CFCman:

When she asks a guy out. On some dates, both parties could go Dutch too

and how many of those girls up in first page can do such? the hypocrisy of Naija girls stink too much. though am not in support of the guy


if we are going to be equal. we need not be selective about that.

westlius:

Jesu who be dis

Lwkmd. you shock? I no go tell you who I be but just know I know you wella. festac ext.

westlius:
I no fine oo

soki Pirin. hahaha see you

I have a question.

in what scenario is a girl obligated to pay for a date?

anny268:
Okay... Kwontinue

thanks babe. love you

Chibuhealth:
say it is ur nature not our

relax. someone cannot play with you

anny268:
All these greedy married men that can't just face their wives. Some will even swear that they are single.. So annoying

sorry babe. it's our nature.

Tsav is a wife material. 5 & 1/2 yard.

I still prefer innoson

priscaoge:
I'm tired of Glo and their slow Internet services. Will subscribe 10G and won't even have good access to Internet, before I will say Jack it will expire. Is Etisalat data better pls?

i have never used any other network aside MTN. even if glo or airtel like let them say 30million gig for 300 naira MTN is still the best. better to pay and enjoy less data than pay and get frustrated. use MTM

MarieSucre:


You're still talking about scale of preference when someone is talking about STD and death?

choi* nawa

And after that what next?

MarieSucre:


One of them's wrong will bring a better paying job for the family later. The others wrong will bring STD, a broken home and death. You be the judge?

I am not rigid. I have seen first hand the effects of infidelity. Marriage is endurance. A friend of mine works at the Heart to Heart Center at our General Hospital. This is where people come for HIV and AIDS counselling among other related things. Ofcourse that is not to mean one endures physical or verbal abuse. Like a physically abusive spouse or a nagging wife. But this? Come one!

So as I said earlier, you be the judge.

I'm done.

I told you earlier about scale of preference.

scale of preference means a list of needs lined up according to level of importance.

in life priorities are different. you need to choose which one comes first and as husband and wife, keeping the family should be the top priority. what happened to schooling in Nigeria? are our institutions that bad? if such courses are not obtainable in Nigeria then how do you intend to use it in Nigeria?

Prevention is better than cure.... not everyone will cheat in such situation but this situation presents loop holes. humans are diverse in nature.

am done with you too

MarieSucre:


Here
" because you women are able to abstain does that mean a
man must be able to stay abstained?"

After this line you said
" people have different needs and yes sex is food. it's even
sweeter that jollof rice. like it or not.
you pray against the devil but you must not give chance for
temptations."

Does that not look an "EXCUSE" to you?

how does that mean I support what the man did? how many times have I told you both of them are wrong?

those are only variables that presents loop holes. babe you need to think smartly.

you have a bad or no knowledge of human psychology. obviously. meanwhile, you are too rigid for my liking. people like you are too stubborn.

MarieSucre:


Na wa o. Is it you that want to reinterpret the meaning of my status for me.

Even if you wanna use it in this context, notice I used "prisoner" something negative not "kings to our desires". I am not glorifying these vices like you are, excusing them like you are or applauding them.

Pls stop supporting bad thing. May your spouse not cheat on you or give you an STD amen.

when did I say I support such? please that's enough.

MarieSucre:


No both of them are not wrong. One of them is wrong. The woman is not breaking her marriage vows anymore than the man would if he were the one travelling abroad for his masters. The man is defiling his matrimonial bed. Call a ♠ a spade and stop making excuses for adultery.

you don't even know the significance of your status "we are prisoners to our own desires"

what a shame

eleko1:
don't reduce please. keep sayo. Learn from O jezz tragedy, mbah! keep mixing am together,nothing do u

OK thanks for the advice

MarieSucre:


I repeat men and women are not equal. Men are superior. Men are superior in discipline. If you cannot discipline yourself. Then speak for yourself alone. What is point of men being superior then if they are allowed to be weak in this way?

oh now i get where you coming but how does this change anything? life is not fair baby. no one chooses to be a male or female, beautiful or ugly. sex driven or not... everyone just want to be happy, by doing so we trample on others and cost them pain. finding the perfect solution to situations is best.

that's why I said both of them are wrong. in life you need to have scale of preference. you need to sacrifice dreams to fulfil other dreams. if you love your family you need to school closer.

MarieSucre:


It's possible! Sex is not food! And this shows that he lacks discipline. For crying out loud many men go offshore for months, some are transferred to another state, some go outside the country for years, yet their wives stay faithful. If men and women are nit equal and men are superior to women. Then must be superior in fidelity and discipline.

because you women are able to abstain does that mean a man must be able to stay abstained?

people have different needs and yes sex is food. it's even sweeter that jollof rice. like it or not.

you pray against the devil but you must not give chance for temptations.

if you like when/if you get married travel out for a year or two OK? Mrs I too know.

CecyAdrian:


It's not like she went off to study all by herself, it was an agreement btw the man and wife hence the decision for her to travel with the kids and am very sure he is the one footing their bills over there, so the olosho of a husband is in full support.

And she has traveled, hopefully keeping to her end of the bargain with her studies and being a good wife and mother to their kids, while he is here trying to start a III world war in his family

both of them are wrong. and please don't assume she's not also cheating over there. while I won't rule out the possibility of that being true it's better we leave that out.

ephi123:
Amelian, what if it was the man that travelled overseas for further studies and is cheating there? Please what is your advice in that case? Should we blame the wife for that too?

blame both of them. husband and wife should be together and have fun. the marriage should be the number one priority in their lives. not a certificate

CecyAdrian:
Tori leke plaza!

That man has no business being married, I wish the wife can fine out and have the will to leave his sorry shameful...

you did not address the issue. me I can't even imagine myself stay away from sex for that long and say am married. people have urge you know. it's natural.

So a married man should stay for over 6 months no sex? that's difficult. am sure those girls saying the man should abstain won't even risk travelling away from their husbands if\when they marry.

life is too short to be putting a one-time marriage experience on the line for certificate. why bother traveling far distance to further, why not further here in Nigeria?

both of them are at fault here.

donnybee:

Yea yea...u nid to minimize your alcohol intake

great advice.

donnybee:

Oya cm lemme pray for u....u nid to be delivered



Oya ASAP

i cant stop drinking but i think i'll have to reduce.

donnybee:

[i]
[/i]You should warn the person before it's too late...The thing doesn't kill just immediately u start taking it oo....it's a gradual thing. Moreover, u dnt knw hw long this guy has been taking it before it led to his death

what if that person is me.

wow. but really some people drink and smoke like no tomorrow still no kidney issue. this life is funny.

something must kill a man

thewife306:


No i wont take dat frm u. Pls take ur dirty mouth somewhere else. Sorry for yourself

OK I apologize for that.

now you were quick to attack me but your husband disgrace you publicly no retaliation. very funny. I am sad for you because your self esteem would have been dropping like sky divers by now. sorry babes.

I wish you the best.

comtem2011:
Haba oga! how can you qualify someone's husband like this, its uncalled for. Seeking advice here does not mean we should disrespect the husband.

This is very rude of you.

OK OK am sorry but how can a sane human disrespect his wife in public? also in front of their maid.

OP your husband is very stupid. and a goat sorry to say

meanwhile, i go with the ishilove's advice..

be yourself and give no preferential treatment to any of them. call a spade a spade. if any misbehaves, treat the issue head on. be cool. but never stupid. respect those who respect you. that's it