Love is one strange thing – happens when you’re least expecting it, leaves you when you need it the most. It’s almost as if it has a will of its own.

No matter how much you may want to hold on, love that has to die dies anyway. No matter how much you cling on to it, it’ll still slip away if it has to. And that’s why they say, not every love is forever.

Sometimes, we spend years trying to ‘ma​​​​ke it work’, clenching on to the remains of the love that once was, hoping everything will be the same again. Falling out of love happens to the best of us and the least we can do for our partners is to be honest about our emotional absence and let them go.


1. The things that you were once found adorable – those small little eccentricities – the funny sound she makes when she laughs, the way she never gets your sarcasm, her habit of constantly questioning everything, her emotional outbursts – they have begun to bother you. You snap too often, get annoyed at the smallest of things she does and wonder how you ever found any of that attractive.


2. You go out on dates every week. She doesn’t nag like most men say their girlfriends do. She’s completely okay with you hanging out with your guy friends every weekend. You understand and support each other in every way possible. Everything’s just perfect – only, it really isn’t. Something’s amiss. Something you can’t put a finger on, but something your heart really longs for. Something that seems to have gotten lost in all these years. Is it the excitement, is it the spark? Love? Maybe!


3. The idea of meeting them doesn’t excite you anymore, even if it’s after a long time and we’re talking months here. You don’t feel the urge to see them anymore. Gone are those days when you’d take the train even on a rainy day just to meet her over a cup of coffee and talk to her about anything and everything under the sun. Now, you’re always secretly hoping the date gets cancelled because you’d much rather be doing something you really enjoy.


4. Even when you do go out on dates, the silences become awkward and the conversations, mundane. There’s always some place you’d much rather be. The emptiness is so haunting, it’s almost like the both of you can see it – this impermeable void that has found a place on the table. Every time you go out on a date, you walk back home with a bad aftertaste, the reality of a lost battle staring at you right in the face.



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It’s a beautiful feeling to end up with the person you date in your younger years. But not all of us are as lucky. It’s not always that easy to find true love in your first relationship. But the quest for finding love goes on and often it lands us up in some not so simple situations. Let’s discuss the 15 complicated relationships people often get into before finding the one.

1. Puppy Love

It’s the first time you experience that heady feeling and you believe it’s true love. You’re both really into it in the beginning but it soon fizzles out because you were more in love with the idea of being in love than actually being in love.


2. The Rebound

You’re done sulking and you really want to feel better about yourself so you just get into a relationship with practically anyone around who’s available.

3. The One Without Any Heart

You also end up dating people over some exciting first dates and night-long conversations only to realize later that it wasn’t love, probably just attraction. You’re dating but you’re not really into it. So, one fine day you tell them “It’s not you, it’s me” and bury it.



4. Hook Ups And One Night Stands

Lots of them. Lots and lots of them. You meet strangers, grab a few drinks, take them to bed and forget about it the next morning. All hail Tinder.

5. Friends With Benefits

You’ve known each other for a long time now. None of you want a relationship. You’re both commitment phobic. But you also want the sex. Nobody needs to know.

6. No Strings Attached Flings

It’s an unsaid agreement that the both of you are in it just for sex.


COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/11/17/12-Types-Of-Relationships-You-Will-Have-Before-Finding-The-Right-One

Annoying people are everywhere. They are on your phone, in your email, airplanes, probably even board the same bus with you. Maybe they talk too loud and too often on their cell phones, or maybe they have an annoying habit of disappearing into the restaurant bathroom as soon as the check arrives. While you can’t control them, you can control how you deal with annoying people. Take a look at these 10 types of annoying people and see if you recognise anyone you know.

1. Empty Pockets

This annoying person loves the good life. Unfortunately, they can’t afford it. The person with the empty pockets will constantly borrow money, but make it look like an afterthought as in, “I forgot my wallet – can you get this and I’ll pay you back?” These annoying people will still find excuses so they won't have to pay you back, yet they still want to borrow more. I resemble your father ni.

2. The Braggart

These annoying people constantly have to tell you how great they are doing at work, how amazing their child is doing at school, even the fact that their dog got top honors at obedience school. No matter what good news that you have to share, The Braggart will always be able to one-up you and come up with even better news.

3. Mr Personal Information

These are some of the most annoying people at work. They constantly engage you in conversation about their personal lives and personal problems, offering way too much information. If this person is your superior, it can be even more uncomfortable. If you have to listen, do so politely and don’t offer any advice – they don’t want it. At the same time, don’t offer any personal information of your own as fodder. Remember, the closest relative of Mr Personal Information is Mrs Gossip.

4. Rampant BC senders

These people insist on sending you broadcast messages all the time. They keep sending you annoying long messages you will never read. Thank God for the delete button

5. Improper User of Cell Phones

This is quickly becoming one of the top annoying things people do. If you’ve ever been in line behind one of these types, you can overhear the most intimate details of their lives until they reach the checkout, at which time they will most likely continue their conversation. Not only is it annoying, but it is rude to the people they are dealing with. If you want to experience this full force, just enter a danfo bus in Lagos.


COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/11/17/9-Different-Types-of-Annoying-People

If there is something Nigerian parents are eager about then it's about their children getting married. The moment you enter your mid twenties, the whole world around you discovers a new found obsession to see you tying the knot. Why? Why is it that marriage has been made into the ultimate life goal? Here, we tell you why it’s perfectly fine if you never want to get married.


1. Marriage is just a label. If you want to be committed to someone, you don’t need a piece of paper telling you that. You can be as dedicated, committed and loving a partner as anyone else without getting married.


2. Contrary to what parents think, a marriage cannot guarantee a secure, lifelong relationship. What has to go wrong will go wrong. People who don’t want to stick around, won’t, either way. And people who truly love you will stay by your side without any declaration. You don’t need to get married to be sure your partner is never going to leave you.


3. It’s strange how some people will spend the rest of their lives with people they don’t even love, suffering every day, just because their parents got them married. It’s funny how a life of compromise is what they see as a solution to a failed marriage. It’s much better to be in a relationship that you can break out of if things don’t go well than hanging on to the wrong person.


4. We weren’t born to get married. It’s not as necessary as the Nigerian society makes it to be. Life is still going to be as good, even if you’re unmarried. Marriage is just an institution and you can choose not believe in it, like religion. There’s nothing wrong with not conforming to the idea of marriage if you don’t believe in it. As simple as that.


5. Not all relationships pass the test of time. If break ups weren’t hard enough already, things get unmanageably rough if the two partners are married! Divorces are messy. Always. Whether or not the separation is out of mutual consent. When two people decide to end a long term relationship that they’ve invested their soul and heart into, getting into legal hassles is the last thing they want to be involved in. And don’t even get us started on the alimony laws in the country!


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There are so many reasons why men cheat they say, oh the female is doing something wrong. Oh, shes not good enough or maybe they just need to explore their options. I have never been a fan of an indecisive man but I fell for one tho. So my question is how do you recognize an Indecisive man(also known as a fuckboy).

Here's 5 signs you are with an Indecisive Man i.e a fuckboy;

1. He lies way too much and he sucks with the lie, even when he's being held at gun point he will never say the truth he will rather choose to die

2. Everyone around him is a relative or his sister’s childhood friend or a neighbor. Even worse his street friend 5 blocks from his mother’s house.

3. He makes you feel like you are the only one in the relationship. He can't ever make a decision and even when you ask for his opinion on matters concerning your relationship he never knows. My sister at this point please just carry your load and go.


COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/11/15/How-To-Recognize-An-Indecisive-Man-Or-A-Fuckboy

While a lot has been said about sex, including the best moves in the bedroom, pre-intimacy and the likes,it seems that one aspect of love-making has been ignored.

This is with regards to the moments that follow after having sex. I must confess, I have been a late beginner, or a bloomer, in this niche but I have learnt the ropes through some valuable series of trials & errors. I say “valuable” because I realize that your entire bedroom performance or anything related to it can be best explored and understood through actual actions.

Even here, when I am proposing how to deal with the after-sex moments, the idea is just to provide you with some handy tips that have surfaced from my experiences, both good and bad.

Eventually, you would need to choose which of these make more sense to you and which ones are worthy of being tried. If you have already achieved absolute bliss in dealing with the after-sex moments, there is no reason you should seek a change!

This article is more attuned towards guys, like me, who have found these moments to be slightly awkward, not knowing what to do. In order to deal with such anxiety or confusion, read through the following:

Cuddling: Yup! It Works For Both

This is regarded as the standard thing to do—something that is supposed to score a lot of points with your girl and is deemed to present your caring side. Some guys might not be expressive or sensitive enough to understand how beautifully this thing works.

Unless you are a maestro between the sheets, chances are that your performance will vary every time you make love to her.
Sometimes, you might be found wanting in satiating her the way she was expecting and in such circumstances, cuddling acts like the back-up you want. In a way, it completes the deal, dissolving any apprehensions in your or her mind.

Even if you came out trumps during the act, it would be better to try the cuddle. Those who have tried it would vouch for the fact that being pressed against her, with both of you still warmer-than-usual and sweaty in that sexual high, is just priceless.


Talking—Depends Upon Your Mindset

I have heard many guys and read psychiatrists recommend having a conversation. However, I fail to understand its utility. Do you really want to start talking during the moments you are recuperating in a way? It really isn't recuperation but more like regaining your senses, with the sexual energy spent.

During that time, can you really make a conversation?
I have even read articles that propose the idea of planning for the next time. Maybe planning after an hour or so of having had sex could work but I really don’t get the idea of indulging in chitter-chatter immediately. I would like to come back to the Cuddle. Here, a few words, whispered into her ear, something akin to praising her performance, might actually work but talking—I don’t think so.


Being Slightly Physical Helps

This is like an extension of the Cuddle, it is rather useful and most folks are prone to missing it. The fact remains that your compliments for her or hers for your performance might not seem sincere at times. You need to express your happiness in a more convincing manner.

Here, simply stroking her or planting small kisses on her neck, shoulder can work. I guess there are no standard guidelines that can tell you whether this will have the desired effect but I have realized one thing—if the lady was slightly hesitant about getting intimate or the sex ended with something that bothered her, this can act like an instant therapy.

Just Eat & Laugh in the Afterglow

This is something that should work for everybody, including the non-cuddly sorts. Just ensure you have something to eat. Place a few bars of chocolate or maybe a few cans of beer, chips, cookies, etc. Literally, anything works.

This is the easiest way to dissolve any awkwardness that might creep-in when you are with somebody for the first time. A bite of anything sweet really feels good at this time since you have just exhausted yourself. Personally, I would recommend keeping something to drink, nearby.

These moments don’t have to be serious. Just eat and point-out your own or her moves that went wrong! Eating and poking fun at each other while the afterglow is just setting-in is perhaps the easiest way to handle this.

What not to do?

I guess anything that makes it look casual or too regular should be avoided. My list of things to avoid includes:

COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/11/14/Here-Is-How-To-Deal-With-The-After-Sex-Moments

Every one of us needs motivation, including this person writing this. The reason is because, we all face difficulties and hard times, and we all need that thing, person or word to motivate us and gives hope that it'll get better. The difficulties in life break our spirit and keep bringing us down, so we need to tackle the situation with a positive mind.
Today's motivational topic is Be Free.
Free

Able to act or be done as one wishes; not under the control of another.

"I have no ambitions other than to have a happy life and be free"
Not or no longer confined or imprisoned.

"The researchers set the birds free"

A lot of people are trapped and they don't even know. We all want to live a free and fulfilled life, yet we confine ourselves and don't even realize it. Our personal situations can sometimes seem impossible to navigate, we feel we cannot navigate from them and so we give up and adapt to the situation. I have come to realize that majority of us are to blame for our confinement.

We worry about what to eat, money and just keep on pilling on our anxieties and we realize that we've been living in a box filled with unnecessary anxieties. The world is always going to be filled with anxieties, now the question is how am I going to live in this world and be free.

1. What do you really want?

If you ask the average person what he/she wants in life, you'll most likely hear money. Money is the solution to a lot of problems and also essential to freedom in the world we live in, this is both good and bad. If you make money or acquiring wealth a priority in your life, you abandon your heart and your passion. Plus, you risk falling for get-rich-quick schemes, and other marketing tricks.

When you figure out what your desire truly is, you start to see what your purpose in life is. Money can come in second or third. You just really have to find out what you truly need, so you can be happy, so you don't keep running in circles and hurt yourself.

2. Worry less

We live in a world filled with anxieties, and they will always be there. You need to learn to stop worrying about unnecessary things.

There are certain people who get anxious just by the thought that some people think ill of them. You should not let your world revolve around what people think of you, you won't live freely if you subject yourself to that. You should also worry less about the next day, and focus on the current day at hand, because it's also filled with worries. Learn to live life one step at a time, or should I say one day at a time.

3. Learn to embrace life

We all have that thing that we were born to love and do. If you want to experience life to the fullest, you need to do what you love doing.

You could make it into a career, but remember no one can guarantee your success. Also enjoy your hobbies, don't let anyone or anything stop you from doing what you love and be happy while doing it.

You can begin to make the uncomfortable spaces in your life less burdensome by remembering to affirm, “YOU CAN DO THIS!”

I encourage you to decide to make yourself possess the keys to access your future, keys to lock the door to your past, keys connected to your happiness, peace, liberty, prosperity and enjoy freedom like never before.

If you are not happy with your current employment or situation, take time and look at different ways you can make yourself happy at you job or whatever position you find yourself.

You can free yourself from worry, shame, and discouragement. This may sound crazy to some, but it’s a proven fact that when you start moving, things immediately begin to shift.



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Every one of us needs motivation, including this person writing this. The reason is because, we all face difficulties and hard times, and we all need that thing, person or word to motivate us and gives hope that it'll get better. The difficulties in life break our spirit and keep bringing us down, so we need to tackle the situation with a positive mind.
Today's motivational topic is Be Free.
Free

Able to act or be done as one wishes; not under the control of another.

"I have no ambitions other than to have a happy life and be free"
Not or no longer confined or imprisoned.

"The researchers set the birds free"

A lot of people are trapped and they don't even know. We all want to live a free and fulfilled life, yet we confine ourselves and don't even realize it. Our personal situations can sometimes seem impossible to navigate, we feel we cannot navigate from them and so we give up and adapt to the situation. I have come to realize that majority of us are to blame for our confinement.

We worry about what to eat, money and just keep on pilling on our anxieties and we realize that we've been living in a box filled with unnecessary anxieties. The world is always going to be filled with anxieties, now the question is how am I going to live in this world and be free.

1. What do you really want?

If you ask the average person what he/she wants in life, you'll most likely hear money. Money is the solution to a lot of problems and also essential to freedom in the world we live in, this is both good and bad. If you make money or acquiring wealth a priority in your life, you abandon your heart and your passion. Plus, you risk falling for get-rich-quick schemes, and other marketing tricks.

When you figure out what your desire truly is, you start to see what your purpose in life is. Money can come in second or third. You just really have to find out what you truly need, so you can be happy, so you don't keep running in circles and hurt yourself.

2. Worry less

We live in a world filled with anxieties, and they will always be there. You need to learn to stop worrying about unnecessary things.

There are certain people who get anxious just by the thought that some people think ill of them. You should not let your world revolve around what people think of you, you won't live freely if you subject yourself to that. You should also worry less about the next day, and focus on the current day at hand, because it's also filled with worries. Learn to live life one step at a time, or should I say one day at a time.

3. Learn to embrace life

We all have that thing that we were born to love and do. If you want to experience life to the fullest, you need to do what you love doing.

You could make it into a career, but remember no one can guarantee your success. Also enjoy your hobbies, don't let anyone or anything stop you from doing what you love and be happy while doing it.

You can begin to make the uncomfortable spaces in your life less burdensome by remembering to affirm, “YOU CAN DO THIS!”

I encourage you to decide to make yourself possess the keys to access your future, keys to lock the door to your past, keys connected to your happiness, peace, liberty, prosperity and enjoy freedom like never before.

If you are not happy with your current employment or situation, take time and look at different ways you can make yourself happy at you job or whatever position you find yourself.

You can free yourself from worry, shame, and discouragement. This may sound crazy to some, but it’s a proven fact that when you start moving, things immediately begin to shift.



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You are thinking about marriage, and you are wondering how the girl you’re dating will differ from the woman you are going to marry.

When you are younger and not thinking about marriage, you might date a girl or woman based on how attractive she is. You probably are not bothered with the maturity and intelligence of the individual, all you know is you are attracted to her.

There is a difference between the girl you date and the woman that will end up being your Mrs – The words girl and woman cannot be used interchangeably and it does not have any relation with the biological age of a person.

What I refer to here is the level of maturity, stage of life and her vision regarding life. There are certain people who just never grow up and that highlights the differences between the girl you date and the woman you marry.

This does not mean that your woman won’t have those immature “girlish” tendencies or vice versa. But the excess of those tendencies is what can be defined as immaturity.

If you are married, you will have realized that the girl you dated is different from the woman you married. This does not mean she changed completely, it means that her priorities and perspective about life and marriage will improve in many ways. Hopefully, for the better.

Now, what makes her different? Here are 10 differences between the girl you dated and the woman you married.

1. The girl you date loves you for the financial support and security she can get from you. She always expects something expensive especially when she gives you a gift or does you a favour.

The woman you marry is with you because she believes in you and the fact that both you will be able to build a strong financial cushion together. She does things for you just because she loves you, not because she wants something in return.

2.The girl you date always puts herself first. She is not bothered about your career, your future or your vision in life. All she cares about is herself.

The woman you marry cares about your future and career as well as hers. She balances your plan and hers to make sure it works together and you both achieve your goals in life.

3. The girl you date is overly conscious about her appearance and the attention she gets from other men.

The woman you marry is only interested in being attractive to the man she married. She is not bothered about petty things and she is not narcissistic. She understands that real beauty emanates from within.

4. The girl you date[b] doesn’t trust you enough to reveal are most guarded secrets.[/b]

The woman you marry will have a problem hiding things from you. She knows and believes that honesty is the best policy. She expects you to be understanding and mature, so she trusts you completely.

5.The girl you date believes she knows everything and that she is always right. She is not opened to learn new things.

The woman you marry is willing to learn new things, learn from her mistakes, and knows there is always room for improvement.


COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/11/12/10-Differences-Between-The-Girl-You-Dated-And-The-Woman-You-Married

Time and again, women-centric fashion and lifestyle magazines keep reiterating how women want just as much sex as men do; how they are just as promiscuous as men and how women are just as psyched about getting some as men. Truth is, in the real world, that hardly ever plays out to be the case. And I know I speak for most men reading this. Just so you know, our sympathies are with you.
But, there are absolutely legit reasons why your woman is not feeling anything down there and no, it has nothing to do with the love dying out. So, before you give up on her and start looking outside of it for some physical solace, read on.

1. She Wants Love

Women are emotional creatures. Yes, occasionally, you will come across a liberal soul who just wants the fun, no strings attached. But, even then, there are emotions at play that you may not comprehend. Her happiness, her sorrow, her feelings for and towards you are major factors in determining whether or not she wants to have sex with you right now. What might seem like a ‘get in; get out’ deal is a lot like devotion for her. If she likes you even a little bit, she will be up for some fun in the sack; if not, you’re knocking on the wrong door.

2. She Needs Time

Maybe you’re hoping to turn this date into a steamy night now that both of you are on the same page and are up for having sex. But, here’s the thing; even if she’s up for the fun and the sex, she isn’t up for it just yet. Why? She needs the time—to connect with you better, to know you and to know if she will be comfortable with you. Yes, this could mean that the night would end with dinner and a cute peck on the cheek but, nothing more. Hold off till the next date maybe or till she is comfortable enough in her skin to lead the way herself. Forcing her will not speed it up for you, in case you’re wondering and no, ultimatums never work on women. We invented that shit!

3. She Gets Distracted

Anger, stress, disappointment, a tiring day at work, frustration—these things affect your girl like nothing you know! Sure, for you, all this goes away the minute you step into the confines of your personal space, unwind with a beer and a sensual massage from bae which turns into sex. For her, these feelings, thoughts and situations overwhelm and become her. Yes, you may offer to cook tonight, give her a massage and ever rub her feet; just don’t expect it to turn into sex unless she wants it to. Because then, she’s just going to have one more reason to be angry and that’s not going to help.

4. She Isn’t Physically As Active

Contrary to what the pseudo-feminists may say, it’s true—women are not physically as strong as men. By the end of the day, she is spent and tired and withdrawn and you can’t blame her! The reason is pretty simple; because she is mentally too strong for you to handle, all of her energies go in micro-managing your lives and thinking up every possible scenario—real or unreal—and deducing every possible outcome in nano-seconds. By the time she’s done, your woman is too exhausted to even think about pre-intimacy!

5. She Judges Herself Too Much

If she is feeling less than pretty, fat, ugly, smelly, unattractive, bloated, unappreciated or just self-loathing, she is not going to want to strip down naked to be pleasured by you. She doesn’t think she deserves it. In fact, it’s probably one of those days where she’ll quickly just pull on her most unattractive pyjamas over an extra loose t-shirt while avoiding any eye contact with the mirror. Don’t push for sex; she might just cry and you won’t like it.


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It is hard to be mentally tough when your mental strength is tested every day. This might be because of a toxic friend or colleague, your job or maybe a struggling relationship. Whatever the situation is, you have to be mentally strong.

Mental strength has to do with seeing opportunities and taking action when things look bleak. It’s hard to be mentally tough, especially when you feel stuck. The ability to break the mould and take a bold new direction requires that extra grit, daring, and spunk that only the mentally toughest people have.

If you've met mentally strong people you'll notice how they manage to set themselves apart from the crowd. Where others see impenetrable barriers, they see challenges to overcome. Take the example of Thomas Edison. When his factory got burned down in 1914, destroying one-of-a-kind prototypes and causing $23 million in damage, Edison’s response was simple:
Thank goodness all our mistakes were burned up. Now we can start fresh again.
Mr Edison's response showed that he was mentally strong to see the positive side of the horrible incident that occurred. Mental strength is as rare as it is important. The good news is that any of us can get stronger with a little extra focus and effort. Let's look at 13 habits of mentally strong people.


1. They are confident

Whether you think you can, or think you can’t—you’re right. – Henry Ford

Your mentality has a powerful effect on your ability to succeed. A friend of mine always says "if you doubt it, it won't succeed." This means if you are doubtful about a business plan or a decision, there is a high probability it won't succeed. True confidence will inspire you and others, not the false confidence people project to mask their insecurities.

2. Their emotions are always in check

You cannot be mentally tough without the ability to fully understand and tolerate strong negative emotions and also control your emotions when dealing with toxic people. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. They identify their emotions and don’t allow anger or frustration for fueling the chaos. You should be able to do something productive with your negative emotions.

3. They embrace change

You need to be flexible and adapting. The fear of change is a threat to your success and happiness. You should not only embrace change, you should have a plan when it happens and also find the positive in it.

4. They don't waste their time and energy on things they can't control

Mentally strong people do complain about things they can't control, instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognise that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

5. They don’t try to please everyone

Mentally strong people know that they can't please everyone. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

6. They don't dwell on the past

Mentally strong people don't waste their time dwelling on the past, they acknowledge their past and see what they can learn from it. They live for the present and plan for the future.

7. They don't make the same mistake over and over

Mentally strong people learn from their mistakes and don't make those mistakes over and over again.


COMPLETE POST: http://www.thatbluebook.com.ng/single-post/2016/11/10/13-Critical-Habits-Of-Mentally-Strong-People


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DISCLAIMER: THE VIEWS EXPRESSED IN THIS ARTICLE ARE NOT FOR YOU IF YOU BROUGHT THE BREAK UP UPON YOURSELF, IF YOU WERE IN SOMETHING LIKE A RELATIONSHIP, IF YOU WERE HELPING SOMEONE’S PARTNER WITH THEIR DUTIES, IF YOU WERE IN THE RELATIONSHIP YOURSELF OR WORSE IF FEELINGS WERE FORCED. HONESTLY, OUR TIPS MAY NOT GIVE YOU POSITIVE RESULTS. (Pinkie promise, we will attend to issues like yours soon <3)

Frank Sinatra famously said “the best revenge is massive success”.

In the days of old. After that short text you woke up to or that twitter direct message or just randomly going ghost on you. If you are like me, you would want to cause them immediate pain. Revenge will be you successfully hurting their feelings just like they did yours and emerging victorious.

It is best served cold and it’s only fair to dish it out without human feelings. Be brutal, wreak havoc. After all they left you numb from heart break and you don’t feel anything anymore, yes? YES. You deserve it darling.

1. Move on. [/b]Yes, get revenge by moving on. This point seems a bit off but it is a sure-fire way to get revenge because you switch things up. Your ex starts wondering if you had been waiting for the break up. Go out, see other people (the one you told him/her not to worry about LOL) and remember disappear but be obvious in a subtle way. I’m joking rub it in their face and be super petty.

[b]2. Date someone they know. This will appeal to “team petty”. Date their friend, cousin, family friend, mortal enemy that they are jealous of. Some people might want to take it up a notch you know, go higher to hurt the person but no. No. Life isn’t that deep. Please

3. Expose their embarrassing secrets. This is self-explanatory. People tell a lot of lies just to validate their existence or simply because of low self-esteem. Feed on this. Expose them on Instagram, Twitter (sub-delivery man), to their new flame, friends, everywhere. Hell, shout from the highest room of the tallest tower . Just let it spread like wild fire if you don’t have any skeleton in your



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We understand quite well that men would do anything possible, go extra mile to please and satisfy any woman they are interested in.

However, most times men act so childish to go about this interest.
It is not bad to please a woman but over doing it makes one stupid. As a man, you must be smart enough to read in between the lines to know what’s favorable and what’s not.

We are not saying you shouldn’t be romantic, it is a good thing to be romantic but not to the detriment of yourself and you should know that, just because something might be done in the name of love does not make it the right thing to do and these are the few you should try as much as possible to avoid or never be tempted to do for a woman, regardless.

1. Steal For Her

Obviously, we all know where this will end you and by the time you will be back, someone might have taken your place. Never allow anything to push you to steal in order to please your woman because if she later finds out you actually stole a gift for her, she might drop you, unless of course, you are in it together like Bonny and Clyde.

2. Paying For Her Tuition

It is not a bad thing to support her education, if you can help but to take full responsibility for everything to your own detriment can be dangerous. We are all humans and we change from time to time, most men actually think funding a girl’s education means they’ll be forever indebted to them, ending up getting married to them but we’ve seen several scenarios where the women will end up finding love elsewhere. This has been suicidal to many men.

3. Buy Her A House When You Don’t Have One

Common sense should tell you, you should build your dreams together but not favor her and think of yours later. Building a house for a woman when you don’t have one yourself can make you is wrong in every way. When she finally jilts you and lives in it with another man. There are many men still biting their fingers over this.

4. Fight Another Man Because Of Her

Fighting because of her doesn’t prove anything. Two things are likely to happen, either the person beats you to a pulp and end up in the hospital or you will beat the person and end up in jail, either way, you don’t win. Unless it is for self-defense.

5. Reject Your Family Because Of Her

A family is everything and no matter what, you can’t reject them because your woman doesn’t like them. It will be very dangerous on your part to reject your family all because of a woman.

6. Change Your Appearance

These days, there are many men doing a lot, taking pills to make changes to their bodies all because they feel that’s what women love. Changing you to please a woman means the moment you stop trying she’ll go, ideally, people you be with should love you for who you are.


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For some, it's been so long that they can't remember what it feels like to be in a relationship. Some have even given up on finding love. Well, how do you know if you've been single for too long? Watch out for these signs.

1. It wears on your confidence

You've been single for so long that when a girl or guy checks you out, you check your face or your outfit to be sure nothing is wrong with it. It has worn your confidence that you think no one finds you attractive anymore.

2. Your family have given up on asking if you are in a relationship

Even your family including your grandma don't even ask about your relationship status anymore

3. Your ex doesn't even refer to you as his/her ex

You ex now see you as a distant friend, not as someone he/she had something to do with the past.

4. Your ex is probably married

Even your ex you left a while ago is either married or engaged.

5. Your friends are tired of setting you up

Even your friends are tired of setting you up with people they know.

6. You've started to consider partners who are clearly not eligible

Just because you've been single for too long, you've lowered your standards just because you are tired of being lonely.

7. You are thinking of going out with your ex again

It's so bad that your ex is now a potential mate.

8. You are on so many dating apps

You've signed up on so many dating apps all in the quest of finding "the one".

9. Public display of affection and everything that has to do with romance makes you sick

You hate seeing happy couples make out, or you just get angry when its valentine because you know you have no one.



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You are in a relationship with this girl and it feels perfect. She watches all your games with you, holds your hand, talks about you to her friends, your relationship is great and you just love being around her. You are starting to think maybe you should take your relationship to another level, but you are still not sure if she's wifey material.


There is no such thing as the perfect girl and I don't think you can make any girl into the perfect girl, she is only going to be "perfect" for you. Fairytales make you believe that there is a perfect princess somewhere in need of rescuing, well your girl is somewhere but she most likely doesn't need rescuing. Men have to go through a number of princesses before they find the right one. Before you get me wrong, all girls aren't princesses and all guys are not knights.


Gone are the days a guy had to settle for a girl just because his and her parents are friends and they think they'll be perfect together. Guys, you should be ready to do a bit of shopping – coming from a girl, don't think the first girl you date will end up being your forever. One woman will come along and blow every girl you've ever been with before out of the water, this woman is a keeper.


How can you know that the woman you are dating is here to stay? Here are 18 signs that show the woman you are with is wifey material.

When it comes to relationships, a lot of men sometimes find it hard knowing if the woman they like is wifey material.

1. She is smart
Let’s call a halt to the day of only finding ‘dumb girls’ attractive and intelligent women intimidating. Intelligent men know that there is not sexier than dating a woman that's smart. She'll hold intelligent conversations and you'll have respect for her. She honors her time and commitments with others and knows what she’s doing with her life. You’ll be proud to call her your girl.

2. She trusts you
Trust is very important in every relationship. Calling 4-5 times a day may seem cute at the beginning but it gets tiring and annoying. It leaves the impression that she doesn't trust you and you need trust if you want your relationship to move forward.


3. She does her own thing
She doesn't expect you to be her knight in shining armor all the time. She does her own thing and is independent. She can make intelligent decisions. She doesn't expect you to pay for everything. She pays for dates and also treats you to special things.


4. She won't pretend
She won't pretend just to make you like her. She won't be afraid to be herself. There’s one thing about pretending and that is the fact that it will end one day. There is a limit to how long a person can pretend and I believe this comes with time.


5. She is always there
She is always there for you and will even go the extra mile just for you. She is also very concerned about you and is not afraid to show it.


6. She doesn't hold grudges
Your girl shouldn't hold grudges, because if you annoy her she is sure to pay you back. You can’t be in a relationship with someone who holds grudges because you'll always have to be careful around her.


7. She says what's on her mind
She is not afraid to tell you what’s on her mind and she is not afraid of conflict. She is also mature enough to tell you things. Your girl should always tell you what's on her mind and she should not be scared of how you are going to take it and if it's going to lead to an argument. Conflict can be healthy for relationships.


8. She is thoughtful and selfless
In this current age, this attribute is very rare, and if your girl has them she is a keeper.


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You have that amazing friend, the individual is the best, you both like the same things and can keep up with you on runs and you tell them everything. The person happens to be a great friend you want to have sex with.

You really can't tell if the person feels the same way. You get signals that he/she wants you, and then later the person gets distant. You've fallen victim to misread signals between the two of you and now you are very confused.

It is argued that men are mostly pushed to the friend zone. Actually, it affects both sexes/. No one enjoys being in that situation as we learn from Adekunle Gold's song "Friendzone". Its just sad when someone you have feelings for, treats you like a sibling and it is literally the worst place to be in.

Here are 15 signs you are stuck in the friend zone.

1. You do things the boyfriend/ girlfriend should be doing
You notice that you are always doing things that their partner should be doing for them. You are definitely in the friend zone.

2. They don't try to look good for you
If someone like you, he/she will work on their appearance just for you. If you notice that the person you like does not even make an effort to look good for you, you are in the friend zone.

3. You text every time
You text this person all the time and you hardly talk on the phone. If someone like you, the individual will want to hear your voice all the time.

4. You are introduced to everyone as a friend
You are always introduced to everyone as a friend and nothing more; you are definitely in the friend zone.

5. Talks to you about the opposite sex
If they feel comfortable talking to you about the opposite sex, then there is a problem. If a girl feels comfortable talking to you about other guys then you are in the friend zone. It's also the other way round for men.

6. You don't have the courage to make a move
You have a feeling the person sees you as a friend yet you still don't have the courage to make a move, you most likely will be in the friend zone for a long time.

7. You have a case of blue balls
Now this applies to men, but women can also relate. You have a thing for this girl, and because of that you don't notice other girls or can't hook up with someone else, yet you are in the friend zone. You have a serious case of blue balls.

8. Talks to you about who they are dating and ask for dating advice.
They tell you about who they are dating and also ask for your advice despite knowing you like them, you are in the friend zone oo.


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Planning a wedding is an expensive and stressful journey but not one you should dread. A wedding party is a way to share your happiness with your guests. The stress of planning a wedding is the downside of the experience and between all the decisions couples feels the pressure to make with catering, decor, the dress, and more, stressful situations pile on quickly.

Well, to make the experience easy, have asked a number of my friends and relatives that go to wedding often whet they remember and what they really don’t care about during a wedding

I'll start with what they don’t remember

1. Invitations

Do you care about a wedding invitation after the wedding? The answer is no. Most of the time the invitation is in the trash bin a day after the wedding. You really shouldn’t stress or spend a lot of money on your invitations. E-invitations is the future. You can send the invitations to your family and friends through email, all they have to do is R.SVP and print it out. It saves you money and you are not stressed.

2. Flowers

Flowers are really expensive and no one is going to remember them after the wedding. It's better you go for fake flowers you can rent.

3. Bouquet toss

Well no one is really bothered about who gets the bouquet after the wedding

4. The programme

This is another thing that goes in the bin after the wedding.

5. The cake

Another expense your guests are not worried about.

6. Decorations

The only thing that'll make them remember is the pictures.

7. The dress

The dress is important to the bride, but the guests.


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Planning a wedding is an expensive and stressful journey but not one you should dread. A wedding party is a way to share your happiness with your guests. The stress of planning a wedding is the downside of the experience and between all the decisions couples feels the pressure to make with catering, decor, the dress, and more, stressful situations pile on quickly.

Well, to make the experience easy, have asked a number of my friends and relatives that go to wedding often whet they remember and what they really don’t care about during a wedding

I'll start with what they don’t remember

1. Invitations

Do you care about a wedding invitation after the wedding? The answer is no. Most of the time the invitation is in the trash bin a day after the wedding. You really shouldn’t stress or spend a lot of money on your invitations. E-invitations is the future. You can send the invitations to your family and friends through email, all they have to do is R.SVP and print it out. It saves you money and you are not stressed.

2. Flowers

Flowers are really expensive and no one is going to remember them after the wedding. It's better you go for fake flowers you can rent.

3. Bouquet toss

Well no one is really bothered about who gets the bouquet after the wedding

4. The programme

This is another thing that goes in the bin after the wedding.

5. The cake

Another expense your guests are not worried about.

6. Decorations

The only thing that'll make them remember is the pictures.

7. The dress

The dress is important to the bride, but the guests.


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I am sure you know someone is currently sneezing, coughing or has a running nose, well the flu is in the air. This time of the year is flu season and everyone is at risk of catching it. The flu is an infectious disease caused by an influenza virus. The symptoms can either be mild or severe. The symptoms include fever, runny nose, sore throat, headache, coughing and feeling tired. The symptoms can begin two days after exposure to the virus and can last a week, but a cough may last longer. So literally you'll be feeling miserable for at least one week.

We know the flu is infectious and can take down an entire family fast, so how can we stay healthy during the cold and flu season or at least minimize the downtime if we don't.

Here are 10 ways we can stay healthy and vibrant throughout this season.

1. Wash your hands
A lot of found it really annoying when we were told we had to wash our hand before we put food in our mouth. Well, we should definitely listen to that advice if we want to avoid catching the flu. Washing your hands is the best way to keep from catching a cold. To prevent germ, we need to wash our hands. Always carry a hand sanitizer around in cases where you don't have access to soap and water.
Try to wash your hands throughout the day, and always after coughing, sneezing, or blowing your nose. If someone sneezes or coughs close to you, break out your hand sanitizer.


2. Get enough sleep
Sufficient sleep is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Getting the right amount of sleep is another way to fend off the flu. You body need to rest, so as to fight the virus. Try to stay on a regular schedule, and sleep at the same time every night.

3. Reduce stress
Chronic stress not only affects your mood, it also lowers your immune system. Feeling stressed all the time puts you at risk for cold and the flu. Chill out for at least 30 minutes every day. This not only good for your mood but also your health.

4. Exercise
Exercise is another way you can prevent catching the flu. Exercise can boost your immune function, which may keep you from getting sick. It can also help you manage stress. Try to exercise for at least 30 minutes every day. You can also take a walk for the same amount of time every day.

5. Eat healthy
Eating a balanced diet full of fruits and vegetables keeps your body feeling good and fighting off infections. We should fill up on vegetables that are rich in antioxidants and omega-3 fatty acids to prevent the flu.

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I am sure you know someone is currently sneezing, coughing or has a running nose, well the flu is in the air. This time of the year is flu season and everyone is at risk of catching it. The flu is an infectious disease caused by an influenza virus. The symptoms can either be mild or severe. The symptoms include fever, runny nose, sore throat, headache, coughing and feeling tired. The symptoms can begin two days after exposure to the virus and can last a week, but a cough may last longer. So literally you'll be feeling miserable for at least one week.

We know the flu is infectious and can take down an entire family fast, so how can we stay healthy during the cold and flu season or at least minimize the downtime if we don't.

Here are 10 ways we can stay healthy and vibrant throughout this season.

1. Wash your hands
A lot of found it really annoying when we were told we had to wash our hand before we put food in our mouth. Well, we should definitely listen to that advice if we want to avoid catching the flu. Washing your hands is the best way to keep from catching a cold. To prevent germ, we need to wash our hands. Always carry a hand sanitizer around in cases where you don't have access to soap and water.
Try to wash your hands throughout the day, and always after coughing, sneezing, or blowing your nose. If someone sneezes or coughs close to you, break out your hand sanitizer.


2. Get enough sleep
Sufficient sleep is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Getting the right amount of sleep is another way to fend off the flu. You body need to rest, so as to fight the virus. Try to stay on a regular schedule, and sleep at the same time every night.

3. Reduce stress
Chronic stress not only affects your mood, it also lowers your immune system. Feeling stressed all the time puts you at risk for cold and the flu. Chill out for at least 30 minutes every day. This not only good for your mood but also your health.

4. Exercise
Exercise is another way you can prevent catching the flu. Exercise can boost your immune function, which may keep you from getting sick. It can also help you manage stress. Try to exercise for at least 30 minutes every day. You can also take a walk for the same amount of time every day.

5. Eat healthy
Eating a balanced diet full of fruits and vegetables keeps your body feeling good and fighting off infections. We should fill up on vegetables that are rich in antioxidants and omega-3 fatty acids to prevent the flu.

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The worst thing that can happen to any relationship is suspicion. It breeds insecurity, lies, cheating, anger, betrayal, hurt and impending doom.

“The thing about having a suspicious girlfriend is she will not stop suspecting things about you,” says a friend. “If she ever saw me talking to a girl, she would think I was sleeping with her, or that I intended to do that,” he adds, recounting his own experiences. “It reached a point where if I told her I was busy, she’d never stop calling and texting me and so, I had to start lying, which I hated. But I had no other choice.”

A lot of times, the suspicion stems from the fact that a relationship between two people is very different in the beginning, compared to once the honeymoon stages are over.

1. Include Her In Your Schedule

Dedicate an hour or two, everyday just to spend quality time with her. It doesn’t have to be a lavish date everyday; it could be as simple as hanging out at your place together, watching the latest sitcom on Netflix, or just listening and venting about each other’s days. If you live separately, you can always talk over the phone, WhatsApp, or face-time. The idea is to actually make an effort not just because you have to; but, also because you want to.


2. Take Her Out On Double Dates

I know, it sounds lame and totally not required. But, it’s actually really required. It’s necessary for the simple reason that she knows you have lady friends who are already seeing someone else and you get to be romantic with her around others; show them how much you adore your girlfriend and so on. It’s very minute and often skipped, but is every bit as important as an intimate date.

3. Appreciate Her More Often

It’s difficult to do so every single time. But, this is something you’re going to have to work on, especially when you know she has a habit of suspecting your every move. The next time she tries asking you where you’ve been, or what you’re doing, throw in something like how you like the fact that she cares so much about you. In fact, you should ask her the same; give her the idea that you’re just as interested in her life as she is in yours.

4. Hang Out With Her In A Group

The best way to tell whether or not you’re with the right person is to notice how they behave around and with you when you’re in a group. Notice if she gets too clingy around your friends, or if she turns completely aloof—both are signs of insecurity. Involve her in conversations with friends; especially your female friends—they are where her suspicions lie. Let her feel like she is a part of your life and social circle; let her get to know your friends, the people you spend most of your time with and why they are important to you. The more she understands, the lesser her chances of suspecting.




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There was a time when relationships were sacred and private. Both parties were driven by the commitment to love, honor and respect each other. Whatever they faced, they faced alone. The relationship was private. Now we live in a society where social media is important to us. We all want to be accepted on social media and we put everything about us up on social media including our relationships.
Social media has the power to destroy relationships, Whether they were solid or not. People have lost the art of privacy, they don’t know the difference between privacy and secrecy. People used to protect their relationship from the influence of the outside world. The couple didn't want society to have an opinion about their relationship, but now times have changed.

I overheard an argument some time ago between a couple. The man wanted to keep the relationship private, the woman felt he was hiding something, embarrassed of her or didn't love her enough. She felt he had to post his significant other on social media like it was a written requirement. There is also this idea that if your partner doesn't flaunt you om social media, then he is cheating. The thing is the best cheater actually does what is necessary to make his/her partner feel as if they are fully invested in the relationship. There are numerous stories of partners who cheat but post pictures of their significant other every time.

Social media should be used in moderation. When abused, social media can be a stage for humiliation, exploitation, and shame. One bad social media encounter can show you that not everything needs to be shared online. You should not keep your partner a secret, but your relationship should be private. It shouldn't be between two of you and your 5000 Twitter and Instagram followers. The idea that what goes on inside of your home stays inside of your home is one rule that should still reign true, especially as it pertains to your love life.
Love is a beautiful thing and to fully experience that with your partner, here are some other reasons your love life should not be flaunted on social media.

1. You open yourself up to the opinions of others.

How quickly we forget the idiom we were told while growing up, "Don't wash your dirty laundry in public". This means we should not talk to other people about personal things that should be kept private. Our parents knew the consequences of speaking loosely about family matters, it also applies to your relationship. If you decide to tell everyone about the situation of things with your partner, you are only opening yourself to the opinion of others, opinions you do not need.

2. Everyone won't be happy for you

There is a Yoruba adage that says " it's all lizards that lie on their tummy, but we do not know the one that is suffering from a stomach ache". Not everyone will be happy for you, they may seem happy but you really don't know what they are really thinking.

3. It can create a false idea of validation

Posting a picture on social media doesn't mean your partner really loves you, it's just an act that's done. You may post a picture of a meal because it's not personal but your partner is. You don't have to post a picture of your partner to prove your love to him/her. A girl may post the picture of her man just to tell other girls out there that she has found a man. On the another hand, a guy may just post the picture of his babe, just to show other people the hot chick he is currently going out with. your partner can show you off for the wrong reasons. It also can just be validation to feed insecurities.

4. Unhealthy attention

The world is dehydrated and being a spectator of your love affair temporarily quenches their thirst. This something you can easily get addicted to and it is bad for your relationship. A couple can be more in love with the glamour of having a social media relationship than an actual bond. Your intentions and motivations stay pure when your relationship is private. You should be in a relationship with someone not because the social media world loves seeing you guys together but because you can't imagine a life without the person.


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Believe it or not; there is, indeed, more to a relationship than sex. Suprised? Actually, nope. But yes, we have been shaped by a culture that bases itself on internet porn, one-night stands and erotica, and so, has lost vision of the real point of a relationship—which is to just spend time with another individual you are attracted to in more ways than one.



While you can have sex with anybody, it’s the post-sex equation that is not something you want to have with everyone. Sometimes, all you want to do is hangout with your significant other—play video games, watch re-runs of your favourite shows, have conversations about life and while eating pizza with—because at the end of the day, we are all looking to grow old with someone, even if we’re not saying it out loud.



To test this out further, I talked to a young couple about this. Sophie and Emmanuel (names changed) have been together for a year now. While the two of them can literally not get their hands off each other, besides being visibly in love, the two of them have never had sex. Yes, their physical chemistry is like no other, they say and they spend nights together sleeping over; they all but indulge in the act of what modern-aged lovemaking. To them, love is about sharing their love for their favourite music, talking in the most romantic manner possible because they seriously are high on the mush, cooking for one another and lying curled up together, whispering sweet nothings to each other. Most may wonder how they could possibly not lose control, or how they have even lasted this long. Theirs is a relationship of a cosmic connection, says Sophie. “Our mutual understanding for each other and our love transcends the act of just having sex,” she adds.



So how do we, as a generation heady on boners, orals and lack of self-control, go from ‘just having sex’ to actually making love without the physicality of it? Does it mean we have to shut out of our digital social circles and spend more time together offline? Maybe. Does it mean watching less porn or reading less erotica, or hooking up online with someone? Maybe. Does it mean we need to wear promise rings and swear sexual allegiance to the chosen one, whoever that might be? Maybe. But, most of all, it’s just one of those things that you will know when you know.

So, when you meet someone with whom you love hanging out, playing Fifa with, watching sitcoms with, staying up late with or just sharing stale pizza with, you will realise that sometimes, it is okay to have a relationship that is based on pure, innocent love and not on ‘just having sex’.

Till then, don’t quit the search!



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There are certain taboos in the workplace and one of them is office romance. When it comes to office romance, both parties are interested and are aware of the risks involved. But in the case where your boss is overtly flirting with you, that's just a big NO.

A little light office flirtation can be exciting, but when your boss doesn't get the memo that this is wrong, it could be a really bad day at work. It is also annoying, rude, awkward and counterproductive -- not to mention potentially illegal. You most likely will want to avoid your boss, which seems impossible as you'll have to interact with the individual every day.

Flirting involves verbal or written communication as well as body language by one person to another, either to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person or if done playfully, for amusement.

If your boss is in interested in you, it often starts with a friendly gesture, compliment, a pat on the back, a jokey remark and all of that. Although not all men/women will act like this, but you have to be careful and try to defuse the situation before it gets any worse. Flirtation that initially seemed innocent can quickly escalate to harassment levels, so it's important to remedy the situation before it gets out of hand.

You can simply ignore the advances, but not all will get that they are being ignored and will probably still continue with their advances. There are other ways you can regain your sanity and a reasonable level of comfort at work.


1. Be direct
You can tell your boss directly that you are very uncomfortable with his advances. If you don't say anything the advances are likely to continue, so it's advisable you tell him how you feel. You can simply tell him/her that you are interested in them professionally and not romantically. This may seem hard, but if you keep silent it could be seen as a sign of encouragement.


2. Mention a partner
One other way you can defuse the situation is by mentioning your partner. Even if you are not in a relationship, you can still talk about a man or woman in your life. You should drop hints that you are in a relationship.


3. Reduce flirtation opportunities
Simply put, reduce your alone time with your boss. This can be tricky as you will have meetings together and the rest. But if you can control it, reduce the time you spend alone with your boss.


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