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crazyABO:
Wow its coming in loud and hot guess next artiste to yab hush puppy and win 1K airtime

Abeg who is hushpuppy again? Ayam not understanding.

cute

lekpaciouse:
Thanks very much,like he said,he said other ladies want to carry his baby and I told him they are just looking for whom to father their baby,and he is very serious about it am just confused about the whole things.

You have no reason to be confused, relationship is not a do or die affair. If he wants kids he should do the right thing. Please don't let anyone put you in such situation, tell him he is free to get those girls pressurizing him pregnant. Stand firm and be bold. If am to advise you, will ask you to dump his sorry ass and move on, he doesn't deserve you. Don't be blinded by love.

Dreamscometrue:
..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me...

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?

My dear first of all visit a fertility clinic with your husband to be sure of what the problem is, if nothing is wrong and he still insist on leaving then let him go, it is not the end of the world, talk to your family and close friends let them be your backbone at this trying period. Noone is responsible for your happiness but only you. And don't forget to cry to God in prayers, he will send someone that will love and appreciate u and also give you the fruit of the womb. Your fate doesn't lie in the hands of ur husband..To answer your question, yes u must surely pull through. Be strong and courageous.

nice one

Tommy doesn't trust dre and very soon he will be bursted..

[quote author=Habeyy post=57922396]Love him or hate him.. .fayose seems to be the only through voice of the masses nowadays [/quote

So true...It's quite unfortunate Nigerians hate hearing the truth...Let's keep watching as the drama unfolds daily...

That means they have gotten a lot of applications.

mtcheww

Please how can one volunteer in an NGO in Portharcourt, what are the procedures to get started? Thanks.

Is episode one out? if yes where can I download it??

Chemist009:
..... Hello fellows,my name is Shuaibu(not real name),am in my late twenties and am from Edo. So this is my story:



... Everything was going well and I was really at my peak until this happened some 11 years ago(2006 precisely)...... I was at home with my Guardian's wife and one of my cousins at night(around 8pm or so) when suddenly I heard someone call my name at the door and I answered rushing to open the door,only to discover that there was nobody at the door and i was a little terrified. And that ordeal, I can say was the beginning of my mystery.

Later on,I began having series of terrible nightmares that would linger on to become part of my life till this day. Firstly,I would always dream that I want to take something,but my hand will never get to it as i would stretch and stretch-and it was a recurring nightmare that happened on a regular basis. Secondly,I always dreamt that am always being pursued or running and when am running, it's usually at a very very slow rate and this dream too happened all the time. And so for a long sustained period,i had these two nightmares and in most occasions,always in danger.



Fastforward to a few years later and I would notice deterioration in every facet of my life, yet, I would just ignore. Later around 2012, I would gain admission into the University, but I well too realised that I was never the same again..... Before i entered University though, I began having health challenges (chest pain and discomfort) and I inwardly suspected it's a heart problem. So at the University, to cut a long story short, I never got anywhere near my peak and it was always whenever i had it in mind that I wanted to study or exams were around the corner that my chest problem always came, but when free or unoccupied or during holidays, I felt healthy and this was the trend all through my University days.


Again, although it was nightmares pre University, at the university it became somewhat metaphysical and it was in truth worrying. Whenever i slept and wanted to wake up, I always felt as though am being held down and standing up or even shaking becomes impossible and this has continued till this day. In summary, of recent it's either very terrible nightmares or not being able to stand up when awake as a result of being held down-and this mainly happens when am sleeping alone and in most cases when the room is dark.

It's way more mysterious than i presented it, but this is just a Summary of everything. Opinions please cos I feel trapped......

Visit a real man of God for deliverance and take ur spiritual life serious..Prayer is the key.

My dad still does that..Kudos to the good men out there..

It's normal for her to get upset, who wouldn't be... Congrats to the daughter, she is pretty just like the mum.

Victornezzar:
Come woman na everyday ur bf dey break up with u ahan...nawa oo

Abeg help me ask her...

Congrats to them... The gal's tummy though..

Hmmm...Difficult one.

emorse:
He only shared his opinion and just like anyone else, he is entitled to it.

Thankfully, you share the same opinion with me. At least I can breathe easy knowing that I'm not crazy after all.

Lol...No u are not. Welcome to nairaland where some people try to force down there opinion down people's throat.

My alumni....Hahahaha

The gal in the middle is pretty....

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]I have been dating a guy for the past year and half. And during that time, I always knew he was cheating on me. But after not hearing from him for three weeks, he finally called me and then he said he would call me back. After three days of not hearing from him, I called him a couple of times and he didn't pick up.

Then after about five minutes, a lady called me and told me that she wanted to deliver a package for me from Nigeria and I asked her who gave her the package and she gave me an unfamiliar name. And then she said it was a wrong number and apologized.

Few seconds later, the same number called me back and introduced herself as my boyfriend's girlfriend. She said she had to call me back because my boyfriend reacted strangely when I called him. She also told me he deleted everything about me from his phone including photos and texts and he told her the last time he spoke to me was months back. Well I said, he was dating me too and then I hung up.

The next morning, my boyfriend called me and asked me what I told his girlfriend last night. And then mentioned the fact that I have not seen him in a long time. And then he told me "I'm done speaking to you, goodbye."

I called him back but he didn't pick up. I then he texted me saying he has moved on.

So do you guys think he will call me back? I miss him very much, I always thought he was the best person for me.[/color]

How can someone humiliate u in such manner and u are still thinking of going back? What happens to moving on with your life? It's obvious he is cheating and even throwing it at your face...Please pick up what is left of your dignity and move on, you deserve better.

Ok

Toks2008:
First and Formost you keep getting it twisted and I'm so amazed that most ladies also missed it. Please try and read again and this time from the first paragraph and slowly.

If you just met a guy as a married lady and you allow him to call you your maiden name then that is serious disrespect to your marriage.

If you don't understand this then I'm sorry I don't know what else to say.

There is nothing like disrespect there, is her maiden name a taboo? How about ladies that combine both there maiden and husband's name. Whatever she chooses to answer or allow her male friends address her as has nothing to do with her marital life, it's just a name no big deal.

melody91:
you need the sense more pig..respect to your man fr coping with your worm infested rotten pvssy and I hate pigs like u too, dirty slut

O boy go and borrow sense. U sound like a lunatic gosh how do people around u cope? u are a disgusting he-goat.

Toks2008:
Its progressive dearie..the insult starts from there but hardly noticeable until it gets too late.

I still don't agree with you..So by her male friends calling her by her maiden name her marriage will suddenly crash, like seriously? does she live with them? Makes no sense at all.

KemjikaEme:
People in this 21st century believe that when former male acquintances use a woman's maiden name it can automatically endanger the woman's marriage.
Such a backward,regressive and moronic point of view!!

I thought I was the one only that saw that..So barbaric..

Toks2008:
We all know that men sometimes can be very overbearing and sometimes responsible for some actions their wives take but nevertheless,women must understand that marriage is a great,decent and sacred institution that must be treated with utmost respect and guided with all sense of decency.

To be frank,there are some silly things some married ladies do that do not show any form of respect to them,their men and their marriage.
These are things that need to be avoided by the lady irrespective of whatever excuse they may have.

I have had many friends who have been married and some are divorced and after discussing with them,i have come to realize that some of these women were infact the architect of their failed marriages and i will try to elucidate on some of the awkward things ladies do that break up their marriages.

1. Poor communication:

In every relationship we find ourselves,communication is vital. No one is a mind reader and no matter what it may be that could be a reason for your unhappiness,speak out immediately in a stern manner and not laikadaisically.
Many women are found of calling their hubby's relatives to complain about certain issues meanwhile the hubby at home does not have an idea of how hurting they are concerning that issue.

2. Sharing their marital issue with a male admirer/friend.

Not every guy you know is responsible. We have some low lives that has no regard for any form of decency and it is no news that many guys are in this category.
When you discuss your marital issues with an admirer or a male friend,most times what these guys hear is "im vulnurable,i need you as a succor". This is why most times,when a married woman take solace in a male friend,the end result is usually an illicit affair.

3. Being careless with male friends.

I have always maintained that there is nothing like just friends between a married woman and another man.
If he is not your childhood friend,co-worker,co-student,business partner then you have no business with him.
Many married ladies have a careless habit of keeping male friends indiscriminately and worst still get so careless allowing these guys call them by their maiden names.

I will never call a married lady by her maiden name because just as the name suggests,its her unmarried name but will rather put Mrs,sis,madam.

When a married lady is called by her maiden name,it diminishes as well as tarnishes her respect,image and matrimony giving room for a potential unethical relationship between her and the "just male friends".

4. Seeking vengeance.

Many married lady tend to take some actions in order to prove to their hubby that a sauce for the goose is also ok for the gander but unfortunately this will destroy your marriage more.

When you take a revenge on your hubby by sleeping with another man because he cheats on you,of what use will that be to you?

What value will that add to your life?
Learn to maintain your dignity no matter what because at the end,the shame will all come back to you and as I always reiterate. ..nobody can make you do what you are not capable of doing.

5. Talking down on your hubby.

This is one foolish mistake many ladies do. You and your hubby are one and talking down on him means talking down on yourself. It is one thing to voice out what he did and another to use outright abusive words on him.

In situations where a couple seperates,some ladies will not mind talking down on their hubby with a friend,their family and even with male suitors and i keep wondering if the woman thinks this will earn her any form of respect.

If you call your hubby a sick man then what does that make you? Or you call your hubby an asshole then it takes an asshole to tango with such a man.

No matter how angry you may be,don't ever rule out reconcilation and even if you are never going to reconcile,respect your matrimony with him even if he deserves no respect from you.

6.Moving out of their matrimonial home hastily over an avoidable reason.

What excuse do you have for running out of your marriage?
He cheated on you,he does not give you attention,he took you for granted,he curses you and many more are the excuses married ladies hold on to and i keep asking this one question;
Will leaving solve the problem? Even a divorce is not a way out because its a 50/50 chance that the next man won't be worse so i advice that you confront that problem and try your best to solve it.

7. Believing there is always a better man out there.

This is one foolish thing married ladies believe. That they will get a better replacement.There are more than enough never married ladies out there for the unmarried guys so you will do yourself a great honor by sticking to your husband.

There is really no better man out there and except you are faced with an unrepentant violent man,please remain in your marriage because you will soon realize that its the same cycle we all go through in any union we find ourselves and there will always be one reason to leave any man you are married to.

Many women divorcees realize this too late as they end up as a toy in the hands of randy men,as second wife,or end up single for a long time as many men will believe they are doing them a big favour by wanting to be with them.

If you must throw in the towel on your marriage,make sure you have exhausted all means of reconciliation because i keep saying that it is better to be single at 40 than to be a divorcee at 20 and a 40 year old single lady is more maritally appealing than a 20year old divorcee,funny but true so think very well before you run out of your marriage.

8.Sharing their marital issues with single female friends..

Like seriously! it may surprise you to know that most of your friends who are still single are not happy that you are married so take your marital problem to them at your own risk.

9.Not looking sexy enough.

If our sultry actress Omotola jalade is looking this sexy after three children then tell me why you can't look sexy too.

Laziness is one big problem with most married ladies.Men get carried away by what they see so do yourself a favour, get that big tummy down and get into crazy bum shorts and flaunt that thing.

We know you cant maintain that sexy look we saw the very first time we met you but at least try your best to look sexy for the next 30years for us after marriage.

10. Never sorry.

Many women are so proud,egocentric and sturbborn to the extent that when they do or say things that are conspicously wrong,they will never or hardly apologize but rather would want to buttress the rationale behind their actions and most men see this as an appalling nature. Be quick to apologize even when you are right..men are naturally egocentric hence the need to bring down your ego to avoid the case of two men married to each other.

11.Geting insecure and monitoring her husband

I have always advised married women to let their men be. Believe whatever he says even when it is clear that he is lieng.The moment you start getting overly jealous,suspicious is the moment you begin to lose your self worth. Don't bother whether he is faithful or not but sternly tell him to play safe if he must be unfaithful and warn him to do it far from you cos what the eyes do not see do not hurt. Yes this sounds crazy but trust me,it works like magic because the husband will likely be on his toes and respect you the more. Remember that a man will always be a man and you can never monitor him.

12.Not good enough in the kitchen and the other room: .

If you are a married lady reading this please don't ever joke with these two places because any woman who knows how to use these two places will most likely have her husband where she wants him cos the way to a man's heart is forever through his stomach and down there.

13.Taking the job of a full housewife.

As you can clearly deduce,being a full housewife is a big job because those who babysit get paid so I quite understand how demanding this can be but nevertheless,don't settle for that,no matter how demanding the task of keeping the home front can be, still do something to be financially independent. Your husband may tell you he does not want you to work promising to provide all your needs but we both know he really can't do that without asking funny questions from you when you demand for money so it is important to have something doing so that the financial pressure will be less on your husband and you can also be self reliant.Being financially independent can also come in handy if your hubby faces any financial crises so take this advise seriously because financial pressure is a great destroyer of marriage.

I don't know if these makes sense.

I disagree with you on the maiden name ish...Whether her friends calls her by her maiden name or not holds no water besides that's the name she has been known with, it has nothing to do with a marriage been destroyed..

emorse:
This is not to deride you or anything but the bolded makes no sense at all from where I stand. Ambode's friend will call him by his first name (probably Akin). Or even by a very funny nickname. All that formality about first names waters down friendship.

Just before you ask, I was with a group of friends (all married) from way back secondary school and we all called one another by the funniest nicknames we could remember. It was mad fun all through.

Exactly..Please tell him.

melody91:
lol e never do u? u now acting like a real illiterate for real and u just convinced me your pvssy really smells bad like rotten egg..how do ur man cope?

I hate idiots like u. Borrow some sense u really need one. Psycho.

melody91:
but u sef like trouble o sis, no vex ehn and btw u started with d insults.u no be gentle lady @at all *in Fela's voice*

Go and die.

Nice one....The wife's outfit though.