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tollyboy5:
see my adugbo o! I don't even understand the place again. Everything don change.
Where is lasu gate.

Honestly I don't know the place again sef, though been long I left Lagos but it looks really different

CUMIN:
Just wait till your moments of celebration comes. You will hate yourself

Experience is the best teacher

GraciousGod190:
A Church member invited the masses to his mother's burial ceremony last week Sunday, today when I got there I had to look for his own canopy..to my surprise they were just few persons sitting on his canopy with lots of chairs vacant.

and I came late o, we talking about after 2.48pm

His siblings canopies were filled to the brim, even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest. (this guy is the second to senior) I could see the embarrassment on this man face... he was just quiet and moody.

Food he cooked was surplus, nobody to give after sharing for we the church members that came..he had to even give us extra takeaway home because we didn't pass 10...still they are still enough leftovers.

While I was coming home one of the member from the church a very good friend of mine gave me a lift, then he told me Alex...you see why you need to dey mingle with people all around so that when you want to do things people will come.

You can't just put your full mind for people in church or family members...they disappoint you.

As you go people own, na so people go like come your own.

it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.

So introverts how do you handle stuffs when it comes to parties like this that you can't bypass? With all eyes watching...

Who crowd epp? If it's your nature not to mingle with people, you won't be expecting a crowd so you will prepare for just a few number of people you must have invited. But cooking for alot when you invited just a few doesn't make sense to me, he probably knew alot of pple whom he invited but didn't show up, hence the wastage of food

Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.
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I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

I think you need wisdom. That's the nicest way I think I can say my mind.

Sound sultan

Ogalanyaidi:
First I want peace in my home and I've been enjoying relative peace in my home.

I've been married for less than a year. I called my wife to discuss how we could keep the house clean and I went on to tell her that she puts things where they shouldn't be. She got upset and called her mum, she was crying while speaking with her mum over the phone.

Her mom called and we both made peace I discovered that she was recording our argument but I chose not to confront her there and then.

A day later, I asked why she was recording me and she lied but I gave her facts and she agreed. She said if I've nothing to fear why am I being upset about it. She said I should record her too cus she observed that when we speak to her mum after an incident I don't say the whole truth.

We both live overseas and she is the only person I've here.

I want peace in my home and I don't like trouble

Where overseas? Bro, I think your marriage days are numbered. She's gathering evidence against you in the nearest future

Hathor5:
4 weeks without sex is that hard?

It's not o, but people are different in mind and body

jeffizy:
The hair transplant is money well spent. Happy birthday Dude.

Bros, I thought it was a wrong person I knew as IK, I was expecting to see bald pictures but I confuse till I read your comment

Spherical77:
Yes, i understand the roles of fathers in the house. But mothers plays bulk of it all. Children tend to love their mothers naturally than fathers. It's nature!

It has nothing to do with nature, it's about who is more available to care for the children which ofcourse is most likely the mother as the father is always out to work to provide for the family.

finishmatter:
This has been a worrisome issue for me.
Why do children prefer giving money to their mom instead of dad.

Your dad clothes, feeds, educate, houses and provides all financial needs for you as his child.
He also meets all needs of his wife and that of his relatives and in-laws.

So, ideally, he is supposed to be adequately compensated as the breadwinner instead of the mom.

But this is not the reality as most children only think of their mother.

What did our fathers do to deserve this?
Pls how can this unfair treatment be addressed?

I have also wondered about this because the father played his role, atleast a responsible father, it's funny because guys too abandon their father and give to their mum alone or certainly far less to their dad. Probably they forget they will be dads someday and what they do to their father now will definitely be done to them too as a father. So do to your father what you want your children to do to you in the nearest future, it's as simple as that

This guy is young oo

MALIGNANTGuest:
Hello!
Guess you all have fastened your seatbelts for the New Year? We hope for better days ahead.

I was at home yesterday & I got the shock of this festive period when a delivery agent kept dropping off items at my doorpost. Little did I know my backbone (my wife) who never ceases to surprise me had planned to lavish me with Xmas Gifts.
To my amazement, she apologized for late arrival of these items, as she had earlier booked & expected them to arrive during the Xmas period.
Honestly, I appreciate her immensely!.
Although, she's known to be ladened with such traits, but I expected a Seasonal Card in return since it was exactly what I hurriedly gave her earlier because of my tight schedule.

Honestly, she's been so wonderful!
I had to bury my face in shame .
She was able to execute such within a short time. Just want to say a Loud & a Palpable THANK YOU 2 All the Good and Hardworking Ladies out there. Keep it up. Ur efforts will always echo.

I over envy you

Premiumwriter:
Yesterday I witnessed a very pathetic situation at the bar where I work.

I feel very sorry for one of the guys and the other I just can't stand looking at him.

At the bar where I was bartending, a guy and a girl walked in. I know the girl quite well (at least in old times).

Naturally when I know someone I tend to go greet them warmly. She was expecting that.

But since she was on a date with the guy (I could tell that by their dressing), I kept my distance a little and only waved and smiled at her.

Naturally, regardless of how much I like a girl or she likes me, I tend to give her space when she's with another guy because I find it disrespectful when I myself I'm talking to a girl and another guy jumps in.

Especially those that talks non-stop.

Sha after they requested for drinks, I asked the other server girl to attend to them.

Because I know if I go there, she will likely want to do some catching up.

After serving the drinks, she and her guy began talking and stuff.

Then as though someone waved at or called her (I wasn't paying much attention due to rush hour yesterday) she stood up and walked to the back of the bar.

There she spent almost 20 minutes with those guys while the guy she came in with sat all lone fidgeting and constantly looking up to see me looking at him ( kinda embarrassing)

She later came back.

But with one of those guys. And here's the most annoying part, the new guy saw the other guy she came in with and instead of excusing himself, he actually sat down on one of the chairs around the table.

The spent almost the next one hour gisting with the 'original' guy looking on helplessly.

Like why will you do that to a fellow guy?


Sha, personally I really pitied the guy yesterday because he tried to be gentlemanly and kept nodding at their conversations.

But I could see him being uncomfortable. And angry because he later stood up, took a lil walk in circles and then abrubtly asked for the bill.

And when they were about to leave, the guy also followed her at the back while the other walked in front.

WTF man!

Personally, I hate intruding in other guys' space, just as I hate others in mine when I am with a girl.

I understand some girls tend to be extra affectionate to friends they meet when they are out on a date with a new guy.

This is because they want to show the guy that they have some values, friends and options too.

Not really because they don't like the new guy.

And even if she doesn't like the guy, respect the gentle and let him have his date in peace, you can always meet her again.

Personally, I don't take such nonsense from anyone. I will always ask you to stand up or leave us because I want to discuss something.

I think a lot guys should learn this simple audacity. If a guy is intruding in your space, don't keep quiet and smile.

Two minutes after he talks with your girl, tell him to excuse you guys looking straight in his eyes.

If you are on a date with a girl and she wants to go greet other people, tell her no. Or better still give her time frame.

Most importantly, please don't be a boring date. Learn how to tease girls and make them have fun.

Thanks

It's 2 ways for me. The intruder isn't wise and mature enough. Secondly, what if he's acting on the ladies bidding? You have no idea what she might have told the intruder

Unique357:
My wife left me when I lost everything. She took our two children with her and has blocked me everywhere. I couldn't reach her to speak with my children. I have tried reaching her parents to no avail.

But now that things are going well for me, my brother in law lifted me and I am back to business and I have a girlfriend we are getting married next year march by God's grace.

Now my ex is back in the picture making life difficult for my girlfriend. She is blackmailing her and bombarding her with nasty messages to the extend of humiliating her in public, calling her all sorts of names like husband snatcher etc. I am angry with her because she has left me when I needed her the most and this girlfriend stood by me with my poor conditions and now she wants to play victim and putting the blame on my girl.

I want to arrest her and let her rot in jail but on the other side I don't want to do it for the sake of our children who are 10 years and 7 years. I want to deal with her in a calm way because there are children involved . What do you think I should do?

Your brother in law that helped you, didn't he talk to his sister during your trying time? What is his opinion in the current situation?

Bunmhi:
If I were in your shoes oo with what you've said, her cup don full be that. Leave her, cut ties with and let her be in peace. Abeg don't come back here to tell us, she's trying to come back into my life again what should I do?

Op, this is all you have to do if you have any iota of respect for your self.

Chiefochiefo:
In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

This is where you got it all wrong baby.
Besides, men looks at your pasts too and yet marry you.
My dear, you never loved him, your formal boy friend who used to knack you well well has come back.
By the way, in marriage, you should be looking towards making kids and not knacking.
Sorry to say o, akuna never finish for ur eye

This is off point

siofra:
This is what these redpillers do. 80% of the redpillers on this forum are homosexuals. Yeessss they are.


I'm sorry dear. Men are scum and useless. Disgrace him and tell all his friends. For two years he deceived you.

Since you're a very emotional woman I suggest you go to therapy because the months to come will not be easy for you at all.

But you'll heal and you'll be fine. Men areee scuuuummmm.

I really don't understand this generalization. But it baffles me more that aside having these scums in your immediate family atleast that you love and respect, you will still most likely end up intentionally marrying a scum, opening your legs for him as you are probably currently active in, bringing forth children which may include little scums, taking care and raising a scum(s) and many other things you will do with hubbyscum. I just don't get it sha

anochuko01:
Bros, they'll gladly waste your time and they don't all post salary...

Well I don't have enough statistics on that so I will pass

anochuko01:
There are more civilized and formal way of making them know how much of your time they've wasted.

"You're lying" and "that's not completely true" are two sentences that mean the same thing but one sounds more respectfully.

This doesn't mean the company wasn't wrong for wasting his time, but he should take that feedback positively. BTW, I'm sure the job seeker wouldn't reply to a multinational like that anyways.

Do multinational corporations waste applicants time without apologizing? Do they post salary range in their job adverts?

Daveambition:
Duck sit ur ass down & be humble, don't stand before me & say yu have "OTHER PLACES TO BE"...
They didn't go to his houz & dragged him, he saw their advert & applied..
Why yu go cme my office dey rant, bomb dey ur head..?

Typical black man mentality

Personally I don't think it is right. It might mean nothing to her but alot to you, it's something you should discuss with her and you both will certainly reach an understanding

AdvocateWriter:
Is this normal?

This is foolish

oldienavie:
I clocked 36 years 2 months ago, I look fit for my age compared to many Nigerians(I realised most Nigerians dont pay attention to their physical fitness).
I have been outside of the country and just got back with the aim of trying to get a wife.
Am I too old to expect to find a decent woman ?
What suggestions do you have with regards to getting a good woman in the shortest possible time ?
Thanks all.

My own humble advice is don't marry because you are getting old, marry because you really want to be with her, not manage or just for marrying sake. Also don't ever think you know her completely even if you court for 100years. Good luck to you.

Mylordmygod1:
FORGET LOVE, LET US CATCH THE LAZZY STUDENT!

Supposing that you are sitting for a final year exam, and this happens to be the only question that came out for a particular course.. I'm very sure that 99% of the student in that class will have this course carry over..

If you think that you are not among the student that will have carry over in that course, then prove it here let us see..

Question?

* Which of the cup get filled first..

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Unfortunately what you said is fact, but I'm really sorry for the guys doing such, maybe they forget it will be their turn someday, men are really not favoured in the Nigerian setting

FlipModeSquade:
Traditional marriage institutions mostly favor women..

While the man is worked to death..

At the end the children only remembers their Mum as a Superwoman..

The man that put his body and health on the line..

To put food on their table..

Becomes an afterthought..

While the woman junkets from Miami to London to Paris..

In the name of Ọmụgwọ..

The old broken man sits at home counting his days..

With an occasional bottle of Gin and yards of clothes..

From his grateful children and in laws..

Tell me..

Why shouldn't a sensible being.

Have a rethink about an institution that takes so much from him..

And gives back so little?

Change is CONSTANT..

SimSify:
Mathematics,
Mr adebayo, hopebay college, mazamaza, lagos.
06'_ 08'

That school still dey?

The so called good guys are boring to them

Franky826:
Anyone here using FBN MMF?
I can't access my account for 3days now.

Same here

orikoku:
Mr Ola Abeg ooo, I dey kugba area. Pardon am. I also know the school with the little information he dropped.

Na ota the school dey?

Nigeriainpeace:
Which of them is better to accept

It's not about which is better to accept, find out what each entails now and in future, then choose which is fine by u

Highly commendable but my fear is that all these roads constructed in our generation no dey last, if that road is completed without drainage system, it's simple waste of public funds