Our Lord! Condemn us not if we forget, or miss the mark! Our Lord! Lay not on us such a burden as thou didst lay on those before us! Our Lord! Impose not on us that which we have not the strength to bear! Pardon us, absolve us and have mercy on us, Thou, our Protector, and give us victory over the disbelieving folk. (Qur’an 2:286)
4. Rabbanāgh-fir Lanā Dhunūbanā Wa ‘Isrāfanā Fī Amrinā Wa Thabbit ‘Aqdāmanā Wanşurnā `Alá l-Qawmi l-Kāfirīn
Our Lord! forgive us for our sins and wasted efforts, make our foothold sure, and give us victory over the disbelieving folk. (Qur’an 3:147)
5. Rabbanā Fāghfir Lanā Dhunūbanā Wa Kaffir `Annā Sayyi’ātinā Wa Tawaffanā Ma`al-’Abrār
Our Lord! Therefore forgive us our sins, and remit from us our evil deeds, and make us die the death of the righteous. (Qur’an 3:193)
6. Anta Walīyunā Fāghfir Lanā Warĥamnā Wa Anta Khayrul-Ghāfirīn
Thou art our Protecting Friend, therefore forgive us and have mercy on us, Thou, the Best of all who show forgiveness. (Qur’an 7:155)
7. Rabbanā ghfir Lī Wa Liwālidayya Wa Lilmu’uminīna Yawma Yaqūmul-Ĥisāb
Our Lord! Forgive me and my parents and believers on the day when the account is cast. (Qur’an 14:41)
8. Rabbanā ‘Āmannā Fāghfir Lanā Wa-rĥamnā Wa Anta Khayru-r-Rāĥimīn
Our Lord! We believe, therefor forgive us and have mercy on us for Thou art Best of all who show mercy (Qur’an 23:109)
9. Rabbanagh-fir Lanā Wa Li-ikhwāninalLadhīna Sabaqūnā Bil-’Īmāni Wa Lā Taj`al Fī Qulūbinā GhillaLilladhīna ‘Āmanū Rabbanā ‘Innaka Ra’ūfun Raĥīm
Our Lord! Forgive us and our brethren who were before us in the faith, and place not in our hearts any rancour toward those who believe. Our Lord! Thou art Full of Pity, Merciful. (Qur’an 59:10)
10. Rabbigh-fir Lī Wa Liwālidayya Wa Liman Dakhala Baytiya Mu’uminaw Wa Lilmu’uminīna Wal-Mu’umināti Wa Lā Tazidiž-Žālimīna Illā Tabārā
My Lord! Forgive me and my parents and him who entereth my house believing, and believing men and believing women, and increase not the wrong-doers in aught save ruin. (Qur’an 71:28)
May ALLAH accept our Dua Āmīn ! Ya Rabb al-’Ālamīn
....... I have two wives. I married my first wife Sadiya when I was 31 and she 21. Then it was love at first sight. I truly loved her and wanted her to be with me for the rest of my life. Sadiya is calm, decent and patient. We have 5 kids. I met my second wife Bilkisu through a friend. This was 14 years after my marriage to Sadiya. Bilkisu is pretty, young and yes .......fresh. I married Bilkisu. Sadiya was so calm about it that it actually frightened me. Her patience seemed too good to be true. She accepted my new wife and made her welcome. This pleased me afterall I had seen what some of my friends who attempted polygamy went through. It was not always these easy. I took it for granted that as a Muslim woman she had to accept her co-wife. One day recently, Sadiq, Sadiya's first cousin came to visit. They had been quite close for they grew up in the same household. Sadiya and her cousin had lots to talk about. They chatted in the living room and it was obvious they had many pleasant memories to share. Then I began to feel something..., some form of resentment began to build in me. I began to envy the way Sadiq could make Sadiya laugh so hard, the way her eyes twinkled as they talk. I hadn't seen her look so happy and oh yes...beautiful in a long while. I began to find excuses to make Sadiya leave the room. "We've only just started" Sadiq complained and grumbled as I asked Sadiya to get us some snacks. I almost snarled at him. When Sadiq finally left after two long hours..... I watched my wife crawl back into her shell. I watched the sparkle fade away and right under my nose, I watched Sadiya become sad. She looked lonely. It was at that moment it hit me hard. The truth I mean. Had I failed in my duty as a husband ? I began to ask myself questions.
When was the last time I actually made an effort to make Sadiya laugh? When last did we really sit together to chat and talk about this and that like we did way back when she was the only apple of my eyes?
Is Sadiya happy? I couldn't help but remember that sudden look of loneliness as Sadiq left. This truly bothered me.
Then I asked myself ....if you feel some form of envy because some other guy who is known to you could bring out the woman you once had, what is Sadiya going through? Hmmm. I thought to Myself. How does she feel whenever she sees me with Bilqis? A sense of guilt engulfed me. I had been too involved with my new and fresh wife that I had never given this any thought. It suddenly occurred to me that there were several emotions behind all that patience. I needed to know I had to know for that sad look kept haunting me. So I set out on my fact finding mission. Here are my results.
She had noticed some changes in me around the same time I began to date Bilqis.I became easily irritated, easy to complain and difficult to please. I often wore a frown face which scared and stopped her from voicing her feelings.
While I started passing not too pleasant remarks about her physical attributes (this really hurt her) Ya Salaam! I had stopped noticing her efforts to look good, to please me with her dressing, her make-up and her perfume..I even completely forgot to say she looked nice when she did
She had seen me rush to answer sms that came in from Bilqis and look pensively at the phone when I'm expecting her call. It also happened that most times I forgot to reply Sadiya's thoughtful messages and chats. Sometimes I didn't call when I was away from home. (Sadiya always kept in touch).
She watched me come home and all I spent my time doing was preparing for the new bride. In my excitement I got carried away, spent a lot of money and neglected some of the family's immediate needs.
She often initiated s*x, because most of the time I would just lie down there and ignore her. (Bad!!!)
She had to put up with it all cause she never wanted to displease me even for a moment.
She had worried about the new woman coming. Will they be able to tolerate one another. Will she like her kids? If 'this woman could distract her husband even from the outside, what will happen from the inside. Will she ...? She had so many things going on in her head with none to share her pain,her fears. She couldn't, naturally for the fear of being labelled envious. These are just some of the facts. How did I gather all these? I sat Sadiya down, held her hands and begged her in the name of Allah to talk to me. She did, and as she did, she fought with tears. I felt truly ashamed. I felt like I had oppressed her. Did I hear you say so what? Isn't Polygamy a prophetic sunnah and every Muslim woman must accept it? True. My brothers, we need to go about it in manner that will not tamper with the feelings of the other wife or wives. Advice.
Never neglect your wife/wives. Always show concern and care. You may have many to show you love and affection, she has only YOU.
Give her her dues. By these I mean spend quality time with her and satisfy her needs especially in the bedroom. Hug her, kiss her and play with her. Remember you're her only husband.
Take her out once in a while, alone. Go for drives, walks, visits and shopping. Go for another honeymoon if possible away from your town. If not, to some place near you that you can afford.
Say good morning and goodnight. Don't wait for her to say it all the time. Check on her daily. Call when you're not around.
Be responsive: that is listen to her and genuinely pay attention. Reply texts and chats. Blow her kisses...
Every woman wants to know her MAN still belongs to her You can belong to 2, 3 or 4 at the same time if you follow the being 'just sunnah of the Nabiy SAW. I mean don't fail to be the loving husband of each. Never let any wife feel like she's living on the grace of another.
Give her all that is meant for her. Feed her and clothe her as expected. If you do any of these only when a new wife comes in, you can naturally expect bad feelings and distrust. Even the wise among the kids will notice.
Let the older wife or wives know you appreciate them. Don't wait for the arrival of another to say that much expected Thank You.
Never marry and compare. You tell or tease a woman she's old or her breasts are this or that and thereafter take a younger and fresher woman, Ya Salam! You have given her reasons to feel inferior and reasons to dislike the new comer.
Yes you have many to choose from, but you're all she's got.
Above all, it is imperative to communicate. Talking helps to clear minute issues and heals wounds. So I talked to Sadiya and felt her pain. She loved me enough to be jealous, she loved me so much she bore it all peacefully. sadiya is a good wife and loving mother. What else could I ask for? I took my time to earn her love again....and I got it! I wooed and courted her and it was both exciting and fulfilling as I watched her blossom and glow. I love both wives. Each for different outstanding qualities. May Allah forgive us brothers and help us to keep the amana. Women must be cared for and loved. They deserve nothing less as they strive to please us and compete for our love and attention. This is the sunnah. Alhamdulillah!
Cc Mukina2 Sissie
Mtcheeeeeeeew keep dreaming . Na mumu girl go wait for you to kill her now because of ojukokoro. After all divorce is permitted in Islam my meat don taya you make another person enjoy am too. Abi who no like better thing atleast if i can't marry 2 at once i can marry them one after the other.
Lovely video when you don't mind your business. The girl defending the girl been harassed was well dressed o. If na me i go raise the top higher so he can see something to self-service on. Peverts everywhere
I had a female boss who would do anything for us. Just call her mummy that's all. I love her she's the best. Women need to be united female bosses are human beings and allowed to be flawed. Men are worse because to be fine na crime what dey want you don't know. majority of them are nice to ladies but any guy they see as a threat is in trouble but you don't see them opening a thread about it to hear negative comments. If your boss dey misbehave talk to the boss.
emekaRaj: I will never hit a woman even if u shoot me, just trying to repair ur manners but clearly u r way beyond repair, from ur comment it's obvious who the psycho is.
AbdelKabir: don't expect me to stoop low to your level and start exchanging words with you cuz I'm certain you'll beat me with your experience being in such a low level.
And the servants of the Beneficent Allah are they who walk on the earth in humbleness, and when the ignorant address them, they say: salaam. (English - Shakir)
via iQuran
ma'a salaam.
I know what you are oga. I just want others to see too so they can stop listening to you. Psycho so you are claiming humble because I've not heard salaam from you since o
AbdelKabir: If you dont have anything sensible to say, you keep shut, this is the command of the prophet of Allaah.
how do you pray without the hadeeth?
The Quran stated explicitly that the prophet was raised to explain the Quran for us, WHERE IS THIS EXPLANATION?
such question should be directed to a scholar who specializes in such, not everyone can answer questions on dream interpretation ACCORDING TO THE QUR'AN AND SUNNAH, even in the time of the taabi'een, such questions was directed to mostly Muhammad ibn sireen rahimahullaah.
So ask a trusted scholar instead.
Na dem be this. . Na here dem dey sleep confused beings.
It means you are a glutton. Don't read your Qur'an and try to be just before some extremist will fabricate one hadith to mislead you. If your ways are pure you have nothing to fear sir.
chukagates: ur own na too yab ..i don talk my own please GOD LET MAD WOMEN COME MY WAY.."fear woman" i know thats why am going to be much more ruthless and wicked .." fear men without heart or conscience"...if you like pour spit every where i don talk my own BITCHES LIKE YOU SHOULD COME MY WAY O LORD!!
No be only yab i get sir i get venom too. Weve seen what men can do with their ruthless and wicked attitude but women are still exploring their wickedness fear the unknown fool. Ive said my own BASTARDS LIKE YOU SHOULD COME MY WAY and i will make sure you know the untapped fury of a woman. Piece of shit
chukagates: why is it that ladies like you dont come my way you obviously met an idiat God knows i will kiss my wife then turn to you the next thing your in FMC ....and i will still lock u up afterwards ..Why is it that i dont meet all these gra gra ladies?? i want to meet one i gats tame a tigress
Dog wey wan tame tigress na pepesoup the tigress go use you do. Were You will learn soon. I'm sure you don't have 100 naira to your name thats why. Fool
chukagates: abulo close mouth all dis ur initial gra gra no go help u na ur type the chop beating pass i keep praying to God give me a lady like u only God knw sey for ur over gra gra i knack evil comot ur body still lock u for SARS then divorce you..na just MONEY I CRUSH YOU AND WAIT FOR UR FAMILY NA NAIJA WEDEY money anawereth to all things!!!
Now i know how foolish you are and na your type i dey quick send go meet baba God so i will tell the judge i was defending myself from you. Your existence is chaos even God will applaud me. Your mama for abort fool like you. Fyi money no be for only man and i go use money and yansh destroy fool like you. yansh only don do for idiot like you. Motherfucker oshi Fear women.
Vorpal: So is she now giving excuse for uncouth women to run their mouth? It's okay for her to run her mouth and say any degrading thing about her husband, and the dude should just "walk away"?
I still don't understand why all these warnings her one sided. Why don't she warn women to not provoke the man to blinding rage? Or is it all men the have equal temperaments?
P: I don't support men beating their wife o, but I understand no sane man would beat a woman if he hasn't been aggravated to the point he can't take it anymore putting in mind his temperament.
So because a woman runs her mouth you decide to beat her so she will now respect you more abi. Ode na poison you go chop last last. Fear women.
TINALETC3: Just pray u marry a gud man while u 2 b a gud wife, 4get Al dis blah blah blah wey u dey yan, d highest u cn do is divorce.
A good wife doesn't define a psycothic man if you like be a virtuous woman he will still beat you because you are looking at him. Atleast divorce is something and not bla bla ba. Keep on praying until he kills you. Mtcheeeeew
Toks2008: As a lady it is so sad that no matter how you dream of getting a faithful man to marry,you can never ever be sure of what to expect.
It has become so boring that most times when a woman dissolves her marriage it is mostly hinged on sexual unfaithfulness from the man and I just wonder how long this will continue.
So i ask the ladies which one would they settle for provided these are the only options available and they must marry?
1.A man who stays married to only you but philanders or
2.A sexually faithful man who is ready to marry you and another woman. . . . Unfortunately as a lady, you must be ready to choose one or remain single because 98% of men fall into one of the two options which means it is by share luck that a lady will be with a man who will be sexually faithful to her so just be ready to brace up to tolerate one.
Even if you remain single,you must be ready to date one of the two or remain celibate.
Many ladies will not like this but you either accept it now or be confronted by it. Over to the ladies.
I'd wait for the 2% sir or remain celibate and live long after all celibacy is not a sin .
Lawlahdey: To the OP, the only part I want to address is the part where you said Olu Jacobs has never cheated on Joke silva. How do you know this? Because Joke Silva hasn't come on social media to announce it? We don't know anything about the challenges of her marriage, we don't know how much she endures. We only know that they have a happy marriage and we all wish for the same. Joke silva is a virtuous woman, do not use her as a comparism for the silly girls of this generation.
And just because it looks like most of us lack simple comprehension skills, i'll explain my post again in simpler words.
No man should cheat if it can be avoided. But, it's barely avoidable in this century. So, if your man cheats and you can't forgive him and endure, then walk the hell outta the marriage. Those who you see happy are those who endured. But if you can't,no one is holding you.
Reality check: Forget feminism and all, it really is a MAN'S world and men are predators by nature, they prey on available females.
Lol it is mothers like you that allowed women to be preyed on. And those who endured are either dead or still miserable. To much responsibility is given to a woman be strong,endure forgive at what price. If a woman loves a man care for him take care of his children she deserves to be loved too and if all a woman ask for is for a man to be faithful to her i don't think its too much. Sister lawladey cheating is the highest form of betrayal in this world.
this is what yoruba people call "isokuso" ati "orokoro"
whose actions are the best if not the prophets of Allaah? they have the best of characters and actions, pls this statement is a statement is kufr(disbelieve), cuz you are refuting Allaah a'udhubillaah for making one the prophets – Muhammad, a model for mankind to follow, if he doesn't have best of characters and actions why would Allaah make him a model for us to follow?
be careful of what you say sister because of your hate for polygamy (you shouldnt even hate it, its another kufr to hate what Allaah has explicitly made permissible in his words)
Please do not quote me brother, i hate polygamy and any sane person will too and there's no body that can be just even amongst children you like ine more than the other. And its not kufr neither is it permissible if not allah will not put a condition that that even the prophet faulted because he loved aishat more how much more ordinary men. And no one is perfect sir except we don't want to say the truth. There's no isokuso orokoro except its the truth and my opinion sir thank you. There's nothing as sacred as the love of husband and wife for allah.
Islam › Re: 10 Prayers Of Forgiveness From The Qur'an by sarahade(f): 8:31am On Mar 19, 2017
