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maynation:
You want me to read this epistle?

I read it. What's the big deal?

By their fruits...

When will Gandollar be prosecuted?

These guys won't stop disgracing us anyhow

Wailing wailers

The sickening part of all these brouhaha is that we aren't getting out of it anytime soon

I have always said it. Better to push drugs than mine skulls

lereinter:
Computer wizard you call him

He will meet Indians there

LOL

Just here to learn and advise my friend who is likely to travel to Dubai this month. No education but a computer wizard

He shouldn't be a coward. Come out and face the music.
Thought u guys said Nnamdi Kanu is being a coward. Why is this one hiding too?

streetsoldier1:
He did, in the post match conference, be said Femi kuti and fela's songs motivated him. The advice he got from Femi kuti was the reason for his game plan and focus

An individual is not a country. If I'm been motivated by Sean Paul's song doesn't in any way mean that I like Jamaica. He never mentioned Nigeria in the post match remark

Cuppy should stay away from Aj o.
It is a real shame Joshua never mentioned Nigeria after the fight. You don't forget your root.

m140:
Aj got 4belts, who has wilder been fighting to get just 1. Bros keep deceiving yourself. He did this also against parker cus he was PREPARED for it , he did it again against ruiz II. Mr his all 23-1-22. 22wins 20KO , what are you saying. Aj is KO boxer , you cant win every bout with knockout.

This isn't the same Aj that KO Takam and Vladimir. He has always bn in the offencive. That's no more the case. Mind your choice of words. This is a public forum

Truth be told, Joshua has lost it. He can't stand Wilder

Muyiwaipere:
Sowore is in prison for our sake and we aren't saying anything... Someone who has made his own fame and escaped from this Zoo called Nigeria is who we are following up

Aje kun iya ni a o je

Like i care

Hardebaryor:
I feel that you should move from your house to another place for the time being

Why?

farouk2much:
Aj surfers second defeat from ruiz

stop that

darthv:
if you find the price biko, let me know

Don't forget a brother too

I888:
Learn how to identify a troll and never feed them. You should have ignored that dude.

You are right.

sedutrice:
Your girl is not necessarily a bad person. She is 24 and probably immature that why she doesnt know how best to handle issues. I know some people will say 24 is perfectly mature. Forget that thing.

An older her would have known how to beg you without this escalating. If you choose to date a young girl then you better have enough maturity to cover for both of you.

She is at an age where she wants to experience different things. If you have been her only boyfriend, she probably was carried away by the other guy and now she has somehow come to her senses

Reading through, i decide she wasnt entirely bad. But you alone know her based on her previous attitudes, so you can decide if she is worth keeping.

Is this her first time doing things like this, does she have other attitudinal problems, does she always take drastic decisions like the suicide option. If she does take drastic decision then...

But really if you are going to date a young girl, then your maturity should be like x2 to cover for both of you. Evwn old wives misbehave .

I never said she is. My feelings towards her aren't there anymore.

Freehuman:
Midnighter is angry. You're from Edo. Edo girls are known for their notorious sojourn in Europe but you went to the UK for schooling.

Secondly, the story in this thread is a fiction. The author wanted to introduce the "police and legal part " but dropped it because it would cause him problems.

His conversation on phone with the girl's parents on some occasions in the story should not have been in English as he has written out here. Even if the conversations were interpreted it wouldn't be that planned an accurate. Except he is lying.

His sister's character has flaws that is why the character is sidelined. His sister who should represent his family in the whole thing is nowhere to be found.


He wants us to buy his shoes. Especially the misogynistic humans who support him

You will be alright.
But for your information, I have many fictitious stories in my system but I direct them to where they should be directed and not here on Nairaland. All my threads here are realities about me if u have checked well.
Of what use is it to me to lie unnecessarily? I have better things to do.

You opined that my motive is to market my wares, I just pity u. I'm not struggling bro. If you reside here in portharcourt, you can take a stroll to my shop and see things for yourself. I'm also engaged in so many other things that yield income.

Learn how to post responsibly or walk over when u aren't sure of your instinct.
Say what you know. He family don't speak English? Tell me more. That's the only language they speak even in their house whenever I visited. Take that for real.
The police case had to end that way because there is actually no case against me. The police might have told the dad that at my absence. Were you expecting the case to drag on on which ground precisely?

Any way, continue thinking.

Tonyspecial:
Guy i dey mile 1, iloabuchi by afikpo street, make we relate

We can. I'm at Wokoma. Mile 3

jaymichael:
Virtue is it's own reward. You will heal fine. Develop the habit of using writing as a therapy. Devote a bit more time to your passion and hubby.
Wetin Musa no go see for gate? 2011, bought a phone for a girl and she used another boy's picture as the screensaver, homeboy confronted her and she said 'GO AND ENTER GUTTER OR KILL YOURSELF' she later married the guy. What later transpired is a story for another day which makes a very very interesting read.
Another one after some years got pregnant for another man while we still dey date. Na me disvirgin her o. She was still collecting money from me for treatment when I thought it was just fever not knowing it was the onset of pregnancy. This girl has a very very good and kind heart but she is easily influenced and swayed by peer pressure and she fancied the good things of life. I learnt she later married the guy. She later contacted me some years later when she had a still born and she said she was told and even dreamt about it that if she didn't ask for forgiveness from someone she offended, she may not be able to bear a child. I prayed for her and I told her that I didn't lay a curse on her nor wish her bad as it is against my principles as woman be like market, na who price well them go sell am to.
I am now married to someone that gives me what I cherish most in a Union which is PEACE OF MIND. In both cases, I just accepted my lot and moved on painfully. I needed no therapy or healing process. I just engaged in my daily routine, faced my job and not think much about it but most importantly, I BORE NO HATE OR RESENTMENT IN MY HEART towards them. I did not change my nature or character especially towards the women folks, this made me not miss the right one when she came along.
You see, e no get the thing wey Akpan never see for inside afang soup. Your story is even lenient sef.
Good luck to you bro.

Good to know u still had the guts to give it a try one after the other. More commendable is the fact that such didn't change your perception about girls and relationships. I won't lie to you, it changed mine totally. Maybe I was broken to the root. Maybe Maybe my heart was shattered and my feelings flew far away.
As a matter of fact, when I see people now talking about their relationship or the likes, I seem to pity them. There is this mindset recorded in my memory that something bad will always happen in a relationship.
I really need to see a psychologist

jaymichael:
Virtue is it's own reward. You will heal fine. Develop the habit of using writing as a therapy. Devote a bit more time to your passion and hubby.
Wetin Musa no go see for gate? 2011, bought a phone for a girl and she used another boy's picture as the screensaver, homeboy confronted her and she said 'GO AND ENTER GUTTER OR KILL YOURSELF' she later married the guy. What later transpired is a story for another day which makes a very very interesting read.
Another one after some years got pregnant for another man while we still dey date. Na me disvirgin her o. She was still collecting money from me for treatment when I thought it was just fever not knowing it was the onset of pregnancy. This girl has a very very good and kind heart but she is easily influenced and swayed by peer pressure and she fancied the good things of life. I learnt she later married the guy. She later contacted me some years later when she had a still born and she said she was told and even dreamt about it that if she didn't ask for forgiveness from someone she offended, she may not be able to bear a child. I prayed for her and I told her that I didn't lay a curse on her nor wish her bad as it is against my principles as woman be like market, na who price well them go sell am to.
I am now married to someone that gives me what I cherish most in a Union which is PEACE OF MIND. In both cases, I just accepted my lot and moved on painfully. I needed no therapy or healing process. I just engaged in my daily routine, faced my job and not think much about it but most importantly, I BORE NO HATE OR RESENTMENT IN MY HEART towards them. I did not change my nature or character especially towards the women folks, this made me not miss the right one when she came along.
You see, e no get the thing wey Akpan never see for inside afang soup. Your story is even lenient sef.
Good luck to you bro.

Good to know u still had the guts to give it a try one after the other.

Goldensword:
Bro do you mind, if i chat you up on Facebook, though i see you've indeed madeup your mind, i will like to relate with you a similar experienced that happened to someone close to me and how it ended.

Let that be on whatsapp

Sultan5:
She really messed up honestly. And to think she's even trying to manipulate you too.

Heart breaks aren't easy especially when you actually saw a future with the person. I can only imagine how you would been feeling if you guys were married. Its no wonder divorce proceedings are very bitter and ugly most times.

All you need now is time and a break from this whole issue. Its going to be difficult but try focusing on other things. I'd advice you leave this thread, stop all contact with her and just focus on other things. Time is the only thing really. Don't jump into another relationship. Give yourself time to heal, you will be fine really. As time goes on, the pain will begin to lose its power. Chin up bro. You have done well.

Thanks. Are you in pH?

Korllami007:
At bolded.
It's even worse in the case of op. The man she's claiming that she loves; another guy introduced her as his girlfriend in the presence of her lover, but she acted as if nothing happened and went to club with the guy, slept over in his place. Abeg, which kain love be that? If she truly loves him, conscience won't let her spend another minute with the other guy. What I see here is that she has already seen op has a weakling in which op is far from it. She believed whatever happened, she would still find her way back to op's heart but op na Mr. No nonsense.

Your last paragraph is what I will suggest for op to do.

God will bless you. She indirectly chose the guy over me by allowing him do the introduction without reacting. If she had valued me, she wouldn't even mind interrupting the guy and correcting him that she just went on a date with him that I am the boyfriend. She never did that.
No one is talking about that

KiidaACE:
Hey bro @ Respect55..
Just recently saw your recent updates and had to bring my previous posts back.. I said to take her threats of suicide very serious even before it happened and that is because I know how this always ends..

Silence is a very dangerous weapon when used in certain situations, way way way more deadly than violence.. It causes the wrongdoer zero peace of mind and that bro is torture in itself.. This fear of the unknown or in your girlfriend's case;"total regret", accumulates with each passing thought and makes the person emotionally unstable especially if he/she shared something very deep with the person he/she wronged and this most times leads to suicidal thoughts on the very weak minds. Their reason is majorly to grab the attention of that person they wronged.. That is how broken they are..

Now, there are certain people that wouldn't be bothered even with your silence which can never be the case for a person that truly felt something for you or care about you.. Your ex girlfriend no matter how stupid she might have been in all this, feels something big for you and that is why she's so devastated..
Only a certain kind of closure which emanates from dialogue Can water down these emotions which was what '@midnighter" was trying to say, though she probably wasn't going at it the right way..

I love your maturity in all this though and if you want nothing to do with her ever again, nobody has the right to say anything to you.. It's your life and your sanity, how you handle it should be no one's business..

In all this though, I noticed you have forgiven her but haven't gotten down to having that dialogue with her at the moment.. I understand..
We're humans and most of us do things we will never be proud of. We're all prone to making mistakes one way or another and if you decide never to have anything to do with her cheating ass ever again, nobody, I repeat; nobody has the right to question you.. It's your life.. We can only chip in our own piece of advice in the end and you can choose to take it or ignore it, it's totally fine either way..

My own last piece of advice would be; Try and sit with her and have that dialogue.. Though her actions might have been manipulative but it just goes to show how weak her mind is.. She should've summoned the courage to come immediately after that shit happened and have this dialogue with you but she didn't and that is where I have a problem with her..
You must have really loved her and this must have really hurt you bad but you can end this by having that dialogue with her and hear what she's got to say for herself..
She attempted to kill herself, that is as bad as it can get so do it for her sanity and for yours also..
Do it not for the purpose of taking her back but for the reason that we all are humans and should watch out for each other if its within our power..
I shouldn't be saying this last part though because I've left so many myself that I'm certainly not proud of due to my gigantic ego but try not to leave a broken soul in your wake,if you can..
Goodluck bro

I appreciate all your care and concern. I really do. Now let me clarify somethings :
1. If she had valued me more than that boy, she wouldn't have sat down there and watch me leave without standing up and following me. I'm talking of the night I saw them. The whatsapp Pic and videos the guy did was after I had left and she actually posed-negating the fact she was disturbed I caught her.
2. I stopped taking midnighter serious the very time she started abusing me and others Asa way of driving home her points. Who does that?
3.Midnighter posited that there is the possibility that I wasn't doing something right or that she was keeping silent enmity with me that made her do what she did. But all along, there is nothing like that. All she asked for is for forgiveness that she wronged me, not that I did something bad.
4.All along, she haven't said who the boy was to her. It was even the last time the guy came to get Pam slippers that I got to know that he is from same state with the girl.
5. Some mistakes aren't just mistakes, they live with us for ever.
6. How come no one is talking about my healing process and my state of mind amidst these troubles? I feel lonely and devastated and people still have the mind to make me feel worse.

I have heard you, but I'm sorry.

wirinet:
What evidence do you have of all these your assumptions - that she truly loves him or that she comes from a good family? Is it because of her attempted suicide.

You guys have no idea how manipulative some girls can be, especially desperate ones. I have had a girlfriend stab her own hands with a kitchen knife, after I insisted the relationship was over. I had tie the hand and took her to a chemist for dressings and treatment. I did not mistake that as love but emotional blackmail. I had to scheme how to leave the relationship safely. It was not easy.

I have not seen evidence to show that the lady was truly in love with respect55. Maybe if he gave further details on the nature of the relationship, but from what is written here, I have not seen sacrifices made by the lady.
Love must involve sacrifice on both sides.

I won't give any further information on that because it's not why I posted this. But to fair to her, she had sacrificed her own little way. I will say the relationship was heavenly prior to this. If it were not, would I have talked of settling down with her?

frankike1:
@respect55

if you check my initial post, i advised u never to go back.
But after going through the whole thing, i think is time to return to her.

Bro, that girl is your wife. forgive and marry her immediately.
she comes from a good home. u have to forgive her.
i have zero tolerant to a cheating lady.
This girl love you and from good family, and u genuinely love her too.
Forgiveness will make your home a perfect one.
is difficult to find a good girl nowadays.

i think she has learnt enough lesson.
i plead on her behalf. Don't worry, the love will return.

I can forgive any other thing but cheating.If a girl I'm moving out with catches me cheating too, I won't even go to ask for forgiveness, I know Roth there that that is it.
I have already taken my stand long ago. There is no going back there.

Prazo1:
women!!!!!! still called im dear just bcuz u tried to commit suicide he has forgiven u?
ya sorry 4 everything. ...OP just leave dis one...I blive she would do better in her next relationship. ...gracias

I have already wished her well