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canttedra:
The recent topic on the home page motivated me to make this post, anonymously of course.

We were dating before I left Nigeria. We've been dating for about three years. Sometime last year I got a new job in the US (I schooled there so it was easy), and moved away from the country. Until a few weeks ago, we talked nearly every other day. It's always fun talking to her. But lately, things have started to get a little rough because of something that came up, and which I would like to believe is not my fault.

Prior to dating her, since I was a kid in university, I made myself a few promises relating to women:

1. I will never pay a woman's school fees
2. I will never rent a house or apartment for a woman, nor furnish an existing apartment
3. I will never sponsor a woman abroad.

Of course, this does not mean that I won't buy a woman gifts (I do that regularly), or take her on a nice trip. I just do not envisage myself pulling a woman up the social ladder. I prefer she makes her own growth moves as it relates to finances or relocation.

I made these promises based on the fact that I expected that whomever I make a partner should be able to make something of their own selves. I do not want to be anybody's savior or anyone's get-out-of-jail card. This resolution has made lose a few women in the past who thought the relationship should be based on what they can get out of it, and my girlfriend knows this.

The situation right now is that there is a path for her to come to America through studying. We already talked about her applying for graduate studies and then transitioning here into a better job. However, she now feels that would be stressful and may not work. Instead, she thinks it's better if I return to Nigeria this December to marry her and then sponsor her eventually to the US. That's not going to happen. This has created a rift and we have not been talking for a while now.

Am I being unreasonable here? How can I make her realize she can be her own person and not have to depend on someonem else to "sponsor" her? It just drives me nuts that she knows this about me but is now vehemently insisting that this is the only viable option.

Macsjebs:
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Nazgul:
Charge him with being a nuisance to public peace. He's bothering his wife. Opening a file of 5k in a police station will see them deal with him terribly.

And knowing our our police, they can even change the charge to rape, so as to get more bail funds from him. By the time he's done paying himself out from their net, even if the wife greets him, he won't respond.

juniormod:
Baba make I drop my account as the first to quote me, you na millionaire already

juniormod:
This life no balance, as I don dey cry for here for months yet no work, not even the least, yet my fellow Don grab two already.

Meanwhile... I still dey push

No rest until man pikin get work, I've got to prepare for resumption Sha.

I don't know how I will pay this semester's 30k school fee, but I believe a helper will locate me here someday, if you are the one, please quote me, I believe we have millionaires here

Fedxwan:
Bro send your WhatsApp number let's talk

Sheina:
Are you serious,you're stingy to open 3 mails

SILENTandSMART2:
Where you dey currently ?

Timantech:
75k

yusufu16:
It obvious you didnt understand my post.

Have you watched FOX News(Trump's favourite news media) and see how they portray him?

Who is Mexican President in the league of high ranking Presidents for US. Have you seen the number of US allies who have already congratulated Biden?

CNN is more credible than FOX News

ebenson90:
boss I can't get a vet by this time...that's the problem sir

Haroldjunior:
Some people will just stay and decide to talk out of utter senselessness. Very stupid mentality, a puppy that is barely 3 months, you wan chop am. You should be very vile and stupid for having such a sense of reasoning. Na God go help us for this country with our very crude mentality. Later on they will say it's a joke.

james007:
Wonder no more!