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White one:

I didn`t do anything to this men.
I have never seen them before.
I just said hello and they said hello and they started to talk on their language with my boyfriend in my present.
After that he was so angry and told me what they was telling him.

I look like a human beeing.
You know two arms, two eyes, two legs and one head.

I try

But since I start reading in this forum I am not sure if they really like me.
We send some fotos and they to send us fotos (his father look totally like him ).
But I never thought that black and white can hate each other so much.

To say that nigerian are not racists is quite funny.
I read a lot now in this forum and I am very surprised about the racism against white, asians, latinos and even other african people,

I remember some nigerian man who treat me like I am not a human because of the way I look and where I come from. They even try to tell my man to search another woman because women like me can´t be goog for him.

When your parents really love you, they want you to be happy and when you are happca with this man they will accept him after some time.

For me, my family is always more important than anything else.
I would do everything for them and I couldn`t be together with a man who loves money and his job more than his family.

That is nice to hear.

Thank you thats very nice.

So why this is like this?
Are we white women so terrible?

Ok, sometimes I can be a witch, but normal I am a very nice person

elena--some friends have been influencing u negatively. .Do u really love dis guy?
what makes u think,he'll leave your side. .do u really wants 2 make it work?

Sure I love him.

All the things like, african man already have wifes at home or their parents only want to have real black children. I am just thinking that may be I am not good enough for him and his parents so he will search another woman.

I can do whatever I want, I am not an Nigerian and I cant bring black children to this world.

In Germany the child can take the name of the father even if the parents are not married. That is the law there. Are you just looking for sympathy-

My boyfriend was Asyl he didnt has a passport. They dont even allow us to make his name in the birthcertificate!!!
They change this one year later and ask us to wait with the changing of the name because they have to ckeck his datas. So the second child had to have the same name because you cant change the name anyhow.

i can show you the law ( I think you understand german?)
so dont tell me that i am lying here!

oh!he got his papers through a german child(yet 2 marry).
And now,u r confused whether to marry him or not.
und jetzt,was hast du vor?are u still going to marry him?

Yes he got his paper trough our first baby.
Later our second baby came and now after all the time we would like to marry.
Sure I want to marry him. I love him and normal I think i can trust him. He is a good guy, but when I hear all the storys which are happening in black and white relationsships I am confused and I am afraid that everything is just a game for him.

I now what I want. I want to be forever with him no matter where he is, he says that he wants the same, but who knows if that is true.

Some women do not want to marry because they do not want the kids to have Nigerian names. Those women that fool themselves that they have tanned babies with curly hair.

I don`t have any problem with his name.
The question is, if people like you want to see german girls which nigerian surnames

For me I wolud like it more, when the babies have his name, because he is the father and normal children have their fathers name, but they didnt allow us to give them his name. Always problem with this people.

Selena make up your mind if he has his papers or not. Two contradicting stories. That seems typical of you,  just wondering
Well how come you think that men prefer to live alone without their family?

Oh sorry mutter, but I have never said that he doesn`t have his papers already.
Some men does prefer to live without their german wife and children when they only marry for papers, that happen quite often and this make me sad and confuses me.

I think you cant understand my situation.

I dont understand anything again.

I am not worried.
I just dont like when people talk about us like this.

My boyfriend have his papers already.
What is your problem?
He can go and live alone, nobody can do him something and a lot of man prefer that kind of life.
Sorry I dont have power about him and i dont want to have.

Davidylan, ask her why he is her boyfriend. Why she didn`t put a ring on his hand. I can bet you those kids are answering german surnames.
One can read between her lines. Just experience.

Even you don`t ask me, I will answer you.
I mean you are living in Germany, so you have to know how difficult it is to marry a foreigner.
The first problem is to get the paper. He couldn`t get it from here, it would be to expensive, but when he come back from Nigeria, he will take them along, so there ist no problem again to marry (ok I am not sure, they will always find something) and then of course we will all take his surname or do you have a problem with that too?

Oh, that is very sad whiteone.
But I think this will happen in every country when you come as a foreigner.

davidylan:

Thank you .

In most cases it doesn't work because German women treat their men(African) like poo.
They don't appreciate African men,they prefer d Black Americans who don't  treat them well.

I treat my boyfriend like i want him to treat me and this works.
I don`t understand why I have to appreciate African men?
Are they so special? Please tell me.
And for your information, no I don`t prefer any black american. Why should I do that?

Yes black men marry for papers. Desperate situation desperate solutions. Blame your German government. After all when Europe colonised Africa did you marry our women and men to stay there. Now after exploiting Africa you are kicking against the few Africans that come there to do mostly hard labour jobs.
What causes the break up of these marriages in Germany. How can you marry a man and have children for him, when you have no regard for his country culture. When you think you are better than him because of your colour. When you have no respect for him and want him to forget his family.
How can you say you can`t understand them on the phone Huh But your English is good enough to communicate in a forum? That just shows the kind of person you are. Why you should call her mama and ask after her. Your husband is mad because you do not respect them or regard them as in laws. You think you went to the bush to pick a monkey you can keep in your home in a cage?
If you want your marriage to last then treat it as a marriage. Decide if you are a wife or the owner of a monkey

What colonisation have to do with it?
It´s me, who colonisate Africa
And against which African I am kicking?
Why I don`t have regard for his country culture? Because I think to know and have contact with the grandparents are more important tha any culture problems Do you think that, when we have the money we wouldn `t like to go and live sometime in Nigeria?
How do you want to do this when you are just happy to pay all your bills every months Money don`t fall from heaven.
You know that the English, what they are speaking has a dialect which is very strong so this and the phone problems (sometimes the call just end because of network) its quite difficult to understand the person on the other side.
Try to call a chinese in china and speak english with him, it will be difficult when you don`t see his face during he is speaking.
And why are you calling my boyfriend a monkey? People like you they will never stop to hate.

Oh, mutter you are saying things which I didnt say.
I am not surprised anymore.

I like how white one is thinking. All this what she says is so true.

its seems to be difficult for you to understand me

i didnt say his culture is nothing. his culture is like my culture, but they are more important things.
culture is not our problem.

Why should somebody look at another person, when he is married?

I think something is wrong then.

Which problem?
I am their mother.
I am a german.
Their are living here in germany and this for the next 18 years and may be longer.
So their main culture is here, because they have to live in this country.

when i would be in nigeria it would be the other way round.

culture is nothing, you can adapt to any culture when you are interested in it. What is important is to know his family.
And for an old woman who has lost so many children is important to see her son and his children.

makajibbz:

They prodice them because of the paper.
In germany african people can only stay permanent when they marry or born german children.
this is the sad thing here.

Lady dee:

Their heritage and culture is also here in germany.
For me it would be more important, that they just know their grandparents.

I hope that it will be earlier.
you can send us some money and we will go tomorrow  

But i want to say something:
I am not going crazy because of any black man.
I am not this kind of girl.
I am not crazy about black skin. Black skin isn`t attractiv for me and I dont choose my partner by the colour of the skin.
I love my boyfriend for the person who he is. He is a very special boy and i can laugh and talk with him about everything.
He is not Brad Pitt but he has something what is more important.

Lady dee:

It would be nice when nigerian man would fight for their german kids, but most of them dont care when they got their papers and this is so sad, because this are their children

They dont pay, they dont help, they dont even visit the kid, this happen so often.

One man is divorced from his german girlfriend. i know her a little bit and she told me that he is still making terror with her. he is very agressive and she and her son are really afraid of this man.

may be ist true that the not real black children dont count for them.
i would call that racism.

The time i know him i was 18 years old.

I just fall in love with him and thought that live is easy, but it isn`t.

They will know their fathers land when our financial situation is better (may be in 10 years   )

In my and my boyfriends oppinion, germany is the best country for our children to grow up.
My boyfriend is always laughing when people tell him about the racismn in germany.
May be our city is very special and the people are more intelligent then somewhere else.  

can you translate i dont know what it means

I didn`t say that black/black or white/white couples dont have any problems.
But for them its easier.

When you want to have a permanent relationship and not just your fun for some nights, its very difficult to be together with a person from another country, exspecially when the countrys are so different, like Germany and Nigeria.

Its starts with the point of where you want to live in future. My boyfriend wants to go back when he is older. I want to live in my country. His parenst need somebody when they are getting older and my too, so where you want to stay?

One will always lose.