fact that he flirts with another woman knowing well that you will see his acts shows he has lost interest in you and no respect either. In as much as men love their freedom, they will never leave the women they love hanging.

My advice: Don't push it, focus on something else. If he is yours he will be back.

Great post. Couldn't have put it any better.

Houseofglam7:
Marriage will slow down your non existent career?


Husband, where are you?

Lol. Let's give her some credit. She has every reason not to work hard especially because she's the daughter of a billionaire but she's still hustling hard to make it to the top of the music industry. It is a disposition that requires commendation.

I know I'm a bit late to the party but I feel compelled to weigh in, so permit me OP, if you will.

There are different layers to this IMO. In an ideal world, there should be nothing wrong in the woman initiating the process of marriage or proposing to the man. Unfortunately, we don't live in an ideal world.

First off, men are able to deal with rejection better than women so it is unadvisable to encourage women to take this step as it might backfire especially because it's unconventional. Secondly, there's something that just seems off that approach. The lady will want to keep it secret because it's something that will raise eyebrows if people hear about it and it's usually better to avoid negative publicity or reputation. It might also cause future issues between you and your partner as he might fail in some of his responsibilities using the excuse of his unreadiness.

I don't think it's wrong for a lady to do it because every relationship is unique but I also think it's wiser to follow the natural order. If a lady has been with her beau for some time, she should know where the relationship is headed. She should have deduced the man's plans from their intimate discussions. She can encourage him and try to speed up the process. A lady should understand her man perfectly and know what she needs to do or say to see if he's really ready to spend a lifetime with her and encourage him to take the next step. If he's not ready, it would be as lucid as the blue sky, then she has to tell herself the truth and not make excuses for him and ultimately, she has to make a decision.

It is dangerous to assume that a man will accept a lady's proposal simply because she feels the man loves her unconditionally. Men have the uncanny ability to demonstrate a substantial amount of love for women and still not be ready to marry. Men also say a lot of things including promising marriage to make women happy or get favors from them so don't play yourself. Marriage is a huge commitment in every sense of the word. It is a totally different ballgame from relationships. Furthermore, a man can accept your proposal at that moment so as not to make you feel bad but keep you waiting long after the 'engagement' which makes the whole thing futile.

Lastly, as a woman, it is important to know your worth. If you have tremendous value, a man would do anything to speed up the process and marry you as he would dread the thought of losing you forever to another man. He would hustle harder, run through iron coated walls just to be with you as fast as possible. Don't give any man the opportunity to see you as desperate or downplay your value. If a lady has not gotten to the level of being extremely desirous, she has to work on herself and make herself that much delicious so much that suitors would be falling head over heels for her. My two cents.

It's not by force to go on a date. If you don't have money, stay at home, work harder so as not to go outside and disgrace yourself as a man in front of a lady. What is worth doing, is worth doing well. Don't allow poverty affect your thinking lads.