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midnighter:
Yes, they can arrange a time to meet and thrash the issue out later down the line so that they will both get their stories straight and get some closure.

What I am disagreeing with here is the notion that the OP should indulge her childish antics and bow down to her cheap manipulations. She is the one who should to do the running here and not him.

Why is she writing rubbish on whatsapp instead of going to meet her husband Is he a monster that she can't go to his house or has she suddenly been struck dumb that she can't call him?

If she wants to get a message across to him she should behave like an adult and explain what happened, and not resort to cheap emotional blackmail and subliminal messages on whatsapp.

You guys are acting like she made so much effort and went through so many channels to communicate with him but he's not listening, which is not the case

Thrash what exactly other than what I saw with my two eyes?
Sorry I won't

Depressed101:
at last someone with sense, I've been in op's shoe before, it is grossly immature to walk away from a relationship without talking/venting your anger through. How can you be ok.

Wether or not op likes it, dieing in silence is what will happen to him, he wrote somewhere that he will not try another relationship until he is ready for marriage.. Unknowing to him, he is indirectly punishing himself (an evidence that he is dieing silently).

U u don't know what you are saying

emkz:
Bro, in a year's time, you'd be grateful that she's no longer in your life. Someone mentioned that no matter how much you try to upgrade some of them, they'd still act their class, while another said a woman who leaves you for another man is undeserving of you. You have done your best. It is not until you sacrifice your life that someone can see your value. Pack your love and give it to someone deserving.

For every badly behaved girl, there are ten well-behaved girls. I can assure you. Some of them are on this forum. I know because I interact with them.

Good to know. But I'm done

monichannel:
Op, you be real mahn

Do give us update as it unveils, many will learn from you

I will

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Hope you are okay

virago:
I hate to break it to you but you were the side nigga

You can't be right

healthserve:
Maybe you lied small and her head caught you

What rule exactly did I break?
Could it be because I said she is also here on Nairaland, following the thread and has commented

My page on Facebook is Joh Shoe Classics
Insta is John Respect. Business pages

healthserve:
Risk it. The spotlights on you.

Tell me why I was banned yesterday

WackyJ1:
This girl na pikin.

Manipulative pikin.

How old is she?

Up to 24?

24

Ilovebigboobs:
Op ur a real niqqur...u have my respect.

U deserve a bottle of chilled Budweiser

U dey pH?

I have read many of your comments and I will reply to the ones that called me out in particular. Though bit by bit. Some said the story is mere fiction, others said I copied it from Facebook, pocochants even mocked my relationship struggle. They are all preposterous and unguided. I dare any of u that think so to come out with concrete evidence to buttress their claim or just learn to keep mute when they have nothing to say. I will reply all of them personally

After what happened Sunday between us, she haven't called. I'm not expecting her Cann althesame because it's of no effect.
She came to my elder sister's house without my notice and was sobbing uncontrollably(my sis told me so). So my elder sis called me and asked if I'm back to which I told her yes. She asked if I would come and u pleaded with her to give me 30 mins to get some things done.

I got there and met her with my ex who was still crying and my sister consoling her. Moreover, my sister said she hadn't opened her mouth to say anything since she came but have just been crying. I told my sister that I don't have anything to say about that that when she open up to her, let her know what to tell her but that as for me, I'm done with her.


All along, she had her face buried to the ground not being able to look at me maybe her own guilt is eating her up. Let it do more.
I took my leave because she was the last person I was expecting to meet anytime soon.
No other thing have happened. For now I'm just focused on my Hustle and nothing more. No more love.

Ilovebigboobs:
From ur comments I can boldly say u're the babe d Op is talking about..am really disappointed in u Babe!!

Pls Fear God o

Leave her alone. Ur thought might be flawed

healthserve:
I support this comment. Comment of the thread. Best comment

So u think

rozario01:
Nest time you want to go into any relationship make sure she is a virgin cause u cant keep your self for marriage as a virgin and get married to someone with many body count virgin deserves virgin

If she isn't a virgin doesn't mean she isn't good. What I'm after is faithfulness.

healthserve:
No wonder


How about responding to my last comment


Post pictures of your shoes, location and Instagram handle so some people can show you love.

If I advertise here I will get another ban

Sorry to all for not been able to reply since yesterday. I have been serving a ban for what I don't know.

Most of them still do o.

taiyesoul:
From Coca Cola to Mirinda!

Na so I see am o

Depressed101:
the way you broke up with her wasn't the best way, i can assure you psychological/emotionally you will not be ok, you should have confronted her in the present of that guy, i once broke up with a girl like, i was not ok for sometime.. You should told that guy the kind of lady she is or something. Now your family members who know about your relationship with her will think you were not probably serious with her with the way you left, to seek sane mental health, we must sort things out by communication instead of just walking away.... I wish you peace of mind and a better partner.. Don't give up on relationship

I never said what I did was the best that could be done. It's just my own way and believe me I'm fine.

Came4amod:
Bro I know it hurts but .. just be fucking her when she comes back to apologise.. u will be happy when u Bleep the hell out of her .. and keep her as a friend .. when u r ready to marry .. select the best girl so far ..

No sex. I'm a Christian

Techcrunchng:
this is going to be another bigger mistake because you won't get to know much about her and marriage heartbreak is the worst, just pray for grace in whatever you do bro.

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Trimque2k1:
I know you died inside you,but you're d winner here getting to know her more...

I wish them well

AfroKnight:
Respect55, well done. You have performed a feat to remain composed in the face of such betrayal. Bravo.

By now, you must have realised that the way you respected her body is definitely not how that guy “respects” her body. She is most probably sexually active with him.

This is why “No sex” relationships are hard to come by or uphold, these days. One party must break the agreement sha. Sad.

See, the heartbreak is still fresh. It is about to get more intense. It appears you are someone who internalises his pain. In light of this, get ready to endure the hurt. Some days, you would just pause from work and stare out the window thinking of different scenarios, trying to see what you missed and what you might have done differently. Normal levels.

You are a logical person and you have your own principles. You know you cannot let such a person return into your life.

You will be fine.

Your words are full of wisdom. I appreciate. But then, I don't thing I have any regrets. That also won't make me change my principle. She can go on with him

RedDistrict:
You handled it well enough, just move on from her and be happy you dodged a bullet.

Let her conscience judge her

I'm long gone

midnighter:
Why can't she call him, or go to his house and see him?

This matter has passed whatsapp.

A cheater is threatening suicide...so what should the person who has been cheated do

She hasn't called. Not that I'm even expecting he r call or would pick up anyway. He conscience and my silence is at work. Dealing with her

Daviddson:
Hello man, I'd advise you to give her benefit of doubt and unblock her and be ready to hear her out. I'm interested in this story because you said it was a no-sex relationship.

How would I be after sex in a girl I wanted to settle down with?
Anyway, I have heard u but there is actually nothing else to explain other than than what I saw.
Funny enough, she is here, following this thread too and has commented.

Olanre05:
I like your healing process and the way you handled it with utmost maturity. Here is my take on the issue, there are two sides to a coin, you must have given her heaven and earth, make her better off what she used to look like and the likes,and there is one thing you ain't doing right which she might have spoken to you about severally and you ain't changing. Which she is getting from the other guy aside from the materialistic and monetary aspect of it...

The only thing I can remember not doing is sex because I'm a Christian. That also couldn't actually be her problem because she hadn't raised the issue after we talked about it that there would be none. What else could she possibly want?

TheGoodJoe:
Such a wicked OP. You just dashed another man a bag of your problems and made profit on top of it. I feel for the guy.

She is not a problem. All I did for her was purely out of my volition because I saw a future with her. She doesn't ask much. I gave her at will. It's even my elder sis that used to buy most of her clothing then.