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No I prefer toned men with six pack and nice definitions on their arms

Do you know him in person or just met him online? If you never met how can you be so sure that you want to spend your life with him? Why don't you go on holidays in Nigeria first to see how it is, get to know the culture and the people a bit better and then make any plans, visa arrangement, workwise, housing etc. Also be aware of some scams if yu met him online, I don't want to sound cynical but it's nothing wrong on being cautious and protecting yourself.

because meaning is one thing and perception is another,

if u love someone for his/her money then you don't love the person, the only time that finance can be an issue in a relationship is when one of the partners face financial difficulties and is stressed about it. and somehow is a bigger problem when the man is in this position because it affects his ego

Define what u believe is silly

Depending on the crime, if he was a killer, raped someone, abuser, scammer, involved in a gang or drugs i'd walk out of the relationship quick and quiet in order to protect myself

it's a big turn off for me, i like confident men

what about the face though? he's got a cool style but don't like his looks

we forgive but we don't forget,

it wouldn't bother me that much, it's his history. of course i would feel jealous though if i would see them.

High Chief I am a girl not a man

She is pretty but I don't think she's something special, to be fair go to mediteranean and you will see many 'next door girls' look like that or better

If he wants her back after being dumped 2 years ago I think that he really likes her, otherwise he wouldn't have kept contact or try to reunite. 2 years seems a really long time for someone to seek revenge. Your friend though has to really think if she wants to get back with him and how the relationship was because if the relationship was good I'll doubt it if your friend will look for someone else. If she is sure she can give a second chance to the relationship but she should take things really slow. If she wants to be sure of the man's intentions she should pay close attention on how he approaches her.

Yes I do, it is only human but everything has its limits. To a certain extent is good because you make yourself or your partner a better person, you can always pick good things from other people and imrpove yourself, it's not wrong on my eyes. I am very strick with myself and I can handle fair comparisons very well but doesn't mean that i have to accept the comparison. My boyfriend felt that I've been a bit harsh to him in the past and propably felt insecure so I've stopped it as not everybody likes it or can handle it. I think is more difficult for men as it affects their ego.

They aren't all the nigerian men abroad illegal, many have sorted their residential status through work sponsorship (mainly IT, enginneering postgraduates and academics) and many more borned in the country they live but they are of nigerian origin. What about them, why do they date/marry the 'ugly' white chicks if they don't need the 'papers'? All the nigerians that I know in academia (men and women) are not dating/married to nigerians (but academia is very diverse), some are going out with goodlooking people and some with uglly but again some of them are goodlooking and some are ugly. I think is more of a case with who you interact and more chances to fall in love with people you have similar interests. What I don't like is when I see nigerian men on their 20's with 40+ women (propably that's why they look ugly   if they claim to be younger), many of the young men are well educated and the british women are usually of limited education 'working class' or young nigerian girls with old men, you can suspect the reason they are together, citizenship or money,

I don't know, I can't understand why women add their husband's name to their own after wedding.

I don't consider british women goodlooking (especially compare them with other white european girls)  but they are not badlooking either, kind of average and they are definately not fat, they are slimmer than black girls (in uk i don't know how girls are in nigeria) but they have very thin hair and the very pale ones have bad skin (their skin make them look older) and very small lips. And don't believe all these rubbish about ill manners etc, there are the good ones and the bad ones.

must be the people you know, are they goodlooking themsleves? from what i see (not only for nigerians but everyone) the goodlooking ones usually go for beautiful girls the not so goodlooking haven't got so many chances with someone pretty (though apperance is not everything). bare in mind that what someone considers 'beautiful'or 'handsome' is different between different cultures. For example a man perceived as goodlooking among nigerian girls can be perceived as ugly among white girls or too flashy and vice versa and or for example a nigerian woman who is perceived as not so goodlooking among nigerian men (e.g. too skinny) can be perceived very beautiful among white men.

Personally i found it insulting and bad manners to ask a boyfriend/husband(or anyone really apart from parents) for something specific, even when he asks me what i want i always say anything the thought matters, but it has to be something that he had put much thought on this and something i'll like otherwise he doesn't know me. When i want anything specific i just buy it myself.

the truth, you can never make her understand no matter what and you know why

hm, i don't know, possible but, noah m too cynical for that i suppose, better be careful and pay attention on the things that you see with your own eyes and not what somebody else dreams

Sorry to say that but have some pride girl, he already said that he doesn't find you attractive. don't take it personal many other men finds you attractive, it's a matter of taste

kissing of course, kneeling NO unless if he wants to propose

of course

my family, my boyfriend, my career and my close friends. nothing else matter

3 whole months? come one please tell me you r joking

Poster,

In my opinion your girl teached you a lesson and she made you question her love to you (now you know how it is when a partner doesn't respect you). The mistake is yours from the beginning (extremely selfish, stupid and inmature (no offence)), if you really care about the girl and you want to be in a nice and loving relationship with her you have to make a decision, to stop looking around!!! and be a jerk! Go back to your girl and APOLOGISE for you behaviour, tell her that you realised that you have been an idiot, that you love her (if you do) and promise her that you will only have eyes for her from now on. Now if she still loves you, we don't know it because as mentioned before you have been very disrespectful but you only have a chance if you go back, apologise etc. As a woman that is the advice that I can give you. If you carry on like that even if she loves you now her love will be dissapeared. The desicion is yours, and by the way I think you have a really smart girl, respect to her.