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mecussey: I dont understand why women want to marry anybody they date. Men only want a date for s*x and if they fall in luv in the process, they will marry you. If they discover that you are less than what they think you are, they will hit ur thing and pick race, that's what I do.

nnachichi: Hey ladies,what style of gown would u wear for your wedding?

tube-like,flowing,or what?

As for me,i'll like something not sweeping the ground but simple flowing and fabulous.

Mojiraheem: Allah have mercy on us end time

PetroDolla2: so what's your evidence to support the fact that she's Ghanaian, and not a nigerian, for example?

Reyginus: Words of wisdom. Oga boss!

dagr8: Menh, i landed on dis thread not by intention bt on investigation..lol

@topic...why are some pple just hitting on d "she had sex with him" part, the op is just explaining the extent to which she gave to the relationship. Iam not in support of pre-marital sex, but she had made a mistake and she had to forge ahead.
In answer to your questions...though is not fair judging a case using only one side of the story...i will say:

1. Yes guys also get hurt ...unfortunately d guy you fell for did not love you from the onset. He was after something and he got it...the "break up" sex u talked about is a clear revelation he had been staying for the sake of sex that he had been getting all along.
2. Love is about 100% giving, you are right for you to give...but when it comes to sex..the creator has defined where it should be used i.e in marriage. Like we all know sex is not equal to love...neither is love equal to sex.
You were wrong by being with the wrong person..that all i can say...
In subsequent relationships, define and know what you want and also define your preference with your reason not with your emotion.

3. Yes. You have to love. A Yoruba adage says, " if you choose to close your eyes because you don't wanna see an evil person passing, when a good person is passing you wont see him too"

God created us as relational beings to love and to be loved...and when it comes to marital love, it is God's design for you...you wont because of one guy who broke your heart become a nun...did you have the intention of becoming a nun before you started a relationship with him?

Life is about learning...for every mistake we make we learn from it and what we learnt we apply in subsequent encounters...
now you have learnt something, apply what you have learnt in the next encounter, don't run away from the encounter

Get good friends around U from both genders,thank God you are now on NairaLand, you can find wonderful friends around, enjoy your life especially in God...I assure you will get healed with time....and you will surely fall in love again ...

My dear, move on and move up, a better love and lover await you don't miss it/him....

In conclusion, rely on Jesus..the only one who knows and owns the future....

...Merry Christmas ..

vickyO: Merry Christmas to everyone.......

Redgem, hello ....

Reyginus: Feel at home. Notify me of any troublemaker

idnoble135: Hahaha. No, let's stick to context. .

You're welcome.

idnoble135: Hahaha. No, let's stick to context. .

You're welcome.

ARareGem: Nah.

Hello, Redgem. How're you doing?

idnoble135: Hello Miss... You're new around here?

Reyginus: Merry christmas ma'am.

idnoble135: ARareGem?

idnoble135: ARareGem?

Fraternize: Guys and ladies that have been let down by their partners always hold the same opinion you are now holding. Dear, time heals all wounds. For you to feel this way implies that that guy is the one who have lost a rare gem like you. I wouldn't say you shouldn't feel sore, please do, but strategize to move on... Alot of guys are dying to meet a lady like you, believe me. Not all guys are callous ditto the ladies....remember this....he has broken your heart but has proved that he is not worth you....you the winner girl...cheer up please

redgem: I can always overcome it as far as the holy spirit is with me....If I take the vow, I shall keep to it.

baralatie: sure!how do u tink u wil survive inside a seminary.imagine u are trying to meditate in the garden and u saw 2 birds making out.u wil now remember the akpako era(wahala don come)ur body start overheat nxt tin u breaking vows!

baralatie: Merry xmas!

baralatie: U already av a carnal knowledge of manhood.it disqualifies u from becoming a nun!

baralatie: U already av a carnal knowledge of manhood.it disqualifies u from becoming a nun!

Reyginus: Lol. Let 'us' save your rice for you, yetseyi

baralatie: that is why i said try Jesus!

Ify Angela: Truth is U just have to move on with your life shit happens.

jascopassion: I knw the lady that wrote this message and funny enof am the BF in question. SEGUN by name. Deny me in the public Tolugal

Abbey2sam: You should have given him the breakup sex

Reyginus: Exactly. Experiences like this should toughen and tighten the understanding of the op and young peopleon what love really should mean.

It is not in giving it all. You can give all but the other person would still not be satisfied, a sign he is incapable of loving you.

I believe there are millions of good men out there willing to engage. So, lamenting or giving up on men based on a single person is absolutely not the best thing to do.

redgem: let me ask you a question and be sincere

kulyie: same ni.mohammed wen to the mosque,or the mosque came to mohammed,same ni gbo gbo e

Waspy: Op, it happens( to both Sexes). Love just like Life, is a Risk. Give it time, you'll heal and never make the same mistakes twice .....or make the mistake of not taking another shot, especially if its the best you'll ever have.