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Suffering isn't hardwork. Most of what we put ourselves through, in quest for life's purpose aren't really necessary, you know. Life's meant to be soft .
One of the best ways to be focused is to know what not to focused on.

Even Our Lord's prayer, which Jesus taught us as the right way to pray to our Father, and not all these gibberish being said these days said "And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil..."
This means putting ourselves through temptations or staying in temptation, as a means to overcome it and prove how strong we are morally, isn't really necessary.

I'll tell you a personal story that made me realize something profound.

I had a plate of beans in my presence. I wasn't hungry at that time, but the beans looked pleasing to my eyes and the thought of devouring it came to mind. I told myself I'll overcome this temptation to eat this plate of beans so I can prove how strong my freewill over temptation is.

But then it was proving quite difficult as I was distracted from an activity I thought would steal my focus from that plate of delicious beans.

You want to know what I later did: I took the beans far away from me in the room, and I covered it with a pot cover. It was far from my sight. I didn't have to see it anymore and in time, the temptation to eat that beans slowly reduced till it was non-existent, until I became hungry.

At that point, something clicked in me. I understood why Joseph ran away from portiphar's wife, instead of preaching to her how wrong it was for a married woman to seduce her boss servant.
I also understood that part in Our Lord's prayer, "and lead us not into temptation...."
as the nairalander, helpyourself, had written in one of his posts
https://www.nairaland.com/6425606/morning-star-lucifer#99267400

There's a lot I could pour concerning this topic. I'm just limited by the structure to contain my outpouring into.

The purpose behind the creation of humanity, as I've come to learn, WAS to grow.
Pay careful attention to the "WAS"

But 'growth' is a broad word.
How would I define it then?

Growth, for we humans, is to evolve over our instinct and Lucifer's temptation principle, using freewill, whilst becoming better at our craft.

From your username, it appears to me that you're a Muslim, and I wish I could explain the Christian's concept of Lucifer's fall, even though I'm not affiliated to any religion.

The friction or void we feel in our lives isn't necessary because we're doing what we don't like. It also comes when we're NOT doing the things we should be doing.

As a child, most likely of us likely played with our little toys. But as we grow, the need to play with toys drop and we quest for something else: possession. Then as we grow old, most of us begin to value the presence of genuine companionship.
So you see that our preference change as we grow physically. But here's the twist: What made us think our preference doesn't also change when we grow spiritually?
That right there is the friction we feel in our lives as humans: We as adults are still playing with toys, in the spiritual sense.

Might i refer you to Vincent Guillem Free PDF, The spiritual laws, where he categorizes spirits into Vain, Proud and Arrogance. You might be surprised, like I was when you learn the real definition of pride, amongst others. An understanding I gained when I fed the text of the PDF into Google's AI, Gemini, while seeking understanding

I believe I've written something about this in some of my topics here on nairaland. Here's a link to one
https://www.nairaland.com/8605838/love-also-being-vulnerable

Hamzaay:
I have always imagined these in my mind, especially the leisure paradox but I don't really know how to put it. It really interesting you had the time to make research and come with this. I was locked in this paradox. I was a freelance graphic designer making over $500 a week from freelancing. However, I was busy, I found a purpose. At some point I started rejecting job offers just because it was too much work load.


After a while, I go people working with me. I outsourced over 80% of my job and earned more. I still found purpose. But everything lost it meaning when I started outsourcing 100% of my jobs. Now I got people who would do it better than I could. I charged more for a top-notch delivery. Although After some .months I lost purpose. It felt like I was wasting my time. I felt wasteful, not productive and at some point depressed.


The human mind is not fighting to die poor but to keep this euphoria of being hardworking while you hope to break the threshold of poverty.

A private school teacher that earned less than the minimum wage let say 30k feels he is hardworking. But in the real sense, he is too busy working and not thinking how to earn more because at some point he is busy and not a lazy man.

A complementary post:
https://www.nairaland.com/8577305/dont-try-change-people-accept#137730605

If unconditional love means expressing love to others or to yourself, without expecting anything in return, THEN the best set of people to practice your unconditional love of giving are towards stingy people or people who find it difficult to say a "thank you" to you for the help you rendered to them.

The insight that i've learnt of recent is that the joy on the face of a person you've helped should be enough reward for you.

The best set of people to express your unconditional love of non-sexual attention to, especially as a man, are physically non-attractive ladies, or beautiful girls who are in very serious relationships with other men.

If you, as a man, can still love a physically attractive girl who is in a very serious relationship with another man, with no expectation of a thank-you-sex from her as a payment for the "unconditional love" you just expressed towards her, then that is your growth.

Little wonder why Jesus said, "love your enemies"
This is because our enemies are the people who can't reciprocate our love. Instead, they'd even repay us with hate
Jesus hinted that love shouldn't be seen as a deposit box, where you cash out naira Y just because you deposited naira Y. It takes a wise person to love and keep loving despite the hate being thrown at such a person for loving.

Once again, love isn't just an action word. It's also a quality word: the quality we apply while carrying out our actions. This means that saying a "Yes" to all request asked of us doesn't make us a loving person. We can also apply decency while saying a "No".

If my mother was diabetic, and she asked me to help her purchase sugar to drink her tea, I'll politely tell her a "No". This my action and the decency at which I carried it out also makes me a loving human being

The opposite of Happiness is Depression.

Happiness doesn't only come from doing happy activities. It surprisingly also comes when you stop the things that hurt you.

Do find the time to go through my topics and posts. I hope they offer helpful insights.

A rich man isn't he who have the most. It's he who needs the least
https://www.nairaland.com/8626659/want-things-money-buy-not#138609280

Unemployment should be a good thing which society should learn to celebrate, all things being equal.
We humans purposely sabotage the efficiency of machines so that we can give ourselves a purpose through the work created by the sabotaged machine inefficiency we caused.

Suffering is not hardwork. The morality of continued hardwork is the morality of slaves
I've understood this to a point and have written about it here
https://www.nairaland.com/8603403/moral-continued-hardwork-morality-slaves

Cc: Hamzaay

Hi.
With the insights from this post, it seems the giants created by God and the ones formed through the intercourse between the watchers and the daughters of men are quite different.

If so, was there ever a war or disagreement between these different breeds of giants?
Because from your post, it seems the offspring of the watchers were quite violent.

Secondly, you once wrote that Lucifer fell because he thought that God the creator was too merciful to his creation through reincarnation, amongst other forms of love he expressed to us, and this led Lucifer, together with fellow angels from the divine to create the temptation principle as we know it.
But then I'm surprised that this temptation principle seem to have made the watchers aware of the choice to have intercourse with the daughters of men.

The watchers are angels, while we're humans. Does Lucifer temptation principle affect just mortals like you and I, or could there be there more to it?

Also, this is me assuming that Lucifer's fall came first, before that of the watchers.

Saying "Yes" to a demand isn't only the way one can express love towards others or themselves.

One can also say "No" lovingly.

If I had a diabetic mother, and she asks me to help her purchase sugar, I'll lovingly tell her No.
My "No" reply doesn't mean I don't love her. Infact, it signifies that I actually do love her.

Love, as I'm beginning to learn, isn't just an action word. It's an adverb. The quality at which we express our actions.

Health Workers deserve health insurance too (BAO, EKSUTH silent cry for help)

I recently got discharged from a surgery carried out on me at EKSUTH, which as a corper that I currently am, is covered under NHIS.

During the short time I spent there (3 days at most), I realized that hospitals are a place of both despair and hope.

"Despair" in the sense that one's seemingly little case might turn out worse. Imagine being told as a young person, that one of your legs has to be cut off to save your life

and "Hope" in the sense that one is likely to leave a hospital in a better physical condition than when they were admitted

But the conditions behind a patient's level of hope and despair on their condition solely depends on the people treating them, which is where the nurses and doctors fall in.

While I don't know for a fact if the surgeons/doctors are covered under NHIS, I do know for a fact that the nurses aren't!
(and mind you, nurses aren't only female. Males can be nurses too)

This insight I gained in the most surprising of ways, by being called, in a playful manner by one of the nurses "all these NHIS people sef..."

The question that immediately followed was "aren't you covered under NHIS too?"

and the female nurse reply was, and I paraphrase, "If i fall sick today, I'll pay for it like everyone else. NHIS will not pay anything for me"
This nurse reply really cracked something in me. I felt my hurt, and hers

My thoughts then drifted to a conversation I overheard between two nurses where one of the nurse complained about suffering an upper respiratory tract infection. Then it dawned on me: The treatment for this nurse respiratory infection, which was likely contacted by being in a room filled with mostly sick people, wasn't covered under insurance. She has to pay from her pocket. All because of what? She wrongly risked her life by becoming a nurse dedicated to treating sick people?

Charity begins at home. Anything built on a weak foundation collapses in time. In my opinion, health workers deserve a special health insurance package that keeps them committed to their job of saving lives. If there's contempt towards patients under health insurance or a disunity between the health workers and the patient all because the health workers feels left out to fend for themselves, this could compromise the quality of health care services being rendered by the health workers. The human emotions get fickle sometimes.

A Big shout out to the Federal Government of Nigeria for creating a robust health insurance package for corpers. It really helped me a lot.

PS: Please dear readers, kindly like and share this post so that hopefully, it can get to the people who can implement a positive change towards the safety of EKSUTH health workers.

Yes. Balance is necessary.
Ask yourself "this action I'm about to perform, does it prevent people from knowing me, or does it protect me?"

One of the contributors of self growth is telling ourselves the truth, however sour the truth taste.

Some people buy a car or a new house and they choose not to let the emotion of their nice achievement flow out. They try to contain an emotion that's literally E-motion - energy in motion"

They repress the positive emotion and also the negative emotion, their highs and their lows. If this happens for long, it leads to an uncomfortable feeling in them that they just can't pinpoint.

Some men suffer heartbreak and they feel the tears rushing but they choose not to cry because 'men don't cry'
They've refused to express their emotions and it builds up in them leasing to negative consequences.

It's a lotttt to write here, but hopefully I'll do what I can. Some I've created threads/posts about, here on nairaland

Hndrrxxx:
well it’s not a bad thing in it’s entirety. You have to know how to balance it, know when to have pride and when not to so that’s another way to look at it

I think DNA tests should be automatic to newly delivered babies. If society can be rewired in such a way that there shouldn't be a need for payment for DNA tests.

Please, what do you mean? I'm really curious

BlackfireX:
I use to think crusaders were evil people till I study why they arose

A complimentary post:
https://www.nairaland.com/8547306/define-rich-man

I want to be in a place where people are contented with their possession and find dignity in the work of their hands, where need be, to buy the possession they seek, and not an expensive round the clock CCTV to protect myself from theft.

I want to be in a place where people recognize the value and beauty of human lives, and not necessarily be rich to be able to afford a bullet proof SUV

I want to be able to accept gifts with grace and wisdom, and not work round the clock to be a person who can afford to give himself gifts.

I wish I knew the root cause of my sickness and the herbs to use to treat these sickness, and not be an employee in a busy organisation that doesn't give me the grace of time to spend on myself and my family, but enables me the privilege of a robust health insurance scheme.

The menu was never the food. It was a representation of the food itself.

By understanding that what you seek might be the things that money can buy and not the money itself, your need to work three jobs slowly drops.

I don't seek to be rich to be able to afford a SAN or to have the armed forces at my beck and call. I just need to go to a place where people recognize the need for healthy laws that gears their actions towards positivity not just for themselves, but for others.
With this information, I can migrate to a country where this imagination can be a reality, and work even a low paying job that I find passion in.

If I knew how to communicate with animals, I can easily ask them what they eat that could make them increase their body meat and the frequency at which they have sex and reproduce (twins, triplet... etc)
I don't need to save money for an expensive animal feed or a vet doctor.

The beauty of Life lies in its simplicity

Concerning this case of sexual or romantic relationships, I believe the purpose of online communication is to make it offline/physical.

Physical communication reveals a lot that talking to a person behind a screen may not.

Social media is supposed to bring is close to our distant loved ones. The gift can be a curse too, depending on its wielder

And secondly, when communicating, understand that people have a mask they put on when they're in unfamiliar territories or with unfamiliar people. Your primary goal is to get them relaxed and try to know who they are and not what they claim to be.

First know yourself. Hopefully the content of my threads and post helps

If a middle-aged chicken is in the zenith of power in Nigeria and the country flourishes, I'm okay

Power is not a shadow neither is it the object that cast the shadow. Begin to look at those who control the light source

Have Biafrans accepted OSU people?
https://www.nairaland.com/8568640/biafrans-accepted-osu-people-charity

Unemployment should be a good thing. It should be celebrated, if you ask me.
Machine and automation taking over jobs should be a good thing.

A family man should be able to come back home and tell his wife "Honey, I finally lost my job!"

And his wife should be like "Awnnn, sweetie. Congratulations. I'm glad the machines have taken over your job. Now I and the children have you all to ourselves"

Unemployment crisis is bound to happen. It should be society's goal to rid ourselves of suffering in the form of continued hardwork just so we cannot be idle and give ourselves 'a purpose '

Slowly Letting go of my pride.

It only prevented me from getting loved because I was scared that if people knew me, they might hurt me and or they might find out that I'm not that interesting after all and finally leave
This led to series of games of Manipulation that made me appear to be what I wasn't. I ruined a lot of relationshipssssss this way

Pride prevent people from loving me because it built a wall around me that prevented people from knowing me.
One Love what or whom they know. Predictability/being predictable to a degree is a form of showing love.

If people don't know you because you make it hard for them to, they get uninterested and leave.

If people know you but they find out you're not as interesting as they thought you'd be, they'll still leave

If you do, you die. If you don't do, you'll still die. Isn't it better to do and die

That was an error on my part. It wasn't supposed to be "There isn't nobility in hardwork" but "There isn't any nobility in continued hardwork
https://www.nairaland.com/8603403/moral-continued-hardwork-morality-slaves

It's all ties together because it's a mean to get a person to begin to see your point of view so they can receive your questions well.

It's Nobility, not Mobility

Liballo:
How does the bolded relate to the “There really isn’t mobility in hardwork?”

1) Some leaders (Doctors, Forcemen etc) are insecure mostly because they know they're incompetent in their field of study, so they try cover up this defect with pride (by being sadistic, or being too nice to everyone without boundaries)

2) Most employees and employers are sad. There's that big emptiness/void we think a job promotion or money is going to fill, but alas, we find out our view isn't aligned with reality

3) People work jobs they hate to buy things they don't like to impress people they don't know.

Most of the people we look up to or call our role model, were most of the time forced into the profession they're in by their parents or friend group. You can never see or measure a person sadness, or vulnerabilities, especially when that person has chosen to use pride to cover up

I meet new people and we get talking and I ask them
"what course did you study"

They reply "Public Health"

Then I tell them something like, "This seems like a very responsible position, being in charge of the health of people who trust you with their health. You're comfortable with this kind of huge responsibility?"

Then they say "errmmmm"

Then I proceed " who's the most richest richhheeest billionaire you know of"
They tell me Mr X

then I say " if I was billionaire X, i ask you to choose a course that you'd love to study, regardless if it's a foreign course that can only be studied abroad, and also regardless of how much it'll be, what course would you choose to study?

Then they tell me " Nursing"


Then I rephrase " There really isn't any nobility in continued hardwork. Most people see suffering as hardwork. Imagine you make all the money in the world and all the richest people in the world look up to you, what then would you do when you're not working for money?"

Then the revelation continues...

You can really know that people aren't happy...go find out yourself and see. Try this exercise for yourself and you'll begin to understand that when people aren't truly happy by being in field or professions they don't like, then sadness creeps in and it grows to depression

I've written about this concept

https://www.nairaland.com/8598916/chimamanda-adichie-case-choiceless-children#138129653

You know your wife better than any of us here

You also know your family better than any of us here.

Logic when aligned with feelings (positive) is key.
Good luck Sir.

Credit:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCVJW8szT8Y?si=bQIespo5mSLmIwf9

2) Vincent Guillem's pdf, The Spiritual laws

Preventing myself from loving because of the fear of getting hurt.

It was a manifestation of my pride that got triggered because I got hurt in one of my relationships. I became a toxic alpha male

I later understood this about myself by using Vincent Guillem Free PDF, The spiritual laws, and now, I don't even need to read pickup lines books or webpages to woo or talk to a girl. It now comes naturally The foundation is being repaired.

I exposed a lot of my ideologies in my posts and threads
Lots of love from here


Modified: A guide. Cheers to the people I've learnt from
https://www.nairaland.com/8590486/immortality-through-alphabets-vocals#137967868

Hello Sir
This your post reminds me of a specific verse in the Lord's prayer: "and lead us not into temptation..."

Does this mean temptation isn't necessary for our growth as spirits in bodies?

Does this mean we should take ourselves out of temptation, instead of actually facing the temptation and exercising our freewill to not fall?

just like Joseph and portiphar's wife... Joseph didn't preach to the wife of his Master. He didn't wait to see if he could overcome his master's wife seduction. HE ran!

Is this what we should do when we encounter temptation?
Will we still grow as spirits the we were meant to, by only showing love towards ourselves and others, and neglecting Lucifer's temptation?

I'm quite curious Sir. I fed your post into Google's Gemini and asked it specific questions to aid my understanding and it said this.

GEMINI:

Evolution Without Evil: "Expanding the Light"
If Lucifer had never created the "Tempting Principle," we would have evolved through increasing our capacity for beauty and knowledge.

The Scenario: Imagine you are a painter. You aren't "tempted" to smear mud on the canvas. Instead, your evolution is about learning how to use 1,000 colors instead of 10.

The Growth: You grow by going deeper into "The Good." You become more wise, more creative, and more loving. It’s like moving from a candle flame to a bonfire. You aren't fighting darkness; you are just creating more light.

Cc: Helpyourself

I was talking about a scenario whereby 'internet engineers' create algorithms to power advertisements to appeal to the emotions for internet users so that they can be driven to buy what they necessarily do not need


Example: A new model of an iphone or a luxury piece of gadget is released and there's advertisment to make people aware of it. But the twist is that iphone company could have easily added the new functionality to a wholesome model, instead of sabotaging models of their phones, just so internet engineers can work to create colorful advertising

Dathrone:
Where was that related to Ai? You seem to have a good write up don't necessarily mean its philosophically linked to Ai. But my point is in applications of it.... Like where these so call traders of options and stocks play with to scam mmm clients. For learning and content generation, Generative Ai's seem to be doing fine for those who know "exactly" what.

Hi. I trust you're feeling okay. I've written the content of this post but it's in the wrong section: General.
I feel such a post should be in Christianity section, hence the need for this.

Rewriting all over would be digital hardwork, which isn't necessary and would be a suffering to me, which I could have mistaken as hardwork in the past

Suffering isn't hardwork

The content of the title is in the link below. Good luck

https://www.nairaland.com/8591634/what-wanted-ask-it-shall#137991453

You've made nice points, especially this part of "Looking through forums and articles I'm yet to see a single use for it and come to think about the live room jargons going on."

I hope the content of this link help you understand what's going on.
https://www.nairaland.com/8603403/moral-continued-hardwork-morality-slaves

I'm available here if you have any questions

Dathrone:
Well said... Just a buzz word for journalists and tech wannabes actually. Like many aspect of our society and culture ITK too much for our blood so we tend to be fooled along such line.
Looking through forums and articles I'm yet to see a single use for it and come to think about the live room jargons going on.
If I see you set ring light I dey carry your matter go brekete family or ODumeje church make you explain better.
Person wey never sabi use torchlight phone go dey talk about Ai or ask Ai questions...
More disturbing is the fact that using those chatbots don expose all our information to their servers and LLM wey still dey too advance to understand problems less context.
Attention rate drop
Assimilation rate non existent
Scrolling social media sickness doubled
Fraud above normal
Political opinions non existent
To add to it. We have Devs and engineers who we are hoping to understand these things better. But trying to prove everyone right will not make them work.
With all that said I support the usage because obviously it will be more beneficial to speak or chat with an intelligent person than a dumb person but what comes after that na you sabi coupled with the resources and time wasted.
Just a simple research into how it works you can sense someone is rubbing Peter to pay Paul. But shame is who even get sense to know the difference at these early stage of disaster.

Follow up content


1) Men and Women were created equally by God:
https://www.nairaland.com/8555589/men-women-created-equally-god

2) The Redpill: What's was and What is: https://www.nairaland.com/8547674/redpill-what-what

Hi

I feel the content here might be of help to you, based on the questions you've asked

https://www.nairaland.com/8287656/misconceptions-bible-ive-come-discover

orikoku:
Who took Eve's delivery? Was Adam created a man or he was born as a child? I need answers to these questions.