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piperson:
If there's one Line I hate to hear in relationships; it's definitely going to be "PLEASE I'M BUSY". Like seriously?.When You swore heaven and earth to always be there for me, You didn't know You were busy?When You made me fall uncontrollably in love with You, You didn't know You were busy?When You kept bombarding my phone with hundreds of romantic love messages and slowly stole my heart, You didn't know You were busy?When You fixed dinner dates just to see my smile glow under the candle lights, You didn't know You were busy?When You kept reassuring me with 'I LOVE YOU' You still didn't know You were busy? All of a sudden You are now Mr/Miss busy?.You check their facebook and whatsapp its always showing ONLINE. They would never send You a text but once You decide to text them, our dear Lover will come up with same attitude "please we'll chat later I'm busy" but You've been online all day or is my presence always sending You on that annoying busy mode?.You deserve an Oscar award for acting your script so well. If You are tired just tell me instead of giving me same drab gist about you being busy! You busy pass Buhari? Don't You make time to eat? Don't You make time to visit friends? Can't You make time for us? Sometimes I just need someone to talk to but you are always busy..The day I'll leave You for Good, I pray You would be busy as usual and when You finally realise it, I would be smiling in someone else's arms and if You try begging me, I'll be like "Can't You see I'm busy

KUNZEH:
Abusers can be hard to recognize since they don't advertise their destructive behavior. In fact, abusers are usually as smooth as butter. They do things that are sweet and loving. However, over the course of the relationship, these "loving" acts escalate into abusive behaviors.
Be aware: some of the items on this list really are loving. It's when these behaviors are taken to extremes and used as manipulation or control that they become abusive. It's important to evaluate the results of these actions. If these "loving" behaviors only benefit your partner and leave you feeling hurt, used and guilty, it is a sign that you need to get help immediately and get out of that relationship.
Taking care of you
Naturally, taking care of each other is one of the benefits of being in a relationship; meaning, "I want to take care of you" can easily look like love when it's really abuse. If one partner isn't allowing the other to work, get an education or save money, it is a sign of abuse. Abusers use phrases like, "I don't want you to work at a terrible job" or "we can't afford college right now" to blind you to the fact that they are controlling you. "Taking care of you" is a masquerade used to cut off a victim's access to education, work experience and income so that their partner doesn't have the resources to leave, making them dependent on the abuser.
Giving gifts
Sure, gifts can be a great way to show you love someone (in fact, it may even be your love language) but you need to be aware of how gifts are used. Is your partner giving you clothes to control what you wear? Are they paying your bills so that you're financially dependent on them? Are they giving you things when they apologize so you're more apt to look over their misdeed? Evaluate the reason why your partner gives gifts. If their intentions don't seem to be motivated by love, they probably aren't.
Saying, "I want what's best for us"
Obviously this phrase can be filled with love, but when it's paired with inappropriate behavior, it's a form of manipulation. If your partner tells you he wants what's best for your relationship, honestly consider if it's best for you. For example, if your partner is asking you to give him money, to stop talking to your family or to stop hanging out with your friends in the name of the greater good for your relationship, he might actually be attempting to manipulate and control you.
Being jealous
The media often depicts jealousy as cute; love is when people love each other so much that even an implication that their partner loves another rips their heart apart. However, it doesn't take long for small bits of jealousy to escalate to extremes. If your partner is frustrated when you talk to other men, reads your text messages or requests your social media passwords, his jealousy is abusive.
Acting as though they'd "die without you"
Manipulating someone with the threat of suicide is never acceptable. Abusers threaten to commit suicide to get their partners to do what they want (like be intimate with them or not leave them). In these situations, it's important to report the concerns that they will commit suicide to a professional. You should never feel obligated to stay in the relationship.
Doing things "because [they] love you"
If your partner is doing things you disagree with "for your own good" or "because [he] loves you" they are probably abusive. Love is never an excuse for abusive behavior. Love does not give someone else the right to decide what you can do, where you can go or who you can talk to. Love does not excuse inappropriate behavior because love is not an excuse.
http://www.nigerianeye.com/2016/12/8-behaviours-you-mistake-for-love-that.html?m=1

shortgun:
Rilly?
I tot I am the one to find her

alaoayomi:
Morenikeji, a 42 year old woman who comes from a wealthy family got married to Dotun 12 years ago. But unfortunately the marriage was childless. Apart from coming from a wealthy home, Morenikeji also has a very good job, while Dotun is just a civil servant. About 8 yearsago, Morenikeji decided to buy a land and informed Dotunabout it. Dotun suggested that they should buy the land inthe name of the child they hope to have one day. They agreed on a name and bought the land with the name, andMorenikeji built a very beautiful house on it. That was how Dotun encouraged Morenikeji to buy many other prop
erties in the name of the unborn child.Dotun died in a car accident 2 weeks ago, and Morenikeji got the shock of her life when a woman came for the burial with 2 children that belongs to Dotun. The first childis almost 9 years old, and he bears the name Dotun gave Morenikeji's unborn child. The same name on all the properties which Dotun encouraged Morenikeji to buy.Dotun's family are now trying to claim all the properties from Morenikeji. FRIENDS, PLEASE WHAT SHOULD SHE DO This is a true life Story.

shortgun:
I was once a broke guy feeding from hand to mouth, doing menial jobs to survive.
All the girls I fancy will not look at me twice even though I look good n dress smart.

The ones that accepted me will cheat on me right in my face cos I can't pay the bills.
Now that God has made me a " big man" every girl I meet want to love me to d grave.

Some have given me their virginity, others have left their bf's for me. I feel they are doing all these cos of d Benjamins.
How can I find true love and settle down? How do I separate d chaff? How will I know who will stand with me when the money is no longer flowing?

Matured advice please

gagimovement:
Not all are the same and you know it

STFUareyouGod:
Haven't finished the final episode tho. But I will today

STFUareyouGod:
Sandra23 'Rage' is nice.....

Apus:
This is no attempt to smooch my ego, but I got a problem with a girl who claim is in love with me. Haven known that I'm already in a serious relationship she won't just accept the fact. She calls me despite my warnings. I get as much as fifty missed calls a day ( if I decide not to pick her calls). The problem is my girl is beginning to suspect which is my main concern now. She is also a close friend to the girl being mentioned. I don't want to resort to doing something uncout. Can't I have my way at least?

pls Romancelanders I could use ur help.

gagimovement:
It all about guys impressing girls but what about girls giving it their all to make him so happy and comfortable

With this five awesome ways your boyfriend who like you die
Read more https://gagimovement./2016/11/27/5-unbelievable-ways-you-can-make-your-boyfriend-love-you-60%e2%84%85-extra/

andysnoopy:
Chisos!! Guys how do you deal with ladies with mood swing?? That shit get on my last nerve...

andysnoopy:
Chisos!! Guys how do you deal with ladies with mood swing?? That shit get on my last nerve...

Fynestboi:
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Hello fellow Nigerian Undergraduates and other Nairaland users.
This will serve as the CHATROOM FOR NAIRALAND INTERSCHOOL DEBATE as well as the Planning thread for all subsequent NISDebate.

Historically, Nairaland Interschool Debate was an offshot of the Inaugural Nairaland Education Debate (NED) which brided on October 21st 2013, During the period, the Academic Staff Union of Universities (ASUU) strike had kept students at home for three months running then.
The progenitor of the Debate sessions in the Education section of Nairaland Fynestboi, who is also the moderator of the Section, under the guidance of Nairaland notable and prominent personell (Jarus(, Tgirl4real, Obinoscopy) began actively planning a platform where students (undergraduates) from different tertiary (Polythecnic, University, College of Education, Technology schools) can meet and challenge their intellectual prowess under the umbrella of their citadel.
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BrandNewIV:
I don't know why it's pretty difficult to find a cute chick these days especially for a cute looking Nigga like me.

You see a tall one just like i did yesterday when i stopped by at the grocery store. She was just standing there like a statue and i was like wow!

Here's a tall chick finally, so i took a second look at her and behold it's a "k" leg she's standing on.

If she's not tall, she should be at least 5ft 6.

If she's does have much booty, she should at least have some curves.

If her bosom is small, it should at least be handful....Like i wouldn't even mind if it's a water melon but at least not the type Cossy and if i's that big, then i have an extra pillow at worst.

Then you manage to invite an average chick to hang out with some friends and she can't even use a spoon to scoop a plate of pepper soup.

Just imagine how embarrassed i was when this cick dumped her spoon and started using her hands riht in front of my friends.

Do we now have to start taking you ladies to some type of grooming school?

I can imagine how that type of chick would behave if we went to a Buffet on a table of six.

Excuse my ramblings this Thursday morning.

I just feel like venting.