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dondele:
@rubbermaid
i caught u looking at ma profile. did u see anything u like?

LOL! As a matter of fact yes

Don't mind me jare I was just been nosy

@needeeg
Yep, there's some truth in some of those jokes.

@janet and Dondele

Abeg set the date now. I want to come and eat rice

dondele:
@rubber
i see, ok. that explains a lot. so will u get married at all?

yeah, I will. I like misery and there's that darn thing called love

dondele:
janet
wont mine marrying you.

You heard it here on nairaland first - a proposal?

And yes, I a little bitter about marriage as I have friends, a sister, and a sister-in-law (yes, brothers wife) who are patching it because they don't want to be not married. Na wa oh. Marriage is not all bliss. Some people look happy from the outside but na different story inside house.

@Dondele,

You should re-read my previous post. I modified it.

Ok, you know!

yeah, a lot of people do have the misconception that their parents had/have a happy marriage.
I'm not saying it aint so in your case but you you really don't know. And that's the real truth.

But, I 'think' my parents had a very very happy marriage 38yrs until my dad died. At least they made us feel happy and loved.

PS - And, I do support the institute of marriage though - with it's misery and all. J/K!

WHY AM I MARRIED?

You have two choices in life:
You can stay single and be miserable,
or get married and wish you were dead.


At a cocktail party, one woman said to another,
"Aren't you wearing your wedding ring on the wrong finger?"
"Yes, I am. I married the wrong man."


A lady inserted an ad in the classifieds:
"Husband Wanted".
Next day she received a hundred letters.
They all said the same thing:
"You can have mine."


When a woman steals your husband,
there is no better revenge than to let her keep him.


A woman is incomplete until she is married. Then she is finished.

A little boy asked his father,
"Daddy, how much does it cost to get married?"
Father replied, "I don't know son, I'm still paying."



A young son asked,
"Is it true Dad, that in some parts of Africa
a man doesn't know his wife until he marries her?"
Dad replied, "That happens in every country, son."


Then there was a woman who said,
"I never knew what real happiness was until I got married,
and by then, it was too late."



Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
If you want your spouse to listen and
pay strict attention to every word you say -- talk in your sleep.



Just think, if it weren't for marriage, men would go through life
thinking they had no faults at all.


First guy says, "My wife's an angel!"
Second guy remarks, "You're lucky, mine's still alive."



" A Woman's Prayer:
Dear Lord, I pray for: Wisdom, To understand a man , to Love and to
forgive
him , and for patience, For his moods. Because Lord, if I pray for
Strength
I'll just beat him to death "

got this one www.naijalounge.com

not sure of it's quality tho.

Nothing jare! Hissing!!!!!!
I'm just mad that I don't know why people can't tell us what they do for a living. It's simple.

What do you do for a living?

Me, I am an IT professional. 5 years with my company. Studied Computer Science. Finish.

oh yes, Hi5 etc are all included

Yep, people with a list of 'friends' that they most probably don't know.

I'll also add this to my list:

5. Old men trying to talk to young girls.
<If you are more than 5- 10 years older than her (assuming that you are legal within that range), than the girl please move along.>

iice:
ax = ask lol

LOL!! Thanks for clearing that up iice. I was wondering wetin I do wen e go ax me.

Re: going for the jugular, I might try that as the last resort so I can know one way or the other and move on if need be.

Please list a really nice naija hookup site that you know. Thanks!

One that has a good mix of naija professionals from all over ie Naija, UK, USA etc
Please don't list anyone that is inundated with pups ie peeps under 21. Tired of children trying to act like grown folks. Thanks!

1. Pictures that make you look like you are suffering, haba! Find one that presents You in the best light possible.

2. Ladies that show all the goods at once, excercise some restraint abeg. Noone wants to see you in your club gear, ti-tis hanging out and all

3. Capitalized profiles - please think of what you want in a partner beyond "Light complexioned etc "

4. Guys - you telling me about all your material possessions upfront does nothing for me, I hate that!!

K, 'nough of my ranting. What annoys you most?!

dondele:
you both are still tasting the waters. hang in there and drop the game playing. he is a good guy and a lil interest from you wont hurt him.

Hey Dondele,

Nice to get a male perspective - I feel that accepting and going over to his place for dinner should show my interest. Also, me being amenable and having phone/txt conversations should show that I'm interested in what he has to say. What type of interest do you mean?
Now, keep in mind that I don't do the whole 'girl asking guy' out thing. Just not my style.

kiki:
he is totally into u but i guess he don't want to be 2 forward but girl he gon ax u soon

Why is he going to ax me soon?

ikamefa:
am not saying put a distance btwn you guys,am saying if he is a good person like you described hey , hang in there good friends are hard to find.
the guy might just be" testing the waters" he might be the cautious type . aint nuffin wrong with kicking it with him on a friendly basis who knows , him fit fall yakata later as you don fall

and stop playing games girl , just be you ,you want to call him ,pick up the phone and call but not on a stalking level oh

Girl, I hear you!, but truth is if I called him everytime I wanted to, I'd be stalking him I think
I think I'll drop the games, but still make it a point to put some distance - like no more dinners etc until I am sure I'd be cool with just being friends (without any expectations), right now, I guess I am expecting that he's doing stuff cause he might like me and want to ask me out, which may or may not be the case,
So until I can work out all thie complicated dating (or not dating) mess maybe I should work on me being cool with hanging out with him just because it's cool to hang out with him, without the strings, expectations etc

Will be tough though but I think I can hang tough .

Geez, don't be nice about it
J/Kidding - yeah, I feared that might be the case, dang it. Oh well.
Although, he did send a txt this morn that said "Hey Sweetie"
I didn't respond 'cause honestly, I was playing games trying not to show that I'm into him, so although I have only two feedbacks now, you both are getting me pretty convinced that that might be the case so I think I'll just leave the game playing all alone and just start to put some distance between us until I can reign in my goo goo ga ga feelings.

He sends me text messages everyday, and calls about twice a week. My heart actually skips a bit when he sends me txt messages, or calls, and I find myself wanting to call him often (but I don't) etc, the problem is that although, he has invited me over for dinner twice (he cooked y'all!!!), and quickly offered to go with me to the car dealership when I had a little accident, he has not 'asked' me out, nor done anything else to show that he'd like to date me, it's so confusing to me!! I don't want to mis-read him and I am not the type of girl to make a move so this is really eating me up. I'd like to continue to play it cool but I think I am losing my typically nonchalant, wont-return-phone-calls-readily, wont-go-out-of-my-way-to-impress, etc

So people, tell me, what do you think is going on? Is he into me but too shy, intimidated by me having my act completely together, or whatever else? My cousin thinks he might be but I don't think so cause he's got his own stuff going well for him, actually, I hate to admit it but he does intimidate me a bit myself. He's an architect and has his own interior design business.

Do you think that perhaps like the book, "He's Just Not That Into You" (see link below), that he's probably just not that into me?