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chingynt:
Can't you recommend it here? At least, it will benefit others who are silently suffering from this addiction and don't have the courage to post it or seek for help.

Confiman:
Please this might be a little lengthy but bear with me, everything here is needed to get the story out and ask my questions. Thank you.

This will go down as one of the most embarrassing moments of my life and I'm deeply confused. But before I go on, I'd love a quick intro.

I just created this moniker to chronicle all of my confusions and to feel free asking for help without any of my friends here tracing them to me. I'm 22 and a serving Corp member. I'm a hustler and I can say I'm doing fairly well for a Corp member.

I am still a "virgin" iff that term can be loosely applied to someone who masturbates. I'm deeply disturbed by my masturbation, but that is not the purpose of this thread.

I recently met a girl - also a Corp member - whom I'm really, really fond of. However, I strongly believe that sex is for marriage (I'm a devoted Christian) and so I have always stayed away from it. With this girl tho, we get frisky a lot. I shared my first kiss with her, and we've since gotten more intimate than I'm usually comfortable with. Sadly, that doesn't help my desire to stop masturbation as I always do that after making out with her. When doing so, I imagine all we had done and it gets me off.

However, this is where it gets embarrassing. When making out with her she sometimes gives me a head. Despite all of her efforts tho (and she is sincerely really good), I can't get myself to remain aroused. No, my hands don't give me half the sensations I get from her mouth, but it still doesn't matter as I just can't remain aroused enough to get off as is the case when I'm by myself.

Today was the very worst as I kept shrinking rather than edging towards release. It angers her cos she believes I don't want her, or how else does she explain it? She feels if I wanted her as much as she wanted me that it would be different. I know my conscience pricks me while we're at it but I don't know if that is the cause. She says I think too much about it... but I can't help the thoughts. Now I'm torn.

I need to know just two things:
1. Is it my 'plenty thinking' that's hindering me when with her? I've already put away most of my inhibitions to get that far with her, but I can't seem to go further. And I don't really think I want to.
2. How can I tell her to take away the sexual edge of the relationship without coming across as offensive, and without confirming her belief that I don't want her?

P.S: Before you begin bashing the lady, note that she is also a virgin. Her vagina is still very much sealed. I doubted that at first, but I've seen it and... So I know. I don't want to lose her but I don't want to go so far either...

musicwriter:
Pidgin is already our lingua franca, just that its not official. And the only reason its not official is because Europeans trained us to hate ourselves and anything we create, that's the only reason its not acknowledged as our lingua franca. When the Europeans got to Africa, they spoke pidgin themselves, pidgin was the language of slave trade and colonialism. Now that a white man has spoken pidgin, everybody got excited because their God has given a seal of approval it is a good language.

Na pidgin bi awa lingua franca tee tee, but e no dey official. De reason e no dey official na bicos say oyibo people dun train us mek we hate anything we we take our hand mek. Na him bi de only reason we no come see am as awa lingua franca. Wen oyibo people come for Africa dey follow speak pidgin, eyebody follow speak pidgin bicos na him dey take de talk to themselve wen them de do slave trade and colonialism. Na bicos say oyibo man dun speak pidgin now, na him mek everybody dun dey happy bicos them God wey bi oyibo man dun speak pidgin.

maticdamian:
I like the intended pun but it's too dry

Taju200:
THIS CAN'T BE TRUE O.

SO SHE MUST HAVE GAVE BIRTH TO D FIRST BABY AT 15 OR 16.

HOW CAN A 15 YEARS OLD GIRL GET PREGNANT.. IS IT NOT AT 18+

WHY IS EVERYBODY NOT SHOUTING #LOL

WHO IS THE EMIR OF ABIA TEACHING DEM THIS IN CHURCH. I DON'T THINK DIA IS CHRISTIAN IN THAT STATE.

CHILDREN CANNOT GET PREGNANT NOW.

WHAT AM I SAYING.

ABIA IS A CHRISTIAN STATE DIA MUST BE A MISTAKE. NO CHRISTIAN DIA WILL IMPREGNATE SMALL GIRL AT 14 15 16. BUT CAN SLEEP WITH DEM AND GO. IMPREGNATE NO

BUHARI CAUSES ALL OF THIS

Taju200:
THIS CAN'T BE TRUE O.

SO SHE MUST HAVE GAVE BIRTH TO D FIRST BABY AT 15 OR 16.

HOW CAN A 15 YEARS OLD GIRL GET PREGNANT.. IS IT NOT AT 18+

WHY IS EVERYBODY NOT SHOUTING #LOL

WHO IS THE EMIR OF ABIA TEACHING DEM THIS IN CHURCH. I DON'T THINK DIA IS CHRISTIAN IN THAT STATE.

CHILDREN CANNOT GET PREGNANT NOW.

WHAT AM I SAYING.

ABIA IS A CHRISTIAN STATE DIA MUST BE A MISTAKE. NO CHRISTIAN DIA WILL IMPREGNATE SMALL GIRL AT 14 15 16. BUT CAN SLEEP WITH DEM AND GO. IMPREGNATE NO

BUHARI CAUSES ALL OF THIS

Dremca:
With the h added, I don't think so.

Dremca:
With the h added, I don't think so.