Valoromega: They did , she didn’t even wait for the list before she started buying . After buying unnecessary things she brought it and said this is the list of things the hospital gave her to buy
Well, as I said earlier, she's just reasoning emotionally as expected of a woman, but I'm surprised her Mom is involved yet allowed her do these, you've learnt your lesson, apply wisdom in your next spending
Valoromega: We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.
She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital. They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .
I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .
I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more
The hospital she uses for antenatal would've provided a list of must have for delivery, then other basics that must be available before delivery, you know better the kind of woman you have, you should have asked for a budget while you discuss what must be bought with the 400k. You just dropped money without having an idea of what is expected, you goofed, she's just being a woman, you didn't play your part completely
I work as a salaried individual and earn around 400k monthly.
However, my girlfriend constantly asks for money. I give her almost 100k every month and she feels it's not enough for her. She's even voiced discontent, suggesting I only send her money when she explicitly requests it.
I'm beginning to suspect her motives, as she seems solely focused on my income.
She never suggests saving or helps in cutting costs; her primary interest lies in spending everything. Despite my genuine love for her, I can't keep up with her demands. I had hopes for our future together, but it seems unlikely now.
I'm considering a breakup as a solution.
Has anyone navigated a similar situation?
You give a quarter of your monthly income to a gf every month, when she becomes wife, what will you be giving her monthly? How much do you give your parents and siblings monthly?
PuZZyNegro: It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.
Gifts are symbolic you know.
Ain't you traveling back to Lagos? It's just a gift that's all, even if it doesn't make sense to you, its common sense to accept it irrespective
Iagos: I boarded a bus from Ajah to Oshodi and noticed an unsettling driving behavior from the driver. I suspected he was sleeping, I recorded a video and caught him dozing off while driving on the 3rd Mainland Bridge. Concerned for my safety, I chose to end my journey at Oworo, prioritizing my well-being to avoid potential risks.
marvellous2222: My wife calls her family for everything, once I'm broke she calls her mother to send her food items, I have begged her to stop, I have gotten angry yet she said she can't be hungry in a man's house when there's excess in her parents house, my wife can't manage 3k to cook for me, a family with just 2 kids, she'll call her elder brothers and tell them I gave her 3k to cook immediately they will send money for her.
Can't a woman water down her taste to keep her marriage? They don't insult me but I feel not man enough, I feel less of myself, my wife is from a rich home and the house we are living is a wedding gift from her brothers, she's an only daughter and they over pamper her, they don't allow her ask twice.
I remember I bought a car for her when she delivered our first child my brother in-law knew about it before the car arrived cause I ordered through his company, he changed the car to something twice the one I could afford without my knowledge, when they brought a car to the house I said this isn't what I ordered my brother in-law said their Ada can't be seen driving such after marriage.
They are planning to open a business for her and they didn't involve me in the plan, my marriage is not what I wanted cause I feel like I'm not man enough.
My wife doesn't appreciate gifts from me like when it's from her family, I got her a 75k watch she said thank you and for months she didn't use it, I had to remind her that there's a watch I gave her, but when one of her brother sent her a watch worth 260k she danced and used it always.
How do I handle this?
It's wrong not to quote the source of this write up, this isn't your story
FreeStuffsNG: People should please wait for the police to release outcome of the autopsy.
For now, it's reasonable to presume that those you are pointing accusing finger at may be innocent.
His death is called oku ofo in Yorubaland and further delay of his burial is frowned at, in fact, regarded as a taboo.The family must be commended for cooperating with the authorities, particularly, the mother of the deceased.
May God console them all.Check my signature for free stuffs!
Particular the mother? someone that abandoned her kids with their father over 15years till his death
Hidewell: Good day, sirs and ma. I moved to Abuja to work as an Administrative assistant at (name withheld) close to Galadinmawa. The agreed pay with my employer was 50,000 which I accepted because I don't want to stay idle and I wanted to garner experience.
The Friend's house I stay is in Kagini. Those that know Abuja will know this place. The transportation cost from the house to my place of work is 1,100 and coming back same, which makes it 2,200 every day excluding Saturdays and Sundays.
After crossing my T's and dotting my i's I found out that The total cost is 2200 x25 days= 55,000 with a 5,000 deficit. The organization provide light breakfast and lunch. So, my food is a bit covered.
I am just confuse now. I talked to the organization for a pay rise but they gave me a stiff neck.
Please what will you advice me to do. I am seriously frustrated with the look of things. Do you think it's worth it.
P.s. I have worked for a month there now. I am scared my friend will complain that I am not contributing.
. I'm drained and frustrated.
Quit and find a place closer to where you stay before your friend starts to complain
Fabulozz: As titled above. I made the worst mistake in my life impregnating my baby mama for the second time. She and her mother had given me so much trouble in the past. I don't even know what came out of me to start sleeping with her again. Boom she is pregnant and has refused to abort.
She want me to pay her brideprice or else she will tell my wife. If only I had control my manhood I would have not found myself in this terrible situation.
Anyone who doesn't know how to say no kills himself gradually because the world out there is wicked, people will certainly take advantage of your weakness to their favour
manee2: My ex broke up with me while I was accomodating her brother, and she's married now. I saw this as motivation, moved and doubled down on my hustle and lost communication with both of them. As I was trying to find my bearings, within a year two of my friends had already kicked me out of their house. About 3 months ago she contacted me through FB and asked for my phone number for her brother. He needed my help, under the guise of trying to start his life over. All his friends he hung out with turned their backs on him.
Having learned life the hard way, I have become an introvert who easily feels uncomfortable around the people around me. I discovered that I did better on my own.
Regardless of that, I put up with it and regret it because I'm embarrassed and slowly losing focus. Although he is supportive, but he has Diogenes syndrome. Being so kind-hearted, I don't know how to ask him to leave my space.
Leave your space, have you accommodated him already?
ahnie: The cheap meal I prepared as dinnerwith just #500 Ingredients 2 sachet tomatoes paste Ginger n garlic One knoor seasoning used. Sachet Benny Groundnut oil Crayfish(optional) My fam is a sucker for crayfish. Fresh tomatoes 8 cone of raw eggs Fresh pepper Fresh tomatoes.
Is the yam not part of the meal? Why wasn't it costed too?
Adiob200: I saw one news online that Mtn change their code for recharge cards, for a year now have never recharge my line with paper card, only online...Are you still using paper recharge card?
I intentionally stuck with paper recharge as a way to encourage the sellers means of income rather than enriching the already rich but since when the paper sellers started adding 10 - 20 naira on their recharge cards sometime last year and change was becoming an issue, I had no choice but to switch to my bank
Matrix137: That's what I'm trying to avoid and also problems with the police.
It's funny that you know your actions are uncivilized yet you continue doing them, why because anything goes in naija right? If at 22 you haven't taken upon your self to start acting right especially the ones you mentioned, you will learn by force when you eventually get over there
jfkenny: Good morning naira Landers.let me make this very brief. I work in one of the states in Nigeria as a civil servant.
I got the job immediately after my graduate studies with my NCE certificate since degree certificates are not usually issued immediately after studies.
When I went for conversion(from NCE TO DEGREE), I was told that the day I was issued the degree cert post-dates my appointment letter thus I can't make use of the degree certificate.
Meanwhile , I completed my graduate studies in June 2013 and cert was issued in March 2014.
Appointment letter was issued on dec. 2013
What's your experience, and is there anyway this can be solved..
The date on your certificate is the date the academic board of your institution approved your result. It's your institution that determines when you graduate from their school and not when you wrote your final exam or when you defend your project or whatever the case may be
I have had a similar experience where we were delayed for over three hours, I was able to beat the time despite coming from OTA to ikorodu. These HR and her team despite coming from ikeja delayed for that long yet didn't deem it fit to apologise, truly there was traffic but they just didn't regard us at all. People are just terrible in their nature, it's not simple to be taught or told to do
It depends on how you see them, to some they are untouchable, some even worship them, some leave their thinking faculty and accept whatever they say or tell them to do no matter how it may look, they are gods to some people. But if you know he's just human like you who isn't immune to human flaws, you will approach him just as you would do to other people, respect yourself and you will be respected, and try to clear what he might have said wrongly about your husband. As adults, when someone brings an issue to you, you don't need to be told what to divulge to others or not, not to talk of a spiritual head/leader, but instead he went public about it, even added sauce to make the gist sweeter, interesting
thesicilian: Probably because he has spent everything he has on house rent, school fees, transportation and given the rest to mom for housekeeping, until the next salary cycle. Some of you will not understand the dynamics of being a father, especially the salary earners, in the typical African society.
Leave them, na turn by turn, unless they never want to have children and family of their own
Mr Oga, I never insulted you so I wonder why the insult. Can't you have a simple and intellectual convo without insults as its a faceless forum where you have no idea who you are conversing with? Afterall I mentioned state in my write-up, be calming down oga even if money dey involved, politicians not worth it
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