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I quite agree with you but what happened to the biological father of the "fatherless" children? We are in a society where the actual father can later come and claim his child unless he's already late. This child we are "protecting here, how will he/she feel finding out the person he has been looking up to isn't his/her biological father. My point in all these is just sincerity from the onset, that's all

QuinQQ:
Thanks for simply stating your points instead of resorting to insults like some people (a certain LordReed comes to mind!)
Well, you'll have had a point if it were all about him, but it emphatically is not! There is the well-being and smooth-running of society at large to comsider.
Broken homes, fatherless children, and destruction of trust within the home - the only possible outcomes of unwarranted DNA fishing expeditions of minors raised from birth, do not in any.way contribute to any of that. Neither does it help the govt in it's responsibility to safeguard life and property (fatherless children are disproportionately manace to society)

Why discourage DNA if one sense foul play? Please on what ground did the man accept the child in the first place? Are you encouraging "bonding and settled family " on false pretence? Isn't it fair for him to know the truth and do whatever he's doing with his full knowledge and awareness?

QuinQQ:
It is entirely up to the man to decide if he'd accept the child. But once he accepts the child and bonds with the child and have a settled family, he can't come out years later to start screaming DNA.
The state's concern is to discourage such uwarranted DNA fishing expeditions and have the man save his money and focuse on raising a child that knows him as his only father, a child that is almost cerrainly his biological child!

Did you bother to acknowledge the deceit on the man over the years to believe all he was doing was for his blood. Do you bother to acknowledge the pain and loss the man wil feel after knowing he has been living in a fool's paradise. If there was nothing wrong or crime in it, why not come out clean from the onset. Let the man know and decide himself to take care of the child and not to be deceived and used by another for selfish and manipulative reason

QuinQQ:
Well, sorry to disappoint you. I'm a full blooded heterosexual man.
But like I told the other guy, never mind me, can you tell us how it benefits the man or the child, or society when a man accepts a child, bonds with the child, then years later start screaming DNA?

This can only come from one gender

QuinQQ:
Simple resson: if you've had a child since infancy, he is your child and you're his father and you're obligated to take care of that child till age of maturity. That's how Nature intended it.
It is NOT sperm that makes you someone's father!
Other people fight for custody of children tooth and nail. You don't have to do any of that. He's your child and you get ALL the benefits of fatherhood. He carries your name, references you as his father, and if he ever becomes something ALL fatherhood glory will go to you!

WhiteIverson:
No use this sense cross road

ClassicEvilSpir:
Several times, I've watched videos where the woman (or man) would describe how they are facing poverty with their children, how they can't even find a place to stay because they can't afford it, yet proceed to have even more kids.

I am a student, I make good money (Nigerian standard), yet I can't imagine caring for 1 child with my finances. However, people who earn less than one tenth of my monthly profit continue to have kids.

What is the mindset behind this?

The only sport and fun they can have is segz and using contraceptives is waste of money or not affordable

Why should a pastor encourage newly wedded couples to worship separately, na wa o

Abizz:
Good morning guys, I need clarification on something.
Some years ago, we were paid quite a sum at work, you know one of these unbelievable bonuses. One of my bosses who's always liked me called on me and advised I put the money to good use.
She specifically advised I should start working on building a house and she gifted me a parcel of land in a government reserved area to encourage me.

I have all necessary documents; The original Certificate of Occupancy and Deed of gifts with governor's consent.

The project took off and was completed the following year.
She was happy for me, congratulated me and that was the last time we talked about it. It's been over four years now.

I sold the house some weeks back and I'm wondering if I should have carried her along or engaged her dutifully from some legal standpoint.
Money is never her problem really, I'm just curious if normalcy demands I should have sought her permission before making the decision. One, as a boss who wants to see me do well in life. Two, as the gifter. Three, if there is any legal implications of not involving her or possible breach of intention.

You should have actually informed her of your intention before going ahead, not that she has a right to the property but out of respect and courtesy

[quote author=MONEY247 post=137629822]The marriage would end up a mirrage...
#100,000 is not feasible financially for a man or woman who wants to marry and live comfortably with their spouse....
Imagine the kids
Imagine the food expense...
Transportation...
Other financial obligations and commitments

You gonna be choked......
Myopic reasoning

mixitv:
Fellow Nairalanders,

I came across a disturbing report making the rounds – Ekiti State University (EKSU) is allegedly charging ₦125,000 for graduates to collect their original certificates. Let that sink in: not for a new degree, not for a masterclass or skill acquisition, but just to collect the one thing you worked hard for – your own certificate.

This raises serious questions:

1. What exactly are students paying for?
EKSU students pay tuition, development fees, examination fees, departmental fees, and even convocation fees. So why should there be another ₦125k hurdle for a document that should be part of the graduation process?

2. Is this legal or just pure extortion?
A university is a public institution. Unless there's a transparent, Senate-approved reason for such a fee (like printing on gold or shipping to Mars), ₦125,000 feels more like extortion than administration.

3. How does this compare to other universities?
Many federal and state universities charge between ₦5,000 to ₦20,000 for certificate collection. Even private universities with far higher tuition rarely go beyond ₦50,000. Why is EKSU this expensive?

4. What about the struggling graduates?
In a country with mass unemployment and inflation, this charge is not only unfair – it’s insensitive. Imagine a graduate who's yet to secure a job, now being asked to pay that much just to prove they graduated.

5. Accountability matters
If EKSU truly needs funds, they should publish a breakdown of the certificate production cost and make it public. Otherwise, it looks like a means to exploit thousands of students and their parents.

Final Thoughts:
Education is a right, not a luxury. The certificate is a symbol of academic achievement, not a luxury item. If graduates can't even access it without breaking the bank, what’s the point of the whole process?

Let’s speak up before other institutions copy this model. We must demand fairness, transparency, and respect for students who already sacrificed years and finances to earn their degrees.

What are your thoughts? Are you an EKSU student or alum who’s been affected? Drop your experiences.

Don't they have a student body? Or is it a bought one

LoopyNigeria:
As seen on Morning Star News Paper on January 22

Hmmm, to not just a sitting president but a United States of America president. Its 3 much abeg no matter what

Playloaded:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/ghanaian-church-honors-20-girls-for-keeping-their-virginity/%3famp

So you weren't expecting a 13yrs to be virgin anymore. Where are the 18 - 21 years girls. Una no serious

naptu2:
Children born this year will be the first of the Beta Generation. These are the named generations and their year of birth.

Lost Generation 1883 - 1901

Greatest Generation 1901 - 1927

Silent Generation 1928 - 1945

Baby Boomers 1946 - 1964

Generation X 1964 - 1980

Millenials (Generation Y) 1981 - 1996

Generation Z (Zoomers) 1997 - 2012

Generation Alpha 2013 - 2024

Generation Beta 2025 - 2039

What are the criteria that determines a generation?

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

She will definitely come back when the family realises you are not coming to beg this time around. If you accept her back into your home, you have activated the time of your untimely death, beware. Stay with friends, parents or siblings for the time being till you feel better

Na wa o, that was the local government i served

Jakasibo:
My friend's brother sent him two phones (one iPhone 16 and one iPhone XR) from USA through DHL
The package has been on transit for sometime now.
The issue now is that he received a message from DHL today stating he has to pay N853,109.81 as the custom fee before it can be cleared.
I think there's something fishy here because I haven't seen nor experienced this before

Below is the message from DHL 👇👇

Unfortunately nothing fishy, that's how those courier company charge, you may end up not getting the package due to the exorbitant amount

OlawaleBammie:
I was on my own jejely thinking about my life when my landlord called me to inform me that one man want to seel this slithering chicken.

My landlord: Wale u sabi chop?
Me: yes ofcourse.. na chicken na.
Me: Oga how much?
Him: 3k
My landlord: E cheap ooh
Me: E no cheap..e too cost. Oga make I give you 2k
Him: put 500.
Me: Uanded over the 2k and took my chicken home.

I thought it can be skinned rather than eating it like this

Moresalt:
My dogs kept barking non-stop and I went out only to find this...

I guess it's the common house/bush snake.

That lizard is dead from poison I guess, so it's a venomous snake

It's rare to find conscience in that gender

You just allow smoke and whatever you dey consume make you look unattractive. You no allow your money show for your body

You just allow smoke make you look unattractive

These ones are men

Keepamsafe:
We just started dating barely a week ago and stil understanding eachother. But. She is asking for monthly allowance. Tho” it doesn’t sit well with me, but I don’t want to lose her cos I love her already. How do I handle this please? Cos I’m scared another guy can promise her monthly allowance and she might mistakenly cheat or break up with me.

All ye dating nonsense, you sef never get sense with the statement of love you claimed. You will learn don't worry, and don't blame her when that time comes, you were the unwise one

vanitybutiwanti:
G5 meets at the FCT Ministers residence in Abuja to review recent developments and restrategize for the task ahead

Is Wike ok health wise at all?

atoliman:
They visit the brothel like it is a normal thing and sleep with oloshos like it is nothing and they want a loyal girlfriend. Who is decieving who? That relationship cannot work, neither the marriage will work.

A lady was telling me how her ex boyfriend got another girl pregnant while they were dating. The dude keep begging her to come back.

Bad boys should date promicious women and oloshos- that is a balanced equation, leave the good women alone so serious minded good guy can date them.

But the so called good girls kinda prefer dating the bad boys

seunmsg:
Good one. The Police should thoroughly investigate him and prosecute him diligently. That dude has committed so much crime against the state and it’s time he’s punished for his crime.

He called himself breeze that can’t be arrested and the stupid breeze is currently enjoying adulterated breeze in FCID facility

What were his crimes please

How was this killed? the picture doesn't show any form of injury on the pyton

Valoromega:
I've been married for 2 years now with a new born baby. the issue now is that anytime we have issues my wife always threatens to leave.
she will arrange and bag and say she's leaving. this has happened more tha 4 times, basically anytime we have issues as a couple.

She will say she's still young and she can't take any nonsense in marriage, Mind u i have never hit her before so this isnt a case of domestic violence, just normal couples issue.

I'm tired of this and i'm thinking about my options right now, I want to tell her to leave but she should drop my child for me. she can't use our marriage as a threat everytime we have issues

Let her go next time she threatens you. Do not ever beg her to stay, just dont give her the money for transport, dont touch her bags, allow her do her packing out herself, she will not try it again. Even if she carried out the threat, keep your cool, when she finally decide to have sense, she will beg you for reconciliation

Good day guys, please an advice especially from those based in pH. Online or offline for a fresh application and hopefully get the passport by July latest, kindly advise please

Pecoleee345:
People are wicked in this country.

Greed will finish us in this country.

Go to trade fare and see how street retailers are ripping us off big time.

My wife bought her body cream CT+ at the rate 2100 at trade fare yesterday while in our area retailers are selling it for 3700.

Kk brothers soap my wife bought the pack for 7k(6pieces) while one is sold for 1700 by retailers.

Her sanitary pad she bought 1 pack at the rate of 1050 while retailers sell for 1700.

Even strike bitters sachet pack(20 pieces) wey I dey always use console myself i buy for 2000 she got it for 1450.

Note she didn't even buy at carton price but at pack price because if she was buying in carton the price would be lower that than.


Just yesterday I bought a derica of rice on my way back home for 900 around oshodi terminal while the seller in my street is still selling for 1300 despite price of bag of rice coming down.

We are own problem.......everyone is wicked in this country.

The retailer will add transport fare, shop rent, tax and levies, then profit to be made etc, I'm not justifying the amount but consider these before concluding

shortgun:
Tragically we lost a close friend to the cold hands of death who passed away in a ghastly motor accident.

He was in his late thirties to early forties,unmarried, no child, and a Christian from the North west.

In solidarity, we his friends, proposed to hold a formal wake keep for him at his Abuja residence and promptly began the preparation process. This included securing the services of a DJ and arranging refreshments for the gathering.

Certain members of his family objected to the idea of the wake keep, contending that it was inappropriate for us to engage in partying and funfair following the untimely passing of their loved one. They insisted we limit the gathering to just a public address system and a choir to sing, nothing more.

Some of our friends are threatening to hands-off and withdraw their involvement from everything about the funeral including not attending the burial and allow the family members do whatever that pleases them.
Others are of the opinion that we should ignore the family members and go ahead with our plans since we are going to be paying respect to our late friend and not members of his family.

What do you guys think?

Well I don't know the kind of life style you and your friends were living, but as long as his funeral is concerned, you have no moral right to go against his family's wish and consent, but una be wetin we know suppose loud outside, otherwise you all should respect yourselves

Electricity is expensive o, can Nigerians afford 24/7 power supply with out subsidy?