@Kingolat

Hi. Are you Yoruba? I don't see much in your profile plus given the circumstances I'm treading cautiously - I hope you understand

For starters, I have a couple questions (ice breakers) to help me feel you out a bit better. Please answer as honestly and as best as you can since there are no right or wrong answers. You can ask me your pertinent questions too.

Here are mine:

1. What is most important to you in a female?
2. Why did your last relationship fail? How long did it last?
3. What is your religion and what do you like most about it? Least?
4. What best describes your attitude toward work?
5. What is your idea of the perfect relationship?

angelchi:

hmmm you're indeed looking 4 mr perfect, bt nt to worry happy findind.

Txs girl! I hope I do

@JustGood
Obviously, you have nothing constructive to add other than displaying your ignorance. You can't even comprehend simple English - how does "at least one year before " translate to "only one year"?
Additionally, what business is it of yours what I want or don't want for my personal life? So clueless! Better step, begin wave and don't let the door smack your ass on your way out. Nonsense!


Now to better discussions - Saddam, tell me more about your brother. What does he do etc.

Key to states on map

Here is the full picture

I saw this blog that equates the GDP of various nations to states within the US and was shocked that Nigeria's GDP only equates to Hawaii.

By the way, you'll be shocked to see how the world (except for the U.K., Japan, Germany, China, and Italy) are all consumed within the US.


http://bigpicture.typepad.com/comments/2007/01/countries_gdp_a.html

On the Jesus question, Jesus is integral to my religion if that helps.

I guess I do like Jesus too!

Ah, I was aiming more for 33 - 38 ish. But, in the spirit of keeping an open mind since love can occur from any angle - is he young at heart?

Mr. Seun - good morning. Optimal placement would be tremendously appreciated. Thanks!

I am now single and looking. About me:

Female. Well educated - post graduate. Intelligent. Friendly. Good looking. Compassionate. Worldly. Agreeable. A little stubborn. Ambitious. Romantic. Financially savvy. Naturally long healthy hair (I'm proud of it). A Wanderlust traveler. From a good family. Can cook and does so wholeheartedly for the right person. God-friendly. Outgoing. Obviously not shy. Sometimes caustic (only when provoked though).

Loves music, arts, cuddling, movies, laughing, and reading classical novels and well written contemporary works.



In no particular order, this is what I am looking for:

I like tall, good looking, nice teeth, honest, hardworking guys. I like a guy from a good close-knit family - no drama please.

Not from a polygamous home. Well educated - must have at least a masters. Cultural exposure beyond Nigeria is preferable. Can't stand a nagging man or worse, a lazy man!!

Looking to date for at least one year then who knows,

It is predicted to continue to heavily impact our national revenue if not controlled.
I have no ideas but I bet nairalanders can figure it out.

What should OBJ do about managing this crisis?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/6245137.stm

This is what we need - offshore wind farms for constant electricity. We can afford it if people stop stuffing their pockets.

http://thrillingwonder..com/2007/01/wind-power-in-stormy-waters.html

akamihe:

Believe it or not u can't do without trust in any relationship - Business, Marital, etc. Just pray to God to rebuke the devourer for you. There are good n bad people everywhere. Internet scam n fraud is not peculiar to Nigeria. We have plenty good guys here in Nigeria. If u need convinction, take a risk, give me a try! Lets c how it goes. One love.

Abeg let us hear word. The truth is that God is tired of Nigeria!!
Generally speaking, the average Nigerian doesnt even KNOW what is right or wrong anymore. Our values are screwed up so badly that I even suspect most Nigerians are now born with a fraudulent gene - passed off to their offsprings.

Unless I know the Nigerian from belle, or they have established good values (especially from a values-based society), I will not touch a Nigerian 'business person' with a 6-foot pole!

And to the person that mentioned getting a lawyer - abeg no make me laugh!
What can a lawyer do for you in a lawless society? Please save your money!

This is a somewhat urgent request!!!

Please let me know if you know of one and please provide their contact info.

A good friend is getting married in naija in march and per our sorority 'tradition', - we would like to treat her to a full day of pampering at a very nice spa.

My favorite youtube video

http://youtube.com/watch?v=K702Gt8_lkE

Hey, - the good thing is that you don't need to.

this is soooo sad!!!!!!!!!

Our government has got to put a stop to this --- people are losing their lives over the 419 business.

Read the article below - long but worth it.

http://www.newyorker.com/fact/content/articles/060515fa_fact

<warning: I heard this 2nd-hand but looked it up.>

The "Nigerian Scammer" epidemic to be featured on 20/20 on Friday, Dec 8th at 10pm ET. - I verified this much

I also hear that the story is supposedly going to show the problem as a government-endorsed, and culturally accepted practice in Nigeria.
The "I Go Chop Your Dollar" song will be used to underscore the perception that Nigerians widely endorse 419.

My biggest agro is that they continually say "Nigerian Scammer" - it irks me.

Anyway, don't miss it - ABC 20/20 on Friday at 10pm ET. Will also be aired on World News

Read more - http://blogs.abcnews.com/theblotter/2006/12/churches_minist.html

No kidding - why can't we all just get along?

Leaving for Church o. Will hate for HIM to say this is the reason my prayers were not heard.

@Radiant - Truce?

Let's start allover. Hi, my pseudonym is Rubbermaid, and I am an overly opinionated woman (sometimes).
I have varied interests in music, art, fashion, books, and machine-level computer technology. I'm also an avid reader and love to travel. I love to hang out with people from various backgrounds. I love kids and think they are the most precious things on earth. I hope to have lots and adopt lots more in the near future (~ 2 years).

K, running off - late for Church already. Take care and TTYL.

@Radiant - Regarding:

I've dealt with a lot of your kind on Nairaland,

What a cretin! Obviously too twitty to realize that you have underscored the point!
Anyway, don't hurt yourself trying to think. Stick to what you do best - you know how you hyenas act. Just bite harder.

PS - Don't forget to continue the ignorant ebonic slant on English. It is so "cute" burp

@Topic

Love + A caring heart will make it do-able.

Radiant:

@rubbermaid, I've already made my point. Don't twist it!!!

About the dog, it's gon be on my profile for people like you to drool over its ass.

Yeah. Whatever. I guess it's real cute to be an ass these days *bored yawning*
I know it's hard for dogs to do but please try not to follow me. I'm done with you - burp.

- and now, I'm off to other things. Thank you very much.

glamour:

@Rubbermaid
that was funny.

Txs! Exhibit A's sense of humor may not process it though - oh well can't win for losing

I'm still here - so obviously nothing happened
Guess that's why one has to play for fun. Darn scammers. J/K. Nothing spoil.

EXHIBIT A: From Radiant(female)

Radiant:

@Rubbermade, what the noise for? What those stupid comments for?

Bet you more of an animal than any other person here. Nonsense!

Apparently, Exhibit A (Radiant) took offence to my post and possibly for good reasons too. Perhaps I hit too close to home. What I said was:

Rubbermaid:

"What makes the 'only-me-and-my-offsprings mentality' any different from a pack of wild animals that are not intelligent enough to socialize beyond the boundaries of their packs?
Darn pack of wild hyenas! I bet some of you will even eat the young for your own selfish benefit."

First: Physical appearance
Although hyenas bear some physical resemblance to the African wild dogs _{Please examine Exhibit A's photo - Radiant (Female)} , they make up a separate biological family which is most closely related to Herpestidae (the family of mongooses and meerkats). - From Wikipedia on Hyenas.

Ostensibly, according to her profile, I can deduce that Exhibit A from Magheru might be a wild African dog (female).

Secondly: Behavior
An adult hyena's bite pressure _{[Bite pressure as displayed in the 1st quote by Exhibit A - the Radiant (Female) Hyena]} can reach 800 lb per square inch; it can crush bone!

Hyenas and Children:
Infanticide is common amongst hyenas. "Prior to the mother's return, another adult female (a full sister to the new mother) arrives and methodically kills both newborns with crushing bites to the head" - (by Paula A. White) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyena


Now, please visualize for a moment - Exhibit A (Female) around a child that is not hers - given her innate desire to bite very hard, and the physical description of a wild dog - as displayed in her profile (Don't let shame make you change your picture o!). Now, what do you think Exhibit A aka Radiant from Magheru might do in that situation?

Looks like a hyena, acts like a hyena, smells like a hyena ----mmh, it might [/b]be a what? Mmh, I don't know -- let's see --- perhaps a hyena?!

[b]Thanks. I rest my case on Exhibit A.

DFWMB! I eat pea brains for lunch and [i]still [/i]have room for desert (burp). You have no freaking idea.

Seun:

A single father or mother may be a widow, a divorcee, or a victim of sexual assault or teenage stupidity. Those are not crimes that deserve a lifetime of punishment. Even if the parent deserves such punishment, the child does not.

I'm not a single father, neither am I a single mother, but I just don't see the wisdom in avoiding a good partner just because he/she has a child. Don't marry them because of "love" but because of compatibility.

Very well said Seun! - a sign of a rare ability (in Nigerians) to think beyond the confines of a very narrow mind. - bound by the stupidity of social norms.

We are so f'kd up in our narrow-mindedness and warped priorities -it's not even funny. We claim to be so intelligent as Naijas but really, think about it - what makes the 'only-me-and-my-offsprings mentality' any different from a pack of wild animals that are not intelligent enough to socialize beyond the boundaries of their packs?
Darn pack of wild hyenas! I bet some of you will even eat the young for your own selfish benefit.

So there is no room in our evil hearts for unconditional love of a child who's (father/mother) one claims to love? And we wonder why messed up things happen to us in Nigeria - we are too f**king wicked as a people!!!!!! And we have learned to cleverly disguise our wickedness by sheepishly inclining towards norms (blindly like sheep).

If the man get pickin nko? Is that more important than finding out what kind of a person he really is (in character, etc).
So some of you are advicing to leave the man without asking questions more pertinent to a long lasting and loving relationship other than the fact that he has a child or children. So what? When did a child become a problem? Aren't kids in general, people to be nutured and hopefully developed to their full potentials? It's only in Nigeria that another person's child could be so negatively regarded just because you are not the birth parent. Yet, we'll be so fast to lay claim to them when inspite of wickedness they have grown into successful peeps.

[b]My uncle-in-law and aunt (both Nigerians) have been married for 30 years now - first in Nigeria and came to the US when the girls where 6 and 8 years old. Each had a child (one girl each) prior to marriage. You won't even know that any differences exist in their household. My cousins are so close, and realize they each have one 'other' parent but they wholeheartedly regard my uncle-in-law and aunt as THEIR PARENTS because that's the way they treated them - as 100% belonging to each. They even planned naija vacations together (as the parents) so my cousins could visit their now remarried biological parents and other siblings. The result is that together, and with their love, they have groomed 2 fine citizens. Both are medical doctors from Ivy league schools - earning crazy dollars. Of course, the biological parents are prolly wishing now - but if you ask my cousins, their parents are the ones that raised them. That's who they know as providing unconditional parental love. Both visit, and regard each part of our families as 'their' family. My other cousin even spends more time visiting us than my blood cousin sometimes. They react and pitch-in the same way if either parent is ill or needs them. I can't even begin to imagine what the outcome would have been if they had been doomed to mindsets like some I have seen on this forum. For example, if my aunt had treated her (step) daughter differently. Love begets love. Kindness begets kindness - you get what you give. if you treat/nuture the child as your own - it will in turn regard you wholeheartedly as it's parent. Children typically don't need much more than love and care. Is that too much to give - especially for a good man?
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[li]We'll readily accept the notion of people marrying 419-ers, habitually cheats, dating married men, prostitution etc but then consider a child a constraint to a loving relationship?[/li]
[li]Also - What in heavens name makes it difficult/impossible to love a child in one's care (assuming you marry the father) regardless of who the mother/father is?

Problem with us is that we are too wicked, spiteful, insecure Someone was even so stupid as to say - "oh, it is not your first born child" - darn, short-sighted fuul! [/li]
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Growing up, my parents trained (through notable federal and foreign universities) a total of 6 house-helps (no blood relations) as though they were our older siblings. Three of them were sent to the states for college. We all had the same darn opportunities - they even had them before we did (being older). Today we are all better for it. I have 3 (in addition to my siblings) homes all over the states that I can go visit and feel as though I were in my own home. I even stayed with one my first couple years in college. Her husband and kids regard me as her younger sister. And I know when I start having kids I'll have more FAMILY for my kids. My point is:

OPEN YOUR DARN MINDS INTELLIGENTLY!!! SEE BEYOND YOUR VERY SHORT NOSES!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AMRjymIvGu4&NR

Thumbs up or down In response to the video "I go Chop Your Dollar"


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AMRjymIvGu4&NR

Seun:

@Rubbermaid: You haven't said anything at all. Does a country consist of the government or the people?

If Ghana is so wonderful, why did 'we' have to force so many Ghanians to leave in the Ghana-must-go era?

@Seun: A geographic region aka country, state, city, town etc may be filled with people and sheep etc but is defined by its government.

Regarding Ghana, as Iewa rightly pointed out, you are comparing apples to oranges. The mass exodus of Ghanians from Nigeria happened decades ago while I was still wearing white ankle socks. Overtime, Ghana has proven to be a more stable country (government) for its people in terms of infrastructure, education etc. Ghanians even adequately capitalized on wireless communications at least 5 years before we did. Do you know that some foreign governments require you as a Nigerian to go through Ghana in order to process immigration visas to their country? Reason is simply that the processes in Ghana are more reliable than ours today.

Having said that, lets not make this about Ghana vs Nigeria because that is not the point. The point is whether we (Nigerians) are ready for the type of changes we truly deserve.

Oga Seun - i know you are used to people kissing your hiney (maybe including yours truely), but I have to call you out on the [i]faulty [/i]logic behind your statements. To say that the government of a country is not working well but the country is working may sound sensible initially but is actually naive and meaningless once considered.

These following statements are also either naive, may sound like truths at face value etc but are really not sound logically.

Seun:

Nigeria is quite ok. All the things that government can't provide, we entrepreneurs will eventually provide.

- This one is so naive its not even funny. Then my dear friend, what will be the purpose of a governing structure? We might as well scrap it right, and run around like lawless buffoons. Providing for oursleves and doing as we darn well please---puhlease!

Seun:

Due to ignorance, we are achieving less than we can achieve under this government. In time, we'll learn.

In absolute terms, Nigeria is ok. We shouldn't be comparing ourselves to countries that are much older. This is like saying a secondary school student is a dunce because she is not as smart as a professor. Give us time, we'll grow.

- uhm, I thought the initial comparison was to uhm, let's see G H A N A! Ghana is not much older than Nigeria. Additionally, a good government, like any good organization is not based on AGE/YEARS. It is based on good, working, well thought out processes with checks and balances, and meaningful provisions for lawful adaptations to the processes. These processes must also be properly and [b]consistently [/b]implemented. We don't need donkey years for such. We need the willingness, determination, and brains to begin to attempt a positive change in Nigeria. I am confident we have the mindpower. Willingness and determination - that one is anyones guess.

mmh, so it's this or

iice:

Yeah many people especially guys find her really sexy. I mean she's sexy alright as in curves and what not but am not just a fan lol. Halle still reigns as my sexiest woman

Yeah, Halle used to be the Sexiest Woman in my books - but her string of bad relationships makes me wonder about how sexy she really is
I think the looks, personality, feminine wiles etc should be tight. I'm not sure she has it all togehter hence the slew of failed relationships.

In anycase, she is still a beauty and I still give her her props for that!