 Politics › Re: Patience Jonathan In Oyo: If Buhari Wins, APC Will Jail Me by Rose2014: 11:26pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
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Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Breaking News! Breaking News!!! Inec Card Reader Supplier In Dss Custody. by Rose2014: 11:25pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
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Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: "Dont Steal Nigeria's Election"---- JEAN HERSKOVITS by Rose2014: 11:24pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
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Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Below Is The Total Number Of Eligible Voters In Each Six Geopolitical Zone In Ni by Rose2014: 11:22pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
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Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Buhari To Debate Jonathan by Rose2014: 11:22pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: #### From The South East, I Have Finally Decided Today! by Rose2014: 11:21pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
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Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: General Kenneth Minimah Vows Crackdown On Election Violence by Rose2014: 11:18pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Answer Yes Or No:is This Picture Prophetic Of What Will Be After March 28? by Rose2014: 11:17pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Photo: Why PDP Is Ready To Make Nigerians Wallow In Poverty by Rose2014: 11:16pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: OAU Students Stone Jonathan, Ekiti Obas, And Fayose Out Of Ife by Rose2014: 11:16pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Answer Yes Or No:is This Picture Prophetic Of What Will Be After March 28? by Rose2014: 11:15pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: After Election Which Of the Party Will Be Like This? by Rose2014: 11:15pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: I Am Educated, That's Why I'm The First Lady - PEJ by Rose2014: 11:14pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: IBB Angry With Jonathan Campaigns by Rose2014: 11:11pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Prominent Yoruba Leaders Will Not Vote For APC by Rose2014: 11:10pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: APC Trying To Rig by Rose2014: 11:09pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Electricity Generation Hits 5,500 Megwatts As Jonathan Commissions Alaoji (aba) by Rose2014: 11:07pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Buhari Will Win -Bamidele by Rose2014: 11:06pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Sambo Assures 2 million Votes For PDP In Kaduna by Rose2014: 11:05pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Warning To Nigeria! No Matter What Happens On 28/03/15- Buhari Wont Be President by Rose2014: 11:03pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
post=31990337:
Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Politics › Re: Fashola Is Corrupt, He Cannot Accuse Yoruba Leaders Of Betrayal – Afenifere by Rose2014: 11:02pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
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Initially i supported APC but carefully looked at their way of life i discover that they are old thieves trying to wear new clothes i decamped to PDP at least i know what they have done afterall Northerners have ruled for more than 30 yrs including Buhari but nothing drastically changed |
| Family › Re: I Tried To Correct Her, What I Got Were Three Slaps, Husband Tells Court by Rose2014: 12:53pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
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| Family › Re: I Tried To Correct Her, What I Got Were Three Slaps, Husband Tells Court by Rose2014: 12:51pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
Owliver:
I don't think you read the story. Well, I just want you to know cos I'll remind you later. Have a lovely day   Oya sorry na |
| Family › Re: I Tried To Correct Her, What I Got Were Three Slaps, Husband Tells Court by Rose2014: 12:50pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
Owliver:
You know she na female activist. I want make she see this one so in case if opposite happen we go even CC: Rose2014 I don die. I thought me n this guy have settled before o lwkm Oya bring your ear close* I'm not a female activist. I just detest domestic violence n u know women are mostly the victims in our society But I don't support women Abusers either Violence is violence and there's only a thin line between life n death |
| Family › Re: I Tried To Correct Her, What I Got Were Three Slaps, Husband Tells Court by Rose2014: 12:43pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
Owliver:
Rose2014 pls come read oh. Lol@Rose come n read o I thought you guys were supporting saying that ladies deserved beating(twice a day ) cos they drive men over their limit. Why don't we apply the same logic here? I'm thinking maybe this man deserved the slap too. He may have insulted her to attract the 3 slap I greet u sir |
| Family › Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Rose2014: 12:16pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
babyosisi:
Theoretically,everything you said sounds good,I like it
It is not so in practice however.
Do you know any Nigerian couple where the man by choice stays home to take care of the children and is cooking and cleaning and doing everything you do as a stay at home mom ?
I don't know any and I know a whole lot of people
In fact many of the failed nigerian marriages here in the USA have been between women who are higher wage earners and men who earn much less
I keep saying Nigerians because most of the people I associate with are Nigerians.
Our men don't do well as husbands when they earn less than their wives let alone when they are "subjected to do jobs" that are traditionally termed female jobs.
Some may argue that our women don't do well as wives when they earn more
Could be a little bit of both
The average nigerian man will not cook,clean ,mop do laundry and pass food for a working wife if he was unemployed and staying home
I am just being real here
Neither will he tolerate a wife texting him to have her Okro soup and eba pipping hot in the next 30 mins because she has to come in briefly to eat before attending a work meeting later that evening.
That is the cause of many of the arguments in the families where the man is underemployed
The woman feels she is pulling more than her own share in the home and the man feels his manhood is being trampled upon when he is required or asked to take on some household chores . At the bolded, me too I've never come across one walahi As per the rest, you've said it all. One thing I admire about you is that you say it just the way it is, practically |
| Family › Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Rose2014: 12:08pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
babyosisi:
You said Romanian abi?
I was hoping to see nigerian
I bet you that man is cooking and cleaning and doing the whole nine yards
A nigerian man won't do that unless married to Oyibo
He will stretch hand and collect the pay while she works
He won't pound yam ,cook or wash clothes sef,his ego won't let him so he won't be that useful staying home.
As for rest the of your post you are so correct I couldn't stop chuckling reading this I no fit laff again o So on point |
| Family › Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Rose2014: 11:58am On Mar 24, 2015 |
raayah:
Exactly, I personally came from an abusive home,but in my situation, my mom was working while her husband was jobless. He didnt even care to find a job. Fo 5 years, he sat around and watched tv. My mom would work, cook, take care of the home, hand-wash clothes , give him stipends and in the night,he will still beat her for stupid reasons. My mom was slapped, kicked , etc.
One day, she was so sick, she was in the hospital for days. The doctors put her in an induced coma because she if her condition had become critical. I remember sleeping in the hospital for days and weeping my eyes out.
When we called her husband to come see her at the hospital, he said he didnt have money and that we should provide transport faare. When my mom woke up from the coma, she asked for him, she called him and he basically said the same thing to her. My mom used her phone to do credit transfer to his bank account before he came. He came and stayed only a few hours,complaining about how he hadntt eaten. I wish i could say this story is false,but it happened to me.
Reality struck my mom , she started packing her things out, packing our clothes out. Eventually,she moved out. Its almost 3 years now.
The only reason why she was able to move out of this situation was because she had her own income. She is doing fine today. Her Children are being taken care of. We dont lack anything. We are happy.
Being a stay at home mom is a huge risk especially if married to a bad man. What if the man died? What if he leaves you? I will advise all stay at home moms to save and invest. Do something. Anything is possible. I can never be a stay a home mom. Before I even get kids/married, i will ensure that i have a career. This story is very touching. But my joy is that your mom is still alive while you tell this story. Thank God. Some didn't live to tell theirs. What worried me more as I read your story is not even the fact that your mom was solely fending for the family but the fact that her man was still physically abusive. There is god o You're right, being a SAHM is a risk. I think 'risk' is a better word to describe it cos while some appreciate you, some men will make u regret quitting that job to take care of their home. |
| Family › Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Rose2014: 5:46am On Mar 22, 2015 |
babyosisi:
I don't think she meant it that way at all.
She is saying that it is much harder to leave when you depend on the man solely for sustenance and for that reason every woman ought to have a means to earn money.
Just from the stories on nairaland alone,many of the women enduring physical and sexual abuse stay because they have no income or very little income to take care of themselves.
Financial control is a weapon for abusers That's all I was trying to say Thanks much much for this |
| Family › Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Rose2014: 5:36am On Mar 22, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:
You're going overboard here and your judgement is getting clouded.
Are you implying that all housewives stay-at-home mums are subjected to abuse and domestic violence from their husbands? You think earning an income is a deterrent to a naturally abusive man?
There are millions of women out there who chose to sacrifice / put their careers on hold to look after their little ones till they are at least of school age and are able to talk and look after themselves. The decision (especially if it was the woman's) to bring up her kids for those very crucial years of their child's life isn't taken lightly, and I don't think it's your place to look down / undermine their efforts.
Additionally, for every sad tale of DV metted out to your "housewife", there are countless other examples of homes where the man not only provides for his family (i.e: wife and kids) but also appreciates her efforts and accords her that respect as he understands fully well the sacrifices being made for the betterment of the family as a whole. Sorry I shouldn't have used the word 'crime' but u should recognize sacarsm when u see one na. However in line with what I was saying earlier, the bitter truth remains that it's less likely for a penniless woman (I mean with no with no source of income) to leave an abusive marriage. Now it doesn't mean that all SAHMs are abused neither does it mean that all working moms are not abused. But my point is that abusive men most times feel threatened by wifey's income. They even insist that the woman must not work so they can depend on them for everything. Yes working moms even have more to deal with in an abusive home cos the guy is threatened by the fact they don't depend on him for everything. Why r u home late? Who dropped u off? Are u sure the person on phone is a client? Etc. While on the other hand a SAHM(depending on her situation) may be more submissive not necessarily because she wants to but because she may not have a choice. If mom or dad is sick n everyone including wifey depends on the abusive man, how can she leave such marriage. U talked about raising kids and stuff, that's a great point but being a SAHM shouldn't stop one from having an income. Naija ladies may be at a disadvantage here but in the western countries, there are a thousand and one jobs u can do in the comfort of your home. U're talking about raising more balanced kids right? Great. Let's assume everything is going smoothly now, what becomes of the woman n those same kids if anything happens to the man's income?(anyway that's a topic for another day, let me not derail this thread) I for one cannot advise any woman I know to stay at home with no income of her own(even if the man is the president of the federal republic of Nigeria I don't advocate divorce but there are times in an abusive marriage when it's absolute necessary for the couple to have a temporary seperation. But the woman may not be able to afford it: 'u know the kids school fees is due', 'mom is supposed to visit the doctor next week and she needs money, rent is expensive, etc Even the man himself knows that it's only a matter of time before they come n start begging him for her to return. Now if the woman has the ability to take care of herself but chose to stay and be abused, that's not the people I'm speaking for this time. So I believe it would be nice for everyone to have that financial independence so we can different those who would have moved on and those who chose to stay Again sorry u misunderstood my earlier post. Of course I know that Being a SAHM is not easy AT ALL. I for one don't think I have the grace to do their job. It's a lot of work and it's sad some husbands take this great sacrifice for granted |
| Family › Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Rose2014: 7:05pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
babyosisi:
It's not that easy to leave sometimes
Who likes to be abused.many of these women are stuck
Many of those women have no financial support and no parental support
There are abused women whose parents will tell point blank not to disgrace them by leaving her marital home.
This is why I say that the word housewife ought to be a taboo word for everywoman
Pennilessness is the number one reason people stay
If you can afford to get your own apartment and take care of yourself,it is easier to leave
The second reason is the fear that their kids will be taken away from them
There is a woman I know that divorced her husband and her family members quit speaking to her
I noticed that women in intertribal marriages seem to leave quicker when the marriage fails
If a woman from a Enugu for instance flees with her kids from lagos to Enugu na who born dat man to come snatch kids in Enugu
He will think twice before embarking on that journey.this may be an advantage of intertribal marriage that has not been explored. Nne I don't know you but you take words out of my mouth most times.lol A lot of women that accept abuse don't have anything meaningful that fetches them income. And u know pennilessness goes with inferiority complex. It's difficult for a man not to at least verbally abuse you when u depend on him for everything. That's d painful truth. Abusers know this and u'll find that most times, they insist their wives must be housewife. Imagine that!! I agree housewife should be made a crime so we can differentiate those women that truly accept abuse and those that dont  |
| Family › Re: Alarming Number Of Nigerian Women Think Spousal Abuse by husband is justifiable by Rose2014: 10:02am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Look at that video babyosisi uploaded, what could be the lady's crime to warrant such treatment It's so sad some men are trying hard to justify physical abuse and even more pathetic that some women have accepted it. My question is if the lady in that video was to be your sister or daughter, I hope you'll go n give the guy a pat on the back for being a hero of the year Anyway thank God that the people that came to her rescue were still men, meaning that some men agree it's wrong. There's hope |
