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Interesting
Thank you
I'll apply the necessary corrections

mjblinks:
Your honesty is refreshing, but honesty should still be strategic. An introduction to potential employers is meant to make them think, "This is someone I'd like to interview."

A few things to improve:

Don't start by saying, "I need money, not a job." While it's true for almost everyone, employers want to know what value you'll bring to them, not your financial motivation.

Avoid statements like "I'm not a fast learner." Even if you explain it later, many recruiters won't read that far. Instead, say something like, "I take time to understand new concepts thoroughly, and once I do, I apply them confidently."

The section about not believing in hard work could easily be misunderstood. Employers may interpret it as unwillingness to put in effort. You could instead say you believe in working efficiently, improving processes, and delivering results.

Lead with your strengths. Mention your degree, NYSC completion, writing experience, problem-solving ability, curiosity, and willingness to learn before discussing your work philosophy.

End with a clear call to action, such as:

"I'm actively seeking entry-level opportunities where I can contribute, learn, and grow. If you know of any openings or can provide a referral, I'd greatly appreciate it."

Overall, he comes across as intelligent and thoughtful, but he needs to present himself from the employer's perspective. The goal isn't to tell them everything about yourself—it's to make them want to contact you. Save the deeper philosophies for the interview, where they'll likely be appreciated rather than misunderstood.

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Burial party is a mockery of the dead
Let the dead bury the dead. Let the living celebrate the living.

Those who are 6ft above can be considered dead too, if they don't and refuse to think for themselves

Religious Institutions should be soundproof
If people want a message, they'll see the reflection of the message in your life, after you, the preacher, have applied the preach in your life

https://www.nairaland.com/8542807/error-conventional-envangelism

Hi, Bureaulogic
I could see that your post got taken down by the bot.
However I checked the signature on your profile and I understand that you're a recruiter based in the UK. I'm currently in Nigeria at the moment.
Would that be a limitation on your end to finding me a job, knowing my qualifications as detailed in the opening post?

CC: mjblinks

We all have to be careful. They'd be wise to twist their format knowing it's being revealed, but with careful observation, you'll still be able to discern what is from what is not with these tips

1) The email you'll receive will mostly be in your spam folder, probably because it has been repeatedly reported as scam

2) No clear job description or title. You likely won't remember applying for a job with the states job title or description

3) Call the HR to confirm or send an email to inquire what the job truly is all about, so you don't waste your transport fare and time

These amongst others
I hope you find the job that brings you real life fulfillment

Hi, Amili66
I really feel sad reading what you're going through in your marriage
And knowing you managed to write this in your emotional state is...words can't describe how I feel for you
Despite all, you were still courageous and humble enough to let it all out and ask for help/suggestions, I really admire you.

I understand what you're going through, trust me. There are some things I cannot write here

You deserve all the love and care that life can offer and I'm sorry you ended up with a man who doesn't realize how badly you desire to receive a proper treatment. Sure you could treat yourself right, but it does hurt to also receive a baby girl treatment from the man who swore to be by your side always and forever.

I'm sorry.
Know this, Amili66: it cannot be night forever. Morning comes, and it cannot be morning forever.

Whatever advice you receive here, know that the ability to love others comes from a place of loving oneself first. One who hasn't seen color red cannot describe it to someone else. There's a point in your life where you have to be lovingly selfish in order to be happy once again.

You're beautiful and I can feel your beauty even from here in Lagos
I know you'll come out of this triumphantly. Every problem comes with its solution. Open yourself and see

amili66:
I really wish I had never married this man. I dont know what is keeping me in the union but oh no, I dont have any happy time with him.

He is not committed at allllllllllllll, am in pain, deeply sad and sorrowful. He is promiscuous, have speech issues and maybe memory issues. Very had to please and make this difficult always.

He'd rather please outsider than me making me and the kids happy. When I got pregnant, I only received 100k from him to buy infants items as I had twins, I funded every other things and not that he doesnt have money. We build our house together but his family sees him as their Lord and this man train his cousins, nieces, and now had the mind to tell me again that he has adopted another child of his cousin to sponsor. He never pays our kids school fees 100%, I'll always have to balance the rest cos I do not want embarrassment from their school.

We moved abroad some years ago and no he says he'll drive my kids out of the house once they clock 14, but he is training his family children who are over 25 years old. Well, I don't have many, I can train them but I truly regret this marriage,

I am never going to advise anyone ot marry.

Coming abroad, this man would sit and call those in Nigeria for hours daily, he is never serious with his work and will chose to work form home until he got sacked and since then he's being struggling to get a job and I am getting blammed daily. He said his friends called him to warn him never to give me a smiling face, they dont know I have never had a smiling face from him and this man has gone from bad to worst.

You all who it to read social media comments over men who cry woes abroad, if I leave this one now and he comes on social media, you all will start to condemn the woman without listening to her. Am in pain, it has gone from worse while in Nigeria to worst here abroad. Everyday he says marriages dont work abroad, regret coming but go back he is refusing saying we must all go back with him. I cant, I rather remain here and cut off from all my friends and family.

Maybe I remained in the marriage because of shame from people around. And I am not from that loving family so they'll laugh me.

Am so sad; at times, I just feel I never said yes to him, I had many other suitors. but I considered him because he was nice then, things changed the very first day we got married, he started telling me all the evil advise his family had advised him.

I regret building with him; I should have invested on my own.

He has never bought even a shirt for his kids, shoes, toys, christmas cloths, nothing, i Mean notihng, never. when their school asked they buy laptops, he said they are not of the age, nothing. But this man dishes out money to others. I have been supportive enough, but still not appreciated. All i get is name calling, I have never since our marriage of 16 years received a gift, I dont know what it looks like. They have never owrn christmas dress bought by their father.

I just pity all the soldiers of all countries that still are in the army, especially the soldiers of USA and Nigeria. They're the reason for wars continuity, because primarily, if there aren't soldiers, who'd carry the weapons of war?

The price of authenticity is attachment.

First of, was your husband or wife really who you wanted ?
https://www.nairaland.com/8591634/what-wanted-ask-it-shall#137991453

If I could foresee that a crippled dog would contest for presidency and would be able to bring Nigeria out of her ruins, I'll vote for that crippled dog.

The dog doesn't have to be my dog. It could be someone's dog or a street dog, but as long as that dog gets the job done, it has my vote.

Nigeria is "my country" and I have to defend her—even though I strongly suspect that the insecurities she's facing are fake and are an engineered inside job.
—and that's how young men commit suicide in battle fronts in the name of a false possession— MY.

"He is MY father and I cannot expose his corruption because it'll affect MY family name"
Alexander the great, Cleopatra, Napoleon...all classy names, which you probably must have forgotten about until now. Yours isn't special.

"The men of MY village are not known for being weak, and that's why I have to push myself even though I know I'm not strong enough for this task, and admitting it to people would make me look weak"
Physical and mental health conditions arises later from living up to society expectations.


"He is MY brother, so I have to give him this job position even though there are better suited candidates for the role, who aren't of my blood"
Boom! An incompetent person is brought into a workplace requiring efficiency and human precision. The company collapses soon after. Both brothers are out of a job. Now one feels hatred for the other

"She is a Christian and from another tribe, so I cannot marry her because she's not from MY tribe. I'll wait till the conditions are perfect" or "She's not up to MY height, even though she's of marriage quality"

"I am an executive at this company so I have to sit in the cafeteria and dine with MY fellow executives, even though they discuss what doesn't interest me. Sitting with an ordinary worker would make me appear less of a strict executive"

The people in this category become a super human whom everyone fears but don't necessarily respect because they don't know them enough to respect them. To love, one has to be known. In the weekends, they'll look for who t hang out with and they'll find none. This reinforces their belief that no one likes them, so next week, they go to the cafeteria and sit with other executives, thinking that that's where they belong.
They also miss out from the happenings in the workplace that CCTV cameras don't capture. This "lack of truth" hinders them from properly carrying out there jobs

"This football club is my favorite, and when I'm in the bet shop, I'll carry them to win, even though I know they've been consistent losers in the past. MY dedication to my team must be proved"

The people in this category mostly suffer from near win tickets. You'll find them exclaiming in bet shops "I carry my team to win oo, and na dem cut my 100# to win #20 million"


Identity is that part of you that remains when everything that can be taken from you, is taken from you, because it eventually will with time.

Intelligence, Handsomeness, Gadgets, cars, House, Family surname, Skin color, Religion...

But courage, ability to question illusion, contentment, self-love—all of these cannot be taken, and by understanding that life continues via reincarnation, we draw strengths to keep our riches where termites, rust or death of a physical body cannot reach.

What makes you think the universe does?
Don't you think the universe has given what she can too?

Your ability to be grateful is a judgement on you, and not of the universe expecting you to be. If you're grateful, fine
If you're not grateful, it's still fine.

Look at the sun. You know how important the sun is to life here on earth. Do you worship it? In all your life, have you for once thanked the sun directly for just shining??

Imagine how pained the sun would feel that after almost effort, it's not getting the recognition it deserves. Probably the sun should pack up and go shine on another planet since most humans don't even acknowledge it.

I advise you have a re-read using the likely insight from this reply

It's unconditional love
Not conditional love

Liballo:
Your points are understandable, but I think it somehow defeats the concept of gratitude (that’s if you believe in it).

Going by your notion, then what’s the purpose of gratitude?
What’s the purpose of being grateful or appreciative to the universe for having the blessings you have?

If the universe loves you “unconditionally,” then the universe shouldn’t care about your being grateful or not.

It could be on suspension now. When they get the votes, it could be effected

Another step to walk to know what loving without attachments is: https://www.nairaland.com/8577305/dont-try-change-people-accept

1) Conditional love leads to unconditional love

The path of conditional love leads to unconditional love, same way childhood leads to adulthood. But this is not an excuse to stay stuck there at conditional love. The same way we suffer when we try to physically restrict the growth of a child to adulthood (if ever possible), is the same way we suffer when we try to hinder our non-physical growth. Growth occurs physically and also non-physically too, and you might have heard of the non-physical growth — you likely call it 'Maturity' or use it in sentences like 'he acts and speaks maturely even for his age'

Stagnation in growth leads to suffering, and stagnating doesn't mean not progressing from point A to B, it also mean dwelling at point A and egoistically thinking that it's the growth ceiling.

By proper definition, if conditional love is one with conditions, then what truly is unconditional love and how best do we practice this form of love necessary for our growth?

Unconditional love simply means loving without attachments, and it can genuinely be expressed when we learn to give exactly what we can afford to lose.
For example, if you have #2000 and the amount you can afford to give is #20, do so shamelessly and lovingly without judging yourself on the amount you're giving.

'Shamelessly' in the sense that the amount you're giving might seem little to others, but it's what you can afford to give and sleep well at night. The price for authenticity is attachment because if you really want to live your truth and convictions, you must be willing to lose relationships or attachments which doesn't support the new you. That's the price to pay for being a new you

Conditional love occurs in a scenario where you have #2000 and you feel subtly ego compelled to give #500, an amount far greater than what you can can to lose.
That #480 difference (compared to the first example of #20) is the price you paid for your suffering of attachments to the outcome of your giving

That's where expectations such as
“She didn't even thank me enough for helping her with my money”
or
“I hope he's spending my hard-earned money well and not wasting my sweat!”
or
“I hope I finally get the respect of my colleague by spending this much in the bar for their drinks”
or
“I hope he'll love me forever after giving him my virginity”
Expectations/ attachments such as these creeps up in our minds when we give more than we genuinely can afford to lose.

You have a right to perform your prescribed duties, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, nor be attached to inaction." —
Bhagavad Gita

Don't give what you can't afford to lose, because I've learnt from my experience and from that of the people around me, that by so doing, it creates attachments to the expectation that you hope to get from your giving, which then leads to tension and hurt, especially when your expectation(s) doesn't come to fruition. And when such category of givers get hurt because their giving wasn't appreciated, even with a simple “thank you”, they lash out and build a wall of defense around themselves, telling themselves that no one will ever see them so vulnerable again. You likely term this "see finish"
This leads to the birth of Pride in them, a situation where people who are capable of giving and receiving love, prevent themselves from giving and receiving love all because they're scared of getting hurt or being underappreciated
This is the real definition of Pride.
https://www.nairaland.com/8703930/ego-phases-ego-simplified

Expressing unconditional love to yourself or to others isn't limited to physical cash alone. You could also learn to invest the time that you can afford to lose on someone(relationship) or a project and not feel regret.
Same goes for trust, tolerance and other non physical goods
Now this brings us to a twist

If unconditional love means expressing love to others or to yourself, without expecting anything in return, then the best set of people to practice your unconditional love of giving are towards stingy people or people who find it difficult to say a "thank you" for the help you've rendered to them. It's not primarily for you to wake the up from their slumber of ungratefulness but for you to feel happy to have been of genuine help to those who need it.
The joy on the face of a person you've helped or the thought of you being a factor to reduce someone's suffering should be enough reward for you, as a genuine giver. The act itself should be your reward.

The best set of people to express your unconditional love of non-sexual attention to, especially as a man, are physically non-attractive ladies, or beautiful girls who are in very serious relationships with other men.

If you, as a man, can still love a physically attractive girl who is in a very serious relationship with another man, with no expectation of a thank-you-sex from her as a payment for the "unconditional love" you just expressed towards her, therein lies your growth.

Love that security that cannot offer you an appointment letter to aso rock.

Love that your cleaner that cannot even help you with job connects.

Little wonder why Jesus said, "love your enemies"
This is because our enemies are the people who can't reciprocate our love. Instead, they'd even repay us with hate. Lol. A form of repayment which shouldn't bother a true giver. Learn to discern what that means

By giving what we can genuinely afford to lose, we remain at peace with ourselves regardless of the outcome of our giving.

To summarize,
a) Give what you can afford to lose
b) Increase your capacity for giving, because that's how you grow and not stagnate (Probably you could achieve this with the understanding that all that can be taken away will be taken away from you in time, so they're not your identity. Your identity is what remains when all that can be taken away from you is taken away from you (surname, religion, family, skin color, tribe, gadgets etc)

One love

Kalatium,

1) Who are you without your money, your degree, surname or your religion?
Find that out for yourself

2) Learn to give what you can afford to lose. You're attached to your giving because you gave more than you can afford to lose, probably due to fear of "what would they think if I can't provide at the expense of myself or something similar"
The price of authenticity is attachment

3) Find time to check my posts here on nairaland.

Kalatium:
There is one question every man should ask himself before calling any woman the 'love of his life' .

If everything you have worked for disappeared tomorrow, if your job was gone, your business collapsed or your income suddenly stopped, would she still look at you with the same love, respect and admiration? What if she starts Earning more than you, will she remain with you?

For a long time, I believed the answer would be yes because love was supposed to be unconditional.

Life eventually answered that question for me, not once, not twice, but eight different times in a period of 10 years. Every relationship was different, every woman had a different personality, from different ethnic groups but the lesson at the end was painfully similar.

Story One: When I Lost My First Job

We had been together for two years and I genuinely believed we were building a future together. When my former company downsized and I lost my job, the first person I wanted to speak to was the woman I loved because I expected comfort, encouragement and reassurance that we would get through it together.

Instead, the conversation immediately shifted to : What would become of the relationship now that I was unemployed. The warmth gradually disappeared, the phone calls became less frequent, the replies became shorter and within a few weeks she had emotionally checked out. Before long, she had moved on with another man. Two years of commitment disappeared almost as quickly as my monthly salary.

Story Two: "I'll Find Someone Else"

Months later i got into another relationship. As of then i started a business i got introduced to and at it was booming. Then came a point, where the business became slow and money was unusually tight. For the first time since we started dating, I could not spend the way I normally did. I communicated this to her and she said okay but just a few days later she called and asked me to send her money so she could buy a dress and shoe she saw.

I honestly explained that I was struggling financially and simply needed a little time to recover. Instead of asking how I was coping or understand me or encourage me to stay strong, her response was, "It's okay. I'll find someone else." Those six words changed the way I see her because I suddenly realized I had been valued more for what I provided than for who I actually was. This was a major trigger that orchestrated our breakup later.

Story Three: Betrayal After Sacrifice

The lady was very lovely that i thought we will get married. She was from a humble background, looked gentle and portrayed herself like the kind that will be faithful to me (ride or die). I paid bills, solved problems, handled emergencies and constantly made sacrifices because I genuinely loved her and believed we were building something meaningful together.

Unknown to me, another man with a bigger bank account had quietly entered the picture and was doking her. By the time I eventually discovered what had been happening, she had already moved on emotionally while I was still investing my time, energy and resources into a relationship that had quietly expired. I felt betrayed and shattered.

Story Four: I Helped Her But She Left
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This one pained me the most because of extend i went for her. She is in the health profession and graduated without securing an internship placement. She was frustrated about her future because her mates have already started and are already ahead of her. I refused to watch her struggle alone. I reached out to people I knew, made several calls and eventually helped her secure internship in where i did mine previously. While she worked without salary for months, I continued encouraging and supporting her financially because I genuinely wanted to see her succeed.

All of a sudden everything changed. The communication reduced, the effort disappeared and eventually she walked away from the relationship. She gave no solid reasons saying it's not me it's her and she needs to find herself. Later, I got to found out she had already started earning before she broke up with me. Looking back, I sometimes wonder whether she simply felt she no longer needed me as she is now earning or feel i will ask her for money or what . I became an overnight philosopher.

Story Five: She claimed not to have money and later got scammed.

We dated for three years and during that period I never hesitated to support her financially whenever life became difficult. Helping her was almost natural to me because I believed that was what partners were supposed to do for each other. This was the lady i loved the most.

One day I genuinely needed financial help myself and reached out to her after other options failed. She calmly told me she did not have any money. This was my first time of asking her this and since i trusted her, i thought she actually didn't have. Many days later, she was moody and closed off. I asked repeatedly what was wrong only for her to end up crying, saying someone had scammed her with a significant amount of her money. The painful part for me was not that she got scammed. The painful part was realizing she had the money all along but told me she doesn't have anything. She simply chose not to help me when I needed her. I felt betrayed. When i reflected on everything i realized that even when i am in a precarious situation, she won't ever help me. I never took her serious since then.

Story Six: I Was Always the One Giving

This relationship forced me to reflect on something I had ignored for a long time: reciprocation. I was having this mentality that when my woman needs help, I will always show up immediately without thinking twice. Whenever she faced a challenge, I considered it our challenge. However, looking back today, almost every meaningful sacrifice came from my side and i was shooting myself on the foot.

I began to notice that whenever I genuinely needed emotional support, encouragement or even small acts of kindness, there was almost always another excuse, another reason or another delay. I don't like to keep score but i can't help but noticed she has never did anything worthwhile, even when monetary aspect is kept aside. She is always asking and taking but have never giviing and she is 30. Loving someone should never feel like carrying two people on your shoulders while pretending the weight is equal.

Story Seven: The ₦100,000 I Never Saw Again

This relationship was still very new when she called saying she had an emergency and urgently needed ₦100,000. I explained that the money had already been set aside for something very important, but because she was my girlfriend, I agreed to lend it to her after she repeatedly promised to repay me.

The money never came back. Whenever I reminded her, she started making me feel guilty for asking for money i send to her oooo. At one point she even asked why I was behaving as though she were a stranger. That moment taught me that borrowing money should never automatically erase accountability. I ended the relationship out of disgust. This was the shortest relationship i had ever been.

Story Eight: The Experiment That Changed Everything

After everything I had experienced, I recently decided to quietly test one relationship earlier this year after the lady was claiming she is not after a man's money. So I deliberately reduced how much I spent while making sure nothing else changed. I still called regularly, stayed emotionally available and continued showing genuine affection. The only thing I reduced was the money.

The result shocked me. Almost immediately I was accused of no longer caring, no longer trying and no longer loving her like before. Nothing about my character had changed. My attention had not reduced. My commitment remained exactly the same. The only thing that changed was my spending, yet that alone completely changed how I was treated. That experiment taught me one lesson no relationship expert ever could.

My Overall Reflection

Before anyone misunderstands this post, let me make something very clear. I am not saying every woman behaves this way because that would be dishonest and unfair. These are not all the ladies i have been in a relationship with but this is a result of majority of those i have been with. I know there are loyal, supportive and emotionally mature women who genuinely stand beside their partners during difficult seasons.

My concern is that I have personally experienced this pattern repeatedly as well as others, and many men quietly carry similar stories without ever talking about them. Society constantly reminds men that their value lies in what they provide, while very few people ever stop to ask what emotional support men receive in return.

A man is expected to provide, protect, remain emotionally strong, solve problems and carry responsibilities without complaining. The moment he experiences financial difficulty, many people begin questioning his worth instead of asking whether he is mentally exhausted, overwhelmed or silently struggling with responsibilities nobody else can see.

Money is important. Bills are real. Responsibilities cannot be ignored. Every serious relationship requires financial responsibility from both partners.

Genuine love, however, should never disappear simply because someone enters a difficult season. Every human being will eventually experience moments when life does not go according to plan. Character is not revealed during comfort. Character is revealed when circumstances become uncomfortable.

Today I no longer judge relationships by sweet words, romantic promises or social media displays. I pay attention to how people behave when there is nothing material left to gain because hardship exposes intentions that comfort successfully hides.

My biggest lesson is one I will carry for the rest of my life.

Money can attract attention.
Money can attract admiration.
Money can even attract temporary affection.
Money cannot buy genuine loyalty.

If someone's love expires the same day your money stops flowing, then perhaps what you had was never really love.

It was simply a transaction wearing the mask of a relationship.

So let me leave you with one honest question.

If you lost everything tomorrow, would your partner still choose you, or would they quietly begin searching for someone with a healthier bank account?

Yes.this is very correct
They also use water to bath, eat food and they probably might have experienced heartbreak too at some point in their life

Anything else?

What do you think are his fears on why he asked you to get pregnant for him first before marriage?
Start from there, and remember you'll have to make the choice between what's easy and what's right. You have to be wise if you want to be a good lover: foolish lovers get hurt and then they end up thinking that there's no point of loving, because it only makes them hurt. But because aeroplane have accidents doesn't mean we shouldn't improve it efficiency and fly again.

Secondly, think for yourself. It's okay for religion to try to set us on the right path, but everything isn't always black and white.
If you want religion to think for you, you must be selfish enough to align it to WHO you truly are— not what society or school tells you that you are

Those who try to stop an addiction like porn or drinking face resistance because they think "porn/ drinking is bad because the bible says so", but the Bible/ quaran says is different from "I believe", and that's why most return to that porn or bottle

To overcome the resistance, they have to be selfish enough, for their sake, to grow from "I want t stop this addiction because the Bible says it's bad" to "I want to stop this addiction because it takes my precious time from my family and friends and other potential connections and also it cost me my hard earned money that i could use to take care of myself, my projects or my loved one"

The secret was in their selfishness to put themselves first. And if it aligns with religion, then fine. If it doesn't, there's always a choice

Anfield247:
Hello my fellow nairalanders, My name is Sonia, I hail from rivers state. I'm a professional hairstylist. I am sharing this post to reflect on the current State of my relationship. I will greatly appreciate your contributions on this matter.
My relationship is 8 years now. My man is doing very well. He is a single father of an 18years old girl child that lives in Germany with his elder sister. He is also based in Nigeria.
I'm not going to lie, he has been taking good care of me. Everything is fine between us.
But just as they say, there's is no man on earth without a problem.
Here's the problem, my man is insisting that I must get pregnant for him before he can marry me. I have tried to convince him that it is against our tradition and also against Christianity for one to get pregnant before marriage. For the past three years, that is what he has been saying
I'm so confused, what should I do now. I really need your advice

Lol
I suspected that something was fishy with the kidnappings
Using lives to play politics.

This is the reason I strongly believe in reincarnation: one can't be forgiven without justice. Forgiveness is not justice
https://www.nairaland.com/8698030/reincarnation-true-born-again-mercy

https://www.nairaland.com/8671540/justice-not-forgiveness-dont-turn

"Father, I'm sorry for all my sins" and boom! I'm new creation who doesn't have to account for my past. The blood of an innocent murdered man has washed it away

Dogalmighty17:
This may just be a coincidence. But isn't it strange that the day it was officially verified who the co-flagbearer of the APC presidential ticket in 2027 will be, the kidnapped school kids in Oyo were released?

Just a thought. Were the people behind the kidnapping trying to force the presidents hand? Was politics behind all this? The suffering of those kids? The killing of their teachers? Was the insinuation that the president may drop his vice a trigger for the kidnapping?

I'm pretty sure this is all a coincidence though. Special thanks to the president and indeed all the security agencies who worked for the release of those children. I pray such an incident never happens again.

This happens because NYSC isn't optional. We're forced into it with threats of lack of better jobs without the certificate

https://www.nairaland.com/8555582/nysc-reform-suggestions

Lol
When they begin to share blueprints to energy systems independent of crude oil

Whoever created the aeroplane must have seen it fly in their mind before it became an actual reality.

When you have the money to buy a red bike that you've been obsessing over for a while, you'll likely begin to notice red bikes on the street

https://www.nairaland.com/8686171/seek-shall-find-seeker-sought

I'm not here to argue with you, but to brjng insight to your awareness. It's not even my job to make you accept those insights but yours.
Suffering is relative and it's not necessary to give snakes human legs

Dtruthspeaker:
Yep! All beliefs are based on seeing. You believe a plane can fly because you SAW it fly, if not there is no way you can believe that metal will stay up in the air.

Alright. I admit I digressed, just at a point
It's in bracket in number 2.
The rest of my points dovetail nicely.

Regarding your submission, what you believe is what you'll see

Dtruthspeaker:
This is off point plus, reality does not really support those views and I know you are not rich so you are speaking from speculation if not you would have known that places like lekki 1 & 2 developed because the rich did not like that more people joined them in VGC and V/I's Maroko.

So, the rich don't like company as you deprive them of the joy of looking down at others and making them feel poor.

Hmmm
Their format shares a strong similarity to my experience
https://www.nairaland.com/8701849/job-hunting-experience-growthhub-meritsphere

Popular people can be a beacon of misinformation
https://www.nairaland.com/8385011/popular-people-could-beacon-misinformation#134779914

When one climb that height, one is likely begin to be scared of those who are below, still climbing. So the one at the top likely self sabotage themselves, due to fear of being the subject of envy from those below, hence making them lonely.

There are categories of people, ego-wise:

1) Those who can give love but are scared to do so because of the fear of not being appreciated enough for the love they give.
They have a strong sense of transactional love
They're also scared of being the center of envy from their poor friends, so they try to downplay their achievements (They'll but a nice car and tell you that the shock absorber/brake pad is faulty )
Most rich people are here

2) Those who can receive love but fear that by doing so will make them weak and vulnerable to be hurt, again . Most old and poor people are here, especially those who have experienced heartbreak or betrayal.
They make themselves invulnerable to love so the result is that they're unlovable. How can you love what or who you don't know?

(Also why I argue that the ways of God can be known by man, and why I reject the "the ways of God cannot be known). It's man's destiny to know the ways of God, especially what they can use to grow)
If you don't know God, by limiting yourself to the edited Bible, how can you even love him?
Most Christian are scared of him, hence the "God-fearing tag they use and not "God-loving" tag

3) The Vain: Those who haven't grown to recognize what love is. Their sense of judgement is also flawed.
Both the rich and poor share this cake

I've written about this here: https://www.nairaland.com/8703930/ego-phases-ego-simplified

Dtruthspeaker:
Success does not have any company. People hate successful people that is why Xhibit said "its too crowded at the bottom and too lonely at the top"

Misery loves company, same as success

grandsuccess:
This is WISDOM speaking.

A supporting post:
Don't Try To Change People; Accept Them For Who They Are and who they're not

https://www.nairaland.com/8577305/dont-try-change-people-accept#137730605

Yes. Accept people for who they are and who they're not.

Goats eats grass. If you give them meat and they refuse it, it doesn't mean your meat has spoilt or the goat is disrespectful or being ungrateful to your providence.
It just means that goats are living true to their nature: grass lover

https://www.nairaland.com/8661877/build-dream-woman-heres-some

https://www.nairaland.com/8656859/pain-feel-lives-effortless-effort

A simplification of the ego phases

Wow. I'm soo soo happy it helped you.

That was the reason why I wrote this post as detailed as I could, so that people can know the truth to inspire their choice: to attend to it or not to

Jayjay1024:
Thank you for this post !! , you have just saved me from wasting my time , effort and money .

I got the same mail from them too , just the same way it was stated in your mail. I am glad I researched up to this point.