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Kanwulia I so like this woman and that's the answer to your question she has answered

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kanwulia no need for long story. We all know the reason

Ok so how do you know he has ulterior motives and he's trying to undermine his manliness? Your ego told you so right?

Matthewbriggs:

Oh he is now a mummies boy for accepting a gift from his mother, He is now a mummies boy for accepting a nice delicious meal from his mother who loves him, gave birth to him and has been there from him since he was born. As opposed to un-healthy meal from his wife.

Are you not sure it is not the woman who is insecure, What is wrong with the woman, Does she want her husband to suffer and continue staying malnourished. What is wrong with a mans mother preparing a nice meal for her son and giving it to him as a gift. Shouldn't she be happy the mother is providing for her husband good food which she cannot cook. Why are you resorting to calling the man a mummies boy for eating a better food from his mother since his wife has been feeding him thrash.

This is me turn the tables to show you exactly how you guys sound as you go on bloating on how insecure the man is. Without trying to ask the op for more context surrounding the man's actions.

I would repeat this again hopefully the smart ones among you who do not salivate at the opportunity to bash men would take note.

CONTEXT IS EVERYTHING PEOPLE.

In my own example I made with the mother inlaw I provided you context that resulted to his action, the woman would be right to be mad with her MIL. She would be right to be mad with her husband for not seeing how her mother inlaw ploy to undermine her effort.

What I have always tried to make you all understand it this ...

No sane man ... I know would feel slighted if his father inlaw decides to shower his daughter with gifts. Buy her a car, build her a house or buy her a freaking island. No sane man in his right mind would feel bad. Infact he would be very grateful to his father inlaw for his kind gesture and proceed to enjoy it with his wife ... because what ever belongs to his wife belongs to him and vice versa. Who no like better thing.

A sane man would only freak out if this action is carried out with an ulterior motive,

1. As a ploy to undermine his role as the head of the family.
2. As a ploy to clandestinely remind him of his in ability to carry out his responsibility.
3. If he feel his father in-law has a habit or history of interfering in the way he runs his family.

It's not about given someone a gift, what matters the most which we are neglecting is the role the motive behind a gift, and the way it is given, go a long way in deciding how a gift is accepted.

So for me the main bone of contention is not whether the man is right or wrong, or insecure or secure, wicked or kind.

My main bone of contention is fact that majority of people on this thread are running to a conclusion crying blue murder and straight up accusing the man of been egotistic, and crucifying him on the alter of Men vs Women.

Instead of focusing their energy to seek to understand the context of his action and [b]probing the Op to get further get more details on why he acted the way he did. On getting more details can we go on to come to a conclusion. [ /b] whether he is wrong or not. the focus should be to decipher What it is the OP is not telling us.

I expected this thread conversation to flow in this line.

@Op
What is the relationship so far between the Man and his FIL been like in the past.

Does the father inlaw have a habit of interfering into his daughters marriage in the past.

How was the gift presented to the family in what vibe. Is it under the tone of "Mr man why are you allowing my daughter to suffer like this, this is not how she was raised, since you can't provide her a car my angel go into the garage and pick one car."
Or like. My son, I see you both are having issues with your old car I would like to gift my wife one of my cars to aid your situation for the time been till you both get back on your feet.

No sane man would be stupid enough to reject the car gift in the later tone.

I repeat Context is every thing ... before passing judgment and ranting about how men are insecure and egotistic seek context .

Because one thing I know as a man is that yes we may be egotistic but at the same time we would not turn down a car from our father in-law that would help alleviate the pain our family is going through if that said car is presented with the right motive and context.

If you can still read this piece and still do not understand the angle I am coming from ... It is well.


# MathewBriggs

Nonso23:
It's no wonder you turned out the way you are. I mean how can mad people train a reasonable human
People in my kindred don't listen to mentally deficient women.

Pele


its obvious you sucked cow milk as a child instead of human breast milk. No wonder you just whine irrationally

coogar:
don't cosign that old witch of an OP!
she's frustrated - menopause often has it's downsides.

she's just a frustrated she goat looking for who to str@@@ff her and since she didn't see she's channelling her anger at the wrong people

remsonik:
Coogar is one of the constant whiners.

o pulease leave cougar out of this if you don't want some people to pour you acid. Stop looking for his attention

Sophyrocks:
Hehehhehehehehe.

Whiner.

please play am cry me a river by Justin timber lake and irreplaceable by Beyonce

Catch am

Sophyrocks:
I dnt bash men because not all men are the same. I have acknowledged men with good heads on their shoulders in this forum several times. I bash hypocrites!! I bash men like you who have nothing good to say about women. I bash whiners like you. I bash people who always play the blame game. Now thats a difference.

At least you have admitted you never have anything good to say. Ive checked your threads. Its too obvious. Get a good girlfriend to calm you down.

Oya take


keep exposing them


nonso my friend I see you

Sophyrocks:
Thank you for admittting you are one. A whiner who believes another is a whiner. Typical. Lol.
Let me tell you the dfference between you and me. I am analytical, blunt and i detest hypocrisy. If saying things as they are is your definitin of a whiner, then i wear the badge with pride!! I HATE HYPOCRITES POINTING FINGERS WHEN THEY ARE NOT ANY BETTER. I HATE WHINERS. Even jesus christ hated hypocrisy so much that he pointed it out to the pharisees.

You on the other hand are always in threads that bash women, specifically nigerian ladies. Ive been watching you. You are never in productive threads that discuss other important issues and never have anything positive to say . YOU ARE ONE CLASSIFIED WHINER.

Sophyrocks:
Correct. Hard core evidence.

Seriously, i think their whining is a cry for help.

abeg bring basia for them make them fit cry and turn on Justin timber lakes music there


#cry me a river#

Mondisweets:
They are living life to the fullest by dedicating their lives to hunting down women to harrass on NL i bet you they cannot even try that with other men in real life you will see them throwing insults up and down the thread

Mondisweets:
Since you bash women a whole lot, thats means you have never had anyone interested in making you happy abi?

of course by their fruits you shall identify them

Sophyrocks:
You have included yourself by calling the Op a coward. You are feeling guilty then you must be one.

abeg leave the looser jare.hes just being a nuisance

iykedare:
Coward, mention names. The whiners I know are
Sophyrocks
Kulyie

wimp respect your self before you get disgraced

Rxpetite:
even reasonable people (man or woman) have their limits

have a nice day

Nonso23:
Do kids in your village take instructions from mad people

do men in your kindred make meaningless noises

Nonso23:
You are gradually losing it. From ego to farmland to sitting room. It's not surprising though.
Where are the gifs?

I said go and sweep NOW


that's what kids do

Nonso23:
Please keep posting the gifs that is your true calling
At least one gets a reprieve from your usual kata kata talk.

camman sharap and go and sweep your Moms sitting room



be an obedient child

Nonso23:
am i suprised
Your intellectual capacity was over estimated afterall.
#go back to your gifs

Shebi you wan derail the thread na.let me kuku help you throw away am for dustbin

Rxpetite:
i think you misunderstood my first post.
a man who feels threatened by his in-laws generosity is insecure and unreasonable. i agree.
but there are reasons why a reasonable man would refuse any form of interferrence from his in-laws which is : He doesn't get along with them.

and he's not trying to close the gap and distance between them. Shebi I've seen many women going out of their way trying to please and satisfy their mils despite insults. Why can't he too do the same. Abi is he too big to do this

Nonso23:
You are not living up to your notorious infamy.
#go back to your gifs

e pain am e nor see anything talk again na derailment remain

Nonso23:
Go back to your gifs and as$ licking already. That's your true calling.

weed has consumed your farm. You better remove it so it doesn't destroy your plantation instead of making empty noise on nl that cannot turn black to white

Mondisweets:
All you have to offer is your ego nothing else and you think im the one who still reasons like a toddler.

You were already told to start strategising on how to make money instead of strategising how on to be a thorn in your father in-laws butt

Nonso23:
I can't remember where a sane person with a 'fixed' life goes about posting gifs and as$licking.

Real men don't listen to mentally deficient women.

#go back to your gifs

real men don't talk to much. Just look around you and see how many men are ranting to death. They are all gone





fixed life indeed and ordinary car by fil is making you feel threatened

Rxpetite:
they appear not to feel threatened doesn$t mean they are not.
scott has a good relationship with kourtney's family.
lamar was never the type to take any form of bs from his in--laws so they left him alone.
besides all their husbands are rich, cofident and comfortable so you cant compare them to a man having financial plroblems.

so you see how you notice poor man's issues from rich man's own

Nonso23:
Stop bothering yourself about my life. Fix yours first.

#go back to your gifs

it's obviously been fixed that is why I can remind you of your place and the fact that REAL MEN DO LESS TALKING AND CRY BABY WHINNING AND MORE ACTON

a man with ego and an empty pocket is just an ordinary noise maker. A man with healthy self esteem and money are the MEN. That one is just an embarrassment to the real men out there

Mondisweets:
im not the one trying to control how a father should treat his own daughter, you are the one who will need counselling in order to help you mature mentally. In fact i will ask my pastor to send u holy oil to counsel that poverty stricken mentality.

Your ego doesn't mean sh*t when you cannot back it up!

the reasonable conclusion is that your post is senseless

Nonso23:
You are forgetting your gifs.

you are forgetting that you are a man and men don't rant too much


go plan your life

Rxpetite:
well, i dont get your question. mind explaining?

I said kris kardashian is the matriarch in her family and the kardashian ad a whole so how come her daughter's husbands don't feel threatened

Nonso23:
Please go back to posting gifs and as$ licking.
It is glaringly obvious that you cannot string a sequence of logical opinions correctly.

please go back to the farm in your village and go and oversee your farmland

Mondisweets:
his decision or opinion over how to spend money that is not coming out of his pocket? This is hilarious! He dey mad?
You failed to make sense at all

absolutely