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congrats man... always feels good when you find THE ONE...MAY YOUR ONE FOREVER BE YOUR ONE!!......









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MarryWhiteasap:
Oga no be everything be divorce.
Op it's clear you need more gossip mate and your wife is not the perfect person. Just like someone said, seek source of happiness and fufilment elsewhere. When you return check on your kids and take your shower. Make sure you feed your stomach outside and pretend you are on fasting.
Keep this routine for a month and see if changes will.

I see sense in this ....it makes sense.... maybe he should stop asking her for the gist...act as if he is getting it from someone outside,meet the family needs as usual ..the wife is likely to get curious about him not asking her for those attention anymore...she will get worried and draw closer hopefully

this is hard o...but didn't you notice all these during dating?.. Appreciation is key in every marriage....

well,the only solution now is having a conversation with her about these issues ..a serious and deep conversation...find out if she is open to learn and make amends... toxicity is a very terrible thing..a toxic environment is not a good place to raise kids...

About her starting conversation,well some people are introverts but they do start conversations sometimes if they are very comfortable with you....

Again you should have seen all these during dating...just ask her questions to know what the problem is...cus IF A WOMAN LOVES YOU,SHE WILL BE COMFORTABLE AROUND YOU, TALK WITH YOU,SEE YOU AS HER SAFE PLACE AND WOULD DO EVERYTHING POSSIBLE TO MAKE THAT HER SAFE PLACE NOT TO BE TOXIC...so bro find out what's really wrong...I wish you the best

texasux:
Lol....

We call them Our Nigerian Wife

They are fully in the know about the husband's marital status abroad and are content with being the Nigeria-based wife, taking care of whatever property or investment the man has at home.

you are right to some extent though

candidlady,


what's up with you?..

i was checking on you around the forum and i saw you would be away for some days...I just want you to stay strong,it's not an easy road especially this isolation part...but trust me..it's for the best!!...and I so much believe that soon you will overcome this and get back to yourself,your best self...

You referred to yourself as a junkie sometimes...but I want to tell you that, you are not a junkie because you have a lot,when I say a lot I mean a whole lot to offer yourself and your generation... you're intelligent,smart and exposed...SO YOU AIN'T A JUNKIE AND YOU WILL NEVER BE A JUNKIE...just keep fighting the good fight...no matter the mistakes in the past, YOU WILL GET IT RIGHT...I BELIEVE IN YOUR BRAVERY AND YOUR STRENGTH...


I must apologize for stalking you sometimes..it's just to know how you are faring.

stay blessed,and may peace and happiness be with you in that center and always..

please be good!!!

GoodGovernance:
I am actually the one. My moniker is GoodGovernance.
Apology for the " Sub-information".

all Right...wish the best

dalass:
He wanted to trend and he's now famous.... All has gone according to his plan

lol...na wa...good for him though

we know already.


why are you telling us?.. AFTER YOU HAVE BENEFITED FROM THE "NO GOVERNANCE" SYSTEM.

IS KOGI STATE THAT FANTASTIC?...SO KOGI IS NOW A BENCH MARK FOR NIGERIA...na wa

you have cheated me n n your husband,confess to him..if he forgives you..fine...if he doesn't..you live with your mistake.


Trust me,if will be almost impossible for him to forgive you,if he finds out himself..

YOU HAVE THESE OPTIONS:

1) tell him.. either you are forgiven or marriage ends....

2) don't tell him..you will be lucky if he never finds out...cus if he doesn't...it's harder to forgive you and trust you ever again.

so help yourself before your conscience finish you

who is going to work the magic?

Those old crooks moving from party to party?

Those same old recycled politicians?

or the youths that are hustling to go take their share of the national cake?

bro...forget NIGERIA Please...it's done and dusted

psycho,the day she helps you,she is a good person..

the day she doesn't help...you write all sort of things about her whether true or false...silly boy...wait...silly man( her elder bro right?,na old man na)

Lol.. nairalander without moniker

na wa

Obiebanks007:
M telling you...if only people could think before doing some things, then I guess they won't

What if it was her daughter or sister, how will he feel.

May God help human beings.

it's crazy....let the hammer of the law fall hard on him

QuinModah:

TRUE LIFE STORY

Hartman11:
@Rickpat..yes I love my wife she is someone I dated for yrs B4 we got married, not dat I'm worried to be cheating on her but I'm worried cos my sexual system change from how it was while growing up n doctors can't do anything.

bro doctors can't do anything on this issue....it's spiritual, though people may not believe in all that...but it does exist... medically you are okay

then stick to your wife and be happy....

if you had stuck with your wife,you won't have even noticed this issue and you won't be here bothered..

if your story is true. .then it might be something fetish used to curtail your promiscuity

as long as you have erection for your wife,it means you are Medically okay... doctor can't help you but you can try if you doubt me though...ask your wife questions, discuss it with her...cus medically your brain sees a woman, admires her,thinks of sex,then blood rushes from your brain to the penisss. and erection happens...so you are good ..ask your wife questions, discuss it with her...things happen... good luck though

saphiere:
The guilty are always afraid.

afraid?..afraid of what?...let me just ignore you...it's obvious you are a poorly raised child

the top,clean professionals in the military.. easily get married...I know of doctors, nurses etc that are well behaved, attractive and disciplined..that are married...

sorry to say,some of the recruit and junior female officers are sometimes no attractive and don't take care of themselves at all as women...some are poorly behaved.


Military officers should learn to separate the military profession from their everyday life... you will retire one day and you will still have a life outside the barracks..

as a military woman make yourself attractive and lovable...keep the military out of your relationship with people. .men would approach you

JUMO95:
Hahahha so GTB now has a variant meaning lol.

I thought I was the only person that saw the generalisation in the OP's post.

.. LoL...na so

saphiere:
Men reason with their penisss that's why.

please I won't want to be mentioned or associated with comments driven by GENERALIZATION, TOXICITY AND BITTERNESS (GTB)...thanks for your time

foolishness has landed this one in jail

he should tell the wife he is not working anymore. .

secondly how can he be in a marriage that he harbours fear that his wife will cheat when he is broke?...

finally...if he likes let him be as rich as dangote..if the wife is going to cheat or leave him,she will....she will leave or cheat the day she meets BEZOS...it's all but a matter of time

any man that cannot or has no plans of moving the wife and kids abroad to join him...HAS A WIFE ABROAD...no need deceiving yourself.

I have one around..she has a child..the man is in the UK..stays there permanently...sends her 50pounds for feeding. pays the rent and school fees... imagine 50pounds...the man has been in the UK for over 20years...matured man o..he barely comes o..he can go years without coming...and you say he has no woman there...


my advise to ladies.. don't just marry any man cus he is abroad and promised to take you there... simple

na wa...do people think of the consequences of their actions before carrying it out?...I wonder

na wa

if only our government has Shame


this would have been more than enough embarrassment for them..but they are shameless and heartless...how can people over 60years of age...served the government for over three decades be subjected to this kind of ridicule and pain...


TOO BAD

this their pension is it up to the money politicians spend on news paper allowance or at most drinks and refreshments in their homes

what!!!!

what is this?...that school should be closed...how can a good number of school pupils be exposed to such risk...what a shame!!.

THE GOVERNMENT DOESN'T CARE ABOUT US,IS IT NOT HIGH TIME WE CARED ABOUT OURSELVES??

TOO BAD

bro...the only thing that makes people not to talk about their issues is TRUST... some people after sharing your pain with them..they tell others and Even mock you...


some people may say "oh,they don't want to bother you with their problems"...but seriously it's trust...if someone trust you..he or she will share...not cus you can really help them..but just to let that burden off their chest...

na wa