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Also give them the freedom to make their choices when that time comes.
https://www.nairaland.com/8598916/chimamanda-adichie-case-choiceless-children#138129653

Most incompetent leaders today were choiceless children yesterday, joining professions because "my daddy is a lawyer and so are my siblings. It'll feel odd if I don't study law too"
Sometimes these manipulations sr subtle, other times, they're direct. How many children can get support from their parent if they say they'd love to become carpenters or dancers?

Yes.

1) Burial party is a mockery of the dead. Let the living celebrate the living; let the dead bury the dead. The dead aren't limited to those below 6ft. Those above 6ft can be considered dead when they don't think and make choices for themselves. They're 'spiritual cripples'

Celebrate the living while they're living- don't try to make up for lost time or offload guilt in your chest by investing money in burial parties.

2) A fool and his money part ways. Suffering is necessary because it should sensitize us not to want to suffer again. If we suffer and don't learn from our suffering, we waste it

This post has been moved to another section, but you can read about it through this link
https://www.nairaland.com/8698294/reincarnation-true-born-again-mercy#139832235

"The government wants to prove that the reintegration programme is working, so some of these ‘repentant’ Boko Haram members are being attached to security groups that work with troops in operations,” one soldier told SaharaReporters."

Reincarnation also exist as a mercy and justice because the one who plants has to be the one who harvest.
A mercy in the sense that you wouldn't want to be separated from the fruits of your labor, especially when you're sure of a good harvest-- now that'd be so unfair to you and it's justice in the sense that those who plant seeds of hate, killings and disunity, amongst other similar seeds, will be made to come back to experience first hands the consequences of their actions-- what they made others go through.

A man cannot be separated from he consequences of his actions, because if that can happen, it means you, even if innocent, could receive the sentence of a guilty man. Even here on earth, with mans failable justice system, that'd be unfair, talkless of the spiritual system of justice which is perfect

Man is not the center of the universe. This is a lie that man, in his vanity and arrogance to feel important, needed and unquestioned, created and propagated. Those, especially, who have suffered sleep paralysis know that there are 'others' too, and these others would have a 'community' or 'plane' which man would never know about because man hasn't begun to acknowledge yet, and doing so would crack the very foundations of our "alpha" status, and shed light unto the reason why God would send his son to die for only the sins of man, when there are other creations too? Who did he send to "redeem the sins" of those other creations or is man only worthy of redemption through the block of an innocent murdered man?

Now that you've beginning to see that man isn't the center of of the universe, you can also begin to understand that this planet earth is not as important as many other planets, both recorded and unrecorded in the galaxy.
This also hints to an observant reader that the process of reincarnation isn't limited to earth alone, in the sense that one can't keep reincarnating to earth if need not be, because earth isn't the only planet mighty and worth reincarnating to. A pregnant woman needs a maternity ward. If she has delivered, what's the need of her being in the maternity ward 'after' her delivery?

One can mature past earth and rise to other planes!

Blessed are those who thirst, for they shall be filled.
All the fears you have about who will inherit your property long after you're gone will be the least of your problems, if ever, in the after life. The only property you take to the grave is literally the ground you're buried. lol. And that's if you're even buried and not incinerated. So why attach your identity to immaterial needlessness?

As I've said in an earlier post of mine, Truth inspires choice, in the sense that if you know that you for a fact that you cannot be separated from the consequences of your actions and you'll be made to return to experience what you made others go through, wouldn't it be the right time to start planting a positive experience that you'd be sure to harvest later?
Wouldn't it be the right time to discard religions that promise you absolution for your sins through the blood of a gruesomely murdered man, hence stripping you of any form of accountability for your actions?

To be forewarned, is to be forearmed.

Question:
But If I was a good person in my past life, how will I remember so I can continue doing good?

Answer: If you truly were a good person in your past Life, it'll reflect in your current life actions. You do not need to have a memory of your previous good deeds so you can continue doing good deeds
Same way it may feel easy and natural for one to help a beggar on the street is same way it is for others to rob beggars.

Same way you may treat a girl with respect and love is same way others hurt them.

The distinction between physical and spiritual currency is for physical currency, the more you spend, the less you have of it (spending $50 makes you $50 short) while for spiritual currency, the more you spend, the more you have of it:
Being confident in one situation today makes you more confident tomorrow.
Exercising empathy today, makes you more empathetic tomorrow and beyond

Question 2: But if I was Albert Einstein In my past life, how will I remember my equations and formula so I can keep helping humanity with my knowledge?

Answer:
You are not your knowledge. That's not self. Self is what remains in you when everything that can be taken away from you is taken away from you, because it eventually will.

You're not your knowledge, but you can be your ability to question false reality.

I'll go a step further to say that Nikola Tesla could be reborn, if possible, as a doctor that finds the cure for cancer. That's because Nikola Tesla, from what I've understood about the man, his self was his love for humanity. To give and make life better for everyone including himself without compromise. That's why he died poor, as reports state that he refused to monetize his wireless electricity, but instead choosed to make his invention free for everyone

Because he studied electricity and magnetism doesn't mean he'll reincarnate in this current life to continue doing so. It could happen doesn't mean it's always so.

The self of Nikola Tesla seems to be his love for humanity without compromise. One can prove their love for humanity in whatever field they find themselves in any life they're born

Credit: Vincent Guillem, Author, The Spiritual laws
Google Gemini, for helping me create ideal scenarios

Supporting posts:
https://www.nairaland.com/6327709/reincarnation-threads-fate-karma
https://www.nairaland.com/6690711/child-ever-said-something-shows

There are some things that cannot be long hidden, which includes but aren't limited to: The Sun, the moon, the belly of a pregnant woman and the Truth.
A river which naturally flows downhill because of the slope of the earth, will require great effort by any agent to reverse its flow uphill.

For centuries now, the church which invented Christianity after Jesus death has taught that being born again means "accepting the Lord as your personal savior in order to be redeemed", but the greatest crack to this teaching of redemption are questions like:

a) What happens to aborted babies who didn't develop enough to speak and accept Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior?

b) What about Muslim and Hinduist babies? Does that mean heaven is only populated with Christians!?

c) If Jesus came to die for my sins, why didn't he just commit suicide? Why did he wait to be murdered?
Doesn't that means that Jesus would have lived longer if he wasn't murdered?
What offense did the son of God commit for him to have been murdered so gruesomely, even so that the Bible has to be edited to "because he didn't defend himself from being hanged, that means he came to die for our sins or the sins of only the people who accept him into their lives."
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The Lifting of the Veil:

Day breaks, night falls, and day breaks once again
You inhale, exhale, and your lungs fill once more
Everything in existence is a circle. So why should your spirit via reincarnation [live>>die>> relive(born again)] be the exception?

"**The Mercy of Forgetfulness: Why Reincarnation wipes memory of your past life***

1) So that you can grow:
The Scenario: The Weight of the Veil

Imagine a man born into this world with a broken veil of forgetfulness. He remembers his past life perfectly—except he wasn’t a hero; he was a murderer.

He wakes up every day wanting to grow and choose the light. But he can’t. The moment he closes his eyes, he is deafened by the high-definition screams, agony, and terror of his past victims. The guilt isn't a teacher; it’s a paralyzing anchor.

Trapped in a waking nightmare, he becomes so entirely overwhelmed by the haunting memories of his past life that he commits suicide. In his desperation to escape, he commits the ultimate tragedy: he destroys the very body and privilege the Creator gave him to evolve.

The Insight: The Gift of the Blank Page
This is why the memory wipe exists.

The Creator knows that if you force a soul to carry the heavy iron chains of its past atrocities, it cannot learn to walk; it can only drown.

The memory wipe is not a punishment—it is the ultimate act of divine mercy. The Creator holds the ledger of your past so you don't have to, granting you a completely clean slate so you can start afresh, unburdened by the screams of yesterday. If In this present life, you came into the world you remembered from your past life that you were a rapist or murderer in your past life and you seek to grow, how would that be possible when the memory (cries, anguish, agony) of your victims haunts you. Some would be so overwhelmed with memories of their past life that they'd commit suicide hence sinning against the creator by misusing the privilege granted by the creator.

You had to be given a clean slate by the creator in order to start afresh.

2) So that others can grow:

If in this current life, you recognize the person in your past life who raped your wife and teenage daughter and made you watch only to kill you afterwards, would you be willing to let go and forgive the person without taking revenge?

If you could see Buhari reincarnated as a child almajiri begging you for alms, would you give that child your money, knowing fully well who that child was and what he did as a president of the country you once resided?

If in this current life, you could remember the face of the Jihadist who raped your infant daughter to death, would you look at the face of that Jihadist and not be overtaken by your emotions?

Do you know that by taking revenge and killing such a person, you have stopped their growth process on earth.
Hence the reason for the memory wipe that comes with most reincarnation.

Some people are naturally vindictive and they find it hard to let go of the wrongs others do to them, even the wrongs they do to themselves. If they find it hard to forgive themselves, just how hard do you think it'd be for them to forgive others

Love your neighbor as yourself could also be interpreted as you only love your neighbor to the extent at which you love yourself.

And this is the reason why some inventions will be out of the reach of some of us.

Technology isn't our problem. Innovation is not the problem of Nigerians. It's the way we use these technologies. Our consciousness hasn't evolved to be able to exist with some sophisticated inventions.

Imagine there was a force in creation that strikes people dead when they're cursed...
That's how this man would have killed his own children. All because of what?

Sometimes I question the Patent Secrecy Act that hides hundreds of mind blowing inventions that could possibly make earth an utopia, but reading news like this, I just think that some of us aren't ready for that utopia

Hi, Heakseeker.
I'm really wowed by your effort to connect me to a job.
To be quite open with you, I've taken myself off a potential job offer that could give me a decent 6 figure salary + some benefits, all because the job didn't seem like something I believe in
It wasn't the easiest of decision for me to make and looking back, I just sigh and move forward, because I know I'd only be depressed working there. I'll be sad, but with a fat bank account. Lol

To put it in understandable terms, I don't believe in wars and the killings and waste that comes with it. If I'm given a job of 2 million naira monthly to supervise a bomb factory, I'll respectfully decline.
I hope with this example, you can understand what I'm hinting at

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Hi, Heatseeker.
Unfortunately I don't meet the location requirement.

Thank you for remembering me still

HeatSeeker:
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This might be for you.

Give what you can afford to lose. Giving more than you can affirm to lose CREATES expectations which then lead to attachments and unnecessary suffering

Rules are meant to be flexible: it's not one size that fits all. Freedom comes with its limitations
Too much rule following= Robotic nature (Slavery)
Too much rule breaking= Chaotic environment
The ability to discern and be flexible is key as humans
Following speed limit is necessary for a healthy road journey. But you don't expect me to follow the normal speed limit when I'm carrying a woman heavily in labor in my vehicle.

Some men have sponsored women education and it has worked for both them and them women. Don't bring a curse upon yourself by misleading people with your false teachings

Rapmoney:
Sponsoring a woman you are not married to in school has never been an investment. Instead, it is an act of foolishness. It is better you use such money to buy small goats, fowls, rabbits, or cassava stems and start farming.

Below are some of the reasons why you should not sponsor the education of any girl if she is not your wife.

1. Sponsoring a girl is the responsibility of her father and family, and not yours. Ogbeni, stop carrying load wey nor be your own. Your back go break. If men are to sponsor girls that they intend marrying, then what is the essence of bride price?

2. Our higher institutions are filled with so much immorality today. What makes you think that the girl you are spending hundreds of thousands on, buying books, paying tuition fees, and paying hostel fee for is not sleeping with her departmental guys for free? Dey play.

3. There is no guarantee that she will marry when she graduates. She would probably have more options due to exposure. So you think she will marry you as a vulcanizer catering for her education when she has met various guys in school? Even young handsome guys studying Medicine or Law?

4. Education is a legacy. It is better to buy an iPhone for a girl who will leave you than to give education to a girl who will do same. Phones are man-made. They will get spoilt eventually, but you see education, it is for a lifetime. So why give a legacy to someone who will later dispose you like a used tissue?

If you cannot invest your money in a business or trade, use it to educate yourself or learn skills.

Use your brain make you nor go cry nwii for Nnewi.

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First, you can't truly know the full story. You just know what you're told and we can make informed speculations on that

Human Lives are sacred, and if killings can solve problems permanently, then Igbos would have learnt from the bloodshed of BIAFRA. People don't learn by force because force= Violation of freewill and violation of freewill= Person isn't free= Person is a slave, and If humans were created to be slave, why do we always tend to fight against slavery?

Forgiveness is not justice. There's a time when to turn the other cheek and a time when not to
https://www.nairaland.com/8671540/justice-not-forgiveness-dont-turn

If you as a person who believe in the value of human lives was given a gun to shoot a pregnant woman or be shot dead, does that mean you consented to your death by refusing to shoot that pregnant woman?

By standing for what one believes in, does that mean that such a person is foolish or a coward or 'not a man'

Secondly, democracy is a lie, especially with our current level of vain consciousness.
https://www.nairaland.com/8555039/biafra-osu-lies-democracy-continuation

Look at the comment section of this post and similar posts like this and you'll find agents of Lucifer here. Sadly enough, some of these people don't know who they're working for, and this is why I argue that envangelism is being done wrongly by Christians

Lucifer hasn't done a Facebook or WhatsApp advert for people to come join his army and spread the darkness, so how come people are here in the comments section supporting the killings being done to people like them?!
How is this darkness spreading exact without any form of advertising? Lol
https://www.nairaland.com/8542807/error-conventional-envangelism#137175894

Consumerism is the perfection of slavery

When products are being built to not last just so bullshit and destiny displacing jobs can be created for continued consumerism.

Screen guards are not necessary if screens with hemp materials like the one the late Henry Ford discovered are being used.
Now, as ugly as this might sound, those who work in screen production factories are being displaced from their destiny here on earth.

Screen guards was invented because the quality of phone screen have been sabotaged!
Most of the works in offices you see around or where you even work aren't needed or necessary. On the surface, you'll think they serve a purpose, but look closely and simplify things, then you'll begin to see

The creation of pure water and bottle water is because water supply was sabotaged.
Sure, pure water/bottle water factory creates jobs for families and put people to work, but at what cost? People waking up in the morning to go to an abnormality which society doesn't need, and this is because we have been trained to see suffering as Hardwork and "Hardworking people= good people" and "Non hardworking people= Bad people"

Look around you. Most political offices aren't necessary. It's the disunity of the masses that leads to the creation of Political offices to cater for this disunity. Everyone knows the right thing to do that will work for everyone, but selfishness and greed created politicians that'll represent these vices

Hardwork is necessary, but continued hardwork isn't
Suffering is not hardwork
https://www.nairaland.com/8603403/moral-continued-hardwork-morality-slaves

"This means preventive maintenance schedules, dedicated facility management teams, annual maintenance budgets, technology-driven monitoring systems, and strict accountability for misuse or vandalism"
Now jobs have been created. Most of the jobs aren't necessary.
Unemployment is a good thing. Humanity should create jobs that will gear towards unemployment, because some jobs aren't just necessary. We shouldn't have to work in order to get food or electricity. Nigerian do not have a technology or innovation problem. We have a philosophy problem

It may sound weird reading this at first, but give it time. It'll surely age well
I wish I could type more...it's all just depressing seeing people with potential to achieve utopia still struggling to rescue children from organised kidnaps and "I was debited last year and I still haven't received my money"

How low have we sunk!

Josepholome:
The New NRS Headquarters: More Than a Building, A Test of National Discipline

I have ebooks on Amazon and you'll find the link to these eBook in my signature too, but there's a difference between "Best Writer" and "Best Seller"

I don't know if the title or the look of my ebook is not enough to warrant sales

[quote author= post=139763353]You will do well in blogging, educational writing, ebook selling on amazon, freelance article writer, content creator and so on. Research on these opportunities, there are freelancing platforms you can easily get jobs on.[/quote]

Hi, Pinkygurl. Thank you for the job links. I just applied for the internship role at Ray Oil and Gas.

Before now, I applied to Dangote refineries and have even written the first assessment. I was so sure I performed well in that assessment that i didn't receive the link to continue with the second assessment.
I know some people who have written the second assessment. I really don't know what's going on

pinkygurl:
https://jobdockets.com/jobs/fresh-graduate-assistant-intern-job-at-ray-oil-and-gas-lagos-apply-today-5261

Check ✔️ out. Applications Still opened for this one

Learn to give what we can afford to lose. This mitigates attachments to the future or to outcomes

If you have #1000 and what you can comfortably give is #20 naira, do so. Don't let society stigmatise you for the amount.

If you have #1000 and you're compelled or coerced to give more than what you can afford to lose, you begin to hear things from yourself like "after all that I've done for you"

Give what you can afford to lose (unconditional love) and with time/ situations, learn to increase your capacity for giving

Secondly, being vulnerable isn't weakness, especially when you're vulnerable to the right people. It takes wisdom to discern the right people to be vulnerable to, and this means that it requires wisdom to love or to be a good lover.

You cannot do it alone. You think getting all your needs met alone is a superpower that makes you belong to an extremely elite class of self sufficient people, but in fact you have no idea what you in store for you.
But then again, this feels challenging and you happen to so love challenges and the suffering that comes with it, because you think suffering is hardwork, so you tell yourself "I've done it before, and I can do it again"
And the loop of being the most invulnerable person continues

I happen to know what's in your head right. Lol. How did I happen to know some of your thought process?

1) A patient cured is a customer lost it's a business that thrives on repetition. MTN could decide to make data not to expire unless you exhaust it.
But no! You hear things like 'monthly plan' so as to justify taking your money, even when you didn't spend your money to exhaustion. Remember, recharge card is money. #1000 MTN or Airtel call card/data is still One thousand naira! Clement Isong and Co are still there
You don't notice that your call card/data is money because it was purposely made invisible, same way casinos use chips instead of cash, so as to make gamblers spend more

I could list many industries practicing this model. You think the health industry is left out?

2) Cause and effects. If germs caused diseases, and germs are everywhere, then everyone should be sick.
What if Germs don't cause diseases, same way mosquitoes don't cause still waters?
Mosquitoes go to still waters. Mosquitoes don't cause still waters

What if Germs only go to diseased tissues. What if the health industry spun a lie to take accountability from sick humans who wouldn't want to be accountable for their lifestyle, but are willing to blame germs for their falling sick.
Just what if?

3) Sometimes, knowing doesn't mean acting. People know about HIV yet these same people still have unprotected sex. You can know but without the will to act, nothing happens. The will to act is mostly buried in conviction and suffering. That's why I argue that suffering is relative. Your suffering could be my enjoyment. Why attempt to give snakes legs?

The health industry can warn as they can,but they know most won't follow these warnings because stopping a habit is quite harder that beginning a new one. So when we humans falter, the health industry is the to absorb us in our imperfections by selling the drugs we think we need and not the solution to our problem

Hi, Heatseeker

My skillset include mostly soft skills like effective communication, problem-solving, teamwork, time management, and adaptability. These aren't just wordings...I'm quite good at all what I mentioned and more. Words aren't enough sometimes.

I know my way around Google docs (Android version) because I utilized it to create my 2 e-books, while i began learning Excel 2 weeks ago.
I'll confess that my motivation for learning Excel isn't all there, and I feel it's so because I haven't had a realistic case scenario to apply my learnings to.
I believe my being in an environment that warrants its continuous use should motivate me enough to learn in order to ensure my continued stay in that environment. Kindly refer to my No 4 above

Specifically pinpointing the job I want could limit me, that was why I was broad in my preferences in this post.
But I'll say this: I seek to reduce human suffering, because most of the time, the suffering isn't necessary. If it has served its purpose, it should be let go, and there should be means for that to happen. I seek to create that means

I target working in sectors that humans can't really live without, so I can see how I can improve these sectors in my own little way.
I'm talking banks, energy sector, Administration (social, Humanitarian, NGOs)

If I'm to be of use to humanity, I seek to be where I can be around as many humans as possible, and It wouldn't seem wise to walk up to thousands. They'll come to me because I'll place myself where they'll see me. I call this 'effortless effort'

HeatSeeker:
You didn't specify the kind of job you want. It would be easier to help you if you plainly stated what you want (and also your skill set).

Hello. My name is Christian.

Before I begin this post, I feel it wise to outline these details about myself as your potential employee:

1) I don't believe in continued hardwork for hardwork sake. I believe hardwork should lead to smart work and more smarter work, so as to create time for other aspects of my life that demands my attention.

2) I don't believe suffering is hardwork.
If my grandfather was made to look hardworking/busy while chopping firewood and I'm made to look lazy because I now use a gas cooker, then so be it.
I don't just want to work so as to look busy/hardworking or to clock attendance and receive a monthly paycheck. I seek something fulfilling and impactful that is likely to reduce human suffering. Achieving this will make me die happy.

3) I take time to understand new concepts thoroughly, and once I do, I apply them confidently

Alright, now that that's out of the way
I'm a second class upper Petroleum and Gas Engineer graduate from Nigeria Maritime University, Delta who recently acquired his NYSC completion certificate in April this year

Although I studied a high end course, and it might scare off some employers because it might give them the impression that I'm 'strictly' high-end, I'm not. I'm high-end, but not strictly.

I do not limit myself to the oil sector, as you'll see that in my pastime/ profile posts here on nairaland that I'm an original content writer whose contents seeks to deconstruct human mechanics, ego dynamics, and psychological conditioning. The evidence of this is all over my nairaland topics/posts and my 2 self published e-books so far—whose contents are parallel to what I studied in the university.

The course of authoring my ebooks has exposed me to the use of document editing applications like Google docs and AI engine like Gemini for my research summary and structuring. Also, j believe with the application of technology (AI), I can learn what's necessary and needed for any job assigned to me, in line with the role I apply for.

It takes humility and the conviction that there's no ceiling to growth or personal development, to learn, and I also believe that it requires an absence of arrogance to offer my advice or opinions without feeling superior. I believe I'm grooming these virtues in me.

I'm in my mid 20s, a team-player, currently not employed, residing in Lagos (Shuffling Shangisha Magodo and Iju-ishaga) and you can reach out to me via nairaland DM or a suggested method you feel comfortable with.

I'm actively seeking entry-level opportunities where I can contribute, learn, and grow. If you know of any openings or can provide a referral, I'd greatly appreciate it.

Also, I'm an original content writer whose contents seeks to deconstruct human mechanics, ego dynamics, and psychological conditioning. The evidence of this is all over my nairaland topics

Thank you


Cc: phrances17

Thank you
I'm glad you found it so

BodePolScience:
Well profound and insightful.

The seeker is the sought. You only see what you look for
https://www.nairaland.com/8591634/what-wanted-ask-it-shall

Philosopher1979:
Humans were built to excessive their intellect. We were created with large brains that need to analyze something. This is why God gave Adam work to take care of Eden. If you give somebody 1 million dollars everyday and stopped him or her from using his brain for anything, such a person will commit suicide. I mean life without work is hell. This is why rich people's children are not happy.
Secondly there are still a lot of things in maths, science, art, social science etc that have not being discovered. Machines alone cannot do it. Humans need to do it. All machines can do is help.
Lastly not using yiur mind cam make someone run mad. I mean loosing one's mind is often used as a term for insanity.

Hi. I like your train of thought
I believe you'll find this read inspiring

https://www.nairaland.com/8681734/tech-bros-girls-nigeria-failing

https://www.nairaland.com/8603403/moral-continued-hardwork-morality-slaves

https://www.nairaland.com/8591634/what-wanted-ask-it-shall#137991453

BodePolScience:
The knowledge from these courses may be important, inspiring and uplifting but they should be studied outside the 4 walls of a university; and these should be studied only by those who automatically just have passion and interest in them.

You did not read this writeup to understand. You only read to compare notes. Kindly read again

Dtruthspeaker:
Your basis is wrong!

It is not the only option.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” — Martin Luther King.

Yes, forgiveness is not always just is however it is just is, in many other circumstances eg When the person being forgiven has himself also forgiven another. That is just is being served

Time doesn't really exist. Understand when to submit to time and when not to

https://www.nairaland.com/8572877/illusion-time-when-submit-time

Toolegit123:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Of late,my fiancee and I broke up and I've been considering about going into a new relationship. I must really say all the time I was with my ex,I was so commitment to her to the extent that I didn't even have time for any other woman. She knew that and Peru that must be one of my weaknesses she saw.

But the truth is that it's been over a month we ended the relationship and I really long to go into another's relationship as an escape route for me to stop thinking about my ex.

So,my questions to you my fellow Nairalanders,how long should a man wait before going into another relationship after a break up? Is it right to find love as soon as possible considering the fact that the it was my ex who ended the relationship for reasons only known to her?

Other examples of battling violence with violence:

1) If a big company tries to sue a small business owner into bankruptcy to steal their idea, the owner shouldn't just send a polite email asking them to stop. The owner "takes the gloves off" by hiring the best lawyer possible to countersue for twice the amount. They are matching the "violence" of the lawsuit with a "violence" of their own in court to ensure the bully never tries it again.


2) The "Ambassador" vs. The "Army"

Jesus is described here as an Ambassador of Love. An ambassador’s job is to represent a higher kingdom, even if they are mistreated.

Practical Example: Imagine a Peace Negotiator sent to a war zone. If a soldier on the front lines spits on the negotiator, the negotiator doesn't pull out a gun and start shooting. Why? Because their mission is peace. If they start shooting, they become just another soldier, and the "Peace Mission" dies.

The Application: Jesus allowed the murder not because he was weak, but because his "Mission" was to prove that there is a power (Love) that even death cannot destroy. He stayed out of the "gutter" to keep the Mission pure.

3) The "Poisoned Well" (Breaking the Spell)

Practical Example: Imagine your neighbor is upstream from you and is dumping poison into the stream that feeds your cattle.

Passive Approach: You pray that your cattle don't die, or you "forgive" the neighbor while your cows continue to drink the poison.

The "Violence" Approach: You march upstream and build a massive stone dam to block the poison, or you legally force the neighbor to stop.

The Lesson: You aren't being "mean" to the neighbor; you are breaking the mechanism of destruction. In spiritual terms, if someone has placed a "spell" (a cycle of bad luck or depression) on you, "turning the cheek" won't stop the poison. You must "break" the connection with the same intensity it was sent

4) The "Legal Mercy" Scenario

The Problem: An employee or a relative has stolen a large sum of money from you.

Applying Love (The Personal Heart): You do not wish for them to starve or for their children to suffer. You don't call them names or try to ruin their reputation out of spite.

Applying Justice (The Holy Spirit Tool): You still file a police report or a lawsuit. Why? Because the "Universe of Justice" requires that the "leak" be plugged. If you don't hold them accountable, they will steal from the next person.

The Balance: You tell them, "I forgive you personally, but the law must take its course to restore what was taken." You have protected your "estate" without descending into the "gutter" of hatred.

5) The "Forceful Boundary" Scenario

The Problem: A toxic family member is constantly verbally abusing you, making you feel suicidal or deeply depressed.

Applying Love: You understand they may have had a hard childhood. You don't "hit back" by insulting them or bringing up their past failures.

Applying Justice: You cut off communication entirely. You block their number and refuse to attend events where they are present.

The Balance: If they ask why, you state it clearly: "I love you, but I will not permit you to destroy the life the Creator gave me." This is "battling violence with violence"—you are using the violence of a total boundary to stop their violence of abuse.

Credit: Google's Gemini for creating these scenarios

2)https://www.nairaland.com/6437452/battle-violence-violence#99482905

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That's because forgiveness is not justice.

Christian all over the world and even non Christians seem to mix this up.

I've explained this in a post here in nairaland
https://www.nairaland.com/8671540/justice-not-forgiveness-dont-turn

Angeloftruth85:
The last time i checked , God refused to forgive Satan

You're just as confused as the holy book called bible

Forgiveness is not justice. You'll pay for your sins and you cannot escape it.

None of you will ever forgive a person that cancels your name in your exam script, replaces it with theirs, and gets the mark meant for you.

Forgiveness is not justice. This was what was meant by "battle violence with violence"

If you keep turning the other cheek anytime you're hurt, your death would be suicide because you killed yourself due to willful ignorance. If angels were turning the other cheek anytime demons attack them, you think these angels won't have been extinct by now

I've written about this concept here on nairaland
https://www.nairaland.com/8671540/justice-not-forgiveness-dont-turn