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unbelievable.

drmikeadams:


Na u talk ham

I don take cover o.

TonyeBarcanita:
I am sure you saw the apostrophe symbol in the "woman"? Or is it that you don't know what it means?

2. A 15 year old is a teenager, an adolescent and not a child. And 15 year old get pregnant in case you don't know. Also do know that at age 15 some people are already done with secondary school, including some of my siblings.

3. Being a relative of madam is one reason the wife may be suspicious. It would have been different if she was his own relative.

Like I said earlier, a 15 year old is not a CHILD! Yes, OP may not be having affair with her but Madam isn't comfortable with her around anymore. Get the message!

I am a guy but I understand madam's angle!

Btw

tonyebarcanista............
na oversabi dey make àgbède short, that oversabi don dey worry you.
now give us the definition of child.
I child is the singular form of children!?
a young person especially between infancy and youth.
a son or daughter of human parents.
a son or daughter of any age.
that girl is still a child, even you are still a child to your parents.
that madam is no longer comfortable with the girl is no issue but a no good woman that don't want no one to benefit from her.
mind you if this girl is sent of oga niece would suffer same fate.

drmikeadams:
from some comments here ,u go know say some people here dey maltreat dere house help

you mean tonyebarcanista and co.

theButterfly:
1. The girl is 15. "GIRL", not woman.
2. At 15, she's a child.
3. She's a relative of the wife's.

Idk what sort of useless discomfort the wife could possibly feel over buying the clothes for the girl who also happens to be a child and her own relative. I doubt OP is having any affair w/ her b/c this sounds like an innocent, non-threatening situation and it's not everybody that sleeps with their househelp. She should be the one to apologize to her husband for her dumb accusation and she should grow up b/c someone might end up maltreating her own kids the way she's doing with the girl. It's called karma.

thank you.
the age difference between her their first child and the girl is just four years...... meaning this could as well be their first child.

TonyeBarcanista:
No wonder they say most Nigerians doesn't have good cognitive reasoning

are you claiming to be conscious or what are you driving at?

TonyeBarcanista:
Na wa o. The way you people insult people's spouses on Nairaland as if they are some street hustlers

see bird of same feather claiming saint.
with that your yeye advice up there, the same way you were in support of in-laws frustrating women in there matrimonial home in another thread. watching you in HD var.

TonyeBarcanista:
Bros, honestly, you are crying over nothing.

Your wife is a woman and you should understand her own position. She doesn't want her relative help to enjoy same privilege as her and her children before things get out of hand. Also, she isn't comfortable with the affection you showed towards the girl. You were even wrong to quarrel her and say nasty things to her. Your good intention was spoilt by your action.

Guy, na you find trouble! Even me sef de suspect say your eye de chook for the babe as you don de reason her as second mother.

BTW we have seen relative househelp "chanced" madam in their homes or get pregnant for the oga for house.

Guy, apologise to your wife, and ask her to send the girl to her people.

..........op fine make amend with you wife but please don't listen to that part that says you should return the girl.
tonyebarcanista...................you are here insulting another man's integrity, this reasoning shallow o.

if that is her way of dealing with the truth then give her room to come around.
she just naturally wicked given that the house help is her relative. such girl is no house help but like her niece.
make her realise that girl is just one way you giving back to the society.
you did well pointing out the truth but still bring her around and to terms so she can understand better. let's for now believe don't understand.

WAECMATHEMATICS:
Good day all.

Please, I need your advice on one wicked stubborn tenant. My family gave this our tenant a quick notice since February this year 2019. As a matter of fact, the tenant and our family went to Lagos Arbitration and Mediation Centre. It was at the Mediation Centre that we both reached an agreement that he should leave our apartment.

So, we gave him 6 months quit notice in February, 2019. His previous house rent elapsed that same February, 2019. So, for the 6 months quit notice we gave him, he didn't pay any money. He actually said he would need 6 months to search for another apartment at that meeting we had with him at the Mediation Centre in February. So, we gave him the 6 months for free.

The 6 months we gave him elapsed at the end of August, 2019. When the 6 months elapsed, he refused to vacate the apartment. So, my family went back to the Lagos Mediation Centre to complain. The Mediation Centre sent him (the tenant) a letter giving him 7 days ultimatum to vacate the apartment. At the end of the 7 days, this man refused to leave. My family complained again to the Mediation Centre and they said they would look into it.

After another 3 months again by last November, 2019, this tenant refused to leave the apartment. My family went back again to the Lagos Mediation Centre and one of the officials there said "So, the man has not left the house since?". We responded yes. At the Mediation Centre there, they said something like they are incapacitated by the law to take any action.

This is December now going to an end. The tenant is still in the house. He has refused to vacate the apartment. It's about 10 months now living in our apartment without any payment. He has refused to leave.

The apartment is a 2 bedroom flat in Aguda Surulere, Lagos. The tenant's name is Mr Chigozie Okongwu James.

We don't want to take law into our hands as it seems there is no solution to the problem through the Lagos Mediation Centre. It's about 10 months now!

What can my family do to get the man ejected from the apartment? Your advice are welcomed.

to start with you didn't tell us why you are ejecting or evicting him.
there are solution but are you sure the mediators is being fair in all sincerity over this case.
make he nobi say the man don follow backyard door see mediation officers. they are meant to tell you the next step to follow.
the next step is............ but first give your reason for wanting to evict the tenant.

luckybeat:
We rise by lifting others in any way we can

.............a well done job.

why not here on nairaland?

bad host.

good word op, very educating and explanatory.

helinues:
In a lay man language or perhaps in Pidgin ?

that we are able to get civilised ahead of others don't mean we are better off.
so many awkward side down south, even the same religion that brought us the said civilisation is yet being condemned by some growing population of youths down south.
they are claiming the religion is awkward, due to their new exposure to awkwardness in itself forgetting same brought about civilisation.
we can only respect ourselves irrespective of our diversity, then learn to help people see reasons.

helinues:
Awkward tradition

you don post comment for mind be that o.

Adanairaland:
How are we supposed to know the name?

Na we born am?

Ada you get bad mouth o, shooo.
the person don offend you before?

janettee:
Lol, this is funny.

what funny?

ZombieTERROR:
Ipob aren't Christians?
Demanding their rightful freedom from oppression...

You can't support Evil at your door step
And complain about evil in another man's land

are all the ipob members Christians?
do they all practice Christianity?

janettee:
I don't have to be a Muslim to condemn what's happening in China.

I'm no muslim neither but strongly against everything that is happening there.
injustice agadsinst a muslim, christian or idol worshippers is injustice to humanity.
I'm just so convincexd you are no islamist neither are an atheist.
you are stylishly trying to imbibe free thinking which is meant to be part of every religion but is left out to be on its own.
to be in any religion we all need to free our minds to get to be able to practice it clearly. you not yet a free thinker but you to be one.

janettee:
I'm sincere.

what if I tell I'm convincingly in doubt as your sincerity.
I know what I'm saying.

another one o.
local man is tired.

.........

come Nigeria come abundance of green.

this is it employing the lawless ones into law enforcement agencies.

janettee:
Why do you doubt it?

would you be sincere this time?
I read through you.
though your claim of faith didn't make me use choice words.

StacyO:
Nice write up (written down)

What a lovely mom. If I were a boy, I will feel awkward discussing about underpants with my mom.

thanks ma'am.
I'm humbled.

janettee:
Atheist.

myl sis. one thing is this, "avoid muslim" to Christians is hate preaching but keeping away from evil but my question is "is that the dictate of the Bible?"
I would confess we Christians are more sentimental but hiding under the canopy of holiness.
I would not want to wash my dirty linen in the open.
I openly doubt your claim of faith.

fraymite:
May Almighty Allah bless Ozil. He has indeed proved his support for Muslim Ummah. If you cannot change things with action then try to use your tongue to make impact. This is a character of a good Muslim who has feelings for his brothers and sisters. They can only delete him in Pes and banned him from coming to China but they cannot erase the Islamic faith in him. I wish I could have access to a big stage where my words will be listen to in every parts of the world.

bro forget about muslim or any other religion, injustice to a muslim, christian or idol worshipper remains injustice to humanity.

janettee:
I don't know which religion doesn't preach hate. Truth is, if religious people acted according to what their 'holy books' teach them, I wouldn't be here arguing with you.

So, do you think Christians don't preach hate too?.

my sis. are you a muslim or a Christian so I can answer that question very well but just be sincere?

tantan:
Ozil is right. How on earth will a government force a head of the family in camp and then his wife and sisters being forced to marry a Chinese Buddha?. This is height of inhumanity. Forcing a religious believe on someone and then forcibly taking over his family is beyond comprehension.
And the worst part is that the world is silent on issues that affect human right on this and someone is here banned because he aired his view on this inhumane treatment. This is preposterous.

the more reason I say United Nations is scam, same thing is being done to Tibetans.

adoyi8:
I am very interested to see what Nigerian Muslims will say about this. In 2003, Muslims boycotted Danish foods because a man in Denmark drew a cartoon of their prophet. Muslim countries cannot boycott china because we all know how Islam have made the once innovative Arabs and Persian unproductive. Their heads are full of hatred for Israel and Koran verses that cannot add any value to mankind so they depend on the hardworking chinese who have deleted religious myths from their heads and have applied practical means to solve mans problem. The Chinese people who majority of the religiously brainwashed world depend on for basic things.

I wish Nigerian Muslims will react by throwing away all their made in China gadgets but can they?
Dont forget that APC have sold Nigeria to China by collecting unpayable loans so I also wonder how this muslim-lead administration will react.

I guess they will just turn a blind eye to it and pretend that nothing happen.

how gullible this is, ozil and Chinese are at war you are here calling out your own people to join and start same here.
how are you better off when you can't differentiate between inflammatory word like ozil?
you just one the reason those nuisance devourer in Abuja are making padlawk to seal mouths.