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ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

While we learn from the past, so far all you've said is her past was one of being helpful to who she was dating. She was faithful to them and loyal and supportive, you shouldn't have those things come up .. her past no matter how many wasn't bad. She dated and was dedicated... Not flings, not one night stand. Bro embrace your woman, apologize and love her or give me her number

Pls how do I put first bank app on a new device

Rinoxy:

Oh, okay. I'm based in Kaduna, home to PAN.

Then you have little to worry about as far as that goes

Teleprompter:


You speak so cleverly and objectively.

Thank you

beekind:

Thousands of people some with even better life than most are dieing on the seas attempting to become illegal immigrants in Europe.

I bet more than half of those on this platform will give an arm and a leg to be able to wash toilets in North America.

While there are obviously other advantages to it like the possibility of marriage(although not guaranteed).

The prospect of dual citizenship is enough considering the alternative and the reality on ground.

Bro in terms of your "deal" lets break it down
You get:
1. Children (which you want)
2. The absence of a partner that could wreck you
3. Marriage (maybe)
4. Offspring that could be assets to you and your family

She gets:
1. offspring that could be assets to her and her family
2. marriage (maybe)
3. Lack of worry about upkeep for her children born to you ( not upkeep for herself or the other child as per your stated proposal).
Is there anything else I missed?

Objectively I don't see this proposal as worth it.
1 her having 2 kids for you without the guarantee of marriage drastically reduces her eligibility for marriage if you fail her, most people will view her the way you have viewed other females and promiscuous having children from different men without being married and as such assume she has bad character and is good for nothing beyond sex

2. She would have the strain on her body mental health, carrying 1 child I'm sure you've already seen certain differences in her physiology, 2 more? Mileage will be way up, plus the strain of raising 3 kids without the presence and help of a father... All in hopes they will be assets to her .. in my opinion not worth it

3. She has a constrain on her time for her own personal development. You aren't providing the comfort and shelter of marriage, she needs to better herself so at least equip herself economically, which two children out of wedlock will hold her back from, we as men all say no man wants a liability, you in my opinion gave her the option to choose to be a liability in hope of marrying you or a liability that the children will change her fortunes... Which is a 50-50 chance.. I'm not going to go into that.

So my dear bro... Think about it, is it worth it in her opinion if she is "objective" , you know her better than anyone here

Rinoxy:

Sir row2ray, that means me getting a 307 manual is good maintenance wise abi?

Peugeot is a region dependent car... It depends on your location, if in lagos, Abuja, middle belt and most of the northern states, yes its actually not a bad car, however in the south south and south east, it would be a problem since you'd experience a scarcity of experienced mechanics.

As a first timmer... The Camry i4 is your best bet, it'll help you learn proper car maintenance and tame the need for speed thrill to a point. Plus maintenance is cheaper considering the country right now

Supreme145:
I've been dating my girlfriend for over 18 months now and it has been a bumpy ride. One major I issue I have had with her has been her relationship with other men. She spends a lot of time in my place and each time we have issues her one stop solution is to go out and see other guys.

In fact 90% of our issues have come from this same relations with other men. When I complain she makes it look like I am insecure and overly jealous. I have made it known to her that it's wrong to go on dates with other guys when you are in my place especially when we have issues. She would always insist that they are just friends.

She recently got a job close to my house so she had to move in though she's barely at home cos the work is a 8am to 8pm job. She insisted on the job cos she would be able to learn her desired skills while been paid though the pay is very poor.

She would come home and gist me about how guys have been asking her out in her work place and all. Yesterday she even showed a number that a guy wrote for her on a piece of paper and asked her to call him. We later had a minor disagreement cos I saw her sitting on the floor trying to burst a boil on her laps, she started scolding me that I shouldn't be starting at a woman's private part like that, I pointed out that she had panties on and I was just concerned cos I saw something that looked like a drop of blood on the tiles. This resulted in an argument so I just ignored her.

I later observed her copying out the number given to her on her phone amidst other giggles while chatting with other guys online. I overheard her talking to a guy she just met about him coming to pick her up today so she could follow him to church and then go to work from there. This is someone that have never attended church anytime she costs even though a Catholic church is just a stone throw from my house. I voiced out my displeasure and she said I had no right to interfere in her business since I was giving her attitude.

It rained this morning so she couldn't go to church as planned but I am worried that I am dating a terrible flirt and this is someone I am thinking of getting married to. I had to chat her up at work to complain but she still saw nothing wrong with her relationship with other male folks and told me that I am just being insecure and anytime we have issues she would still leave the house cos she can't stay in a house with someone giving her attitude.

I told her I would no longer continue with the relationship since she sees her attitude as normal and she dosen't give me peace of mind which every man craves for. She started guilt tripping me and talking plenty but I already made up my mind. I can't deal with am unrepentant flirt.

Do you guys think I am over reacting?

Bruh, she uses you as a convienence, a comfort zone so to speak...

Let her go, have her move back to her place since she decides to go out with other men instead of sorting out issues with you. I suggest you sit her down and tell her this very calmly... And unemotionally. Then give her a time frame. Like "I've decided I can't keep living like this with you going out everytime we have issues and making me feel I'm insecure, so for my peace and your sanity, you should move back home, and I'd like you to do that at the end of today (or tomorrow)" . really depends on which you prefer. As much as taking that extra shot for the road may appeal to you, don't. It takes a degree of detachment to pull that off properly and I don't believe you have that detachment.

Let the guys pick her up and drop her off... And she will see the difference, your choice if you want to be available after she learns the difference between who wants her waist and who will stay with her.

I often see people misunderstanding what redpilling means.

It's doesnt mean cheating, especially not with your girlfriend's friends

It doesn't mean being rude or arrogant

It doesn't mean thinking or seeing women as inferior

Being an alpha male has very little to do with how you treat women and more to do with your mindset and disposition. This is what the women see and are attracted to, the authority that the mindset brings with it

Being an alpha male means taking responsibility, knowing when to argue and what's not worth the argument and instead act.

It means being able to lead... Not dictate.

It means acknowledging and facing your weakness and fear .. and trying again of you fail

Redpilling is raising your bar, defining what you won't take from a woman in terms of what she offers and brings to the table.

Healthy Redpilling is refining your self so you command respect, not demand it. Being rude and "vawulent" with women really is childish. This doesn't mean you can't call a woman out sensibly over a wrong.

You lost your girl to philandering not being a red pillar in it's pure form, and even the alpha males will be soft with their partner(s)/mate(s). The alpha male when he takes a partner puts her in a position of respect such that other males will even be intimidated to contact her.
He treats her so she knows she is a queen, and she doesn't have to leave him to know she won't get better, she just has to look around..

My dear Padawan, learn a lesson and improve yourself and how you relate with females... The wanting of a man by many females isn't because he has sex with them, but because they see him as unattainable. So she that has him feels pride to keep him, thereby going out of her way to please him lest his attention stray to the bevy of willing women he chose her over. This is the true alpha male's red pill

Bro, calm down, take a tab of vega every few days, to force the blood vessels there back open, do exercises more of aerobics really maybe 30 minutes a day but pace byourself, get your heart rate up and blood flowing... you should be back to normal in a month or so... It seems you don't lead a particularly vigorous life style

Hmm

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Hi, my mb sound system comes on and then trips off, what could be the cause and solution

I'm looking to get work on Upwork and so far, it's been a no show. I'd like to discuss and be mentored by someone with experience in freelance


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Germanhunter:
Hello nairalanders,
It’s with great pleasure that I start this thread about purchasing my first car.
Mid last year, I determined I was going to buy a car and started saving rigorously to try get one…trust me it has been a grand journey …suddenly there was no more henessy, Martel kept staring every night out but I was always like ‘baba chill,I Dey save’… I don’t earn much but I am so tired of jumping buses and Okada and most painfully paying big money to e-hailing………………

OP buying your first car, I advise you to go with something common, the reason being that a car that is common means it has mechanics and parts easily available. Personally I love Honda cars, but as a newbie go with Toyota the ball joint issues in Honda can be challenging and takes a while to see the minute signs it shows. Toyotas don't have this issue as commonly. Also toyotas have great engines in terms of durability. I'm not thrilled at there performance interms of output, how ever it is decent. Things I advise you to check is the undercarriage, and suspension, scanners miss this. Also look at steering clearance, it's a tell tale sign of week tie rods or bushings. Best of luck as you go

Ajumose:
Yes but for short time sales

With proper feeding management. Isn't it possible to ranch full time

nagro999:
Can we talk better on whatsapp?

Send me a text message with your WhatsApp number 09020550050

nagro999:

Am in Abeokuta here
There is nothing bad about fish farming and snail.
I have knowledge of fish farming.

I'm in Edo state.

Ajumose:
it possible but make sure you have herders before taking them to edo.... cow doesn't like to stay in one environment for one two weeks. They like taking them from one place to another

But it's possible to ranch them

Ajumose:
The best range if cow you can buy is 130k , 140k , 150k. Minimum cow you can have under us is 5. Charges every month is 5k per cow. This will cover herder handler and medicines

Is it possible to have this done in Edo state

Are these lands still available in Edo?

What's the initial cost of purchase, and the monthly maintenance you mentioned

What's your location and how do you deal with a set up from scratch, do you have any knowledge of fish farming and snailry?

Is it still available?

What to swap or sell my Mercedes e350 2007model

Lol the name dey off me Charles debono... In urhobo debono means witch

Lies

It may also come from your engine wire harness, had that happen to me before

Please explain the process

8 units of what capacity. Pictures please