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solomonbrown64: Bro, she is looking for excuses, why did she wait until now to bring up such trivial tales......she might be seeing sum1else...you said u have been together for 3yrs....and up til now she hasnt notice her skin has not been manhandled........
something is up jawe, she is just looking for excuses...

That wat I tot too

solomonbrown64: ,...Waoh, dats weird......
...anyway, probably dats wah she was told while growing up.....
....buh on a serious note, you should show some emotions such as anger......if u are angry, show it...let her see some other side of you....
but if she has called it quit.....then maybe, its for the best.

When I get angry I do leave de house for her even thou we don't stay together and stay @ my Buddies place. When eva I come back she will demand were I went to cause I don't use to pick calls during dose period. Yesterday she said I use to go to my real girlfriends place wen eva we have quarrel dat y I don't pick calls.

Am not an abusive type and I hate men that beat women with passion.
Yesterday something happened that baffled me and it is what inspired this post. I had a quarrel yesterday with my girl friend of 3 years now. To my greatest surprise what was a small quarrel turn into a serious one and she told me that it is over between us. One of her reasons being that she discovered I don't luv her because I don't beat her. Her quote "you have never slapped me talk more of beating me no matter what I do and I don't believe a man is ever that gentle, this attitude that you are pretending is a gentle man attitude is a pure proof of I don't care and that you don't truly luv me " I was speechless for a while till she left I couldn't utter a word. Now she isn't around I regretted not beating her mercilessly yesterday but the truth is that I don't want to have that spirit of beating a lady in me.
Please is it true that beating you girl friend or wife is a sure proof of love and interest in the lady cause am really confused right now?

nikkypearl: I am not a good writter,so I stand to be corrected!
I got home earlier today from work and I saw my lil sis glowing again after suffering from a bad breakup..

...I remember vividly early this year,middle January to be precise,I got a call from ilorin where I grew up that my pretty sister was in the hospital!I was told she fainted,and the first thing that came to my mind was" she don SWALLOW!" ..I had to rush down the following saturday to see her,'coz my mom said she wasn't talking to no one!

Fastforward to ilorin..I saw my sister lying on the sickbed,looking so pale and ugly !WHatttttt!what happen
Alas,she just broke up with her boyfriend of 3yrs and 4months...it was so had for me to believe,'coz no one would ever believe the love birds could seperate!
I called the guy immediately and demanded to know why he did that to my cutie pie!

He replied bluntly that,he was no longer interested because my sis use to cover her bosoms and some parts of her body during intimacy!Whatttttttt

Is it now a crime to be a good/shy girlhe said he needed a crazy bitch. for a girlfriend not one holy Maria!toh!

I had to take my sis down to Lagos two days later!she just graduated from school,waiting to go for her youth service..the first thing I did was introduce her to nairaland,which she enjoys a lot!followed by the following tips

1.Cry all you want. Let the tears flow, it's healthy you are releasing grief and pain. You may be afraid to start because you're fearful you'll never stop, but you will.


2.Do something everyday to help yourself heal. Exercise, read, watch some self-help TV/DVD's, learn to meditate and never underestimate the power of positive prayer. Pick things that you know will be fun or beneficial and do them. Don't wait for the mood to come over you, take one action and then take another.


3.Find emotional support. There are numerous groups for the newly single (more for women than for men). If you want therapy, go to www.therapistfinder.com to find a licensed marriage and family therapist in your area. Just don't try to tough it out or go it alone, support from others is healing, even if those people never become close friends.


4.Don't be a doormat. If your soon-to-be-ex continues to call you or simply won't go away (or move out) tell them you can't heal with them around and ask them to keep their distance. If they are harassing or threatening you it is best to call law enforcement for information and advice.


5.Keep busy. If you wake up early take a walk, go out to breakfast or do something around the house. Try a little "retail therapy" (go shopping) or enjoy the decadence of going to a movie in the middle of the day. Many businesses allow their staff to take "mental health days" if needed. If you can't sleep do the crossword puzzle, read or watch TV. Don't sit in your room and ruminate, you have to free your mind so your heart can heal.


6.Don't try to mask your pain by trying to find a replacement. We all know the term "rebound relationship" these happen when we (unconsciously) use another person to fill the gap that's been created by the ending of a relationship. These transitional connections can feel healing in the short term, but if you don't process your pain appropriately you will not be able to be in a fully committed partnership.


7.Don't spend too much time alone. Hang out with friends or make new ones, go to coffee with someone you can talk to, volunteer in your community. You will need time alone, but if you isolate yourself you won't be able to fully process your feelings or get the support you need to heal.


8.Trust your feelings. Even if you were taken by surprise by the breakup, your inner voice is telling you something. Listen carefully and you will hear that it will all be OK. You just have to let your feelings guide you.


9. If you were friends with your ex's family, realize that this relationship is gone as well. They will find it awkward to continue seeing you, no matter how close you were to them.


10.Research. Find out what others, who have not just survived but thrived after their relationships ended did to achieve peace of mind. There are some great books on surviving a breakup, my favorite is "How to Survive the Loss of a Love" by Peter McWilliams. This little gem will give you insight, exercises and some sage advice for dealing with this heart wrenching issue.

Trust that you were not put here to suffer and that your live will not just be OK, it will be wonderful. Love will come again and next time, if you have truly processed your feelings, it will be much better. Having to work through some alone time doesn't need to be totally painful. Remember that even though change is mandatory, suffering is optional.

I am so glad I could help after 8months..
If you are ,or once suffered from a bad breakup,those tips helps a lot!
Best of luck!

Truth be told ur sister no sabi wash pipe dat why de guy left. A gal dat can't completely pull off will find it hard to do de crazy stuffz.

Nah waa dis woman value her shoe pass her life cool. On chopingsing tins 4 de crocs

Keneking: Harsh economic policies of their government is doing the needful on the populace
Jona ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Na waohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Will her soul be received in Hell or Heaven?
When she comes back to the world, would she come to Nigeria as citizen Wait let me ask God first
Jona ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Nah waa wat is this one smoking?

LaurelP: Really, can a typical Naija girl do without makeup? As in just bath, brush her hair and dress up without applying any makeup, especially when going to events, church or party?

Is there any lady who can do that? I want to marry her!

U don see plenty gals dat need husband accepting the fact that dey can do without make up. @op I hope u seen a wife already?

Ok we don hear

That God news



If Only U knew how many of ya BF's Frnds are aware he's Cheating on U, U'll Regret hw many times u served dem jollof rice w/o poisoning it

This is horrible

Yeah

Na so

Politicians are neva straight forward dat y dey are difficult to hunt down.

We know dey are liars so tell us sometin else

Mtchew . Political prostitutes

Mtchew political prostitutes

Money Gud. Our celebrity are beginning to realize dat

When I see things like dis I wonder if there are still tins heaven hv to offer?

If it is wit his personal money den notin spoil but if it is wit the state treasure den I wonder wat the house of assembly are waiting for to impeach the fucker.

adaobi123: I hate wearing bras, they can be quite uncomfortable. If only I had small bõobs, I would go braless every day.

Eyah so u get milk industry?

finditng: Hillarious......are there still real ladies like dis....lmao.....quite a number will refuse to publicly agree to these nt even wf a faceless pseudonym....lmao...but in their hrt of hrts...they knw its the truth....

You missed out one advanage though...its so sexy @ low-waist bandless jean pants .....aundies kills the vibe for ladies on that jean ish....its like the toality and truth of the curves are untampered with @ no under-wear....#just sayn....y'all can call me wt u like...its beautiful wtout no pant line bs nor the overt depiction a g-string line myt present at the point of observation....(Cld mean somethn totally diff behind closed doors...#winks)...and if u got a problem wf my freedom of xpression,.hug an oshodi molue already....

Ashi learn to write well

firstEVA: “Wearing no undergarments – or just cotton ones – allows the external genitals to dry and reduces bacteria growth that could otherwise make its way into your urethra and cause a bladder infection,” says Dr. Sherry Thomas, an OB-GYN and surgeon at St. John’s Regional Medical Center in Oxnard, California on CNN’s fast and easy tips.

other Pros of Going Commando

1. Better Air Circulation

2. Less Laundry and Clothing Expense

3. Going Commando Is Green

Now, i made a comment some months back ( a comment which no longer exist due to the Nairaland hack ish) to the fact that i go out without underwear sometimes, and i was attacked left right and center, some even saying stuffs like, "for quick action" e.t.c. now hope yall see it's benefits

Ashi pic of u wit out undies or it didn't happen

Tah can a bag of rice be gorgeous?

Lilimax: I read this write up somewhere and decided to share it using this medium:

Dear Nigerians, the reasons for mass failure of our teenagers in public exams are not far fetched.

1 FACEBOOK,YAHOO,TWITTER,MYSPACE and generally browsing on the internet instead of reading their books

2 ENGLISH PREMIER LEAGUE and EUROPEAN FOOTBALL LEAGUES, it is easy for an average nigerian teenager to know the tha names of all chelsea players but same youths cannot tell you the square root 25 in mathematic. Worse still is that these days instead of seeing inscriptions like UNIVERISTY or SCHOLARS on the exercise books, what you see are pictures of paloma,Drogba,Beyonce,Omotola etc

3 DSTV,Home video and african movie magic, watching television and films endlessly.European champions league,English premiership,Barca,Blues,Chelsea,MANU etc

4 GSM and BLACKBERRY, the average Nigerian teenager uses the latest and expensive gsm phones just to show off that they belong, when they are actually nothing.

5 GSM TEXT LANGUAGE, I will not be surprised to see students write words like ur(for YOUR), 2moro( For tomorrow) in their EXAM sheets

6 QUEST FOR CHEAP FAME AND WEALTH, The goverment,electronic media(tv and radio) and companies have not been helpful at all. The average nigerian youth especially the girls want to BE silver Birds most beautiful Girl and get cheap money and fame(Nobody has remembered all the previous miss world,but we still remember MOTHER THERESA),they want to win IDOLS WEST AFRICA, they want to be in NOLLYWOOD, they want to be TWO-FACE, they want to win maltina street dance ,they want to win starquest and GULDER ULTIMATE SEARCH

Warning is that wealth gotten by vanity shall DIMINISH.
7 The new craze of TALENT SHOWS: Suddenly The only talents our youths now have are music,dancing,acting and stand up comedies, they no longer have talents for maths,physics and entrepreneurism.
Check out the list:MTN PROJECT FAME,BIG BROTHER,STARQUEST,MALTINA DANCE HALL,AMBO,GUILDER,IDOLS WEST AFRICA,PEAK TALENT HUNT ETC…What a bad distraction
It is only COWBELL that sponsors national mathematics competition and give scholarships to outstanding students in UME exams and yet we don't patronize cowbell

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Space booked I hv church...
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But wait oh I heard they were looking for nigeria doctors to ask dem the aging period of the stomach and they were on strike and the only Good doctor has been killed by ebola.#sad

Very funny

This thieves again.

We know politicians are evil. So next

Ok wetin concern me. Meanwhile kemit is dead. Ebola killed it

AMAKAVIOLA: Nigeria is blessed na Only bad government kill am! God Bless the Igbo Tribe, 'Just show me one country where there is no Igbo man pulling weight ?

# fixed