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HRHQueenPhil:
Good decision sir I pray u will laugh at last

Thank you...

Gaggi:
You must be more influential than Buhari to be able to influence NYSC postings as you like. Good luck to you.

what, influential? Let's say I know the right people for the right dealings. nysc posting is not really much of a big deal to influence when you know who to meet.

There are even better connections to work as a corp member in most top oil multinationals and still retain your post. Just put a call through...

...,

Mariangeles:
Everyone is talking about how she must be this or that, and nobody stops to think about what kind of person you are or might be ?

You invites someone they barely even know to another city ? Hmmm?
Both of you deserve each other

lol
I'm a beast

Ishilove:
Helping a life by cohabiting with her? You will essentially be collecting wife benefits from her even when you haven't paid her bride price.

Smh.

But she doesn't have a place. Where do you suggest she stay as she would be working? I'm open to ideas. Everyone is thinking about the mad sex, but it's the least of my interest. I could get sex anywhere I want even If i have to pay for it. But I'm a decent man and I choose to look the other way, to allow time lead us to due process .

Some of these ladies give their respective boyfriends "wife benefits" without paying a dime on them. Some have even birthed children out of wedlock, but they are the same ones to cast their stones, first. It's alright.

safarigirl:
she isn't decent in the opinion of sensible people, your agreement is inconsequential, since you need the internet to think for you.

Maybe if your daughter goes off to live with a man she has known for two weeks, you will be fine with it and the world will applaud your fathering skills.

Maybe if her father was rather competent enough to position his daughter, she wouldn't be in the arm of a stranger who propose to help and accommodate her in a strange land she isn't used to. Don't be irrational and stvpid.

Stop disturbing us here, since you think you have found the most decent and 'teachable' woman in the world, even your use of terms is codescending. She is 'teachable' as what? An animal or a baby? I hope you are just as teachable, you will both learn lessons from each other eventually

Take your indecisive self off the internet, and face the quagmire you have put yourself in like a man. If it turns out fine, good for you, if not, good for you too...for someone who recently came out of a rather bad break up like you claimed, you sure make rash decisions, it explains a lot about you.

Good night sir.

You have no points to hold up to, now you would stoop, to be provocative and insulting, this trait is very much recognizable. You must be another loner too .

It's a faceless forum and if other people should bring their issues up here, it doesn't make them indecisive, rather, they are open to various suggestions that could procure good solutions. I think you've got life all figured out, and I can't understand why you should pour out your frustrations on such a guy like me who is probably doing more good to humanity than harm .

Mama, I'm not disturbing anyone... You should have ignored the thread or rather read through and be quiet to save yourself the stress of being stvpid for no reason.

Now, crawl back to your archaic cave, from whence you came and go to bed. Good night ma.

safarigirl:
If you know the meaning of prejudice, you wouldn't accuse anyone of being prejudiced, afterall, we are only working with the limited information you gave us.

You were judging me already, but extrapolating from my posts, I didn't give off any notion of never helping people other than ladies. You think I can't help my fellow man, It's very wrong of you to allude that.

You know what prompted you to offer that girl a place to stay after convincing her to switch, hold on to your convictions and hope you haven't been played. Ain't no decent girls going off to live with men they knew for two weeks, for a year, irrespective of whatever arguments you put forward .

I agree, she isn't decent in your opinion...

Ginaz:
Wawu. Me being frustrated at what exactly? The way you guys just throw the word frustration eh? one would think every living soul in the world is. You’re contradicting yourself with each step you make to sound right .

You want to help her, you say you like her, then you say you gonna send her off, come back again to say no.

Mr man, by the time you are through making this mistake , you would be the one frustrated last last. Whatever reason you had the girl, kudos to it. Lemme remove mouth and stop here.

Keep living in a fairytale world, reality is coming soon.

I'm sorry, I was rude and I shouldn't have insulted you, but you provoked me.

It's alright... Thanks for your advice.

safarigirl:
you did not see a man to pick interest in as a random friend, it was a woman?

If you have free accommodation in PH, you should have come to Nairaland NYSC Section and advertised free space for those posted to PH, as the good and helpful guy you are.

You no see man to help, you no see one random woman that you are not attracted to, it is the one that you flow with and 'reminds you of your sister' that you decided to be Father Theresa with

My friend will you geddifok....

Why are you people so prejudiced? I started suffering when I lost my dad who was a top ranking army officer in 2005, the privileges I enjoyed seeing soldiers drive us to school was all gone. My mom was too quiet to ask for help, my dad's benefits went down the drain for years until earlier, because mom was from Sierra Leone and didn't know her way around. I am where I am today because I met people and I built relationships with the right people and I know how to ask for help. If I'm capable of helping anyone within my reach, I would because that's what has sustained me till now.


Do you know how many people I helped work their transfer to their preferred state of choice of service

I even had to pay from my pocket, a season when my uncle wasn't picking my calls anymore... I don't do favoritism and I don't encourage those who spread the tale of my good deeds, because I'll be burdened by those referred to me.

biggy26:
You are complicating issues by doubting your decision after making the decision. What motivated you to do what you did? If you were convinced then, then hold on to your conviction and do what you perceive to be right. Fear always come with decision making, but go with the peace inside.

On this journey: avoid body contact so your emotions don't get in the way and watch her. Just treat her like a friend and take notes. At the end of the day, if her positives out weigh her negatives and your heart is at peace, marry her!

Thanks man. My decision to bring her over to PH was not with ulterior motives as people actually perceive it to be. Before I raised the suggestion to help her, I understood the risks involved and I still went ahead anyways. She's told me her story and her visions. Her aunt is making her settle for lesser than she bargained for, but where she's going to be positioned to serve, she would be properly paid like a normal entry staff aside her monthly allowance, and well catered for as she isn't the only one I've connected that way... My plan is to make her independent, so I won't be her cash clown. I have so many other responsibilities on my neck.

I've only been slightly sceptical of late, with the way people I closely confided in have been condemning my decision and tagging it as "stupid". I somewhat feel a bit stupid, but not driven or motivated by lust but out of human kindness and likeness, and I will try as much as possible to avoid body contact. I don't want to appear manipulative or possessive. I've called my mom and I told her everything, she trusts my decision but also hopes I'm not gonna regret my gesture.

Plus, we are both having this discussion tonight. I'm gonna give her a chance to reconsider her choice.. we probably might be heading way fast, or probably not. Thanks again.

Riele:
All my life !

Why ? - Nigerian men ain't worth it .

Your mum thought it was worth it, hence she married your father. You should follow suit in due process, unless you want to thread the path of a prospective nun, you're welcome.

Ginaz, there are many reasons people do things. Letting her come over to get an experience is one, and her kind of person is accommodating and her traits are recognizable, somewhat like sis's... Which is another reason. It's either you have a language problem or an issue with comprehension...anyways I don't seem to like your style of approach.

I think you have more life threatening issues to sulk about. You must be a loner and sick piece. You knew it was a "piece of sh*t" from the beginning, but you just love to deal with sh*t, don't you? like the wingless house-fly that you are.

I chose to ignore you initially, cuz, I wasn't getting any good vibe from you, rather you want to drag this issue like it's a big deal. You are aggressive and you sound pained over people's business. I hope you find happiness someday . It's not healthy to be this frustrated.

samtol4:
Most guys are always carried away with outside beautiful with out thinking about the character of a lady.u just met a lady boom she will be living with you as husband and wife abi ? marriage is not build this way .u don't know much about this person already u want to live together.Why not allow her rent a place or share room with another female ? Staying with a lady who is not your wife will affect your destiny plans

No one is talking about marriage here, she's coming for a purpose, to serve, and not just live with me...I just picked Interest in a random friend. She has no other place but I was thinking if she stays for a few month and she's already adapting, then I could get her a place, that's if she would still love to stay back and start a new life in PH after service year.

millionboi2:
OP u are a fool and a lier


U think only fools are on nairaland ?

LOL. No! I also think there are stupid tots and you must be one of them.

Ginaz:
You don’t have to strike out the fuckkkng part. I can bet with buhari’s balls you would make out with her during her stay in your house.

Jesus of our time , you’re the fixer and the button presser that you had to take her from her family to your house.

You really think she had no choice with her former situation? If she could transferred herself to Abuja, she is capable of transferring herself anywhere. All you had to do was to press your buttons first , try get her something juicy and let her transfer herself to PH. At least that’s the logical thing to do than bring her to your house.

You acted too fast and didn’t take the right steps . Na so connections easy to press and just get? na wa for you o.

A damsel in distress , and a man always lost his reasonings. You seriously think she didn’t know what to do with her life eh? Lolz.

Okay...

Ginaz:
Stop trying to justify yourself . If you like her so much like you claimed , the right thing to do is get married to her.

LOL. Marriage is out of my plans for now. I've decided to bring her close so I could watch her. She's 23 and quite young and I don't think she has marriage in her calendar now, considering how ambitious she is. I'm not assuming this, in one of our descant and banters we discussed about marriage and what age she think is ripe... I'm one year away from being 30. I want to live life.

She's up now...

Ginaz:
If you like her so much then make plans to marry her. What’s the importance of her living with you if I may asked? Your reasons for doing that is not mature. So cos you liked her then she should come and live with you? C’mon. That’s totally not making sense. Assuming it was cos she needed a place to stay, it would have be understandable .

Where else would she stay and who does she know in PH? Except for old friends who also came for service too and a few persons she hasn't connected with in a long time. I'm her best shot to safety and comfort.

[s] The right thing to do it’s getting married to her not put her in your house to be fuckkkng unlimitedly[/s] in the name of “I really do like her”.

I don’t know how you managed to convinced her but for she to accept to move all the way from her base to yours shows she’s not capable of making decisions and sticking to it. Better get ready to deal with this character that I’ve seen in her.

She isn't based in abuja, rather she worked her transfer there and her aunt promised to position her in the ministry to serve... But there was no space and her option was to teach. She was disappointed, she had higher expectations .

When she agreed to come serve in PH, she was sceptical about my connections if they would work and was still taken aback with the way I abruptly picked interest in her. I was persuasive and she yielded cuz I meant every promise I made. I want to put her where she wants to be and I have the buttons to press. It's a proposal I offered and she saw it as a development to adapt to. I don't think she's naive or stupid. She's really brave and she gave it a thought.

Mcslize:
Cohabiting with a lady is quite stressful. I have been in that situation in the past. It was emotionally demanding, energy sapping and requires high level of diplomacy in handling things with her.

Be rest assured that the whole house will be messed up even after cleaning. She will put things where they should not be. She might leave the plates unwashed most times. The kitchen will always be a mess after cooking. You will address one issue after another of how she should wash the plates after eating her own foods, clean up the room whenever it gets messy, put things in their rightful places and always keep a tidy environment. She might not hid to all of that. You will still see a messy room every day, unwashed plates, dirty dishes, scattered items. She might even be sending you in an errand. You will get fed up at one point in time and start asking yourself if you made a mistake bringing her in?

These are just few of the things that you will experience. So be prepared emotionally and otherwise.

All these are based on assumptions but it's also good to view the two sides of the coins and analyze the "maybes and what ifs". Well my younger sister stays with me also and she's usually in charge of my house but I've informed her I would be bringing someone over and it doesn't mean she would have to relax in executing her normal domestic duties, tho there would be times they both have to divide the labor amongst themselves but that would be much later.

I want them to be friends as my sister is very accommodating and humble. It was one of the reasons I wanted this girl to come stay, cuz she has some of my sister's traits and I think they would both make a good team .

samso247:
OP, once she gets to ur house, ur plan now is to tink of Hw to get her pregnant, at least dat will keep her one place. Think abt it, a gal u just met decided to follow u to ph a total stranger, if am correct it's not up to 2wks oo, na wa, what mks u feel dat if anoda guy comes to her and convince her to Benin, she will not follow? Be wise.

LOL. If she allows herself to be convinced by someone else and she eventually leaves, I'll inform her sister that she isn't under my care anymore. It's not like I'm investing my all in her. I just feel like I'm too forward with all this, tho I really like the babe and I want to help her.

Ginaz:
Getting her a place so she can live with a roommate is out of point. What if something happens? Didn’t she tell you she have not been to ph? You want to leave her to stay alone now you have realized you were too quick with the whole thing? Guy do you know the implications of what you have done?

I thought about this too. I guess I have to reconsider it as a no option. I want to guaranty her safety and ensure her stay in PH is worthwhile with little or no regrets whatsoever. Even if we don't end up together I'll see it as helping a life.

Ginaz:
It’s too soon and too early. Guy you bleeped up big time , you’re allowing your emotions to overshoot your target.

What do you really know about this lady?
Her habits?
Her moods?
Her anger issues (everyone has one) some are mild and bearable ,others crazy and over the top.
Her values?

I’ve realized inviting a person to come stay with you it’s very easier than telling the person to leave . Don’t start what you can’t finish of which you have already started

You should have watched her from a distance, allowed her to served in her original state of work, get to know her more better first .

This is a huge step , you guys just met o. Everything is happening too quick. You’re gonna regret it soon.

I can’t stand being somewhere for a long time though . I wonder how a girl would just agree for a guy to work things over so she could stay with him. Doesn’t she have her own sense?

It feels weird to live with a guy who isn’t your husband yet. I don’t care the reasons I’m not doing it.

I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...


I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.

I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol

So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

pocohantas:
Where will I see boyfriend that would get me job in Chevron, Shell, Total, Haliburton or Schlumberger?


You did well. The girl try accept the job sha. As you done tell the whole NL say you get am job, naso you go take dey tell everybody offline kwa. You have to love humans

Are you in PH...? Send me your CV before I change my mind by the doings of your village people

see business strategy

Eleven Eleven

Mind games. One thing i've come to know is that if you want do something within your power, you wouldnt have to announce it before carrying it out.
You're a coward. You feel you can just threaten us with your supposed suicidal tendencies . Your agenda is to seek pity and draw attention . You want to be pitied for the failures you've brought upon yourself by your own hands.

Op you're one of the problems of this nation. You declare your intentions without ever executing them. Sounds very familiar, like our politicians with their false manifestos... We were lured to vote them in, because of their bogus promises.

You should seek this pity party campaign elsewhere. Suicides are for cowards. There are more people going through worse and hard times, but for once, they never thought of taking their own lives. It's ironical to be called an "iron man" . I don't Pity you , but the souls and people whom God has attached to your life, those whose lifting in life is as a result of your arrival and fulfillment of purpose and destiny . Invariably, unknown to You, you are a destiny helper to generations. It will be wickedness to commit suicide because you will fail them, including your generation ... I rebuke that spirit of foolishness out of you. This is an act of selfishness . Be wise hence and take heed!!!

I like to meet new people. I'm a fun lover and music enthusiast.
I reside in PH... If you do too, and you wanna hook up with me as I hangout with my guys over the weekend, feel free to DM ... I drive...

CrazyMan:
Hmm

Mine happened years back...when I was still a student. I was in year one then and it was on the day of our induction, when we'll be formally introduced to the department.

My HOD, Professors, Docs...my fellow year one coursemates, final years and excos etc in the department were all present...

So as the program went on, our association (Dept) president said it's time for some entertainment and that if anyone of us has a joke to keep the athmosphere lively he should come and get the mic.

Without thinking twice I got up, came to the front and collected the mic from him....then all hell was let loose. I started giving my jokes, the whole auditorium became quiet. As quiet as a church whose pastor is preaching about hell and rapture, and how you'll burn for all eternity in the lake of fire and brimestone.

My jokes turned to sermon, the only difference was that I wasn't using a Bible...I kept on talking and talking believing that I'll will at least hit the jackpot then they'll laugh, and I'll use that opportunity to redeem myself and sign out. Forwhere...

Everyone's eyes was glued to me as though I was some weird creature that just crawled out of the grave...my hands were shaking as I grabbed the mic, I was sweating all over, my voice trembled and I began to stammer...I was wishing that the earth should just open up and swallow me. All the beautiful girls in the dept were just staring at me while I kept fooling myself with the hope that they'll at least smile.

My HOD and lecturers eyes were all fixed on me, I felt like explaining my jokes over and over again to them so that at least they might giggle in case they didn't get it the first time...

After trying in vain to hit the jackpot, our president told me to give him the mic and go back to my seat. That was when our HOD got up and gave me one funny nickname which I will not mention here for reason best known to me....after the nickname prouncement by my HOD, the whole auditorium bursted into a very deep mockery laughter. I tried to safe face by smiling sheepshily. Unfortunately that name stuck on me till I graduated as most people never bothered to know my real name.

The only achievement of that calamity is that it made me popular in the department...all the lecturers, my HOD, even girls all knew me. Even though I failed woefully at comedy I became a local champion.

what was the nick name

OfeAchi:
Here's a summary of the final two episodes...
1. Tommy found out who killed Keisha, but on his way to cancel Xmas, he was arrested. Tried and jailed for life.
2. Ghost and Ramona had a real life blue film.
3. Agent Bianca showed her succulent nipples in a lesbian porn.
4. Tariq got shot by Dre. He died instantly.
5. 2bit put a bullet into Dre's annoying skull.
6. Ghost was given a plea bargain. He was sentenced to 5years.
7. Tate was gunned down by Melvin, the lady's hubby.
8. Jason went Scot free and became an untouchable drug lord in all of America.
9. Tasha fleed with Yasmin to Afrika.
10. Cash entered the drug game.
11. THE END.

Really ??

Man you've got this show all figured out, huh?? I've always predicted 2, 6 and 7 ... Tariq doesn't really deserve to die ... Yea, It was high time someone canceled Xmas on Tate's ass... such a bastard

Let's keep hoping they revive this show and air the remaining episodes...

Power has been canceled/dropped