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JudgementHammer:
Wetin u knw. Talking when necessary is not talkativeness. Keeping quiet when talking is necessary cld be regretable. The children are not deaf and dumb, they have a mind of their own. They themselves can see what's going on he only has to relate with them b4 they choose to follow their mother's footsteps.

indeed.that's what happens when you marry a boy not a man.it's only an immature boy that cannot grow balls but be doing cho cho cho about. Before you know it you're talking to the wrong person who WIll use the information against you .yeye dey boom. Or you think your kids Don't have friends who they confide in.Before you say Jack Robinson all your marital life is in public and a table for discussion then you become a laughingstock. Continue. Shebi them no use hot water press your mouth for small

Oyind17:
Long time, where you hide since?

Good morning

I've been around since

espionagesavvy:
Please am 13 years old, and I know a lot about pedophiles and child sexual predators. You sound like one, this is always how they start conversation. Please daddy, look for your mate..

what does pedophililes have to do with topic of thread.chaiii see victim of child abuse who thinks everyone is intrested in his private part

Pele dear.you'll get over it

aalangel:
She's just trying too hard. Meanwhile, TVC's Your View, discussed her yesterday.

bad belle let us see your dressing

espionagesavvy:
Iyanya looks like a dwarf.. see him neck and arm. For de abs... taa gbafuo there, ifu nkem igbaka aa..

painment

Because you no get one pack talkless of 6

agarawu23:
she earns more than me doesn't mean I can't talk o, well, I don't know if she ready to marry her money cos I can't shitt from her

story

But you'll feel more manly iF she was depending on you for everything abi?

Including money for sanitary pad

But as she's making her own money body dey pepper you

Trolling and bullying again?

When posts don't massage their egos na to troll and bully

This mods need to come and wipe off some disgraceful comments here

EVILFOREST:
WOMEN DON SUFFER

MARRIAGE na CHAMPIONS LEAGUE.

chaiiiiiiiii..
Thank GOD say I no be woman.
Pls. What's all these oooooo...?

na world cup sef

Anybody wey no win that world cup Don enter am for nl

Even Genevieve nnaji,Rita Dominic and Linda ikeji dey give them sleepless nights on nl over their marital status

cococandy:
Lol. Every woman is unhappy I guess.

If you're married, you have to be suffering and smiling for anyone to believe you.

And if you're single, you must be wetting your pillows every night for a man. That's why everyone feels obliged to offer single ladies unsolicited advice on how to catch and keep a man to reduce their misery.

Oyind17:
internet where cat claim to be tiger

even Ben Bruce cc Mr head of the home

agarawu23:
that's the problem with women tho some of them will come here and bite u but we can't be deceived ladies aren't the same.

THTRATEN HER, let her know she is gradually preparing to go back to her parents if you can't be the boss in the house. Even if she earns billion monthly, you are still the head and you have the final say in the house.


Though some husband are dull sha, they will tolerate nonsense until it get out of control

You're writing letter to disgrace. Threaten a woman that earns 4x what you earn?

Why do you people's phenese shrink when she's relatively comfortable financially

JudgementHammer:
Power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely.

How are u even sure she doesn't hav anoda man outside by now. I would hav said u shd meet her parents concerning this but if she's their breadwinner they may not be disciplined enough to chastise her. But all her friends and family can't have same mentality. Even if telling them doesn't change anything, its still ok u tell dem so that when u take ur actions, it won't look foolish. Of course u knw u can't tell most of ur family ppl else u will double d wahala. And if u say u want to discipline her urself as a man, when ppl hear that she earns 4-5times more than u, they'll take her side wch is embarassing.

So if u try those and e no work, my advice 4 u be say if u have children and u luv ur kids, let dem see/knw what's going on for a while if they can understand..this is very important especially 4 future sake. Then separate with her since seeing her disrespect u in ur home will hurt ur feelings but promise ur children to always be supportive to dem and keep d promise.

U will see after a long time when d kids are grown, she will then come back 2 her senses and say u shd take her back as if her senses evaporated into d air b4. But it might be too late sha.

grow up na

Reporting your wife TO your kids or in-laws. Chaii.you're only opening doors of disrespect.where do you see talkative men that get respected. Meanwhile if it's a woman doing all this b.s you'll say she's immature and not ready for marriage. She talks too much She lacks self respect

johnson232:
spurious and baseless....

another narcissist/bushmeat on the loose

Why don't you feel like a man until a woman is subjugated

To the role of a sex machine,baby making machine and cook.every other ambition is meaningless

EVILFOREST:
Good morning
Pls. OP when will all these RUBBISH posts end.. ?

when you leave your caveman mentality

Next narcissist

KanwuliaJara:
Did the OP see her looking for a husband?
This na 2016 almost o.
Husband nor dey reign again.
That na 'unto OLD SKOOL'!
Shioooooor!!!!

how can you be dignifying village men that grew up in a thick forest raised by another illiterate mother who's purpose in life was to live to please a man

kelvinclint:
Now, talking about divorce,
in most African divorce
cases, the man lives the
woman and the woman is left
miserable, because all she
was designed to be was a
wife, and not an individual
with personal goals. If
African women were taught to
be achievers as much as
they were groomed to be
wives, they would have been
more self-dependent in the
face of divorce.
This infact rubs off on the
children, because in most
cases the children are left
with the struggling mother
who can't take proper care
of them without a man.
Funmilayo Alakija is a classic
example... She is the richest
black woman on earth. Her
husband left her, and her 4
male sons. Somehow she
strived hard enough to
create her own heaven and
her children to live in.
If she was just a good wife,
and not an achiever, where
would she and her 4 children
be today?

No it's an abomination for a woman to desire greatness. Everything must be about marriage and living to please a man

Any woman that is ambitious makes their phenese shrink as kanwuliajara would say

No wonder my posts always gives dustbin pusher and crackheads headache.unfortunately for the animals they're still in nl prison

All thanks to me

Till they know how to behave like normal human beings

Adaeze003:
I'm sorry, women or rather, the woman you'll get married to is a thing that you'll love and cherish? Like a newspaper or nice shoe?

Last time I checked, the word "property" meant a THING you own.

If yes then well... good luck to her.

**Smh this stupiid bride price thingy really has us in for it...

you don't know bride price is the money you pay to buy a slave who has to abide to your whims and caprices

Bride price is the price they pay as license of ownership na

Property indeed

Adaeze003:
I'm sorry, women or rather, the woman you'll get married to is a thing that you'll love and cherish? Like a newspaper or nice shoe?

Last time I checked, the word "property" meant a THING you own.

If yes then well... good luck to her.

**Smh this stupiid bride price thingy really has us in for it...

chaiio some women don enter am

Sometimes I wonder whether na for cave OR forest they bring up some men because all this African Bush men mentality henn

KanwuliaJara:
You mean women like Linda Ikeji?

omg.k baby

Oti funny ju

She looks so much like her mom

ismart:
My dear, the jobless one dey him house now oo many nairalanders are from non-cultured home, no offense intended.

I am a Nigerian and an African, the whites, (whom many are emulating) can shove their teaching into their azz.

I have deep respect for my elders and wouldn't stand by and watch anyone treat a mother anyhow. That is me because mothers go through a lot to raise a kid and this my aunt isn't any different. In fact in my family, the women are like AMAZON. I am not saying this as an exaggeration. They take the lead in place of the fathers, even my mum was not different when she was alive.

In the end a daughter in law would not show any feelings to the woman who laboured day and night for her husband?

I left my base in Lagos and travelled back for function but left within 48 hours, the woman still called me and started praying for me on phone.

I wonder the kind of family some people came out from sha... where I come from, we are well bonded!

If something happens tomorrow (God forbid), this same people who tagged me jobless, stranger,home wrecker etc would call me heartless for not "HELPING" my cousin abi? Let's assume he got an accident and they called me to help with money for medical bills... which I refused and stated categorically that I am a stranger and therefore, it is not non of my business.... what would these same people call me? I leave them with their own sha.

bennyrazz:
cheers

same to you

tearoses:


Ha Sis this na N100 Naw
Abeg I need £50 notes the moment o!
But thank you anyway
Half loaf is better than poff poff

hennn just Help us manage that you know $ has become very expensive and the naira has depreciated

bennyrazz:
I actually came back to read this part of your post. And I think, this is the missing ingredient most people lack in relationships. If you don't love yourself, you can't love others, if you don't have it, you can't give it. if you are not happy, you can't radiate happiness. cheers

now you're talking like a real man

The angry/bitter men association of nl chapter have arrived

So what is wrong in women achieving things of their OWN before marriage

But it must be all about marriage. Chaiii

Even some of the crack heads and Dustbin pushers are still cooling their heels in nl prison for daring me


Ahhenn so as I was saying

Gbam.take 5.you have said it all.infact let me spray you money for your wise words
oya take

tearoses:
There is no need to force her because until she seeks help, even if she gets married she will not be happy and her hubby wont be happy either.

Even on good days and during good periods she wont be able to relax and she will keep thinking and expecting that things will go wrong which will in turn affect her behaviour. When the man comes back late one day she will automatically think that the man is having an affair.

What your friend needs is good counsel and good experiences.

She can start by spending time round happy couples and families. Let her watch and see that there are disagreements but they are able to resolve them without mega damage to each other.

She also needs to look inward at herself. You don't just give up on life because of one bad experience. Will she condemn a whole tribe or religion because of a few bad eggs?

To have a happy and fulfilled marriage you need to be happy and fulfilled within you first as you cant give what you dont have.

Forget persuading her for now. She needs help first.

Whether OR not she marries everyone will definitely face the consequences of the choices they made.positively or negatively. Meanwhile

Racism is real in the u.s

Gbam.No matter what your mom did to your dad your mom is still your mom you cannot make my mom your mom

MRBrownJ:
your mother is your mother, whether she ran away, left you or whatever, she still remains your mother. as they were too young to understand, there may have been many issues as to why she left, that they dont know about. at the end of the day, its their choices and if they want to be bitter, then they certainly can, but it sure wont help their family one bit.
everyone makes mistakes (if mistake there was), and everyone deserves a second chance, EVERYONE! as they say:"to err is human, to forgive is divine"

Liesssss

Which man will decide to do vasectomy when that part of their body IS the most important part and they don't joke with it

So because of cs he wants to do vasectomy. Please he should not do vasectomy let him kuku remove everything this way

This girl obviously understands the value of mothers.her mother is her mother anyday anytime. No matter how dirty or illiterate like she is she cannot turn my mother into her mother

Op this your gorge is on point come and dash me

Abi na wetin you use do wedding anniversary

And this your 2daughters fine o

Money and care show for their body well well

Infact them fine pass you