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ogbonti:
Abeg no mind the OP my brother. Who says marriage provides comfort, happiness and long life in all circumstances? Nah it doesn’t folks.

1. Some married guys here in America that I know don’t even get regular s ex from their wife anymore because they feel they got the man caged already and if he leaves her, (divorce) - then financial calamity will befall him with regards to alimony, child support, splitting the estate and other drag on here and there.

2. The nagging too na helele. I have had one or two friends just before the pandemic who were almost living with me - they come in on Friday and leave on Sunday just to escape an irritating and over entitled wife from running up their blood pressure unending. You need to see the excitement on their faces when they arrive my place for the weekend and my wife initially didn’t understand why these guys were doing this but with time she got the picture, and she even validated my conclusion about the awkward complacencies most women display after securing the marital vow from a man - “for better for worse - love and to cherish, till death do us part..... bla bla bla”

3. There is a reason some companies here in America and even in Nigeria seldom hire permanent staff. They hire on contract basis. Now, I know someone may say what’s the difference if both contract and permanent staff can both be fired. However, it is harder to fire a permanent staff without incurring legal and financial liabilities. Same with marriage, when you tie yourself up with legal complexities just to cling to one individual for life, then you must be ready to go through the headache to untangle yourself when things go sour, and it surely will over time - because every man has his price and every dog has it’s day!

4. It takes 2 people in agreement to get married, but it takes the consent of just 1 of the 2 to destroy everything. Any human being can change, over time - because change is the only constant thing in life - and every human being is a sucker for one or multiple things of life - only known to that individual.

For a man - some of us can not resist a very beautiful and brilliant woman. Now, when she is the one initiating flirts with you, it becomes a level playing field between her and your wife for the battle for your love, affection and attention. If the beautiful woman respects you, cooks good for you and doesn’t nag you as a side chic, then your wife is in for a real fight going forward because every man appreciates peace of mind and sweet food. If she is good in bed and your wife over time has become a boring, entitled and nagging sister at home, then calamity has come knocking on the marriage and a divorce is imminent.

Same for the woman, if she is a sucker for money, sweet talks, material things and good looks, but somehow got married because her biological clock was ticking and she is getting pressured at home to get married by her parents - then whatever is available (which is you becomes her dream man at that period) . However, when all dust settles and she is no longer on the edge about her biological clock because she now has a kid or 2, and a man who she exploits financially in a marriage, she is now in a vantage position to use positive screeners to find that which her mind truly yearns for and whenever she finds it and that person is a willing collaborator, she will turn 360 degrees against you. You will keep wondering what has gone wrong? Nothing went wrong foolish husband- your wife has been dealing with you as an alternative to her real dream man. Now she has found him and she sees you as a mistake she urgently needs to correct.

5. Money, power, fame or spiritual superiority can’t tame any partner in a marriage. We have seen that with Bill Gates, Micheal Jordan, Brad Pitt, Chris Okotie, Chris Oyakhilome and even Aso Rock’s own Aisha Buhari here in Nigeria where she feels very comfortable staying away from her husband in Dubai for half a year. So what are we not talking about ?


6. I honestly don’t believe a man will ever stay with one woman and not stray for maximum one year and I don’t believe a woman can be committed to one man and not stray for 2 years. If she is not straying then she must be an ugly and irritating sit-at-home-all-day lady that nobody wants. IF if he is not straying, he must be a dirt poor loner who lacks basic confidence to initiate and hold a conversation with a lady for even 30 minutes.


With all these being said, baby mama comes from the freedom it affords both parties (the man and the woman) to stop breathing on each other’s neck and give each other the space and opportunity to keep excelling without the suffocating complexities of an irritating spouse

And who says products from a baby mama can’t be great? Barack Obama is one, and he is one the greatest black men to ever walk on the surface of the earth and a role model to hundreds of millions of people world wide. I know someone will say but his father married his mother - yes, they did just to take pictures lol, because the father was off before Barack even turned 3 years old and since then his (now late) mom and her family took care of him

So, OP stop propagating neediness, insecurity and lack of capacity for adults to stand their ground and hold on to face the vicissitudes of life because you want them to desperately cling to another human to bail them out with pity parties when life throws them a curve? nah- Instead I will encourage everyone to get on their A game and enjoy their life, independent of any other human being’s perpetual manipulation and psychological slavery.


As for kids born out of wedlock, they will be fine. A baby daddy can support the welfare of the kid as the spirit leads him because even kids you raise in a marriage sometimes will turn against the you their father and give priority to the mom when they grow up because right under your nose, the indoctrination was taking place whenever you are away to work and you didn’t even realize it


So baby mama or marriage is ok for anyone- it all depends on what you are comfortable with

I rest my case!!!

Pour me small oil for hand make I rub for head

They could not fly him out immediately?

He has money na

Nigerian hospitals that if they stab you at your leg, you may die

6 years

A shame

[quote author= post=101477428]The $2 billion people are quoting was the figure Chinese firm wanted to invest to build Airport city in Anambra to be concession to them, just like how the Chinese are funding Lekki deep sea port, the agreement didn't work out between them and Anambra state government , the Chinese firm later pulled out, Anambra state government took over soley funding the project without borrowing a dim.[/quote]So what is the cost of the Airport?

Failed Nation

Always talking about war

That's the only thing they know

They hate talks

They fear war

Slavery is the result.

This was done almost 10 years ago

FG washes off its hand

Did anyone apply to them that he/she wants to go to heaven?

This is very shameful

Just that Bubari have no shame

Lucky boys

If they were older

Maybe Nigeria army or police would have killed them

helinues:
On the wrong side for not following the crowd?

Come back to Nigeria and type this.

behold them

uduak, is that you again?

Uduak, is that you?

FatherCHRISTMAS:
Alright

Dont give up on yourself

Even if you give up on others

Love yourself more and persevere

This too shall pass away

FatherCHRISTMAS:
Please

Do not give up

Go on twitter and search giveaways

You will prevail

You people have started again

Hian

So the sacking was done by the chairman to cover his bad loans.

Na wa ooo

Are we not in crisis?

I rather invest in syria capital.

Ex convict.

Quote the world bank

Let them show proof

Our gas laws on flaring is obsolete.

PIB was the major challenge it has and it was never passed.

I can confirm that the inspectors from regulatory agencies do not reach the rigs.

They stay in hotels to be paid and input data since oil companies pay per cubic gas flared.

I consider this fake news even if it comes from world bank.

good thread. learnt a lot

they should contact Gumi or Pantami

pricklewane:
All that he stated will be fact if he can tell us just one single state in Nigeria that employed any tax firm or state firm that is performing beta than Alpha Beta in tax collection.

Is that the bone of contention?

Lol

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Government propagandist

Always with facebook sources

helinues:
I can also see that the keeping Pantami is what has emboldened the UGM abi na UGU..

Eish

Your reply is the most foolish thing I have seen this week yet.

Surprise me please..

Even if it's once.

APC?

No no no no no no