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A really Interesting piece.
I'll have to study this

Thank you

Humans were not created to be slaves. Apart from giving and receiving love to be happy, we also need to give and receive freedom to be happy. If humans were created to be manipulated and oppressed, no slave freedom wars would have EVER HAPPENED.

Nothing lasts forever, especially an empire that has built its foundation on oppression. The united states will be lost in the new

"But for this reversal of the petrodollar to happen, the US would go to any length, including catastrophic wars and possible nuclear Armageddon, before it sees its power unraveled"

Might I add that I think the United States have taken steps related to the quote by creating Bitcoin and hiding under a fictional character named "Satoshi" as the founder.

It's like controlling the current power and the opposition, similar to how WAMCO controls Peak milk and 3 crowns

I've seen Elon musk, I've seen Bill Gates but I've never seen the founder of Bitcoin.

If Bitcoin was created by an Asian called Satoshi, I think the United State wouldn't feel relaxed as they are about a popular cryptocurrency not being in their power.
The reason I think they're relaxed is because they already own Bitcoin. They created it

Hmm
I seem to understand now.
This seem to help

"Grading students based on their performance creates..."

So a student should be graded by his performance at logical reasoning, as well as how he was able to explain a concept to a struggling student. The patience and understanding employed

And the struggling student should be graded not just by her performance at logical reasoning, but how humble she was while learning from her junior

And I now understand the second point now. That 'Jerusalem pilgrimage' triggered my understanding

Thank you so much

Neoteny:
Thanks for your interest in my long-winded opinions.

Basically, I'm against the school system that encourages forced teachings at the teacher's pace and not the student's. With this comes the measurement tools of tests and exams which are designed ostensibly to gauge how well a student absorbs (not necessarily understand) the subject. Grading students based on their performance creates an environment in which students become competitive with each other, and the ones with developmental challenges typically do poor. Not even developmental; could be societal and domestic challenges negating understanding. But by grading them strictly on the outcome of measurement, they may fail and retreat further into their cocoon. The teacher loses them. But if learning is tailored as a team session which encourages students to assist each instead of competing, the students will grow together and solve problems together. Some countries actually establish this as their teaching ethos.

For the credentials, it's largely the fault of our society which places a huge emphasis on academia and not skills/talents.

Today, even if you're an exceptionally talented but self-taught software programmer you won't find work because you don't have a piece of paper. But, given the competitive scenario about our school system where students are encouraged to win some scores, students might cheat just to pass and receive their credentials without having earned them. They'd have far less skills than the self-taught candidate and may often get the job anyway because a piece of paper says they passed through a mechanical and mentally unstimulating construct.

That's my point, essentially. Any wonder most Nigerians feel compelled to wear their academia like some badge of honor? Mr. John Smith, PhD, Nss, FMIA, ACAN, IMT,CBS, JP (Jerusalem Pilgrim)

Or Veterinarian Alice Jones, or Dentist Ube Oka, or Doctor Martins Ola (not a medical doctor, just an honorary doctorate), Professor This-and-That (who never developed anything or mentored an apprentice who did anything besides copy-paste more academia)

That's the bullshit I'm up in arms against. Elon Musk prioritizes raw talent and not academia in his companies. Show me what you can do and you're hired.

I'd love to understand how you picture these quotes I extracted from your comment

"Rather, learning should be reinforced cooperatively in sync with developmental capabilities, and measure progress qualitatively instead of quantitatively"

And

"The emphasis on worthless certificates, except for certain professional fields that need attestation, ought to be de-emphasized"

I understand the concept of bullshit jobs which creates worthless certificate but I'd love to understand it from your point of view also, if you're chanced to indulge my curiosity

Neoteny:
A strong point of view, which I share. Nigeria is a country of docility and lethargy where everyone waits for miraculous solutions to practical problems. We're either waiting for government, white people, or some cosmic deity to solve our problems.

Take robotics and AI. How many government and private schools are actively teaching in those fields? Why aren't we trying to be at the frontier of research and knowledge, instead of still teaching from books written in the 19th century? Knowledge, and resources for learning, have never been as democratized as now, with essentially every information for any topic freely available digitally.

I taught myself Arduino and sketches, I can 3D design and build components for a simple quadcopter with free Arduino sketches and cheap brushless motors. I studied convolutional neural networks (and now doing transformers) in the early days of GAN, so I'm relatively conversant with LLMs and generative AI. I know some semiconductor physics and basic design principles because i self-learned electronics. I understand rocket science and orbital mechanics, I know literature, art, history. All largely self-taught because of natural curiosity and access to resources. I wasn't trying to please my parents or peers, I just wanted to learn how the universe works.

If we're to build a progressive society of people who can solve realworld problems, then we'll need to get rid of our current curriculums and rebuild the school system from scratch, with transparent and self-accounting learning methods from first principles.

The barbarian method of brute-forcing knowledge into children needs to stop. Competitive schooling, instead of cooperative learning, also needs to stop. It helps no one when we assign artificial scores to intellect and thus create a competitive environment where the ultimate goal is passing exams and coming top in the leaderboard of banality, which incentivizes cheating at tests and exams. Rather, learning should be reinforced cooperatively in sync with developmental capabilities, and measure progress qualitatively instead of quantitatively. Those who come lower in rankings won't bear the psychological haunting of disappointed parents, angry tutors, and leery peers. They'd instead leverage the empathy and support of this support system to develop and thrive as productive members of society instead of as academic outcasts.

The emphasis on worthless certificates, except for certain professional fields that need attestation, ought to be de-emphasized. People hide behind lofty but meaningless titles and credentials without adding anything to the body of knowledge, and worm their way into the higher echelons of government and society, and then form part of the same parasitic and toxic policymaking system that keeps churning out mediocrity. Let's emphasize tangible capabilities instead of worthless paper achievements.

Please, Nigeria. We can do better with our school systems by looking at what successful societies teach their kids, how they allow them to be curious and discover for themselves, and what passes as motivated learning and not brutalist drilling.

Interesting comment. I particularly noticed your point about competitive schooling. You also share like mind with psalmsjob regarding your idea of cooperative learning and a support structure that encourages and support, instead of criticize and shame a child to build walls around itself

Back then in secondary schools, we were made to argue in topics like "the boy child is better than the girl child and vice versa"

***If nairaland had a voice note, i would have said all of these that I'm above to type here using a voice note, which could later be transcribed as text ****

Regardless, such competitive argument topics prime these children to see another gender as less or above the other. This leads to a grudge between boys and girls that make them view themselves as distance opposites instead of equal complements. Imagine night and morning fighting amongst themselves or breathing in and breathing out keeping grudges. Lol. Humans would be dead for starters.

A boy who sees girls as superior to himself begins to subconsciously groom himself as a feminine man unable to act masculine in the society because of course "a girl is better than a boy child because she has a womb"

All those nonsense I celebrated in school... looking back now ehn...lol
Looking back, I just shake my head


And girls who lose that argument begin to see themselves as less of a human because of course, "a man needs a male child to carry his surname"
That's why you see most of these girls trying to act masculine in a bid to cover up their deficiency that society taught them that they have.
You see a girl wear boy clothes, call themselves masculine names like, "king Jennifer", barb masculine hairstyles and so on. This isn't to say that the fall of hard/ masculine men creates weak men as well as masculine women too. I'm just trying to be all encompassing

Even NYSC camp is not spared. Corpers are grouped against each other to compete events that only highlights their differences and not their shared commonalities or complements

I talked about this in No 4 of this post where I highlight reformations that the federal government need to implement for NYSC to be better than what it is now

https://www.nairaland.com/8555582/nysc-reform-suggestions#137376855

You really tried teaching yourself all these subjects. I'm impressed by your drive. And from your comment, it seems your exposure is making you see the world for what it truly is

Neoteny:
A strong point of view, which I share. Nigeria is a country of docility and lethargy where everyone waits for miraculous solutions to practical problems. We're either waiting for government, white people, or some cosmic deity to solve our problems.

Take robotics and AI. How many government and private schools are actively teaching in those fields? Why aren't we trying to be at the frontier of research and knowledge, instead of still teaching from books written in the 19th century? Knowledge, and resources for learning, have never been as democratized as now, with essentially every information for any topic freely available digitally.

I taught myself Arduino and sketches, I can 3D design and build components for a simple quadcopter with free Arduino sketches and cheap brushless motors. I studied convolutional neural networks (and now doing transformers) in the early days of GAN, so I'm relatively conversant with LLMs and generative AI. I know some semiconductor physics and basic design principles because i self-learned electronics. I understand rocket science and orbital mechanics, I know literature, art, history. All largely self-taught because of natural curiosity and access to resources. I wasn't trying to please my parents or peers, I just wanted to learn how the universe works.

If we're to build a progressive society of people who can solve realworld problems, then we'll need to get rid of our current curriculums and rebuild the school system from scratch, with transparent and self-accounting learning methods from first principles.

The barbarian method of brute-forcing knowledge into children needs to stop. Competitive schooling, instead of cooperative learning, also needs to stop. It helps no one when we assign artificial scores to intellect and thus create a competitive environment where the ultimate goal is passing exams and coming top in the leaderboard of banality, which incentivizes cheating at tests and exams. Rather, learning should be reinforced cooperatively in sync with developmental capabilities, and measure progress qualitatively instead of quantitatively. Those who come lower in rankings won't bear the psychological haunting of disappointed parents, angry tutors, and leery peers. They'd instead leverage the empathy and support of this support system to develop and thrive as productive members of society instead of as academic outcasts.

The emphasis on worthless certificates, except for certain professional fields that need attestation, ought to be de-emphasized. People hide behind lofty but meaningless titles and credentials without adding anything to the body of knowledge, and worm their way into the higher echelons of government and society, and then form part of the same parasitic and toxic policymaking system that keeps churning out mediocrity. Let's emphasize tangible capabilities instead of worthless paper achievements.

Please, Nigeria. We can do better with our school systems by looking at what successful societies teach their kids, how they allow them to be curious and discover for themselves, and what passes as motivated learning and not brutalist drilling.

Interesting comment. Your second to the last paragraph particularly caught my attention.


I may not fully understand it now to integrate it, but I feel with time, your insight could be of immense help to me. Thank you

psalmsjob:
I agree with you about the need to overhaul our educational system not the usual catchy of "increase lectuer salary or welfare" but change the teaching methods and re-educate the teachers. However, as a "tech bro" myself, I think your topic headline is a click bait because you should understand that tech bros and girls are not failing but the system is failing us too just has it is failing the 'children' which we all are ultimately. As long as the "civil and public servants or CEOs and MDs working or managing the institutions are not at least tech-savvy there can be no improvement they all have the fear of technology coming to "take their job" not for once reasoning that with technology you might soon don't need a "job" for financial survival but you can have the tech do the hard lighting while you do the deep thinking and rationalisation that we are built to do effortlessly.

Therefore, until more people become tech bros and girls and come to this realization, we shall continue with the colonial system of education which will not let people enter university without "credit" in maths and english even if he got 39.99% whereas any score should be a credit to build on as he or she progresses in a course of their choosing until they drop off to another course or become an expert in the course of their choice.

P.S. As a personal advice I want you to know that Smart people don't say "I am smart" because they are smart enough to know tha,t that is not the right thing to say of yourself when it is what others see and say of you; "That boy is smart". So you're not yet smart enough so watch yourself because pride goes before a fall. You hear? .....besides only God is truly smart.

Even the school I served in Ekiti, the proprietress said no teacher should sit while teaching because sitting would make them look lazy
Truly, suffering is not hardwork

Here's where its interesting that I failed to add to the original post

Imagine this: A teacher comes to class with a textbook, copies note for the student on the board using markers FROM THAT TEXTBOOK, and the students now copy the notes from the board to their notebook.

The process of a teacher manually photocopying via writing on the board, filling markers, and so on, wastes valuable time that the children should use strictly for learning.
There should be no need to write on the board especially for JSS-SSS students, neither should notes be submitted for marks.

Imagine in my JSS, I had to draw the digestive system in my book for marks. Something that had already been drawn in the textbook. So I was rewarded with marks for my drawing skills?

Left to me, I'd love for Nigerian student to use their textbook as their notes book so the time spend writing on the board would just be used for explaining by the teacher.

I said Nigerian students because most of our parents might not be able to afford a dedicated ipad whose purpose would be to download the semester curriculum and other materials needed for that semester. It'll be strictly connected to the school monitoring service so students don't go using it for other purposes

The screens of this iPad would be made with a material that won't easily crack when dropped to endure its longevity. Henry Ford was once said to have made materials of this nature: hemp plastic. You can look it up. There are lots of invention that have been covered up because they could not be monetized on a subscription basis or sabotage basis.

Truly consumerism is the perfection of slavery.

NotinButDtruth:
I am yet to finish reading all you said, but I can assure you, it's not the tech bros, it's the system, the system has 99.9% oldies who are not ready to ditch the old and embrace the new. And it has affected all aspect of our lives. People now believe suffering is the only way to success while countries developing rapidly believe what matters most is getting the needed result. I am a tech entrepreneur and worker as well. I hate to work with Nigerian companies. International organizations have for example embraced working remotely, but the Nigerian company that isn't even half as successful as the ones abroad will insist on coming to work in the office daily.
We just believe before anyone earns, he must sweat.

Think about all Nigerian Parastatals, non of their websites work well, even those who have sites, it looks so obsolete, do you think we don't have awesome website designers and developers ? The system is just broken, they have chosen to embrace the obsolete way so that they can keep using it to manipulate the system to their favor. And unfortunately even the older citizens have braced this mindset, so it now affects every aspect of life. The youths in this country are really trying. But sadly they have to work twice or thrice as hard as their counterparts abroad just to succeed.

Drifting from ones purpose leads to suffering. That's why you'll see people earning millions per month with a happy family but are still depressed. Like there's this heavy feeling in their chest that no amount of fancy house, certificate, relationships or gadgets will lift. You'll even see some of them using addiction as a coping mechanism
And sadly, you won't be able to tell easily until they open up to you

Stephen0mozzy:
Leave am, he has never tried selling a Software Product to a Nigerian Institution before, so doesn't know how it is like.

For one, if it's a government institution, just forget about it. Unless you're the child or relation of the Minister, Director or Permanent Secretary to the ministries, you won't even be given audience to sell the solution you have built to solve the problem.

2. This manual way of doing things seems to be their justification for paying salaries, for example, they still need messengers in some ministries to find your files from the registry and then send to another department for signing, and another one for authorization. If they automate it, how do they justify the salaries for the Bull shyte jobs in most of these MDAs?

3. Nigerians are terribly slow to adapting technology, especially if its NOT free.

4. Entrepreneurship is not incentivized in these parts. So most of these tech bros just look out for jobs in existing startups - that have sworn to ONLY build Fintech apps; or they hang around more B2C services friendly for freelancing in web design, data analysis, etc.

You're not ready for it, so it'll breeze past you. It's when you have the money to buy a red car that you like that you'll subconsciously begin to notice red cars.

Believing is seeing too, not just seeing is believing

Balistic4:
So many unrelated things in one post

Yes. You coined it perfectly: Bullshit jobs.

I call it "Destiny Displacement jobs" because those jobs were never meant to be created in the first place, so anyone working those jobs are doing what they weren't placed on earth for.

Those people in such jobs were born to become something else. Their destiny were swapped. And it wasn't even through the use of direct jazz.

Some government agency were just created to siphon money by placing figure head workers and collecting the salaries of people that don't exist.

Anytime a government come on air and announces that they've created "1000 jobs" or are planning to create more jobs, I automatically know that that government is a failure. Call it an early judgement, but the true sign of a working government is one that eradicates bullshit jobs while making it economically friendly to those who are out of jobs, by using the salaries to pay bullshit job workers, to focus on the of basic sectors like food, electricity/refineries and transport.

When the government came on air to announce that it wants to increase the minimum wage, I automatically knew that the government was beginning its descent into failure.
Even a common nairalander like me knows that inflation is an effect of too much electronic money in the economy (via the reserve banking model) with no physical (mostly local) goods to back it up, and not just because of printing too many cash.

Make the minimum wage #5000 but make 100# enough to cook a fulfilled pot of soup, not promise to litter the economy with plenty naira that have weak purchasing power

Stephen0mozzy:
Leave am, he has never tried selling a Software Product to a Nigerian Institution before, so doesn't know how it is like.

For one, if it's a government institution, just forget about it. Unless you're the child or relation of the Minister, Director or Permanent Secretary to the ministries, you won't even be given audience to sell the solution you have built to solve the problem.

2. This manual way of doing things seems to be their justification for paying salaries, for example, they still need messengers in some ministries to find your files from the registry and then send to another department for signing, and another one for authorization. If they automate it, how do they justify the salaries for the Bull shyte jobs in most of these MDAs?

3. Nigerians are terribly slow to adapting technology, especially if its NOT free.

4. Entrepreneurship is not incentivized in these parts. So most of these tech bros just look out for jobs in existing startups - that have sworn to ONLY build Fintech apps; or they hang around more B2C services friendly for freelancing in web design, data analysis, etc.

The education system is flawed, not just in the way it's structured globally, but because of its contents.
What I've come to learn is that Truth isn't Knowledge, because knowledge can be lies.

We find most knowledge in our schools, religion, tradition, society and so on. They're not truth.

That's why anyone who creates an invention that gives free electricity or anything that spells "independence to the people" doesn't live long. If they do, it's either in misery or failing health condition. See Charlie Kirk for example.

Knowledge makes us dependent on something that demands our blood, sweat and tears to uphold itself. Truth doesn't

SixSeven:
I'll have you know OP too that parents are now homeschooling their kids if/where they can because the education system is failing them. I mean parents who are interested in their children, not anyhow parents.


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7626475452571356446

There should be a balance to everything. Breathing out is necessary for the next breathing in to continue successfully. Same way night is necessary for the next morning to continue successfully too. Night is pregnant for morning and morning is pregnant for night too.

As you'll see in my post, I outlined that children should spend time in the classroom and then spend time learning from home.

Philosophers I've learnt from, not limited to the likes of Bertrand Russell, who authored "In praise of idleness" argues that there's no nobility in hardwork, if not, Dangote would be in his cement factory sweating and dressed like a factory worker. There was never any nobility in hardwork. That saying was just coined by "false leaders" to deceive the masses looking for a purpose.

I respectfully modified Bertrand Russell's school of thought from "There's no nobility in hardwork" to 'there's no nobility in continued hardwork"

Hardwork is necessary to create smart work, and even the next smart work can be hardwork, all things being equal. You wouldn't want to use that jamb flat screen calculator of old to solve some complex mathematics questions. But that jamb flat calculator of old would be preferred to counting with fingers and stones. I hope you can understand with this analogy

If humans can focus on long term creation and limit sabotaging of product just so to drive continued consumerism, then hopefully there'll come a time when we wouldn't need to work and unemployment would be celebrated in the society. I dream of that day. Call me the Martin Luther king Jr of Work efficiency

We should make an attempt t learn the basics of how things work, just so we can point when a machine makes errors. But most Machine errors are primarily became if the need for machine operators to have jobs. The same way graphics designer are scared of AI taking their jobs is the same way machine inventors/capitalist are scared of the day when consumerism is no longer celebrated.
Imagine you could buy a charger cord and it lasts you for 5 years. You'll never need to work for money to buy charger cord. The charger company suffers. So they create cords with fancy "materials" that doesn't last.

Machines overheating or malfunctioning are controlled chaos which includes but aren't limited to usage of substandard materials, innovation cover-up or machine repairmen scared of going out of jobs

A time will hopefully come when humans will be studying "creating energy from implosion as opposed to explosion" or "Studying the urine of dogs to blah blah"

It sounds weird now, but the generation that will be born, when they're groomed by parents that don't force them to learn a course just so they can brag to their friends in family meeting or just so their child can be rich to take care of them in old age, will begin to not be ashamed to follow their passion. They'll even be encouraged by their parents because the system of working to earn paper money will be abolished. Everyone will have what they need and can create more without harming themselves,others or their environment.

This will be utopia. Nigeria can achieve this, but it'll take time, I know

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SixSeven:
1. For Access Bank, that's ironic because their name is ACCESS. Why do they need the state of origin?

2. From Ekiti to University, those are different issues. As a parent, you will want your children to be engaged because the younger they are, they have more time on their hands. For university teachers, that's just corruption too and it's a symptom of the Nigerian I better pass my neighbour issue. Because you suffered as a student, your own students must suffer too. Education is not suffering.

3. About children using computers at an early age, I disagree with you. You look like someone who can do research. We now have enough data to show that it does not help young children and countries are now legislating against computers in the classroom for young students. It will damage their brain.


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7581686120136674590

Tech in the classroom is a no no for young students and the best way to know this is to realize that the tech CEOs don't use the devices for their own children. Their househelps are also banned from using these tech gadgets while looking after their children. Education is not just technology, it is also about socialization and tech removes that at an early age. Screen time destroys the brain before they become an adult and grow into brain rot.

Do you know that the tablet you are using and your laptop, your phone is the modern slate? I know that doesn't make sense? Historically, we have always learned using slates. You see those almajiri children using that thing they write on? That's how we have learned for a long time. After some time, it changed to notebooks, and now it has transformed to tech devices. I tell you, man needs to read and write. Not on a device, but on a slate, on a book. Retention is better off when you write and read your own thing. So it is not punishment when teachers tell you to write, because those who wrote will have no problem knowing how to write properly on the internet, in IELTS or application form. The technology is just a digital form of what to learn manually.

I am an advocate of tech but you need to look at the bigger picture of the neurological implications too.

Edit: I like the Chinese model. I was trying to remember it when I read about your complaint of parents In Ekiti. The Chinese believe that the earlier you load children with work and relax it while they are older the better for their future? Their Gaokao exam is notorious for being so tough that some of them take their lives due to the expectations. I'm not advocating for that extreme but China takes education seriously and they get only the best of the very best in their civil service. The average Chinese abroad is competing with the Chinese at home because they know while the West relaxed, they accelerated their own raised to power of 100.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fA0nabfvxpA

Hi. I really thank you for your effort you applied to getting this video in order to pass your message.

Passenger once said:
" And the old will be lost in the new. 4 will not wait for 3, for 3 never waited for 2"

A new era is coming, and that's the beauty of death/decomposition. If the waste from the days of Adam still exists here on earth, without nature's diligent workers of death/decomposition to wipe them away, the world would be a high-rise mess, literally

All the world leaders we know of now will perish. A new set will emerge. Rinse and repeat
I just hope we are prepared to not make the mistakes our fathers made/ are making, because when a genZ politician uses Bitcoin to siphon money, it just might be hard to track

Posts like this have to be out there and spread rapidly In order for the people to know and raise their consciousness for what's to come. Complimenting engineering/innovation with positive philosophy.

SixSeven:
It's good to apply your education to real world scenarios but I will point to you some things to take note.

Your LASUTH experience is only one thing, CORRUPTION. I am sure those who have japa and work in healthcare can tell us that. Corruption is a golden star boy that loves dysfunction. That's it. What you are describing is a tally system and when it's your turn, you get a beep or announcement that it is your time. Restaurants already do this for food, some of them even give you a device that vibrates when it's your turn...

This is Mr Bean 1995. I didn't want to use an example that is older but it's something as simple as this

Bean visits the hospital for a very peculiar reason! #mrbean pic.twitter.com/J7giWeQ5Ow

— Mr Bean (@MrBean) January 12, 2024

Mr Bean was trying to get ahead of others by swapping places but that's it. The government won't do it so this one is not about technology. Some people make money from that manual system so that they can manipulate it if you give them something. Some people could have suggested your idea to them but until it is a contract that goes through party loyalists or one man know man, forget it. I'm sorry.

I think I understand you.
While efficiency of work should be created, the philosophy of how we should use our free time should also be taught.

The reason one might think there's nothing to do with thejr free time except replace it with more work is because you haven't yet to appreciate the beauty of nature and its abundance.
They haven't found themselves in nature yet.

Everyone was born with a purpose. Anyone one does that against that purpose is a distraction to them

You think there's nothing to do, but trust me, there's more work than you can realize.

We've been constrained by religion, science and dead/confused elders that we fail to see how much work we need to do

Do you realize that learning how to speak politely and rhythmically to yourself and to others is a job? You wouldn't believe this until you start

Science studies bees just for their honeys and how to create something from their discoveries that they can market via a monthly subscription as a mean to generate paper.
Forgetting that the study of bees is deeper than their honey. From their "random" motion to the 'importance' of their stings...
Whatever science cannot market and sell, they do not reveal to the public, because an independent public wouldn't need them so they'll be purposeless.

Look around you. Find time to be quiet with yourself. Let go of your phones and what not and just be alone in a quiet place. Then try remember what you'd like to become if truly you didn't have to do a job to get money to buy food and pay other bills. Relax and be truthful to yourself. You have to be alone in a comfortable place. The answers may not come immediately, but with time, you'll begin to magically see that you really have a lot of work.

Even watching movies is work. Do you know how many PDFs I have in my phone that I haven't yet read?

Build connection. Observe your surroundings. Your triggers. Why you do what you do to others and yourself.

Some people battle addictions. They recover and try to get their life back.

Trust me, words are not enough to type sometimes.
Sometimes I feel the English alphabet shouldn't end at 26 because they're not enough to form words to convey my feelings over the phone.
Hopefully someone can create a mechanism that can transmit emotions over the phone/a device, you know. That's work too

The work is so massive that there isn't enough time to replace our free time that the efficiency of machines creates, on irrelevancies, all because we want to while away time

Host78:
I think my personal philosophy and way of looking at work is quite different from this.

Personally I think hardwork means a lot of things to different people.

Farming is hardwork to someone but to another it's a pleasure.

I love going to farm but I hate staying on the farm beyond the time I want to spend there. In the beginning, you see me happy but when I want to go back home and they say we need to finish so and so first and I'm already tired, then I begin to hate it.

And this is the angle I love viewing my things from. Time.

Even the sweetest of wine starts becoming irritating when you're filled and yet it's all you have to drink.

Working hard is never a bad thing. We are here to be productive. We need productivity not to die of boredom.

Imagine waking up tomorrow and not having anything to do. You get the food you want and so on.

It looks easy, like a very good deal and tempting.

I mean for a lot of us, it's the ideal life. The dream life to have nothing doing and yet have all our needs met.

Now imagine doing the same thing every day for the next 50 or 60 years. It'll almost make you crazy.

Not having anything to do kills faster than actually having something doing.

And so, for me we need a better work/rest balance.

Not necessarily less work.

However, One's work should not cut so deep into one's time that he cannot effectively rest. And one should not rest so much that it cuts into your work.

Maintaining this work/rest balance keeps anyone healthy and happy for a long time.

Even if we automate everything today and there is abundant food, we will only reproduce to a point where we tip the scale.

This has been demonstrated by rats. Given abundance of food and no "work" searching for such food, the rats began to eat and multiply abundantly.

Yet their food never diminished but soon they turned on each other. It's a well documented experiment.

As much as I hate it, work is a very important part of our "health" as a specie.

The journey of Getting to the top is what makes the top meaningful.

Bitterness is what makes us appreciate sweetness. Without darkness, light will mean nothing to us.

So I beg to differ. Continued hardwork is not of the slave.

Slavery is when the choice of working or not working has been taken away from you.

I could be passionately working on my car from morning till night or on my farm under the sun and rain because I want to get abundant yields.

To someone else, it looks like slavery or suffering but it's something that makes me happy when I go back home to relax.

There are guys who go through the gym to get six packs and then there are those who go through surgery to get the same six packs.

Both get six packs but both have different stories, different meanings and when they look at their belly, they smile differently inwardly.

Cc:
NotinButDtruth,
mjblinks,
Host78,
SixSeven,
NaijaNaWaa,
CreatedtwoRule

It may seem like that at first, but they all dovetail nicely.

What's no point of innovation without the positive philosophy to maintain and utilize it for good?
This is why I strongly believe engineers should become philosophers and learn from the right sources.

There are inventions that surpasses all what we have now. Hydrogen fuel would even be taking the back seat.

Wireless electricity dwarfs compared to other inventions that the Patent Secrecy Act hides. Look it up yourself and see what kind of invention qualifies to be hidden by the Act.
Someone created an engine that runs a long distance using only a small volume of petrol, and the news of that invention and what it can do, crashed the oil prices.
Some 'people' weren't happy with that...

Even with AI free plan at its developmental phase, people still attempt to use it to try to scam people. Imagine what the people at this level of consciousness can do with the advanced technology.

The wars of old, Sodom and Gomorrah, the mudfloods, Noah's story, Tartaria...they weren't caused by God. It was humans with advanced weapons and vain level of consciousness who decided to use these advanced weapons against themselves.

If God caused the war of Sodom and Gomorrah, and the biblical flood, then he also caused the war of Russia and Ukraine, and also the bandit bombings here in Nigeria

We have to know what is, so we can begin the work we need to do, and also know the consequences for stagnating. I try to point out 1 or 2 in my posts

addexx:
Your title and your content first of all reeks of misalignement . I don't think you are an intelligent person for thinking tech gurus are the problem except of course you just fell from the sky into the country yesterday.

How many institutions are ready or willing to incorporate technology into their system. How many universities are willing to switch to virtual implementation.
How many of our oldies in these systems would allow it.
You think technology or tech gurus are the problem. You think they haven't tried.
We have some of our best tech minds working with foreign firms because the complacent Nigerian system choked the life of them.
Heck we even begged for electronic voting but are still stuck with paper and you are blaming tech gurus for that? You know how many tech companies have applied to take up our electoral process but was turned down.
Same applies to every sector of the economy.

Either the people in the system refused to adjust or there's no enabling environment for them to which again can be traced to the government gross incompetence. This is the problem. And not 'tech gurus ' Sir.


You need to channel your agitation the right way and stop saying what you don't know.

I specifically outlined how there can be a balance. Read thoroughly

Muyiwaipere:
I don't even understand Nigeria system, whatever the white people are dumping because of the damage it has done, is what we love embracing. Don't we learn from mistake.

The western community are pulling out using of tech devices in schools and colleges, but it's this time we are advocating for the use in our own schools and children environment, and we are calling it civilisation.

Damnnnnmnnm

Wooooowww. You're like in my head.

For those who find it difficult to understand, I hope you can learn from this moniker and several others who seem to resonate with the idea this post talks about

Suffering is not hardwork! The morality of continued hardwork is the morality of slaves

https://www.nairaland.com/8603403/moral-continued-hardwork-morality-slaves

mjblinks:
The saddest part is that most Nigerians no longer recognize unnecessary suffering when they see it. We have lived with it for so long that we now mistake it for diligence.

A young graduate in Lagos should not have to travel hundreds of kilometers just to obtain a state-of-origin certificate in 2026. A patient should not spend hours waiting in a hospital while basic processes that could be automated are still done manually. A student should not spend the better part of their childhood buried under an overwhelming workload simply because "that's how it has always been."

Hard work is valuable. But hard work should produce value, not waste time.

When a nurse spends her day shouting names instead of using a digital queue system, that is not hard work; it is an inefficient system forcing people to compensate for poor processes.

When students spend twelve years memorizing information they will never use, that is not educational rigor; it is a system that values endurance more than understanding.

When graduates must physically travel across states to collect documents that could be verified electronically in seconds, that is not character-building; it is bureaucracy masquerading as necessity.

Technology was supposed to remove friction from everyday life. Its purpose is not to make people lazy; its purpose is to free human beings from repetitive and unnecessary burdens so they can focus on creativity, problem-solving, innovation, and meaningful work.

The true measure of progress is not how much suffering people can endure. It is how much unnecessary suffering society can eliminate.

A nation develops when it stops glorifying hardship and starts rewarding efficiency.

Our children deserve an education system that develops their talents, not one that merely tests their ability to survive stress. They deserve teachers who inspire curiosity, hospitals that respect their time, and institutions that use technology to simplify life rather than complicate it.

The question should never be, "Did we suffer too?"

The question should be, "How can we make life better for those coming after us?"

It's because IT IS a spiritual attack.
Every spiritual happenings in the physical MUST have a physical meaning, after being viewed with our physical senses, because it's happening in the physical. Dooh

Don't let science bullshit you with all of its confusions.

I suffered from sleep paralysis when I tried playing with sound frequency. All those solfeggio and blah

The things I saw
The struggles... trust me, they're better imagined than being real.

I even documented my experience here on nairaland
https://www.nairaland.com/8590497/dangerous-experience-experimenting-spiritism-solfeggio

It happens around particular times at night. Someone called it "The Witching Hour"
https://www.nairaland.com/6406266/witching-hour

Some try astral projection in this time and later regret it https://www.nairaland.com/6347838/dangers-astral-traveling

I admonish everyone to try know the truth, because apart from the inspirational nature of truth to inspire our choice, as I've written about here on nairaland, knowing the law also makes us become good law breakers. Same way those footballers who are ruling the match start faking injuries during the end of the match, so as to count time

There are rules even above and below. You want to know how I know this? It's because there are Rule-rs even above and below. Don't let science and religion deceive you.

Even your "village people" know and make attempt to work within the rules, lest they suffer. if this wasn't so, everyone would be suffering attack from village people. You thought it was just prayers protecting you all these while?
Dey play

The importance of freedom to make our choices, especially to children, without ego interference from their parent

Choiceless children become incompetent leaders tomorrow
https://www.nairaland.com/8598916/chimamanda-adichie-case-choiceless-children

https://www.nairaland.com/8591634/what-wanted-ask-it-shall

‎I was at LASUTH to see a doctor. The registration took 1hr +. Nurses on uniforms suddenly became bus conductors shouting patients names at the top of their voice one after the other. We were more than 50 seated at that registration point. It is close to a new building at LASUTH. Sustainable xxxx...I can't really remember the building name, but that experience left me feeling disappointed in our 'Tech gurus'
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‎At the moment, i need a state of origin certificate to apply for Access bank graduate trainee program currently running.
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‎Guess what?
‎I was told to GO TO THE PHYSICAL OFFICE AT VICTORIA ISLAND, to get it, or to go to an office in my village in the southeast to get it. I'm in Lagos typing this.
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‎I really hope Access bank HR and other related bodies are reading this, because I might have to decline applying for their Graduate Traineeship. And trust me, I'm smart enough for them to want me to choose them.
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‎Parents are working 9-5 jobs, while their children are even more hardworking than their parents, working 7:45am -5pm schools.
‎In a school in Ekiti state, each senior secondary student offer 13 -16 subjects. This is not hearsay. Trust me. I served as a corper in one of the schools. And after school closes by 3:30pm, they're told to wait for a compulsory extra lesson while lasts till 5pm. And it's not a free lesson. It's paid for by their parents. Imagine parents paying for their children suffering. Truly, the love of parents triumphs.
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‎So children spend Monday - Fridays (7:45am - 5pm) in schools learning 13 subjects, and on Saturdays, they're probably completing their notes or doing 13 different assignments, and then on Sundays, they go to church, rest for some hours and resume school on Monday. And one would expect success independent of theoretical speechification from these children.
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‎JSS1 - 3 = 3yrs
‎SS1- 3= 3 yrs
‎That's 6yrs on average

6 years of depression, bought and paid for by parents for their children. And I haven't even included the stress from university lecturers who were forced to study a particular course by their parents or society, and after realizing the disappointment of not following their dreams, become sadists, amongst others, who aim to frustrate students with their chants of  "A is for me, B is for your HOD, C are for my loyal students. You can distribute the failures generously amongst yourself"

So you see. It's a snake that eats its own tail.
The university lecturers were once children. The tech Bros and Girls too were once children. But now, each and everyone is either focused on milking these children, who they once were, or ignoring them completely, with silly comments like "school made me tough, if not, I would not be who I am today"

No. Being who you are made you come as a child to suffer in the Nigeria education system so you can be sensitized, through suffering, to create a platform to reduce the suffering of others when the time comes.

What happened to using technology to alleviate the suffering of children through the introduction of a passion+brain-friendly scheme, across all levels, from Primary to University.

1) Mondays- Wednesday = Classroom

2) Thursdays- Fridays= Online lectures

3) The presence of equipped and numbered guidance counselors whose job is to study a child and try understand where their passion lies, so that their education will be tailored to what they find joy doing. A hairdresser has no primary business learning geography, neither does a DJ have any primary business learning 'almighty formula'

This tailored form of leaning reduces the number of subjects that students are exposed to and secondly, it reduces the 7:45am - 5pm jobs that students work in schools. Now schools can comfortably close by 12-1 pm, even on Mondays because of the reduced work load of the students.
And mind you, when this efficiency has been created in learning, the free time of children should not be filled with more schoolwork/assignments because of a pathetic saying that "an idle mind is the devil's workshop"

6) A course in AI/ prompt engineering to enable students appreciate the fact that suffering isn't hardwork when they're able to swiftly generate an AI picture with precise prompt engineering, compared to a conventional graphics designer that spends decades on it.

7) Ban the physical submission of notes or handouts, especially for marks.

Also ban lecturers from physically selling handouts to students. A lecturer with an Innovative solution, be it in paperback, should copyright or patent it and lease it to students through the school education authority who thoroughly screens and approves it for sale at a very subsidized fee to students in ebook format. The sheer volume of students demands in campuses around Nigeria should compensate for the price reduction. There should be a digital right management thoroughly applied to the ebook to disable copying and mass production.
These amongst other solutions

To wrap this post up, Nigeria has become a nation where suffering is being seen as hardwork. We've become so used to seeing as "suffering= good person/hardworking" and "not suffering= bad person/lazy"
But suffering is not hardwork. The morality of continued hardwork is the morality of slaves. I've written about this here on nairaland.
Do find time to look it up, at your convenience of course.

I'm open to hearing your suggestions on how schools can be efficient, especially in Nigeria so that the coming generations don't go through the suffering we passed through while in school

So because people that ride cars are likely to have car accidents, that means we shouldn't drive again?

So because aeroplane have accidents, that means I shouldn't travel the world in one and instead use a donkey?

Love is different from all what these relationship coach preach.
Always remember to give what you can afford to lose, and try to increase your capacity for giving through love

emmabest2000:
Only one principle to learn is that ...
Whoever love most hurt most
Know this and know peace

Hi, Liballo
At the moment, I don't strictly follow the rules, and it's because of conditions which aren't in my power.

What do I mean by this?
I'm not financially buoyant to follow the rules to the letter. What's the point of eating boiled yam and vegetable this moment, only to eat rice and beans later, going against the rules of carbohydrates and protein combination?

I eat what's being offered to me, but even at that, I'm quite selective.
If I can afford to follow the rules, I do so.

So far, I've grown my will to resist the urge to consume sugar, fried food, cake, soft drinks, wine and alcohol.

It wasn't a 'will growth' per say. I just looked around me and I made my observation which led to my epiphany: rarely do you see a 30-35 yr old man or woman looking fit, even the rich ones. Right now in Nigeria, you recognize a rich man by the size of his pot belly, which shouldn't be so


The desire to not want to end up unfit in my old age was enough to make my effort 'will less'. It's just like a woman who sees her 2 yr old baby about to cross the road or put his hands in a fire. She doesn't think if she should save the baby or not. She acts! It was a choiceless action on the part of the mother

Knowing the truth offers the inspiration of choice: to do or not to do. But that's not all, Liballo.
The essence of knowing the law (truth) is so that we can also become good law breakers. Yes, read again.

Too much rule following is bad because it makes us robotic, while too much rule breaking is bad, because it causes a chaotic environment. There has to be a balance, and that's where discerning/wisdom comes in.

I don't take soft drink, but if I'm stranded in a desert with no water in sight, I'll take 1 or 2 gulps of coke to quench my thirst. But if I was stranded in the desert with a bottle of sniper and no water in sight, I wouldn't drink that sniper. I'd rather I die of thirst.
I hope you can understand that analogy.

If I'm to follow the rules of food combining to the letter, I'd die of starvation. But when wealth comes and I can afford the simple life that I want... boy o boy

Liballo:
Reverseng, do you still practice food combining?

we should only turn the other cheek for situations that won't take our lives or for situation that if we don't turn the other cheek, we stop growing in love and die.

What do I mean by this?
Because I suffered a heartbreak doesn't mean that I'll close my heart from relationship with the opposite sex.
No. By closing my heart in such manner, that's equal to me being dead, so I'll turn the other cheek with wisdom, by learning the lessons from my previous relationships and going into the new one with experience.

Do you see. That experience did not take my life, neither does it hold any possibility to do so, so I turn the other cheek

Because someone gossiped about me after helping them doesn't mean I'll stop helping people forever. No. I'll attempt to learn what detachment means by giving what I can afford to lose, so that I can become a better giver. I'll turn the other cheek

Jesus being given a choice to renounce his teachings or face death, choosed not to renounce his teachings because renouncing his teachings defeats his purpose of choosing to come to earth. Love isn't living like a coward and denying what you stand for
It is necessary for one to turn the other cheek if one is fighting for love, regardless if in this fight, such a person may lose their life. It doesn't mean that they consented to their death or that they came to 'die for the sins of the world'

If you as a person who believe in the value of human lives was given a gun to shoot down a pregnant woman or be shot dead, does that mean you consented to your death by refusing to shoot that pregnant woman?

By standing for what one believes in, does that mean that such a person came to commit suicide for our sins?

I was having issues in my relationship. I forgave the guy, who was my best friend and I've forgiven the girl, who is my ex. It took a while to recover. I'm friends with the guy now. It wasn't really his fault. He kind of placed temptation in his way, hoping to overcome it. He failed. But if he repeats, then it has become a pattern and hands out of gloves action will be taken

It's not like I wasn't to blame for what happened too. I didn't know how to accept the care given to me, especially from the opposite sex. It felt weird at that time because I wanted to feel invisible and impenetrable even by love. Gigachad I felt that if I open up fully, I'd get hurt, so I opened myself partially. I also felt that there was nothing interesting about me inwardly that would make a girl stay if she knew the real me. All my wrong assumptions.
It was a nasty game of half-truth manipulation and back and forths to try to make myself appear interesting and make her stay with me. Lol. Guess if it worked

Right now I'm back and better
I try to explain what led to my mind shift in most of my topics here on nairaland. It wasn't a simple meditation or chanting that made me realize the errors of my ways. It's in stages and in layers.

I'm learning what it really means to accept and to give love.
I'm turning the other cheek. At least I'm alive to do so...to give and receive love again.

Turn the other cheek for situations that won't claim your life. Don't turn the other cheek for situations that could claim your life, because if you're dead, you can't turn the other cheek.

Because I experienced heartbreak doesn't mean I should close my heart. Closing my heart is equal to killing myself because my heart was made to give and receive love. If I don't, I'm starving it and starving weakens first and then kills

Lol this is not true.
The reason why japanese cars have fragile suspension is primarily because the japanese engineers view suffering as hardwork.

They create materials to fail just so that there can be continuous demand of materials and 'expertise' which then creates job for them. They don't view sitting idle as noble, even when a machine that creates efficiency and free time is in place
They view suffering as noble. This concept doesn't just happen in Japan alone but all over the world

Your charger cord, amongst other gadgets or materials was created with fancy materials just so it can get damaged easily and create jobs for the cord companies. Because if your charger cord doesn't spoil early, the companies will go out of business.


Create the solution >> Engineer the problem>>then sell the already created solution

Work was created so the masses won't get idle and begin to question their 'leaders actions'

https://www.nairaland.com/8603403/moral-continued-hardwork-morality-slaves#138210937

One should give what they can afford to lose. If they don't, they'll tie their expectations to that excess they gave and this attachment causes suffering

SixSeven:
What you are sharing sounds like you're getting exhausted with the help you are giving because it keeps returning. One of the things you learn as you grow is not to be bothered by people's reaction but be bothered by your own intention.

This will change the way you do things. You ask yourself why you do what you do. Why? Are you doing it for them or you are doing it for your purpose on earth? It's with that understanding that you will never bother about human beings and their reactions. You won't be distracted by their distraction too. Many people put too much reliance on gratefulness (which is a good thing to have) but sometimes I ask myself, ifManbeGod, do you know how the world would have ended since? How many times do I thank my Creator for my lungs, my eyes, my brain, my nerves, my blood, my lungs, my skin, my hair, my nose, my nails, my eyebrow, my tongue and so many things I took for granted but when you take time to study it, you see the perfection in which you were created and took for granted? If I don't do that and I can't be as merciful as God, then who am I to complain about man to man?



If you keep receipts of those you have "helped", it is not giving, it was business you were doing. I don't keep scores. I score my goal and go to the next match.
It is for this reason I don't bother about the games of the receiver because me I am playing a different champions league. And I know that my favor is not from them because in most religious books I have studied and in spiritual life, the givers never lack but the givers who put condition go slack. If you grew up with grandmas, grandpas and elderly, you'll understand the concept of giving more. They are not dumb when they give but they learned some things from African spirituality in giving. I also don't get carried away by all the money in the world because the concept of money is man made, so we continue In the endless pursuit of paper currency, expecting it to solve problems money will never solve!


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7564773023190945046?

Credit to post:

1) Dr Orion Taraban of Psychacks YouTube channel

2) Vincent Guillem, the author of The Spiritual laws pdf

3) The nairalander Helpyourself

Here's a link to my other topic that reveals a method I use to easily know if I want to hang around a girl by simplifying what I seek from a girl. Consider it a girl selection process in its simple form

https://www.nairaland.com/8661877/build-dream-woman-heres-some

The Stigmatisation of Players and the error of Pickup lines

1) Everyone play games.
2) Pick-up lines are an effect, and not a cause

The 2 points above are the core of this post and I'll expand on them so as to bring insight to you

1) What is a game?
As seen on the video games you play, one can understand that a game is anything with these:

a) A clear objective
b) Rules on how to play
c) Prizes to be won if played well
d) Consequences to be suffered if you don't play your game well

Those who play games are called Play-er
From the understanding of what a game is, I'd call myself a player.

Why? Well that's because unknowingly, I played a game while in the university. "Unknowingly" in the sense that I didn't realize I played a game until later. I had an objective to want to graduate with a second class upper or lower in the university and these were my blueprints

My rules: Try boost my continuous assessment so that I can fail comfortably in my exam, being that I wasn't the smartest in the room, neither did the education format I received in the university sit well with me.

My CA was 30%, while exams was 70%. If I could manage to get at least a 20% in my CA, I could comfortably fail to a 35-40% in exams, which would bring my total to 55-60%. I'd call this a nice result.

Rule no 2: I tried as much as possible to not upset my lecturers, and I also avoided friends that'd distract me from my objective.

Following this blueprint, I'd later graduate with a second class upper. But trust me, brain alone did not give me that result.

So it's this story that I flash back to whenever I call myself a player, and it's from the insight of this story that I dare to call all humans players

All humans want to live long, even the masochists. At least one has to be alive to inflict pain on themselves. Even those that plan wars are found nowhere around the warzone because they selfishly want to be alive to plan more wars. For a human to want to be alive for long is an objective, and distancing themselves from disruption, even the ones they cause is one of their rules. The price to be won is the chaos they seek and the consequences for them playing a wrong game is unfulfillment. If only you know the joy that war mongers derive when their planned wars is going as they want and the sadness they feel when it isn't.

A man that wants a successful marriage is also a player by virtue of having an objective of wanting a successful marriage or relationship, and he could attempt to play a game of being honest, caring/attentive and non-judgmental in his words and actions toward the desires of his better half. A love-vendor plays a game of emotional manipulation, amongst other tactics to keep his girls.

As long as one has an objective in mind, they become players-- playing games for their objective to come to fruition.

With a thorough digest of the above content, you can begin to understand that playing games isn't a bad thing, neither should it be viewed as negative. It all depends on what kind of game you as a player decides to play. Now you know why they say that life is a game. Ready player 1

Anyone who plays games must believe in the objective of their game and how they plan to achieve their objective. If not, why even play? This leads us to the second part

The Error of Pick-up lines

Pick-up lines are an effect, and not a cause. You might get confused and I can understand. it took me a while to understand what I'm writing too.

See it this way: Night time comes with the urge to sleep, but that doesn't mean one cannot sleep in the afternoon under the hot sun, but you all reading this would agree with me that the feeling that comes with a night sleep triumphs that of sleeping in the afternoon.

Flowing in pick-up lines, especially towards girls, enough to make them trip and drip, are an effect of primarily seeing girls as your complementary equal. You don't flow in pick-up lines by reading or cramming it from a book.

"Baby, does your father sell okra, because you draw my attention" lol

If you don't believe the pick-up lines that you read in a relationship guide or book, you'll face a lot of resistance expressing those lines by word of mouth because they're not true to you. Because you don't believe them. And the lady listening to these pick-up lines off your lips is likely to sense through feeling, how awkward you sound, even if you're just meeting her for the first time.

For instance, how can a man comfortably call a girl "baby girl" when he's enforces in his mindset that all girls have to work a 9-5 job, mostly a masculine kind of job, and also take care of himself and the children.
Do babies prepare their milk and change their diapers themselves? Parents serve their babies, and not the other way around.

How can he call a girl "baby girl" when he constantly flares at her for getting 'things' wrong, instead of putting things in place where she's no longer in charge of that section, and is taken to a section that compliments her strength as a woman. A baby girl is a "baby" first.
if he doesn't believe that babies can make mistakes repeatedly, how can he comfortably consider a grown up lady as a baby girl, when he's always analysing and reminding her of all her mistakes and weaknesses.

How can he use the same lips he has used to call other girls profane names, only to now use those lips to try to spill sweet names to another set of girls?

How can he treat girls in a masculine manner and still have the guts to call that newly converted masculine woman a 'baby girl"

So you see that the ability to flow in pick-up lines are an effect of understanding both sexes and not by cramming pick-up lines when your foundation is faulty.

Seek to truly know people (and be as non-judgmental as you can) before any attempt to drop lines. I can't stress this enough. If you don't know the person you're about to flirt with, how can you tailor your lines to this specific person? What works for miss Funke won't always work for miss Ada.

For one to be loved, one has to be vulnerable, especially to the right people. You can only love the people that you genuinely know. If I don't like onions in my food, and I reveal this weakness to you, then you can know how to show love to me by cooking food without onions in it whenever you invite me over to come eat.

...to be continued.
Next I'll explain how people think by kneeling in front of statues or a "Reverend father" during confession automatically gives them a pass to paradise after reciting "10 hail Mary, a prayer for Nigeria in distress and paying their tithe"

Contd:

Since it has been established that forgiveness isn't justice, then we can as well throw that "death bed confession and prayer for forgiveness out the window"

With an understanding of this post, you'll also come to realize that no amount of laying hands on your head by any pastor or prophet can separate you from the consequences of your actions.

It's a natural process for the consequences of the action of a man to always meet up with such a man, if not in this life, then in his next life because it'll be unjust for someone else to reap the fruits of your labor
This natural process also explains why no pastor can save you: they're helpless!

If they can help you overcome a natural process of separating you from the consequences of your actions, then they should also help themselves from overcoming old age, which also is a natural process.
So before any pastor or prophet or 'spiritual leader' promise you paradise or to overcome the consequences of your actions, take a peek at their partially bald or grey hairs and ask them to reverse it to black or its natural color. If they can't, then you just encountered a scammer. lol

The justice and forgiveness of the divine cannot be explained without the mercy of reincarnation. Those who made millions to suffer by virtue of the position they held will be made to come back as an oppressed individual so that they can experience first hand what they made other people go through. Some will be born as an almajiri, a crippled, blind, or with terminal diseases that'll be too many to name here.
And if you ask me on what authority I type this here, you have to understand that they ways of God which is needed for our growth can be learnt but we humans, contrary to what you were taught that "the ways of God isn't the ways of man". Predictability is a form of showing love to yourself and to others and God, who is love, has predictable and orderly ways, and it's with the authority linked to predictability of love that I type this here.

Justice isn't only limited to the capacity of the divine. It's also something we humans can dish out, when unbiased and free from the past or supposed future that we hope to gain from.

A mother who punishes her child with no supper because he refused to wash the plate has become a judge and executioner. Did she do a bad thing by teaching a child the consequences of his actions? Will the judgement she meted out lead to any long-term negative consequences on the child physical and mental health? No. So where's the wrong in this mother's judgement?

Do you now begin to see that as we humans grow spiritually in love (law of reciprocity: Do unto others as you'd want to be done unto you), we become better judges and better lovers?

"Thou shall not judge" was written because we don't have enough information about a person's past life and current life to understand why they are they way we meet them, and also because we judge using the lens of the past and what we hope to gain from the future. Imagine the category of igbos still blaming the Hausas and Yorubas for the civil war and the deaths it brought upon their people that they refuse to rent their house or shops to Yorubas or Hausas. How can theses category of people become a good judge when they're still so emotionally bonded to the past that they refuse to grow in love towards their neighbors. As one grow in love, free from the past and future, their ability to judge properly also grows.