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|Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 11:49pm On Dec 08, 2019|
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.
Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.
We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.
She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .
My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.
Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by silentEXPLOSION: 11:50pm On Dec 08, 2019|
Your write up is too long.
Don't carry this habit into 2020
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Kseafresh: 11:58pm On Dec 08, 2019|
You didn't even know whether she be mammy water or not before making plans for her to come and live with you..
You are making the biggest mistake of your life.
Some men sef...smh
Just because of toto..
Love gbakwa oku..
Notin wey Nma Ngozi no go see for Market.
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by boiz2men(m): 12:15am On Dec 09, 2019|
Except you have a generous heart and wouldn't mind if she left you for another guy (shell worker ).. Then your plans are in order. if not, you have just let your dick control you....
She will be needy and allawee will not be enough. Guess who brought her to PH... That's the person will run to each time....
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by fykes(m): 12:15am On Dec 09, 2019|
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by GoldenJAT(m): 12:17am On Dec 09, 2019|
Oboy!! E early o... Where u even DE for phc? "make we hookup so we can talk better
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Alawaxbimbex(f): 12:19am On Dec 09, 2019|
Hummmmmm, just be careful,I'm also a lady ooooo,I know what we are capable of doing...
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by maya007: 12:22am On Dec 09, 2019|
All dese guys way go just see babe dey carry esp abj babes I pity una ooo sha b prayerful join o
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Nobody: 1:02am On Dec 09, 2019|
Abeg! You for leave her with her myopic view of what PH people are. The city is even becoming too crowded for my liking, yet, all I see on social media is that PH is unsafe. Stupid people!
With that said, my older friend just introduced her husband to me and I was shocked he isn't any of the guys I saw building her empire with her thinking they had a place in her heart. Be wise! A word is enough for the wise. I am happy for her though 'cause it seems some of you don't have a brain.
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Ginaz(f): 1:32am On Dec 09, 2019|
It’s too soon and too early. Guy you bleeped up big time , you’re allowing your emotions to overshoot your target.
What do you really know about this lady?
Her anger issues (everyone has one) some are mild and bearable ,others crazy and over the top.
I’ve realized inviting a person to come stay with you it’s very easier than telling the person to leave . Don’t start what you can’t finish of which you have already started
You should have watched her from a distance, allowed her to served in her original state of work, get to know her more better first .
This is a huge step , you guys just met o. Everything is happening too quick. You’re gonna regret it soon.
I can’t stand being somewhere for a long time though . I wonder how a girl would just agree for a guy to work things over so she could stay with him. Doesn’t she have her own sense?
It feels weird to live with a guy who isn’t your husband yet. I don’t care the reasons ,I’m not doing it.
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Ginaz(f): 1:41am On Dec 09, 2019|
Getting her a place so she can live with a roommate is out of point. What if something happens? Didn’t she tell you she have not been to ph? You want to leave her to stay alone now you have realized you were too quick with the whole thing? Guy do you know the implications of what you have done?
Her life and all that concerns her are in your hands, whatever goes wrong, you’re in soup.
You better put her in your house so you can have eyes on her and her movements. In fact finish what you have started o.
That’s how men put themselves in trouble with their own hands!!
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by samso247(m): 2:53am On Dec 09, 2019|
OP, once she gets to ur house, ur plan now is to tink of Hw to get her pregnant, at least dat will keep her one place. Think abt it, a gal u just met decided to follow u to ph a total stranger, if am correct it's not up to 2wks oo, na wa, what mks u feel dat if anoda guy comes to her and convince her to Benin, she will not follow? Be wise.
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by joeking2222: 3:18am On Dec 09, 2019|
Alawaxbimbex:Babe, na u dey DAT picture wey u upload? OMO, you carry.....walahi. Na you dem suppose to dey call GREENER PASTURE!!!
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Blissbath(f): 3:36am On Dec 09, 2019|
Is too early ,jst be careful
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Mcslize: 6:16am On Dec 09, 2019|
Cohabiting with a lady is quite stressful. I have been in that situation in the past. It was emotionally demanding, energy sapping and requires high level of diplomacy in handling things with her.
Be rest assured that the whole house will be messed up even after cleaning. She will put things where they should not be. She might leave the plates unwashed most times. The kitchen will always be a mess after cooking. You will address one issue after another of how she should wash the plates after eating her own foods, clean up the room whenever it gets messy, put things in their rightful places and always keep a tidy environment. She might not hid to all of that. You will still see a messy room every day, unwashed plates, dirty dishes, scattered items. She might even be sending you in an errand. You will get fed up at one point in time and start asking yourself if you made a mistake bringing her in?
These are just few of the things that you will experience. So be prepared emotionally and otherwise.
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 6:40am On Dec 09, 2019|
I know right...Almost same thing her elder sister asked, "how long have you known my sister?"... And some other stuffs you're pointing out. I realized everyone was once a stranger and most times we isolate people and observe them from a distance before bringing them close, but I've tried that and it didn't work... For days now she has been thanking me consistently for everything and she's trusting that I wouldn't fail her...
I was more convinced when her elder sister's husband told me things about her and how she handles things. She is very humble with a teachable spirit... She's a good girl, I was told and I have come to see that in a short space of time. But I know people do change, I just hope I'm not making a mistake. I know I might be making one of the most stupid decisions of my life, but I want to believe in certain people and give them the chance to try to prove themselves. I really like this lady, I must confess.
I've informed my younger sister that I would be bringing someone I barely met, over. She's not having it with me tho...lol
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 6:51am On Dec 09, 2019|
I thought about this too. I guess I have to reconsider it as a no option. I want to guaranty her safety and ensure her stay in PH is worthwhile with little or no regrets whatsoever. Even if we don't end up together I'll see it as helping a life.
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 6:54am On Dec 09, 2019|
LOL. If she allows herself to be convinced by someone else and she eventually leaves, I'll inform her sister that she isn't under my care anymore. It's not like I'm investing my all in her. I just feel like I'm too forward with all this, tho I really like the babe and I want to help her.
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Tallesty1(m): 6:55am On Dec 09, 2019|
Hardly do you see guys help guys this way. It's all beer and flexing without giving you a dime to keep as your own but it's all good.
I just hope you've lived with a woman before and know what it entails else you're in for a surprise.
Clearly put, she will give you troubles, anything that has tyres and breasts would. Living with a girlfriend comes with a lot of terms, conditions and downfalls and lots of other crazy nonsenses that a man who isn't ready to settle down shouldn't get himself involved in.
You're going to devote your time, money, energy, feelings, loyalty, and personal space to a lady you haven't even decided what to do with.
The lady too has no plans on her own, it's obvious. I don't see how anyone with a good plan will just fall in to another person's like that(unless of course it coincidentally tallies with her own plans)
It's indeed a fast fast generation.
Something tells me that you listened to your dick during the decision making process. I could be wrong though.
Her boyfriend is going to cry very soon
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Ginaz(f): 7:00am On Dec 09, 2019|
There is a beast in each and everyone of us no matter the calming surface of our being. The step you took is a foolish one bred out of emotional impulses.
If you like her so much then make plans to marry her. What’s the importance of her living with you if I may asked? Your reasons for doing that is not mature. So cos you liked her then she should come and live with you? C’mon. That’s totally not making sense. Assuming it was cos she needed a place to stay, it would have be understandable.
The right thing to do it’s getting married to her not put her in your house to be fuckkkng unlimitedly in the name of “I really do like her”.
I don’t know how you managed to convinced her but for she to accept to move all the way from her base to yours shows she’s not capable of making decisions and sticking to it.
Being nice and bla bla bla is not a yard stick to ascertains one’s character, It’s the things they do. everyone is always nice until you are locked up with them.
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|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 7:02am On Dec 09, 2019|
All these are based on assumptions but it's also good to view the two sides of the coins and analyze the "maybes and what ifs". Well my younger sister stays with me also and she's usually in charge of my house but I've informed her I would be bringing someone over and it doesn't mean she would have to relax in executing her normal domestic duties, tho there would be times they both have to divide the labor amongst themselves but that would be much later.
I want them to be friends as my sister is very accommodating and humble. It was one of the reasons I wanted this girl to come stay, cuz she has some of my sister's traits and I think they would both make a good team .
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Ginaz(f): 7:09am On Dec 09, 2019|
Help a life how? Did she tell you she do not have a family, or homeless? If you’re talking about connecting her to jobs or upgrading her current condition , you can do that without bringing her all the way from her base to yours.
Stop trying to justify yourself . If you like her so much like you claimed , the right thing to do is get married to her.
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 7:24am On Dec 09, 2019|
Where else would she stay and who does she know in PH? Except for old friends who also came for service too and a few persons she hasn't connected with in a long time. I'm her best shot to safety and comfort.
[s] The right thing to do it’s getting married to her not put her in your house to be fuckkkng unlimitedly[/s] in the name of “I really do like her”.
She isn't based in abuja, rather she worked her transfer there and her aunt promised to position her in the ministry to serve... But there was no space and her option was to teach. She was disappointed, she had higher expectations .
When she agreed to come serve in PH, she was sceptical about my connections if they would work and was still taken aback with the way I abruptly picked interest in her. I was persuasive and she yielded cuz I meant every promise I made. I want to put her where she wants to be and I have the buttons to press. It's a proposal I offered and she saw it as a development to adapt to. I don't think she's naive or stupid. She's really brave and she gave it a thought.
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by braimeddy: 7:26am On Dec 09, 2019|
Cook up stories everywhere
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 7:34am On Dec 09, 2019|
LOL. Marriage is out of my plans for now. I've decided to bring her close so I could watch her. She's 23 and quite young and I don't think she has marriage in her calendar now, considering how ambitious she is. I'm not assuming this, in one of our descant and banters we discussed about marriage and what age she think is ripe... I'm one year away from being 30. I want to live life.
She's up now...
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Ginaz(f): 7:40am On Dec 09, 2019|
You don’t have to strike out the fuckkkng part. I can bet with buhari’s balls you would make out with her during her stay in your house.
Jesus of our time , you’re the fixer and the button presser that you had to take her from her family to your house.
You really think she had no choice with her former situation? If she could transferred herself to Abuja, she is capable of transferring herself anywhere. All you had to do was to press your buttons first , try get her something juicy and let her transfer herself to PH. At least that’s the logical thing to do than bring her to your house.
You acted too fast and didn’t take the right steps . Na so connections easy to press and just get? na wa for you o.
A damsel in distress , and a man always lost his reasonings. You seriously think she didn’t know what to do with her life eh? Lolz.
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by millionboi2: 7:47am On Dec 09, 2019|
Richnerd69:OP u are a fool and a lier
U think only fools are on nairaland?
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by millionboi2: 7:48am On Dec 09, 2019|
Ginaz:u bliv d ly
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 7:48am On Dec 09, 2019|
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Mcslize: 7:52am On Dec 09, 2019|
If she is the clean type that will always keep a tidy environment and keep the house clean, then there will be no problems. Ordinarily, most girls are unkempt when living with a guy.
They do things any how, and 60% of issues are related to house keeping when staying with a lady. But if she is the industrious type, then issues that might come up will be quite minimal and can always be handled.
In all, always prepare for the unknown. Issues must always come up at some points no matter what but how you will handle them is what matters.
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by Richnerd69: 7:52am On Dec 09, 2019|
LOL. No! I also think there are stupid tots and you must be one of them.
|Re: Do I Go Ahead With My Plans for Her? by RPirez: 9:21am On Dec 09, 2019|
OP is ONLY talking about beautiful ladies na..
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