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mirexxx:
its not as easy as u say it

winners don't quit and quitters don't win

irishCream:
I'm interested please!

police officer work?lol

fryo4life:
@monalicious, tell your sister to stop chasing degrees. its just a piece of paper. ask PhD holders that apply for dangote driver. certificates without practical skills is a waste.

so because PhD holders apply for driver post she should not further abi?nawa o change that mindset

Nice one bros .

DieeDiee:
You are clearly looking for my attention, try me tomorrow I'm busy right now.

Ps it's "they" it may sound like a "d" to the ear but it's spelled t-h-e-y

how are you doing?

DieeDiee:
You are clearly looking for my attention, try me tomorrow I'm busy right now.

Ps it's "they" it may sound like a "d" to the ear but it's spelled t-h-e-y

Lkmao .....my "dey"is pidgin so don't try to test your English skill on my quote.

DieeDiee:
@Nonso23 leave Carefreewannabe she is confused she doesn't know what she wants to say. She keeps contradicting herself.

hmm

DieeDiee:
Stop looking for ways to punish him, you are only punishing yourself (and will be punishing your son). Remember he and your son are connected what you do to him, you do to your son. Similarly what he has done to you, he has done to his son and he WILL pay for it. Maybe not today or tomorrow but he will. Let the ancestors or God deal with him. If you divorce him, the fact he will not be able to be father to his son the way he should is already punishment. There are certain important points in a man's life, one of them are well in his life (around 40-60 years) when he looks back at his life and what he has built so far (depending if he is a douche or not) he will either feel pride or regret. He'll feel regret he wasn't there all the time for your son and that it was because of him that had happened. This will hit him even more so if your son is his first child or son because your son is the one to carry his name and lead the next generation but now he won't be able to because your husband won't be able to teach him all he needs to know. Your son will grow up in America. He will not know his people or his roots the way he should and THAT will hurt your husband maybe not now but definitely later in life. If he feels regret he will try to make things right with you and your son to prepare himself for his next phase because he has to go into old age in peace so that when the time comes he can cross over in peace. This and how he handled it will definitely be one of his regrets but by that time I sincerely hope you will not care (ie you won't have carried this in your heart over the years) and neither will you be bitter.

But don't go and tell him all this. You just be a lady of beauty and pride - let him be and take care of yourself and your children. Demonstrate dignity to your children. It hurts I know. I'm a woman, I know how you must be feeling right now -- betrayal hurts to the core.

Stay strong, you are beautiful (I saw yoir pic). Believe me there are many decent, honest, faithful men who truly deserve the title "man" (yes even African men lol). Just don't give him the power to turn you bitter. Take this as a lesson learned and proceed with caution.

By the way hun, he probably planned this from the onset. He probably planned to divorce you as soon as he got citizenship and bring his Nigerian wife to America. Babe you were played. Think about getting out as soon as possible before he can leech any more from you. Next time, forget all this bull dust of modern relationships -- a man needs to be a man. HE NEEDS TO BRING HOME THE BACON!!! DON'T EVER TAKE CARE OF A MAN AGAIN!!! You can help out but NEVER assume his role.

ancestors still dey punish peopel?Lkmao

goofyone:
The OP is clearly wiser than the bunch of angry, African chics loitering this thread. They keep screaming "revenge" at the top of their lungs, cos they think of themselves ALONE in any circumstance. OP, on the other hand, has better thoughts and understands that she can't make decisions for her kid that may have dire consequences.

Still observing. Let's see how this plays out

You wrote this?"She can't make decisions for her kid" So she should allow the desperate man to kill her before taking drastic decision.The man don't need her anymore and you want to force herself on the man? That will lead to serious disaster for her .The man is a fraudster and his agenda is clear but Op still no wan gree!nawa o women and love .@Op don't take any crucial decision now until you deliver your baby .

iraycom:
is it possible to learn handwork in South africa since there is no job

It is possible but it is better in Nigeria .Learn in Nigeria

TYPOP:
UPDATE on the repatriation thingy. Please, everybody on study visa should take note. It also applies to those whose visas are yet to expire. It is a Q & A page on the Home Affairs website. Thanks for the link Oladayo.

9. Are travellers with valid permits with expiry date beyond 28 February 2015 going to forfeit their deposits?

No, they will claim when their permits expiry or when they have changes status, or have been granted permanent residence status.

10. The DHA has, inadvertently ( or deliberately?) put legal immigrants in a catch 22 situation where they lose if they do, and lose if they do not collect their deposits. It seems strange that immigrant students should lose substantial fees due to an amendment made after they already obtained their permits - Is this not a retraction of their original permits?

No student will forfeit his or her repatriation deposit if his or her permit is still valid and they will only claim when their permits expire at the end of their studies.

Enquiries

George Gorekwang

Tel : 012 406 2668

Email: repatriation.refunds@dha.gov.za

Source:http://www.dha.gov.za/index.php/immigration-services/repatriation-refunds



So, no shakings my brothers and sisters. Let's complete our studies whenever we do, and go get our monies at home. I'll print the page out for record purposes though.

A friend of mine and a member of this forum collected her repatriation @Abuja Embassy and her permit has not expire,infact she is heading to SA this week.I can say authoritatively that guys are collecting their repatriation without their permits cancellation.

CyrusXandria:
Your deliverance lies in your hands OP.You are empowered against all powers always remember that.

You have two eyes,you can't have one look up and the other look down.You looking up to a church for your salvation is not the way out.Hold firmly to God.

In my church,we are taught Do It Yourself.I'll advise you firstly empower your faith,if you're a good christian you wouldn't even consider going to a church for some deliverance.

Remember the Centurion said to Jesus,he should say the words and his servant would be healed back home where he was.Have such a faith.Your faith is really weak,work on it.

You probably need fasting and prayer for 3 days.

After the prayers believe that your battles are won,remember Jesus gave thanks in advance of the unseen that's what produced the miracles.

Am not even a bit religious anymore but I know with this,you can work your freedom.

what do u mean by "good christian"are there bad christians?

firstEVA:
if he wasn't frail you probably would have considered.

LOL

TYPOP:
If you are using hotel reservation, it is better to make some payments as commitments. That way, you no problems with immigration cos they call hotels some of the time.

Pay a night and notify the hotel manager/management to send you evidence of such payment .

TYPOP:
What I thought I saw in your initial reply was CONVERT. I didn't realise it was EXTEND until I saw Samtol's reply.

Some clauses in the immigration law make it possible under certain circumstances. But like Sam said, the procedures are cumbersome.

Cheers.

Wheather conversion or extension both are possible and expensive not advisable

@op .This is your own side of the story. I believe her own story will b different from your version . You were not forced to marry her .YOUR Marriage need JESUS CHRIST .whatever happen never assault a woman ,you draging her to remove those stuff is called assault .

MamaDDD:
During the 70 days of MFM fasting, my husband and i can make love after he d breaking of his fast till 11:59pm but once it is 12am no show again till he breaks his fast again.

Best comment so far and I absolutely agree with such fasting.But there must be agreement by both parties .

kristina1:
It's very wrong

When you fast,you are denying yourself pleasures,so as to be very closer to God

it's not right to have sex during fasting.

so when you have sex (married couple)will make you not tto be closer to God ?so if u have sex doing fasting is a sin?

drealsheggs:
Good day all, there is something in my mind that has bothering which is about the development of moving to SA, I have no one there and I am hoping and believing that there will sure be a solution to this my issue, because I want to relocate to SA for good, so I am thinking of applying for a visitor's visa and then extend it upon arrival and expiration of the visa in SA. my fear is that will I be able to secure a job to survive and carter for myself even without knowing anybody and how can I get where I can accommodate myself over there because feeding and housing are very important in man's life until I can be able to manage and then be independent of myself in a little while. I am also interested in becoming a nurse assistant , but while I tried to make some researches , I found some nursing colleges and some of those colleges tuition ranges from R29,000 - 40000, and they requested that some certain amount of the must be deposited and the remaining of the tuition be paid few weeks to the start of the class. but I am been bothered with the cost of tuition, because I don't even have up to that amount presently and I don't know if my arrival in SA, if I can be able to see something to in order to raise a substantial amount of money and later I can then go an apply for the diploma course in nursing assistant. thanks in anticipation of your advise! Cheers.

.DON T COME WITH VISITOR VISA otherwise sorry will be your name . Without doubt nursing is a noble career and they are well paid .First of all do you have the basic requirement to be admitted to these schools? ,You have been asking guys to list schools ,the issue is not availability of schools but availability of credentials and money . If u don't have complete school fees don't bother to come because there is no job waiting for you .some months ago a friend told me she wants the brother to come SA and hustle since he is a graduate .I said what field of study and she said Political science and my response was CAPITAL NO . But if you are in one of the following fields :1.IT 2.Engineering 3.Mechanic 4.panel beating 5.Teaching(sciences and Mathematics 6Laboratory science 7.medical field 8 technician_fridge repairs,Ac repairs and so on.9.architectural and etc.You will get a good job but it is not automatic because you must have WORK PERMIT but your study permit gives you opportunity to work for certain hours ..In a nutshell if you don't have practical skills and you re not coming for Masters /Phd Please think twice !What kind of job do you have in mind ?

Donxavier:
Drealsheggs

New rules make it impossible to extend a visitor visa from SA unless it's the financially wealthy and business owner categories.... Let the gurus confirm it though

.100percent possible I have seen few cases handled by immigration lawyer(not agent).They got 3month extension permit for their clients but it is expensive and not advisable .The best thing is to get your long term permit from Nigeria because immigration lawyers charges are very expensive.

Originalsly:
Sorry...my bad. Then the moderator or whoever is very irresponsible.

This is too harsh in a new year bros .

seunoni34:
Only hopeless people travel out of nigeria for "greener pastures".
You can make it here if you are smart enough.

Myopic mindset! Have you not seen many smart people jobless and begging for daily bread?No offense your mindset sound archaic

It is pathetic and shameful no Nigerian university in top 10 in Africa and none in 1_ 500 in the world .indeed giant of Africa .Thieves and rogues in power ,our education now backward and substandard compare to other countries in Africa .Yet some guys will show here to fight and claim ist position for their schools .

deylookme:
He said he needs to be comfortable before we get married. He has also asked me to marry him and I said yes.

and with due respect when will he be comfortable?

scholag:
Roundabout sir, pls how's FUTA like for me? I already contacted a Prof. I met during NYSC who happens to be my departmental HOD right there in FUTA but he wants us to meet and discuss my interest. I live 3 states away but will try and see him sometime soon. Although you could help me out by finding out the necessaries...thanks boss!

My Dear you sound intelligent and determine to pursue your dreams which I admire greatly .Please look outside Nigeria for your PhD the benefits are enormous .

Juliaann:
seriously is that all u can come up with?Some people don't bother to read what I wrote up there before commenting who told you am after his money,like I said I have my own car and am not after his money he knows that himself I might not be a millionaire or a billionaire but am OK so please its better u don't say anything than giving me this nonsense as an advice

Don't be aggressive

Dereformer:
I love your determination and also kudos for having support from your beloved wife.

But sir could help sharing your age? It will sure encourage someone.

Thanks.

Oga you are so concern about this age stuff lol ! Don't b like my friend who was lamenting few days ago that he is 30years now and he has not achieved much academically .You may be a late starter doesn't mean you won't get to your destination. Age is just a number more importantly there is no age limit for successful scholars

Keneking:
Oga the programme is a guided study...the programme is immuned from ASUU or NUPENG strikes. The issue of finishing on time is dependent on the student.

Absolutely wrong no matter how a student put his effort if you have a bad supevisor you will spend 7years or more in Nigeria. Although students can b lazy but I have seen intelligent researchers been frustrated by supervisors .PhD in Nigeria you go no wen u start u don't know when u go finish am .

aspirebig:
I think foreign Universities PHDs are also recognised here and u can finish earlier there unlike here that we do experience ASUU strike.

Sometimes,it the school that just make the difference,imagine someone with a Phd from Bradford UK and you have yours from a Naija Uni...

I am thinking of the one to go for.

you don't need to think sir .PhD in Nigeria compare to advanced countries is like comparing primary school to University .The gap is so wide if you have the resource don't ever plan for PhD in Nigeria

gabito4luv:
There is this issue that is almost tearing my family apart. We live in the eastern part of the country. My siblings have all graduated and our father is retired, while mum trades. The issue is that she secured loan from her market union some time in the past when we were all in skul- as dad could not shoulder the resposibility considering his meager salary. The loan comes with a very high cost. several years down the line the amount borrowed is now 10x the original sum as she had cause to borrow some more to service interest due in the past- mistake number two.
The issue now is that my siblings and I are married and struggling to make ends meet (though a bit comfortable). Mum is yet to stop borrowing just to meet up her obligations which is not abating anytime soon.

Can some please advice us the kids on how to put a stop to this indebtedness as it is really a source of concern to everyone in the family.

Bros Please go and clear your mum's debt (pay all once and for all).Do you think your mum is happy to be indebted to market women?Those women can abuse and insult debtors especially when they know she has grown up kids. Afterall this money was used to finance your education .God bless your mum not every woman has such mind to go extra mile to borrow for kids,meaning .Clear the debt stop talking about "principal"it sound annoying and disgusting . when it is time for her to leave this world you guys will spend much money on buying very expensive coffin and celebrate "glorious exit" .Thank God you have decent job ,so put head together with your brother and clear the debt because oweing market women for many years is not something your mum is happy with. Being a debtor can lead to high blood pressure if something is not done.

preshuzpearl:
I have been reading recent comments and I love the responses I see.

Pls can somebody assist in guiding me. I received an admission to study at UCT masters level. This came in September but i had also applied to two other courses in different places and was waiting because I preferred them to the one I was given.

Just yesterday the two of them replied me that my application was not successful. So I have no option than to take the one given to me earlier.

I will be sending the declaration letter to them today but i have a few concerns.
1. Would the school think it is late that I am replying them almost three months later and withdraw their admission?
2. Can I still get a study visa before end of January? Resumption is in 6th February.
3. My dad knows someone who does Visitor's permitbfor his company. Does this count in getting my study permit faster?
4. How do I get medical insurance cover? I don't know anything about it.
5. I didnt need SAQA in getting the admission. Will it be necessary in securing the VISA?
6. The police clearance. Is it compulsory? How do I go about it?
7. How much would I need for the processing and flight? Which flight is most affordable and when is the best time to leave?

Thanks

The vhs office in Abuja where I live is closed for this year. It will be next year before I can submit my application

congrats ..Akeem has done justice to your questions .However let me add few things :1.You don't need any agent to secure study permit 2.Your dad knowing someone who does visitor visa is irrelevant and inconsequential to your application 3.Ensure you have all required documents(listed on your admission letter )4.Your resumption is Feb 6 meaning you must be in Capetown on Feb ,it is pertinent to say you apply in Lagos .(Study permit takes two weeks in Lagos but Abuja takes 6weeks plus).While the Embassy in Lagos will inform you the exact date to come for your permit but Abuja usually state "we get back to you"5.Don't meet any police officer for police report .I repeat don't to avoid stories that touch the heart. Simply go to Alagbon you will be charged between 3k to 5k and within 10minutes you get your police report(finger print attached) .Saqa is compulsory document for all foreign students,however some schools in SA don't require Saqa(Capetown uni,Rhodes,Monash,stellenbosch etc) but Embassies will ask .Just as Akeem rightly said get a letter from your school stating clearly that you don't need Saqa to commence study in Capetown University .

esosa4real:
Good day yall, I must commend u guys! I thought it was only the UK thread, dat had dedicated helpers like these.
I am a practising doc here in Naija, and visited,uk,brazil this year 4 medical conferences. All the applications were done on DIY (Do-it-Yourself) basis.
These attitude I learnt from travel section of Nairaland and grateful for such knowledge.
Now my issue is that the conf organisers r hosting, the next conference in SouthAfica by sept 2015, and I am planning for it, but was advised by my close naija pals, now in sa to use an agent, even though I have all the requirements listed above.

They claim that d sa embassy in Naija will either delay my passport or deny me even thou I am going 4 a legit purpose. That they r quite hostile. Am beginning to believe it's true cos some nairalander said, dey recieve lots of fake documents so they treat Nigerians with disdain.
Please brodas, what do I do? Because the agent is confirmed and comes wif a little cost, which am willing if this embassy is really wat dey say it is.
Need ur candid advice, thanks.

YOU DONT NEED ANY AGENT.Get the correct documents and submit .