One of my best friends left the Netherlands, some years ago, and moved back to Nigeria. He now lives in Lagos with his fam. So whenever I visit Lagos, he likes to show me around. And high-end bars and restaurants are often the most popular places he takes me to.
His friends always like to tag along, and I often find that observing and asking them questions is always a good way to learn more about them, and life, in Nigeria. We're all in the same age bracket (late 20s and early 30s) and all of them, except me, are married and have kids.

In all the years I have visited my friend in Lagos, and hung out with him and his friends, one thing I can tell anyone, without any doubt, is that the average Nigerian has absolutely no regard for the institution of marriage, despite being super crazy about marriage and weddings.
While at bars or restaurants, these guys, who have wives and kids at home, are constantly chasing girls and women. And they do it so desperately and openly, that it often leaves you in awe.

One encounter that left me shocked, was when one of the guys kept touching the waitress's waist, and the poor lady kept reminding him that he was married, to which he replied, "And so?" And I was just there thinking, "the utter disregard for this same marriage they often act like it's such an accomplishment, the sexual assault, as well as the disrespect for their partners at home. What a tragedy!"

And it's not just my best friend's friends who shocked me. When you look around these bars and restaurants, they're mostly filled with cheating Nigerian men and women. Most of them, either married, or in relationships. Sitting there, eating and drinking, while their partners are either at home, or also out there somewhere, equally cheating on them.

I think the funniest thing that happened to me, was when my best friend's friends, tried to label me "irresponsible", because I am unmarried.
They said that marriage makes you "grow up". It makes you more "responsible". And that men who aren't married are neither grown nor responsible. I told him that apart from the fact that I am quite anti-marriage, cos of how patriarchal it is, I believe that, in comparison with ...
... all of them, I was the most responsible person sitting on that table. To be in a relationship with someone, means being responsible for their happiness, and one of the ways to ensure that, is to not cheat on them. My word is my bond. I do not cheat on my partners. Never!!

And it's super weird, and frankly, quite irritating, that men who so blatantly cheat on, and disrespects their wives, and the mothers of their kids, would have the nerve, to call me "irresponsible", because I am not married. I never stop thinking about it. The sheer audacity!
PS: I know how the average Nigerian lacks comprehension skills, as I can see from some of the weird replies and quotes, so let me add this:

This thread isn't a particular rebuke of Nigerian men. Whether Nigerian men cheat on their women, I honestly don't give a flying Bleep.
What I'm trying to share is that I don't understand how Nigerians would believe that those who aren't married are "irresponsible", but they who are all married up, have even no atom of respect for the very same institution of marriage they so pretend to "revere".

Nigerian men and women cheat on each other profusely. With the kinda determination that leaves you in shock. You can see it from the way the women commit paternity fraud left and right, and the men are all community dick left and right. Nigerian men and women deserve each other.
And because of all that, I think they have no right to shame people for not wanting to get married, or call anyone "irresponsible" for not being married. Nothing gives them the right or the moral high ground.

Oh, and my best friend knows how I feel about him and his friends. 🙂

olusamuel01:


Just wondering. Isn’t rate supposed to be measured against time. Something %/t. Since it’s a rate, it’s supposed to be changing with respect to time. Abi na too much Physics dey worry me.

lhordspy:
Mr seun is nairaland now peter obi's forum. Please tell us so we can know.

Today alone. It has been fully Pro-Obi and Anti-Tinubu thread all through. In the space of 24hrs we have seen almost like 3 thread telling us why Tinubu cant win an election, with multiple Pro-Obi threads littered all over the frontpage.

What is going on here?

Moneyboyz:
You haven't taken any method to slow down the attack bro.

I can't see the captcha on the login page, add captcha and they will lose interest.

Cc seun
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Myund44

Silentgroper:
trying to login tends to be hectic this days...

WhoDeyHause:
Now that seun's new login verification feature due to hackers looking to steal accounts has wiped out almost everybody's previous mentions I wonder how post diggers will be able to do their business. .

XStyLes:
Goodevening sir, hope everything is going to be fine soon?

NothingDoMe:
@seun. Seems the search function on nairaland only gives results from today. Nothing from past records.

jeffoe:
I made a thread about this couple of month ago it was ignored by the Mods.

Donjazet2:
Seun what do you do about the pro-tinubu bots who open numerous accounts for the sake of generating fake likes on pro tinubu candidates in a guise to manipulate public opinion?

What do you do about the rampant hateful tribal venom being spewed by pro-apc accounts. The ones that tag all opponents chinedu or Emeka and outrightly single out Igbo tribe? How do you tackle this seun?

God1000:
Thanks Seun, hackers have become very sophisticated in their nefarious activities.

But why is updating of profile not working?

skydiver01:
Kindly find below todays NTB auction results.. Interesting.. stop rates have fallen two or three consecutive times which have boded well for bond prices