Impressing a woman is probably one of the toughest things in the world, unless you look like Brad Pitt. But it’s not always about good looks. Wooing a woman is an art. It is a game of charm, wit, and intelligence. Besides the usual ‘dress well, listen to her, make her curious’ rules of impressing women, what are the hacks that smooth operators practise to make women swoon after them? How do some men effortlessly sweep women off their feet? What is that skill that all the players and James Bonds of this world possess? We bring you 10 psychological hacks that will make her fall for you.

1. When you meet her for the first time, choose an experience that is overwhelming, like watching a brilliant movie, or a visit to a fun park. The human mind forms associations with memories. In this case, the girl is likely to associate her overwhelming and heart-racing experience with you. Yes, you literally made her heart skip a beat. And she is gonna want to relive that experience with you. Way to confirm a second date.



2. Play the part of a cassanova throughout your interaction with her, and just once in a while make an overtly soppy and sweet gesture. This will make you look adorable without losing out on your sex appeal. She’ll be infatuated with your carefree flirtatious attitude but she’ll fall for you when she sees a sensitive little heart behind all that rakishness. It’ll confuse her; it’ll make her curious, it’ll make her want to explore you.



3. Exhibit your skills in the most subtle non-bragging way. Women love men with skills. You play a musical instrument, can sing, are great at a sport, write poetry, anything that counts as an impressive skill. Arrange for your date in such a setting that allows your skill to be revealed. For example, if you can play the guitar, make a bonfire picnic plan with friends and invite her. If you croon, take her to a karaoke night and let her force you to sing with her. Whatever you do, do it in the most non-chalant way.



4. Taunt her, tease her, challenge her. Give her something to get back at you, in jest of course. Disagree with her on little insignificant things. (Don’t, absolutely don’t do this when she is talking about her passions or beliefs). This will tell her she doesn’t have you on the hook yet, and she sees a challenge – which all women love. You are the guy who keeps her on the edge; you excite her. This is one sureshot way to always evade the friendzone.



5. Touch her gently. Of course, don’t graze your hand against her thigh now, if you genuinely want her to like you. While walking, put your hand behind her back ever so gently. Arouse her just enough to make her want you. Don’t go overboard with it – there’s a thin line between a harmless sensual touch and an uncomfortable touch that shouts pervert.


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1. Smoking
So.Many.Guys.Hate.Women.Smoking. Seriously, this came up so many times I lost count.

2. No #lifegoals
Apparently, not having any goals is an instant boner-killer. “No ambitions. Write music, research biology, play soccer, I don’t care just do something to make yourself interesting,” this guy said.

3. Excessive boozing
“Sloppy drunk (gets wayy too drunk every time they drink),” one guy said.

4. Poor grammar
This one came up a hell of a lot. Turns out dudes reallllly hate it when you use the wrong use of your and you’re. Carry on being like that bros, and your not going to get any BJs.

5. Swearing
“When every other word is a cuss word,” this guy said. This doesn’t necessarily mean they have a poor vocab mate, maybe you’re just an absolute nightmare and forcing them to drop one thousand f bombs.


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Nicki Minaj may be the queen of rap, but Ellen Degeneres is queen of catching guests off guard with personal questions.

When the artist appeared on her show to talk about her music, Ellen turned the tables: She asked about Nicki’s relationship with Nas. The “No Frauds” singer is rumored to be dating the rapper, and had quite the reaction when his name was brought up in relation to her breasts. (That will make sense in a moment.)

To the delight of the audience, Ellen brought up a rather revealing picture of Nicki at Paris Fashion Week in which one of her breasts was entirely out.

“It’s a wonderful breast,” DeGeneres told her. “Is that your favorite breast, the left one?”

“I love them both,” she replied with a smile.

“And does Nas like both of them the same as well?”
DeGeneres asked. This caused Nicki to full-on lose it, going red and covering her face. The audience went wild as Ellen pressed on.

“There’s a rumor y’all are dating, and if it’s true, I’m all for it,” she said. “I love him so much—ever since ‘One Mic.’ That’s where I first found him. He’s fantastic and a really good guy.”

Nicki, choosing her words carefully, finally got it together enough to respond.

“He’s so dope,” she said. “He’s the king. He is the King of Queens, and I’d like to think I’m the Queen of Queens…I have a lot of respect for him. And, you know, he’s kind of cute, too.”

But does she mean King and Queen in the, uh, biblical sense? Apparently, the two do have sleepovers, but they keep it PG.

“I’m just chillin’ right now. I’m celibate. I wanted to go a year without dating any man. I hate men,” she explained, jokingly.

“I might make an exception to the rule for him, because he’s so dope.”

So while the rumors may not be completely true, they’re not entirely off base. It looks like we’ve caught the rappers at the start of something new, and we can’t wait to see where it goes.


SOURCE: www.thatbluebook.com.ng

One of the most difficult subjects to understand is women. They come in various shapes and sizes, and each is unique in her own little ways. Their moods change faster than numbers on the stock exchange. Men, simple-minded as they are, are in constant fear of unintentionally offending or displeasing them. And the situation becomes a hundred times riskier and more challenging in bed. You never know when or how she might react to that new move you just tried? Maybe she was shy only in public, and wants you to do more.



I listed out the 8 different kinds of personalities women act out in bed, and how to get around each.



1. The Dead Body
This kind likes to be ultra passive in bed, and believes that the act of sex is the responsibility of the man. All she does is lie down in bed, frozen like a dead body, expecting you to act upon her. At the most, she can make sex noises to prove you are not having sex with a dead body.


2. The One Who Bites And Scratches
This type is totally capable of injuring you. She reacts wildly to anything you do to her body. She might scratch your back roughly, she might bite your ear, or ‘other things’; she’d claw her way through your body. While most guys like it when women are a little rough, having injury marks the next day is not a very pleasant thing to wake up to. Tip: Apply a light moisturiser before you jump in the sheets with her. Dry skin scratches harder. Also, try biting her back a little. Don’t hurt her, but make it clear you can bite too.



3. The Seductress, The Dominatrix, The Woman Of Your Dreams
If she is confident, makes eye contact, and initiates sex, you know you have landed yourself an alpha female. She knows what she wants and has no qualms in asking for it. The sex is probably going to be great. The only thing you need to worry about here is coming too soon, or before she has come. Every gentleman knows his lady needs to be there, in order for him to be there. And she knows it all too well.


4. The Hopeless Romantic
Call her the Disney princess, she is a hopeless romantic. Pleasing this kind is difficult, especially if it’s a casual fling. Chances are she will not be in a casual fling in the first place. One word: pre-intimacy. Loads of it. Building the perfect ambiance is as important. Doesn’t necessarily mean roses and scented candles, but manage a neat good-smelling place at least. And soft music is a must. And she doesn’t have sex, she “makes love”. Caress her, make her feel wanted, lots of cuddling is a must. Oh, and don’t be surprised if she cries after sex.


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1. Be secure
The key to accepting your partner’s success is by being secure in what you do. Have faith in your work, your contribution to your work and in your talent. Being secure will require you to accept who you are and what you are. It will mean accepting your capabilities, abilities and being happy with who you are. Not too difficult a feat for a man’s man we think!

2. Be happy for her
Seriously, why wouldn’t you be happy and proud of your partner’s success? In fact you must celebrate her success and appreciate her efforts and hard work. Wouldn’t you expect the same from her?

3. Channel the jealousy
You are going to be jealous of your partner. You need to accept this negative emotion and channel it in the right direction. Face it, communicate this feeling with your partner without diminishing her success and ensure that something good comes out of it.

4. Involve yourself
The chances of a rift are higher if you distance yourself from your partner and don’t participate in her success. Therefore, get involved. Be an active listener and participant in her success, her journey, her work. This will help bring you’ll closer together and strengthen your relationship.

5. Get inspired
You can analyse your partner’s success and learn from it. Get inspired and try and incorporate her success mantras in your daily routine and work regimen. For all you know, success will knock on your door sooner than you imagined.
To be honest, you shouldn’t have to learn to ‘deal’ with your partner’s success. You need get past your ego and embrace her success and celebrate it just like she would yours.


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1. Be secure
The key to accepting your partner’s success is by being secure in what you do. Have faith in your work, your contribution to your work and in your talent. Being secure will require you to accept who you are and what you are. It will mean accepting your capabilities, abilities and being happy with who you are. Not too difficult a feat for a man’s man we think!

2. Be happy for her
Seriously, why wouldn’t you be happy and proud of your partner’s success? In fact you must celebrate her success and appreciate her efforts and hard work. Wouldn’t you expect the same from her?

3. Channel the jealousy
You are going to be jealous of your partner. You need to accept this negative emotion and channel it in the right direction. Face it, communicate this feeling with your partner without diminishing her success and ensure that something good comes out of it.

4. Involve yourself
The chances of a rift are higher if you distance yourself from your partner and don’t participate in her success. Therefore, get involved. Be an active listener and participant in her success, her journey, her work. This will help bring you’ll closer together and strengthen your relationship.

5. Get inspired
You can analyse your partner’s success and learn from it. Get inspired and try and incorporate her success mantras in your daily routine and work regimen. For all you know, success will knock on your door sooner than you imagined.
To be honest, you shouldn’t have to learn to ‘deal’ with your partner’s success. You need get past your ego and embrace her success and celebrate it just like she would yours.


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We all know the Samsung’s next flagship phone is all set to arrive soon and the launch of this phone probably has put more pressure on the Korean company than ever before. Samsung lost many valuable and loyal customers thanks to exploding battery on Note 7. However, if Samsung wants to bounce back, they need to build a kickass flagship phone. A phone that will have improved specs and functionality and give the iPhone 7 a run for its money.



4K Screen

Samsung is responsible for making some of the highest quality screens known to man and they have opted to use Quad HD (2,560 X 1,440) display on their phones for a while. However, there are rumours surrounding the Galaxy S8 that it might finally have a larger (5.7-inch) screen and a screen with higher resolution. It is said that the phone might sport a 4K Super AMOLED display, which will also enhance the phone’s VR capabilities.

Higher Performance


Samsung has always been making the Galaxy S phones with two different processors and it S8 will be no exception. The Exynos chip and a Qualcomm Snapdragon chip will power the other.

Samsung might use an Exynos 8895 chip, which will aid in giving 1.8x more graphics than the S7. Samsung will be using Qualcomm’s latest Snapdragon 835 processor, which will give a 20 percent boost in performance as compared to the S7. It is estimated that the Galaxy S8 will have 6GB of RAM or even 8 GB. Either way, it will be much higher than the S7.

‘Bixby’ AI Assistant

The iPhone invented one of the most important features the phone could have -- Siri. And since then, every smartphone manufacturer has been including some sort of AI assistant in their smartphones. Microsoft phones have Cortana and the Google Pixel phones have the Assistant. Samsung is all prepared to launch their own AI digital assistant dubbed as Bixby. Viv, an artificial intelligence company acquired by Samsung last year, and it is the same company that developed Siri before selling it to Apple.


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Taking the first step toward a healthier lifestyle can be overwhelming, but eating healthy doesn't have to mean drinking your weight in protein powder or downing a dozen egg whites for breakfast. If you're looking to reclaim your health—or simply boost your activity levels—realize that simple changes are enough to spell success. Making smart swaps in the kitchen and lacing up your walking shoes more frequently can be a great start. Use these 30 tips as a roadmap for change on the path toward a healthier you.

MEDITATE MORE
Meditation is more than just a great way to reduce stress. According to a study in the "American Journal of Psychiatry," meditation can also help treat anxiety-related disorders. Devote 10-15 minutes per day to sitting quietly to meditate or simply be with your own thoughts. In the busy pace of life, taking time to just be still is essential.

DON'T OVER-MEDICATE
Don't routinely rely on over-the-counter drugs for minor aches and pains. When possible, make proper diet and rest your first defense. For your next line of defense, seek out natural remedies. When using medication, follow a doctor's guidance.

DRINK MORE WATER
Most of us actually don’t drink enough water every day. Water is essential for our body to function — Do you know over 60% of our body is made up of water? Water is needed to carry out our body functions, remove waste and carry nutrients and oxygen around our body. Since we lose water every day through urine, bowel movements, perspiration and breathing, we need to replenish our water intake.

PICK BRIGHT COLOURED FOOD
Fruits and vegetables with bright colors are usually high in anti-oxidants. Anti-oxidants are good for health because they remove free radicals in our body that damage our cells. So get your fill of fruits/vegetables of different colors: White (Bananas, Mushroom), Yellow (Pineapples, Mango), Orange (Orange, Papaya), Red (Apple, Strawberries, Tomatoes, Watermelon), Green (Guava, Avocados, Cucumber, Lettuce, Celery), Purple/Blue (Blackberries, Eggplant, Prunes).

GET ENOUGH SLEEP
When you don’t rest well, you compensate by eating more. Usually it’s junk food. Get enough rest and you don’t need to snack to stay awake. Also, lack of sleep causes premature aging, and you wouldn’t want that.

START THE DAY WITH A WELL-BALANCED BREAKFAST
How you start your day sets the tone for everything that follows. Kick things off the right way with a balanced meal. That will help keep your blood sugar levels stabilized throughout the morning. You'll be less likely to hit up the vending machine after that afternoon meeting. Ideally, breakfast should blend of all three macronutrients—proteins, carbohydrates, and dietary fats.

AVOID TRIGGER FOODS
Trigger foods are the foods that make you go berserk and binge like crazy after you eat them. Everyone’s trigger foods are different, but generally trigger foods are candy bars, chocolate, confectionery, chips, cookies, or anything with high level of refined sugar, salt, fat or flour. These foods cause a blood sugar imbalance, hence triggering one to eat more. What are your trigger foods? Identify them and remove them from your diet.

LAUGH
Laughter might really be the best medicine. One study published in the "International Journal of Cardiology" noted that people who were less likely to experience laughter during the day were at an increased risk for coronary heart disease. Laughter's also an excellent mood booster. So go ahead and laugh out loud!

CUT BACK ON CAFFEINE
While drinking a daily cup of coffee or two a day can boost your health, when this daily cup turns into five—or is paired with other forms of caffeine on a regular basis—the health benefits can turn to risks. People who consume too much caffeine daily are going to be at risk for higher levels of anxiety, headaches, energy highs and lows, and higher levels of stress and burnout. Start weaning yourself of one cup at a time.

CUT DOWN ON PROCESSED FOOD
Processed foods are not good because (1) most nutritional value is lost in the making of these foods and (2) the added preservatives are bad for our health. Many processed foods contain a high amount of salt content, which leads to higher blood pressure and heart disease. Processed foods are anything that is not in its raw form. In general, most of the food in supermarket are processed — the more the ingredients on the label (especially the ones ending with ‘ite’ or ‘ate’), the more processed they are. Watch out for those with salt/sugar in the first 5 ingredients and go for natural foods as much as possible.

SNACK ON NUTS—BUT DON'T GO NUTS
Nuts are a fantastic snack to have throughout the day, provided you keep your portion sizes under control. They are rich in healthy fats, contain a good dose of dietary fiber, and will help you stay satiated. Consider snacking on an ounce of walnuts to get in some omega-3 fatty acids, a handful of lutein-rich pistachios, or a one-ounce serving of almonds, which contains 37 percent of your daily dose of vitamin E.

INDULGE IN DARK CHOCOLATE
No, this doesn't give you the green light to down a bag of midnight Snickers. But, if you often suffer from chocolate cravings, indulge in one square of dark chocolate daily. Dark chocolate that's at least 60-70 percent cocoa has high flavonoid concentrations that can help your health. Giving yourself permission to indulge might help you maintain course the rest of the time, keeping your calorie intake in check.

GET HOOKED ON FISH
Fish is one of the healthiest protein sources you can add to your diet, yet far too many people aren't consuming it regularly enough. Serve up fish such as salmon and sardines, which respectively pack 1,210 mg and 1,950 mg of omega-3 per 3-ounce serving. Additionally, choose lower mercury white fish varieties such as tilapia to keep your calorie count down.

EAT MORE VEGGIES
Like fruits, vegetables are important for the well being of our health. Experts suggest that we should have 5-9 servings of fruits/vegetables, and unfortunately most people don’t even have 5 servings! Some of my favorite vegetables include kidney beans, black beans, asparagus, long beans, french beans, sprouts, button mushrooms and carrots. What are your favorite vegetables and how can you include more of them in your diet today?


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Twenties are the time when most of us take up our first jobs, spend months evaluating life and try every way possible to find our calling. You’re probably going through the same phase too. To make the journey a little more informed, here are 15 solid pieces of career advice not many people will give you.

1. If the job isn’t challenging enough, it’s not worth it. Your personal growth should rank the highest on your priority list.

2. Know how to sell your idea with conviction, not just to the client but even to your own colleagues. If you don’t believe in your own idea, nobody will.

3. It’s not necessary to make a living out of your passion. It’s not half as much fun when someone starts paying you to do it, when you’re told how to do it. You could take up an easy paying job and use your free time in indulging in your hobbies too.

4.Build good relations wherever you go. It’s a small world and you never know whom you’d need when. Building a good rapport with everyone you’ve ever worked with will take you places.

5. Studying people, observing them, learning how they do things will teach you a lot about survival and of course, it will widen your approach. Look at people and learn.

6. Demand what you deserve. Nobody else is going to stand up for you.

7.Always dress well. If you look smart and presentable, people automatically take you more seriously.

8. There’s no perfect job. Some jobs don’t offer enough excitement, others have the worst people to work with and the ones that do look promising pay peanuts. Prioritize and learn to compromise on at least a few things.


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You gotta keep the excitement rolling. Having sex on the bed is a done-to-death concept. If that’s the only place you’ve ever done it in, then we must tell you that you’ve never really explored the worldly possibilities of hot sex.

There are two things that get a real man’s adrenaline rushing – sex and risk. Oh, how we love them both! Mix ‘em both and you’ll have the best sex of your life. We hate how the bed has taken away the entire thrill. Do ditch it once and for all because we’re here to list down the most exciting spots ever to do it in. You can thank us later.

Your Car
Of course the back seat isn’t as comfortable as the bed. But when it comes to getting frisky, the bed stands no chance in front of your car. Girls dig men with cars. You know why? It is because every girl fantasizes about an adventurous guy who wouldn’t wait to get to the bedroom! There is something about making love in the car that takes you to your younger days. The car may have been the only private corner you have gotten to yourself. Bring in some excitement, hit the back seat. You have no clue how risqué it still is.

The Kitchen Slab
Every girl wants to do it on the kitchen slab. It’s playful, passionate and tells her that you just cannot wait to take her to the bedroom. It’s going to be a memory that’ll turn you on everytime you think of it. Why else do you think porn has so much of kitchen sex? Just wipe the slab after you’re done, please!

The Bathtub
You see, when you’re doing it on the bed, you’re questioning the relevance of every other furniture in the house. Bed is the most overrated furniture out of all. Lather each other up in the bathtub and tease her into a hot frenzy.

Outdoors
It could be your own lawn, your balcony, the terrace. The road is an option too, though a little too adventurous.Remember the adrenaline rush the risk of someone walking in on you gave you? Relive those moments. Hit the outdoors when the weather is nice. You’ll be in for a thrilling sexprise.

The Park
Yes, it is definitely very risky and all the more exciting. Just don’t ever get caught, unless you want to be thrown out of the locality for putting on a live show for toddlers. Hit the park late at night when everyone is sleeping and there is a light romantic breeze flowing. Take a walk together and let things go slow. When it’s time for your buddy to come out of your pants, find a secret corner and get on it!


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Talk about cruelty then you are talking about cheating. Cheating ranks up there with the most insensitive thing your partner can do to you. When your partner cheats on you, they not only disrespect you as a partner but also breach the trust you had in them and that’s why it’s a total deal breaker. ThatBlueBook decided to highlight 12 signs that show your girlfriend might just be cheating on you. But please be warned that these signs don’t always point towards infidelity and we’d never want you to question your relationship on the basis of one article you read online, but if you’re here trying to know the answer, it’s on your mind already!

1. You’ve have been noticing sudden changes in her schedule and activities. In as much as people change and evolve, sometimes they drastically change, and if its happening all too sudden and you seem to be out of the loop, you may have a problem there!

2. She tries to pick fights with you, for no reason.That is some pretty manipulative babe. She might just be doing it to make herself believe that it just wasn’t going to work out with you anyway... its better than not trying at all.That’s probably her way of freeing herself of the guilt of cheating on you.


3. She gets easily distracted by her phone. This is definitely beyond the phone obsession everyone has.This is a bit more extreme. She's always smiling and blushing to texts from ‘mysterious’ people and she wouldn’t reveal much about it. Even when she’s out on a date with you, she’s easily distracted by her phone.

4. She's always trying to keep track of where you are and it seems it is more out of fear than concern. She immediately goes inspector gadget on you. It looks like she wants to know your whereabouts just to be sure there’s no way she can get caught!You can not come and ruin the business for her.


5. Somehow, she’s always too busy to hang out with you. Even when she does agree to go out, something urgent always pops up. If it’s happening a little too often, your relationship might just be about to hit rock bottom.

6. She’s never in the mood for sex. She avoids it at all costs. Trust me when a girl doesn't want to get down, nothing is getting her down. All of a sudden she sees her visitor everyday throughout the month. She doesn’t get intimate with you anymore, not enough anyway.


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In female company, when you spot an attractive male and noticing their lithe body makes your palms sweat,

you are likely to end up chastising your own ‘impure’ thoughts. Having such feelings is no crime, and you need to calm down and ascertain if you really are homosexual or are just in the throes of a rebellious infatuation streak. Let this guide aid the confused in finding a way through this state to discovering their true self.

1. Understand Sexual Identity
The first step to this is to evaluate one’s notion of sexual identity. Society defines a homosexual as someone attracted to members of the same sex. Human beings are driven by their identity, desire and behaviour when it comes to spotting a potential mate. A straight person is attracted to a member of the opposite sex, whereas a homosexual finds attraction with the same sex. A bisexual seeks sexual gratification from both sexes, whereas an asexual person lacks arousal irrespective of any sex. By understanding these definitions, one needs to evaluate where they stand.

2. Understand YOUR Sexual Identity
Often known as ‘coming out’, the concept of attraction and arousal runs to deeper waters. A proven straight individual sometimes experiences arousal watching homosexual acts. Does that make him/her a gay? One needs to think about their feelings and try to ascertain the direction that it is heading towards. Many people know from early years that they are attracted to members of the same sex. Others realise this in their later years. If you feel that your experience of arousal is within this principle, you are indeed a step closer to understand your true nature.

3. Research
Often reading about similar experiences relating to the confusion and acceptance, eases the acceptance of one’s own discovery. Volumes of books are available on this subject with first hand incidents and anecdotes to help the confused identify these traits early. The Internet is also a helpful resource in this regard. Searching for gay support group for guidance and help is also a great aid in learning about yourself.

4. Acceptance
The last and final step in this regard is accepting one’s identity. Easily considered the hardest step of it all, closeted homosexuals often struggle with this notion and try to reject it by adopting a heterosexual lifestyle hoping to consciously erase the urges. One’s personal identity isn’t chalked up on blackboards to be wiped away and written anew. It is written in stone and is unchangeable. The sooner you accept it, the quicker will you be able to adapt to your life changes.

At the end of the day, it is ‘who’ one falls in love with that defines who they are. In this regard, being homosexual is something that needs careful and deep introspection.


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Love and Lust are two words that have woven their way around mankind for a long time. Depending on what your take on both these words is, the premium you place on their existence in a relationship or just a regular session of leaching varies.

There are some scientists who have spent years, some of them devoting their entire lives to find out if love and lust is indeed the same thing, viewed and experienced differently, just like marriage.
Let’s begin by outlining what love really is. I mean at which point is it fair to say that you love someone who isn’t related to you? How does the whole process happen? Look at how we describe this feeling. “Dude, I think I’m falling in love”. First of all, why are you falling? Did you trip on something? Were you distracted or looking elsewhere? Of course you were. But wait, isn’t that the other “L” word? And if the beginning of this feeling is characterised by the process of falling, then what are you falling into? Most people say it is a trap, the rest, are divorced. Nobody knows when love happens. It just happens.

Lust, on the other hand, is the simpler of the two emotions. It is an instant reaction to a primal urge to propagate one’s genes, or as men refer to it as “being a man”. When you’re in love, your senses are numbed, and as you are free falling, your eyes are closed (obviously). But with lust, you need active participation of all your senses (sight, sound, touch and the ability to find a condom in the dark). Lust is driven by pure passion and raw desire. As far as a man is concerned there is complete clarity in terms of what he wants to do with this lust, and why he doesn’t want to call the woman back the next day. And that is where the two (love and lust) begin to merge and become one, and then become two again.

This is the problem with the concept of dating (marriage for the more adventurous folk). As much as they might want to deny it, women do not like honest men. A man can’t walk up to a woman and say, “I think you’re really hot, and I want to take you home with me”. No! He must “love” her. This is where most men get confused because their quota of love has already been allotted to video games and sports. (Mind you the supply is finite. If a man tells a woman he loves her but also owns a PS4 and supports Manchester United, he is lying). Now, he must find a way to convince this woman that he “loves” her and what they are about to do is actually going to lead to something meaningful. At this point, he has begun to call that raw desire to be with this woman, love. And to prove his love for her, he has to do all sorts of things, like brush his teeth, wear matching socks and find a job.


This works the other way round too. It is not that only men feel lust. Women do too, but the hypocritical society that we live in forbids it for a woman to act on that lust. Hence, she must find a more suitable word to describe her own desire to jump a man’s bones. The irony of the whole fact is that this hypocritical mentality was created primarily by men and secondarily by women. Men, who were being rejected by pretty lasses, were calling them all sorts of names, women who weren’t as pretty as these lasses coincidentally called them the same names. So basically, the people who weren’t getting any action, created a system that made it difficult for the ones that did.

Lust was therefore just not good enough, it needed something more. What I also find very funny is how we judge other people’s relationships based on lust and love. If its two people getting together because they are just plain attracted to each other, “Oh it’s just lust! Nothing serious” On the other hand if a couple mildly displays their attraction towards each other but spend more time arguing and fighting over who they can and cannot talk to, what they should or should not wear and lose their minds if their respective halves don’t answer their phone in the first 10 seconds, then THAT is true love.


So the verdict is clear for all to see. Love is just a repackaged and supposedly more presentable version of lust. Lust is honest and true, incorruptible and safe from forgery. Love on the other hand, which is governed by emotions, feelings, conversations, hugs, tears, coffee and shopping is used to make it look like all the effort was worth it.

Somebody, please call those scientists and tell them the mystery has been solved.


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Sometimes, the things we hold the closest are snatched away from us. Cling on to them, hold them as tight as you can, and they still slip away if they are meant to. It hurts. The person you imagined your whole life with just left you stranded and it feels like there’s nowhere to go from here. But time passes and you learn the ways of life. That void remains for a long time. It’s only once your heart forgets (and forgives) them that you realize how much that break up changed you. For good.

1. Only you know how it feels to have your trust broken, to be taken for granted and to be taken advantage of by someone you dedicated all your heart to. Only someone who has been through it knows how terribly hurtful it is. It’s in that moment that you decide you’d never do to anyone what was done to you. You would never hurt anyone that way because you know what it feels like to be on the other side.

2. You finally realize people aren’t always what they seem to be. You know that everything that starts well doesn’t always end well. You’re no longer that naïve and gullible person who believed everything others wanted them to believe. You finally begin to look beyond facades and pretenses. You will never be blind in love again.

3.We often fall into the trap of chasing people we think would we want only to realize some harsh truths later. Once you come out of a failed relationship, you realize there’s a huge difference between the one you think is ‘perfect’ and the one who’s right for you. Ask any successful couple who’ve made it through most hurdles in life and they’ll tell you how they never thought they could fall in love with each other when they first met. When things don’t work out with people you thought were ‘perfect’, you begin to understand that you’ve always had all the wrong notions about love and that none of us really have a ‘type’.

4. A break-up also teaches you to never depend on other people for your own happiness. You realise that love cannot replace emotional stability and self-worth in life. That love is not about ‘needing’ another person in your life, only wanting to be with them. Never in life do you seek for someone’s support to ‘complete’ you after a break up.

5.When you put in your heart and soul making it work, when you forget your self-esteem just to make them happy and it still doesn’t work out, you begin to respect yourself a lot more. You realize you’re as important as them and never would you settle for anything less than what you deserve. And with the assurance of having tried your best, you ready yourself to move on and never let anyone walk over you ever again.

COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/12/19/10-Ways-a-Break-Up-Turns-You-To-a-Better-Person

It’s last month of the year – make it hot! Go on a vacation, book a fancy hotel and get dirty with your girl. You two would be on your own with nobody around – do it wherever you want, however you want to.

If it’s a famous place – even better! You’re going to remember it all your life.

Make-Up Sex
You’ve heard it before but have you ever really tried it? Arguments are said to get your adrenaline pumping. Let the sexual tension take over while arguing and take the matters between the sheets. Not only will the sex feel much more passionate than usual, it will also help you get over the disagreement.

Rough Sex
It’s your wildest fantasy, we know. It’s time to make it happen in real. A little aggression in bed will heat things up between you and your partner. Re-define passion with a hot session of raunchy, wild sex. Bring out all your animal instincts. Do the unexpected and do it well.



Lazy Sex
If wild is your style, you must try having lazy sex every once in a while. Intimacy shouldn’t always feel like wrestling. Snuggle up to your girl when she’s asleep and take it slow, very slow.



Quickie
Sexual urges arrive at the most inconvenient of situations. Quickie is the best option in such a case. If you have guests in the drawing room, get in the bathroom for a quick hush-hush session. It’s crazy fun and amazingly satisfying.



Marathon Sex
Take a day off and spend whole of it in bed with your girl. Break all previous records of the number of times you’ve had sex in a single day. Do it till you are completely spent.


COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/12/15/9-Types-of-Sex-Every-Nigerian-Guy-Should-Totally-Have-

The phrase "trophy wife" has taken on a new modern meaning. Men are now finding the most attractive and sexually desirable women are not actually dumb beauties whose sole function is to stay pretty and numb, but women who are making good money and also are in powerful positons. The woman who got ahead on her looks by marrying a “sugar daddy” is now being replaced by the woman who is equal to her man in earning power and career position. That’s sexy.

What we are now seeing now is the end of the "trophy wife" and welcoming the rise of the "power couple"

Any really strong man wants a woman who is equal to him, that is the truth of it now. A weak man wants someone that is docile and a servant to him — it is a real sign of insecurity in a man to want a dumb trophy wife. Wives can be beautiful, intelligent and have careers and opinions just as strong as their partners.

When Mark Zuckerberg married his college sweetheart, Priscilla Chan, he married a woman who isn’t only eye candy; she’s a medical school graduate with eyes on a career who clearly demonstrates the new parity among married couples.

The days of a well-off older man who has a brainless beauty on his arm at social functions seems to be dying now. Educated, intelligent women are the ones most sought-after by men of the same caliber. Brains are the new beauty.

There may be a historic social change occurring here. Men’s attraction to professionally achieving women is one piece of a much larger story as to what people in the 21st century want in a partner. Men in their 20s and 30s in relationships with strong and high-salaried women are relieved that they no longer have to be the sole breadwinner and decision-maker. With her own high-paying career, the new trophy wife is highly educated, self-assured and able to hold her own financially. She’s also not afraid to intimidate any male that has antiquated ideas of gender roles.

Call it the rise of the alpha woman or simply the beginning of a new era in relationships, the new trophy wife is a woman who succeeds on her own and can hold her own in the boardroom as well as the bedroom. To paraphrase Henry Kissinger, a powerful man who married Nancy Maginnes, a powerful woman: “Power, success and financial security are the ultimate aphrodisiacs”.


SOURCE: www.thatbluebook.com.ng

We can all agree that been in love is a great feeling. So is receiving a call from a loved one when you are feeling low or a text when you are having a bad day at work.

But you never know when these texts, calls or voicemails could start haunting you or give you cold feet. Yes, it happens when you have an over–possessive girlfriend. She might be in love with you, she might care for you, and make your heart go flutter but when she gets all possessive, things kind of get out of hands.

Here is a checklist to find out whether your girlfriend is being a little too possessive or not!

1. Her friends know everything about your relationship – So there is no privacy but if she ever finds out that you have shared anything about the relationship with your friends, she is definitely going to go bonkers

2. She gets hysterical when you don’t receive her calls – Whether you are in the middle of a meeting, or in the metro or even taking a dump.

3. PDA(Public Display of Affection) – While most guys love it, there may be some who don’t. However, an over-possessive girlfriend will be all over you, whether you like it or not. She would insist on holding hands in a mall, kissing at a restaurant or smothering you on the dance floor.

4. Bye bye to your other ‘girl’ friends – Having a girl who is your friend is completely out of bounds. Your girlfriend doesn’t like you talking to other girls, let alone be friends with them.

5. Texting back at supersonic speed – In an average, a person responds to a text message in 5–10 minutes. But if you have an over-possessive girlfriend, that time becomes 5-10 seconds. The blue tick in the WhatsApp doesn’t help. In fact, maybe it was designed by a girlfriend!


COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/12/14/9-Signs-That-Prove-Your-Girlfriend-Is-Over-Possesive

Apparently there have been rumors flying around that MMM Nigeria has crashed as they announced they have suspended payments to some customers.

These rumors have made a lot of affected Nigerians frantic as many of them had believed that MMM Nigeria was the best get rich quick scheme ever.

However, amidst all of these rumors it is wise to note that this popular Ponzi scheme MMM Global had previously crashed in 2 of its previous African markets, Zimbabwe and South Africa before coming to Nigeria.

On September 26 , 2016 financialwatchngr.com reported that thousands of people, among them civil servants and vendors, lost thousands of dollars to the fraudulent online pyramid scheme MMM Global Zimbabwe after it collapsed recently.

The social financial network, which relied on an accelerating number of new members to pay off the old, abruptly terminated its services that week leaving participants stranded.

Zimbabweans had in the past months been joining the online investment scheme in droves in a bid “to get rich quickly”.

The Reserve Bank of Zimbabwe warned people that the scheme was fraudulent and there was no legal recourse in the event they lost their money.


March 2016, MMM crashed in South Africa, forcing the scheme to reset. Members of the scheme who had invested and were awaiting their returns lost millions of rands.

An article from a South Africa Website Fin24 reported that 'MMM SA members stand to lose thousands of rands after their accounts were frozen and the mavros points system was reset due to a lack of new money entering the alleged pyramid scheme.

Anonymous leaders of the South African wing of the alleged Russian pyramid scheme blamed “media panic” for the reboot on April 30.
MMM SA told members: “We have to declare a restart and start all over again. We have no choice.”

MMM members have voiced their concern on social media, with one claiming he is set to lose R30 000.

MMM stands for Mavrodi Mondial Moneybox and takes its name from its founder, Sergei Panteleevich Mavrodi of Russia. He founded MMM in 1989 and the scheme was declared bankrupt three years later leading to the disappearance of Mavrodi until his arrest in 2003.



SOURCE: www.thatbluebook.com.ng

If you are one of those who rarely feels excited about the idea of sex, while your partner is always up for some action in bed, it's time to get your sex drive checked.

When it comes to sex, couples seem to have different expectations from each other. Be it the way they wish to indulge, or the way they wish to enjoy; most of the time couples seem to have completely different levels of sexual drive.

However, the ultimate goal is seeking pleasure and that is all that matters. To develop better sexual compatibility , one must know what type of sex drive you have.Here are a few common sex drives that most people boast of.

Over Reliant
These people need lovemaking to cope up with life -to make them happy , cheer them up when under pressure, make up for a bad day or fight -basically to serve as their primary stress reliever. They are the ones who want to have sex quite regularly , since it works for them as exercise, yoga or meditation would for other people.
In fact they can even lose their temper if they do not get sex when they need it; their partners usually feel drained by the constant pressure to have sex.They do not indulge in any other activity as a stress-reliever, since they think sex is the only thing that works for them.


Persistant
They are the most fussy people, they are extremely picky and particular about the things that arouse them. They are all about details and derive pleasure from only a few things and expect their partner to master these tactics. Those with persistent sex drive have weird sexual fantasies which are usually inspired from some thing they have seen or read.On the other side, sometimes it can be a lot of fun since they turn the act to be interesting with their fetishes. They are probably the most thrilling partners as their sex drive will make sure you never get bored of the act.

Self-empowering
These people are selfish and only think about self-satisfaction; they believe they deserve to get whatever they want in the bedroom. They always like to have it their way and only think about their personal pleasure. They make sure that their partners value their desires more than their own, and are unlikely to compromise. They can usually get impatient if their desires are not fulfilled.

Disinterested and Detached
Some people might develop the disinterested sex drive due to stress -from work, family , relationships, etc. The issue with this particular sex drive is that it does not normalize after things get better and situations improve. Most of them lose their confidence in their sexual abilities and no longer understand their wants; some of them even ignore their sexual wants since they feel other things are more important.

Even if their partner tries to initiate any sort of physical contact, they try to avoid them. They also can be termed as detached as they are no longer into sexual pleasures. They might sometimes give in to their partner's insistence, but never initiate the act.They do not show any interest in sex and if they ever feel an urge, they do not mind satisfying themselves or just putting it away for some other time.

Sensuous
These people believe in being emotionally connected to each other while having sex; in fact they physical connection is secondary . For sensual lovers, sex is the way to develop their relationship (chemistry) with their partners. They never force themselves or constantly believe in coaxing their partner to have sex. They are extremely accommodating and care about their partner's feelings and works towards their involvement in the act than just their physical presence. They will never make an attempt to get intimate, if they feel disconnected.

Addictive
They cannot resist any opportunity to have sex. They cannot take rejection easily , as they need to vent out their arousal somewhere. They do not usually care if you are not in the mood or are unwell to have sex; they just want to feed their addiction and would find a way to do so if you do not provide them the means.

The ones with an addictive sex drive can also cheat, at times when they are denied sex by their partners. Hence it is difficult for them to stay in a stable relationship. People with an addictive sex drive usually have multiple relationships since they get allured with different sex partners who are easily available.

Erotic
They believe in intense, passionate and action-packed lovemaking; they always need the heat to be turned up.They like things steamy and would experiment until they achieve their desired level of passion. For them, it is the most important part of their relationship and hence they expect a lot of aggression; which can seem difficult to people at times.

However, they believe more in quality than quantity; and crave for a satisfying act, than a long lasting one.


SOURCE: www.thatbluebook.com.ng

I have you today
Its the only thing I can think about
Today I will hold you,
Stare at you blocking out any remembrances of tomorrow
Intertwining fingers, we will whisper sweet nothings of past that never was before now
And tomorrows that will never be
I have you today
May I,
May I be able to spread out this day
Hold you before the ark
And days after the godlys are gone
I would give out everyday before this happened
Or keep them knowing they were the trail that led me to you
I dream
Wistfully
Hoping against foolish hope
Being wounded with knives I’ve been cut with before
I still hope
Maybe cos today is ok
Is it?
I still have you today though
And I’ll spend half of it skipping Daly lilies
And the other half
Looking to spread it to forever
Either way baby
I’m thankful
I have you today

Source: http://vergehub.com/i-have-you-today/

Quite a number of people spend 80 hours a week at work, and this affects their personal life. The number of hours they spend at work can sometimes make them come home every night wanting to complain about their micromanaging boss or annoying coworkers.

We spend the majority of our waking hours Monday through Friday and sometimes during the weekend at our place of work. Our jobs tend to easily spill into our personal lives and this can ruin our relationships/marriages.

It is natural you’ll want to come home to vent to your partner, but this can wear your partner over time and it can be stressful to both of you.

It is important you know that your job is affecting your relationship, but how will you know this, here are 10 signs your job is ruining your relationship.

1. You put work priorities ahead of your relationship

You always put your work priorities ahead of your relationship. You partner comes second after work; you are in a relationship with work and your partner. This can be putting undue pressure on your relationship and you need to find a way to balance both.

2. You are always too tired

You are always too tired from work to even notice your partner. The only thing on your mod after work is sleep; you don’t even notice or acknowledge your partner.

3. You have nothing to talk about except work

The only thing you want to talk about with your partner. All your conversations revolve around work. If you have trouble compartmentalising work and personal life, you likely will go into discussions about people and projects without even realizing.

4. You frequently cancel/arrive late because of work

You often cancel appointments and dates with your partner because of work, or you often arrive at events, dates or appointments late all just because of work. This can create a slow build-up of resentment from your spouse and create the impression you are choosing your work intentionally over your personal commitments.

5. You argue more with your partner

Because of the extra stress you are carrying, you become more irritable and always argue with your partner. You become easily irritable and take out your issues with your partner in totally unrelated areas. If there’s some sort of change to your work life — maybe a new role, a new boss, a new salary — and you’re suddenly fighting with your partner about things you never argued about before, it’s probably no coincidence

6. You have less patience with your partner

If your partner is starting to resent your work, then they may not always open up about it because they want to be supportive of you — but the resentment might manifest itself in other areas, such as being less patient or more irritable.

7. You don’t feel like socializing

If you are starting to feel like your mind is in some far-off place, then your partner probably detects it. You are so preoccupied with work, that once you get home or even during the weekend , you just want to keep to yourself. You didn’t even want to socialize or engage in normal activities with your partner.

8. You spend little time with your partner

All because of work you spend little or no time with your partner. You spend most of your time on dates with your work and the little that’s left is for your partner. If you’re staying at the office later at night, going in on weekends more frequently, or bringing work home with you more and more, then these things will likely cut into the personal time that you’d normally spend with your partner. And, chances are, this will strain the relationship.

9. You are happier at work than at home with your partner

Some may argue that it’s because your partner is probably not making you happy anymore, but truth is it could be you and your work. If you look forward to the end of the weekend or even stay an extra day away on your business trip because you realize it’s easier or less stressful to be at work than to be at home, you’ve got a problem on your hands.

10. You are always answering calls and emails from work

Using your iPhone/Blackberry/Android/tablet when spending time with your partner is not healthy for your relationship. Aside from generating an emotional disconnect, it can also start a vicious cycle whereby whoever isn’t using their electronic gadget feels annoyed that they’re being neglected and ends up using their own device as a way to pass the time.

Source: http://vergehub.com/10-signs-your-job-is-ruining-your-relationship/

It’s Grammy nomination time!

Music’s biggest calendar night, the 59th annual Grammy Awards, are set to air February 12th 2017 live on CBS.

The industry’s brightest stars will align to shine at the event, which will boast performances from the creme de la creme.

Today, excitement for the ceremony soared to new heights as its committee reveals which artists have been nominated in which categories.

What are you waiting for? The nominations for the 2017 Grammys await below…



Album of Year

Lemonade – Beyonce
25 – Adele
Views – Drake
Purpose – Justin Bieber
A Sailors Guide To Earth – Sturgill Simpson

Record of the Year

Hello – Adele
Formation – Beyonce
Work – Rihanna & Drake
Stressed Out – 21 Pilots
Seven Years – Lukas Graham

Song of the Year

Formation – Beyonce
Hello – Adele
Took A Pill In Ibiza – Mike Posner
Love Yourself – Justin Bieber
Seven Years – Lukas Graham

Best New Artist

Kelsea Balerini
Chance The Rapper
Anderson Paak
The Chainsmokers
Marina Morris

General Field Categories

GENERAL FIELD

Album Of The Year:

25 — Adele
Lemonade — Beyoncé
Purpose — Justin Bieber
Views — Drake
A Sailor’s Guide To Earth — Sturgill Simpson

Record Of The Year:

“Hello” — Adele
“Formation” — Beyoncé
“7 Years” — Lukas Graham
“Work” — Rihanna Featuring Drake
“Stressed Out” — Twenty One Pilots

Song Of The Year:

“Formation” — Khalif Brown, Asheton Hogan, Beyoncé Knowles & Michael L. Williams II, songwriters (Beyoncé)
“Hello” — Adele Adkins & Greg Kurstin, songwriters (Adele)
“I Took A Pill In Ibiza” — Mike Posner, songwriter (Mike Posner)
“Love Yourself” — Justin Bieber, Benjamin Levin & Ed Sheeran, songwriters (Justin Bieber)
“7 Years” — Lukas Forchhammer, Stefan Forrest, Morten Pilegaard & Morten Ristorp, songwriters (Lukas Graham)

Best New Artist:

Kelsea Ballerini
The Chainsmokers
Chance The Rapper
Maren Morris
Anderson .Paak

Source: http://vergehub.com/must-read-59th-annual-grammy-nominations-full-list/

As great spirited entrepreneurs without the luxury of time to create all the magic our heart yearns for, it becomes pertinent to master the art of saying NO!
Its not being rude, its simply saying ‘i want to do this for you, but you know how time is? she grows wings and before you know it, my eyes are closed again and life is counting’
Its really beautiful when you can pass across the valuable message that ‘Time is valuable to me and your project would take a lot of it and not recompense me measurably’

Don’t give excuses, don’t extraordinarily increase deadlines with shabby reasons, don’t over explain things, just decline politely.

The Art of saying NO!

Source: http://vergehub.com/the-art-of-saying-no/

That's right. Best believe there is an actual university where you can learn how to become Santa Claus.

It actually turns out that there is much more involved to being Santa Claus than just looking the part. It's impossible to be taken seriously as a professional Santa Claus actor without a natural beard and a big belly. However, people looking to hire a professional care much more about the size of the actor’s heart rather than how big he is.

The university trains Santas in everything from how to sit with a child on one’s lap to what to say if a child asks for something intangible for Christmas and how to handle the physicality of sitting in a chair and keeping up the illusion for eight to 12 hours a day.


Each actor goes through an intense background check and multi-interview process. It begins with a resume. On those resumes, they are not necessarily looking for previous Santa experience. Actors vary in professions, including schoolteachers, toy makers, children’s counsellors, people with special needs experience and more. At Santa University, they’re given brief lessons in American sign language and Spanish, but anyone able to speak multiple languages out of the box is a plus.

While putting on Santa’s coat isn’t necessarily about the money, Santa actors aren’t really allowed to work for free. As for salary, the resume matters a great deal.


SOURCE: www.thatbluebook.com.ng

1. Statistics
Let’s face it. Almost 70% of Nigerian men, whether married or not, end up cheating on their respective partners. The reasons for their infidelity ranges from the excitement of the act, to full-fledged adultery.

2. Age
Cheating is much more rampant for Nigerian men under 30. Experts believe that the recklessness of youth motivate most men to take risks on relationships that are secure just to explore a different flavour in life.


3. Class
When categorized according to the class structure, it is obvious that cheating is much more common in the upper and upper middle classes. Since the working class men are focussed on making ends meet, the luxury of entertaining or seducing other women is not viable. Therefore, the possibilities of infidelity in the working class are fewer.


4. Approach
The upper class approach to seducing women has become a lot more different than the usual movies-and-dinner style. Men are more upfront about their requests. An average request entails a short trip, sightseeing, a weekend getaway, or just a direct 'take-you-home'.

5.Factors
Infidelity in men is influenced by certain social and demographic factors like the tediousness of a long married life, a highly promiscuous sex life before marriage, one’s location in the city, and peer influence. One is likely to cheat on their partner when away and in a metropolitan city.



COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/12/04/What-Percentage-of-Nigerian-Men-Cheat

Those men who say male friendships are the most special clearly haven't been very good friends with a girl. It may be difficult to understand the fairer sex, but believe me, being friends with them is one-of-a-kind experience! Whether your best friend is a girl or not, read on to know why every guy must have a girl best friend in his life.

1. Be it a relationship problem or a career dilemma, nobody else will give you an advice as sound as your girl best friend. She knows you inside out, probably even better than your girlfriend and definitely knows what's best for you. Of course, there's no escaping the jokes.

2. Having a girl best friend opens up so many opportunities for you to score hot girls. Not only do they know a hundred of them, they're always ready to set you up with someone or the other even if you're as ugly as this guy!

Admit it, they make much better wingmen than your guy friends.

3. The best thing however, is the part where people assume that you're dating and she just plays along. Hell, she's always up for pranks - always!

4. You know how challenged most guys are when it comes to buying gifts. Well, that's where the girl best friend emerges as our knight in shining armour. Anniversaries, birthdays or weddings - she has the best gift suggestions.

5. Whether you admit it or not, she is the reason why you're still on Facebook. From tagging you in funny pictures to sharing 'personal' jokes on your wall that nobody else understands, she makes social networking fun!

6. Your parents trust her more than they would ever trust any other girl in your life. She is the only one who can convince your parents that you're still in class when you're out on a date with your girlfriend.

7. She loves for who you are. You can be yourself around her and not be judged at all. No matter what you do, you'd find her standing beside you. She's the constant support every man needs.

8. She's always available and this fact can never be emphasised enough. You've had so many late night conversations with her that you just cannot imagine life without her anymore! From serious conversations about life to your favourite TV show to the most random things in the world, it's possible for you two to make conversations out of just about anything!


COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/11/29/15-Valid-Reasons-Why-Every-Guy-Should-Have-A-Female-Bestfriend

Being friends with benefits may be convenient for those who desire a sexually active lifestyle without the burden of any long-term commitment but quite honestly, it requires much more thought and caution than a regular relationship. We tell you 10 things you should keep in mind about being FWB with a girl.

1. Close Friends Are Out Of The Picture
Do not even think about it. It’s easily to fall into a FWB trap with your best friend but it always ends ugly. If it’s just sex you’re looking for, look elsewhere. You’d end up ruining a perfectly good friendship.

2. Always Practise Safe Sex
This one’s kinda obvious. You don’t want to get the girl you don’t even plan to commit to pregnant. And not just that, safe sex also lessens your chances of contracting an STD, especially if you’re FWB with a lot of people. Have fun, but be responsible.

3. No Emotional Intimacy
No personal questions asked. Do not try to delve too deep into her personal life. Beware of emotional intimacy. Do not get too comfortable sharing everything about your life with them. If you’re only in it to have casual sex, stick to that. Do not try to be anything more.

4. No Dates
You’re in it only for casual sex. Stick to that. Do not treat it like a relationship. Do not go out for dinners or movie dates. Stay away from any attachment.

5. No Getting Jealous
Never get jealous or possessive if she’s seeing another guy. FWB is usually not a monogamous setup. She is free to hook up with other guys if she wishes to and so are you. Do not be clingy. You didn’t get into this for commitment anyway.


COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/11/26/10-Unknown-Rules-Of-Having-A-Female-Friend-With-Benefits

Sex is the most natural thing in the world and yet the least talked about. Initiating a change in our approach towards seeing sex as a taboo, here are 28 things about sex you never knew

1. An average healthy man can ejaculate enough sperm in two weeks to impregnate every woman in the world.

2. Sex increases your immunity to pain. Orgasms trigger hormones that help you increase your pain threshold.

3. Peeing after having sex prevents you from catching urinary tract infections

4. Even though it is a very tiny percentage, some women can orgasm just through stimulation of breasts and nipples. No, nipplegasms aren’t a myth!

5. A woman’s breasts can swell up to 25 % when she is turned on.

6. Sex is one of the best stress busters. It lowers your blood pressure and calms you down. Now that’s another reason to have sex!

7. Sex is a great, all-natural cure for headaches.

8. Having sex at least three times a week can make you look 4-7 years younger.

9. Having sex also triggers creativity, according to some interesting studies. Have a presentation at work tomorrow? Maybe the answer lies in between the sheets!

10. If you’re sexually attracted to someone, it is much more difficult to lie to them.

11. our inner nose swells while having sex.

12. On an average, you burn 100 calories in a single sex session.

13. At the time your orgasm, an average person’s heart beats at the rate of 140 beats per minute.

14. A sperm can travel up to 7 inches in an hour’s time.

15. A woman’s sexual drive reaches its peak just before her period.


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You don’t need to tell us that there is nothing wrong with being single, that you are feeling independent and you are not lonely. You know the reason why you are still single. It could be because you are taking a break from the relationship, you probably have had your fair share of annoying partners. Well, the single life has its ups and downs, so whether you’re singing your single pride from the rooftops or daydreaming about your next relationship. No matter your feelings about your status, we bet you’ve indulged in at least one of these secret single behaviors—but don’t worry, we won’t tell.

1. You’ve considered what it would be like to be married to your friend’s husband

They’re pretty much #RelationshipGoals personified, so why can’t you wish you were married to him?

2. You get a new outfit for every first date—even when you have plenty of options

Yeah, your date probably won’t even notice, but still. Who doesn’t want an excuse to shop?

3. You get excited when things are rocky between your friend and her mediocre boyfriend

If he was more of a catch, you definitely wouldn’t be vying for their breakup, you swear. But if she’s not with someone who really deserves her, she should be flying solo with you. It feels good not to be the only single one in the group.

4. You let your body hair situation get totally unruly

No sex on the horizon? No one is going to see you naked, singing Pharrell Williams – Freedom .

5. You’ve definitely surfed the web for wedding dresses or wedding ideas

You know you want to get married someday, so why should the fact you don’t have a partner yet stop you from drooling over some gorgeous gowns? BellaNaija Weddings is you most visited web page.


COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/11/21/10-Things-Every-Single-Girl-Knows