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Hi, I wanted to hear your thoughts. It seems as if churches like to harp on how as Christians( speaking from a female perspective) should keep their bodies for their husband. I totally agree with this but I feel it should be rephrased better. You should keep yourself for God's sake.

When you feel it is only for your husband's sake you tend to expect that God MUST of necessity provide you with a man that is also a virgin. What happens if he knew the Lord later on in life and since becoming born-again he became celibate? Who are we now to say that he is not 'worthy' to become a husband to us. It is a wrong mindset to have. The Bible says, 'Whom the son of man has set free is free indeed' . If the man in question is now on fire for the Lord we cannot hold his past against him.

We must change our mindset and be open to the will of God totally . What do you guys think?

Pick a name that has meaning. It is not even compulsory that the child must have an English name. It is only colonialism that brought that about. Why should you care if people cannot pronounce the name? That is not a valid reason to pick an English name. It's a rather paltry excuse. Having said that picking a traditional name does not now mean that you are more 'in touch' with your culture. Culture goes deeper than names alone. Just choose a name that you know what it means, you like it and you also like the sound of it.

Tbken: lolz...to massage me abi,oya i dey ready...

Loool you're not serious

Tbken: you people dont like wearing pants when going out,and too lousy also

Just face the wall and raise your hands.

tonychristopher: ANOTHER REASON IS THIS

The creatures called yoruba girls are a very unique bunch. When i mean unique, i mean UNIQUE (their habits and acts are unique o them alone). They are extremely promiscuous. Their promiscuity knows no bounds. Their males are no different. Yoruba girls can open their vulvas for anything that has a hanging rod in their groin area. Also yoruba girls are so local/razz. Gaddem!!! their locality knows o bound. they have no finesse at all in their behaviors. also they r filthy and their homes are equally filthy. A yoruba girl could look really fly in her dressing and outlook but her abode always gives her away. Pls i wanna ask, is having filthy houses a yoruba thingy? Anyone married to a yoruba girl, i pity. this is because your children almost have different fathers. Also why does it seem that thses days most yoruba marriages break-up? and why is infidelity or screwing around ALWAYS the cause.

Yoruba girls, your the dirtiest creatures ever know to man.

I THINK THAT'S ONE OF THE REASONS, I KNOW HOW MANY TIMES WHEN THEY HAVE CONVINCED MY FRIENDS WIFE TO CHEAT, A YORUBA WOMAN IN MY STREET, THE HUSBAND WAS SICK, SHE DUMPED HIM IN VILLAGE AND MARRIED ANOTHER MAN, SHE ATTENDS JEHOVA WITNESS, WHAT OF MY NEIGHBOUR THAT IS AROUND 60 SHE IS HERE IN LAGOS AND HERT HUSBAND IS IN VILLAGE, WHAT OF MY OTHER NEIGHBOUR THAT RAN OUT FROM HER HUSBAND AND CAME BACK TO HER ILE BABA ... WE CALL HE MRS ILE BABA MI, SHE BRINGS IN DIFFERENT MEN INTO HER DAD HOUSE IN FRONT OF KIDS.

NOT THAT IGBOS DON'T CHEAT, BUT THEY VALUE MARRRIAGES, SO MARRYING A YORUBA WOMAN IS SUICIDAL. I CAN TRY IT, I WONT ADVISE ANY IGBO MAN TO DO IT.

What utter crap and drivel. Unless you have met EVERY Yoruba woman desist from saying such jargon. Your tribe does not affect your chances of success in marriage, the onus is on YOU. Stop shouting out about their 'rubbish' . And as for dirtiness? Another lie. You have to ask yourself what kind of man you are to be attracting these sort of women. I'm fed up of these stupid generalizations.


Signed~ An angry Yoruba woman

GoodFaith: Why are you now opened to it
I have always felt the same way that I will never go to Nigeria to get marry
It sound like you have a balance between the Nigerian culture and the European culture
Lot of Nigerian women want to be a European today and Nigerian tomorrow

I'd put it down to me being childish. I now know better And yes those girls are annoying. Extremely so

This kind of stuff really annoys me. People seem to expect that you'll live in a Western country and retain/have 100% Nigerian culture. Erm no, it doesn't work like that. I live in the UK so naturally in some aspects I've been westernized and I make no apologies for that. There are good and bad parts in every culture and it's up to you to do away with it. I'm also very much in touch with my Nigerian roots and I'm learning more everyday. Girls here are not bad, you get a few bad ones like you do everywhere else. Generalizations cannot just be made. For a long time I said I would NEVER marry a Nigerian guy that lives in Nigeria-cultures would be too different. Now however I am open to it.

Zakamori: na who you dey deceive

Nobody O!

Iaz93: Very serious! HAH!

Which Church do you attend?

Loool it's a RCCG one but some others don't/won't agree with my point of view so I guess it's down to the individual. As for me sha, I'm all for 100% courtship God's way

Iaz93: What of when you visit him with the packaged food? You two would still be alone So?

I wouldn't visit him alone-ever so most likely maybe if we go out to places I'll just drop it with him or on my way home I'd drop it at his house. Staying and eating together at home alone is a definite no-no for me

Kasarachi- My very good friend is called that

Iaz93: Dear, so if you cook food for your boyfriend in his house, you'd go to hell?

Lol. Damn!! The way that leads to heaven is really narrow!

No but prevention is better than cure.When you think about it cooking is quite intimate especially if the two of you are in the kitchen... And indeed it is only the narrow road that leads to Heaven, a road I am all too happy to take at all cost!

Speaking as a born-again Christian I think it is wrong. That being said you can pack food and give it to him occasionally.

Thanks guys, I will try it out

I agree with all that you said. The quality of the language is fast decreasing. It's a shame really but I do doubt that it could become totally 100% extinct. If it were to be extinct I think it would take a long while. As for your poser, yhh I'll pass I didn't read my Alawiye to learn that, I was more interested in the stories loool. Do they teach you all the animals and whatnot in Yoruba back in Nigeria? In any case I am taking a keen interest in speaking Yoruba fluently and where possible I ask my dad for the Yoruba words I do not know. I can't speak for the state of the language back in Nigeria but only here in London. But yes back to the matter I guess it is. On another note giving your child a Yoruba name doesn't make you more or less Nigerian? I think it runs deeper than that. My first name is Opeyemi btw but still, the name is only a starting point. There is more to it than a name in my opinion

ladionline: I understand your challenges, if you can play around the word 'rugby' often, you will soon deceive your tongue that you can do it with 'gb' as given in Yoruba words.

Thanks, I will deffo try it out. I'm willing to try anything at this rate

!!! I must learn by fire by force loool- hopefully

Well me I find it hard to say that 'gb' sound and the 'p' sounding like 'kp' It is really hindering me being able to speak Yoruba fluently though I am getting better slightly. If I can't pronounce those words I doubt I'd be able to be fully fluent because they appear alot in the language lool

Well here in London there seems to be more of an interest for Yoruba teenagers wanting to speak Yoruba well. I'd say in the next few years those that speak fluently will increase significantly. The question should be is the quality of the language depleting? As Titilayo rightly said, few of us know what window is in Yoruba. We have become so used to peppering Yoruba with traces of English thus in the process forgetting what some words are in Yoruba. I am optimistic however that the only way on is up and there will be many people who become more fluent and hopefully in the process the quality of the language becomes better. As for extinction? Yoruba could never be distinct

It's sad but it does happen. The average man is intimidated. The question here is 'successful and financially independent women' so for now let's assume their attitude is fine and they're not arrogant. Some men would STILL be intimidated and that i down to their own silly ego. A woman will do everything and be submissive and supportive but an insecure guy will still poke holes and find issues with her. When it all comes down to it you should just be secure in yourself as a man because when you are you can never be intimidated by anyone be it man or woman.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so that says it all really

We should be careful about how we talk about churches and things pertaining to God. A word is enough for the wise #ThatIsAll