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Richnerd69:
All these are based on assumptions but it's also good to view the two sides of the coins and analyze the "maybes and what ifs". Well my younger sister stays with me also and she's usually in charge of my house but I've informed her I would be bringing someone over and it doesn't mean she would have to relax in executing her normal domestic duties, tho there would be times they both have to divide the labor amongst themselves but that would be much later.

I want them to be friends as my sister is very accommodating and humble. It was one of the reasons I wanted this girl to come stay, cuz she has some of my sister's traits and I think they would both make a good team .

Richnerd69:
I thought about this too. I guess I have to reconsider it as a no option. I want to guaranty her safety and ensure her stay in PH is worthwhile with little or no regrets whatsoever. Even if we don't end up together I'll see it as helping a life.

Ishilove:
Helping a life by cohabiting with her? You will essentially be collecting wife benefits from her even when you haven't paid her bride price.

Smh.

Richnerd69:
But she doesn't have place. Where do you suggest she stay as she would be working? I'm open to ideas. Everyone is thinking about the mad sex, but it's the least of my interest. I could get sex anywhere I want even I have to pay for it. But I'm a decent man and I choose to look the other way to allow time lead us to due process.

Some of these ladies give their respective boyfriends "wife benefits" without paying a dime on them. So even birth children out of wedlock but they are the same ones to cast their stones. It's alright.

safarigirl:
she isn't decent in the opinion of sensible people, your agreement is inconsequential, since you need the internet to think for you.

Maybe if your daughter goes off to live with a man she has known for two weeks, you will be fine with it and the world will applaud your fathering skills.

Stop disturbing us here, since you think you have found the most decent and 'teachable' woman in the world, even your use of terms is condescending. She is 'teachable' as what? An animal or a baby? I hope you are just as teachable, you will both learn lessons from each other eventually

Take your indecisive self off the internet, and face the quagmire you have put yourself in like a man. If it turns out fine, good for you, if not, good for you too...for someone who recently came out of a rather bad break up like you claimed, you sure make rash decisions, it explains a lot about you.

Good night sir.

Richnerd69:
I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...


I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.

I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol

Mariangeles:
Everyone is talking about how she must be this or that, and nobody stops to think about what kind of person you are or might be ?

You invites someone they barely even know to another city ? Hmmm?
Both of you deserve each other

silentEXPLOSION:
summarise.

Your write up is too long.

Don't carry this habit into 2020

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Richnerd69:
Thanks man. My decision to bring her over to PH was not with ulterior motives as people actually perceive it to be. Before I raised the suggestion to help her, I understood the risks involved and I still went ahead anyways. She's told me her story and her visions. Her aunt is making her settle for lesser than she bargained for, but where she's going to be positioned to serve, she would be properly paid like a normal entry staff aside her monthly allowance, and well catered for as she isn't the only one I've connected that way... My plan is to make her independent, so I won't be her cash clown. I have so many other responsibilities on my neck.

I've only been slightly sceptical of late, with the way people I closely confided in have been condemning my decision and tagging it as "stupid". I somewhat feel a bit stupid, but not driven or motivated by lust but out of human kindness and likeness, and I will try as much as possible to avoid body contact. I don't want to appear manipulative or possessive. I've called my mom and I told her everything, she trusts my decision but also hopes I'm not gonna regret my gesture.

Plus, we are both having this discussion tonight. I'm gonna give her a chance to reconsider her choice.. we probably might be heading way fast, or probably not. Thanks again.

Richnerd69:
LOL. Marriage is out of my plans for now. I've decided to bring her close so I could watch her. She's 23 and quite young and I don't think she has marriage in her calendar now, considering how ambitious she is. I'm not assuming this, in one of our descant and banters we discussed about marriage and what age she think is ripe... I'm one year away from being 30. I want to live life.

She's up now...

Richnerd69:
All these are based on assumptions but it's also good to view the two sides of the coins and analyze the "maybes and what ifs". Well my younger sister stays with me also and she's usually in charge of my house but I've informed her I would be bringing someone over and it doesn't mean she would have to relax in executing her normal domestic duties, tho there would be times they both have to divide the labor amongst themselves but that would be much later.

I want them to be friends as my sister is very accommodating and humble. It was one of the reasons I wanted this girl to come stay, cuz she has some of my sister's traits and I think they would both make a good team .

wanger50:
I initially didn't want to comment believing that you are someone in his teenage years and was just being childish.I can't imagine someone around 29 would be so low in his thinking and decisions .I'm sorry that you making a big mistake here......let's watch it and hope u keep updating us here

fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Hoodbilonia:
I stopped acting super man last year,any gal i meet now,gist,see at a lounge.
3rd visit fuc k her like 3 more times,blockd on whatsapp.
No time

Frankyboy1:
I don't know why people get so worked up, this life has no manual or guarantees, just be careful and follow ur guts instincts or maybe even your very emotions can lead you rit sometimes, in some years to come,this damsel can be ur lovely wife who has brought so much blessings to you, and in some years time too, she can be ur downfall or undoing, life is unpredictable like that, never take it so seriously, for 90%/of the things you fear never comes to pass, your meting her could also be divinely orchestrated to set her up for her missing rib or destiny is in pH, some small things happen for a big reason and some big things happen for no reasons, life has no guarantees and all it owes us is only death, but in between being born and dying let's hope and work that the coin of life deals us a good one! Peace out joor

JahBwoy:
Bros las las this world no get formula..
I've tried what you did and butnt my hands..
But I won't advise you not to cos it 'might' just work for u...
Only if her intentions match yours..
Try and forget how much you feel for her..
Is she in the same lane with you

NaijaDonCast:
Life itself is a gamble, i wouldn't want to start pecking in negativity give her a chance explore your chances

poweredcom:
Oga I pity you

You wan de help girls of these days you will end up runn down

A girl you have not.married you wanna live with oga it's better you marry her and carry her away simple

Powered how far with Nelly and Florence the Cotonou babe?