Jman06:
Somebody who has had ten body counts is promiscuous! The ten are just those she told op about, there may still be many more she didn't disclose to op.

And the men? Do they also have body counts or na wood Dem dey insert their rod?

By the time you come back to this forum to complain about this same lady, all the people here trying to guittrip you into marrying that girl would blame you and accuse you of ignoring the red flags.

Tenrack:
sorry if I struck a chord. I'm just stating the bitter truth. You and your ilk cannot escape it.

Too late to cry blood.... I married at 22. So carry your craze commot for my front

OdefaGirl:



And the men? Do they also have body counts or na wood Dem dey insert their rod?

Men and women are not judged alike when it comes to issue of sex.

If you're no comfortable with her last, breakup and move on.

If not, you'll slowly resent her and eventually start suspecting her of cheating. Recipe for disaster.

Unclebayo:
Her past really matters BEWARE

Of truth she's got no dark past nah
She is just unlucky ,,,

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex

If you're judging her based on her past (having been intimate with the guys she dated) which to me is NO different from yours after all you're NOT a virgin yourself, is preposterous!

OdefaGirl:


You know that infertility in marriages are mostly from the male partners, but the women still bears the brunt, be whining your mouth till you marry.

ode

omooba969:


@bolded,

You get mind o! She dey introduce you as Ex to her husband in the barracks...lol 😂

She knew her hubby was matured I suppose. Plus I had just returned so was nowhere in the picture for a while. In hindsight I wouldn’t have gone to see here nor she introduce me if there would have been trouble 😀

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

guy, no one is a saint, a Lady that stand by you in difficult moments and love you unconditionally is one to keep. No allow all these redpill and small boy that doesn't know what life is all about to deceive you.

I really blame her for not keeping her secrets to herself… Everyone has one or two secrets most especially the men folks are worse, now you using are sincerity against her like you are a saint

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

Yhu don't deserve her....
Imagine a stinking guy calling some girl a bad name in something yhu have done and worse in yhur short stay on earth!

Tufiakwa!
Omo Ase, Eda...
Yhu just seriously pissed me off damn!


How can I un-read this nonsense I just read...
Mtcheeew.....

Jman06:
Men and women are not judged alike when it comes to issue of sex.

Clap for yourself.... Saint Obi

elmagnifico411:
you have a past, and she does have too.. u decided not to talk about yours cos u don't want us to see u as 'brostitute' like u mentioned, which means u were a bad boy in the past. U must have impregnated girls and paid for their abortion, but u want us to judge your girlfriend, reasons u went on and on about her past. Bros, you're a hypocrite! She's the one I'll blame sha for opening that much to u not knowing u wouldn't be able to handle it. If u cannot continue since u think you're better than her, leave the lady alone! U are not a good person, and u don't deserve a good girlfriend cos that lady came clean to u, which makes her now a good person. Abeg shift.

Very good point, you're one of the few brilliant people here. I blame the girl for telling you what you're not matured enough to handle (not that you're any better).
It's better to free her quickly than wasting her time further but I can tell you something for free.
There are no better girls out there, if you leave your current girlfriend,you'd wish you didn't,and lastly try to grow up.
Too many kids nowadays diving into relationship. Una think say na play?

OdefaGirl:


Too late to cry blood.... I married at 22. So carry your craze commot for my front

is that why you're jubilating? Unless say you no sleep around o. There's no way you're escaping it.

Jman06:
By the time you come back to this forum to complain about this same lady, all the people here trying to guittrip you into marrying that girl would blame you and accuse you of ignoring the red flags.

you dey mind dem

ddd4ky:
Not forgotten. You just mentioned how you guys slept with her. You can always remind her of your sexual days anytime she tried to feel too big. No matter her position. She remain your ex-sexual partner and can tell it to her face.

Why would I bring someone's past to their faces?

You came to the wrong place for advice,
Do what makes you happy

She told u story of 10 guys she meet , remember all those 10 guys have knacked her more than 4 times do the calculation
Bros I know this is whats bothering you

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

Na your prick dey talk no be your brain.

Tenrack:
is that why you're jubilating? Unless say you no sleep around o. There's no way you're escaping it.

Why won't I jubilate, since you guys on Nairaland tags Nigerian girls as wayward and all..... Marrying at 22 is a big deal. Before I forget, the story of my past, I narrated and hubby has met like 2 exes.... This life is all about maturity. I was ready for marriage and hubby was too. Every other thing is a distraction which we don't give room to. What matters is your NOW. And yes, they were few I dated because at that age, it's normal.... Assuming I reached 30, it definitely must have increased, so you guys should take it easy with Nigerian girls unless you are talking about the ones doing business with their body

SUPERPACK:
A brostitute have no right to call another a prostitute, simple.

Then you must not have been living on Planet Earth..
Like I said,this is not a court of law..

OdefaGirl:



Why won't I jubilate, since you guys on Nairaland tags Nigerian girls as wayward and all..... Marrying at 22 is a big deal. Before I forgot, the story of my past, I narrated and hubby has met like 2 exes.... This life is all about maturity. I was ready for marriage and hubby was too. Every other thing is a distraction which we don't give room to. What matters is your NOW. And yes, they were few I dated because at that age, it's normal.... Assuming I reached 30, it definitely must have increased, so you guys should take it easy with Nigerian girls unless you are talking about the ones doing business with their body

well said. I wish you many more happy years in your marriage

iamtardey:
O lor far inside life… waa lo beh ni abi bawo kilo think

🤣🤣🤣

If you let her go you might not get her kind anymore, good girls are scarce and she's a perfect example of a good wife in view.

Latty88:
OP be sincere, you too have had something to do with a lot of girls!

Just like the way some of those girls in your past used you likewise some of thee guys in her past used her too. Therefore you have no right to judge or condemn her.

If you cannot deal with her past free her quickly.

Unfortunately most ladies don't use this as deal breaker when committing while most men do. It isn't equal in both sexes just like most men don't see ladies not financially buoyant as a deal breaker but most ladies see that as a deal breaker.

Rating for men is substantially different from that of women, it is what it is and not what it ought to be.

You are not wrong at all!!! Too many kids diving into relationships nowadays oooooo.. the rubbish they do makes one wanna puke.
Person tell u something in confidence hoping that you'd have her back and treat her better, you begin spread am upandan like wet clothes. Some guys no dey try.

femmoy:



Very good point, you're one of the few brilliant people here. I blame the girl for telling you what you're not matured enough to handle (not that you're any better).
It's better to free her quickly than wasting her time further but I can tell you something for free.
There are no better girls out there, if you leave your current girlfriend,you'd wish you didn't,and lastly try to grow up.
Too many kids nowadays diving into relationship. Una think say na play?

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

While we learn from the past, so far all you've said is her past was one of being helpful to who she was dating. She was faithful to them and loyal and supportive, you shouldn't have those things come up .. her past no matter how many wasn't bad. She dated and was dedicated... Not flings, not one night stand. Bro embrace your woman, apologize and love her or give me her number

forget any nigerian girl bro OP they are all damaged and can render your life useless

find a foriegn lady or find a virgin to bear your kids....


That is why @angrygoat @womenareapezz @savedday2 and @strongalphmale advises us to beware of nigerian girls they are all uselesss

Dey play

Sha dey play

So ladies never run you script as if na movie you dey watch before??

Oluwa a wa pelu e

Run From Anyone who's thought affects your mental health adversely!!
Else you'll live the rest of your life in regret and mental trauma!

Ultimately you will start hating her if you go ahead and marry her so you will be subjecting her to unnecessary pains as well.

Those who says forget her past obviously have the grace to do so. Not everyone has that mental strength!

Moreso you only have one life to live Bro, so help yourself to where you'll be happy and mentally comfortable!

Peace!

The more this threads roles into pages the more confuse op is.

I have red alot of nice comments here today, infact I took it from one to maybe 6. But op you've not been answering questions of commenters o, are you sure you really need advice abi na play you dey play.

Anyways let me say my own.....a girl confess are past to you no really mean anything nowadays o walai,. this girls don study guys that anytime dey open up about their past always make them appear like a saint. I will advise you to just leave her and let her go, my ex did all the good girl stuff just as you've mentioned above.......hmmm Wetin end ham, she still had the mind to be sending nude to guys despite the love we both shared.

So op abeg pray for sign nd follow your intuition. God bless you.