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kennynelcon:
I hate nosey fellas... but what were u hidingz.

shegsky:
Lol. That guy is smarter than you. He already know ure Triple Dating ..

EfemenaXY:
Forget him. He sounds childish.

Tell me more about this shop of yours. What do you do? Why isn't business moving?

Good on you for starting something up girl. I'm impressed.

All thanks to God for his grace and to you too for your wonderful advise. God bless you so much, May God be with you and all yours. You really brought light into my life.
I am into fashion designing and on the street where I have the shop, there are more than 20 tailors there. Due to the fact that I am new, no patronage.

AdeniyiA:
you changed your phone ...??

CertifiedSamuel:
Yes it's very much possible.

Just give me your phone for like 10 mins when am indoors, even if u travel, as long as you don't change that phone, I can read ur whatsapp convos (i.e if I want to).

No, I won't be installing any app on your phone or sort. Hence, it will be hard to tell when someone's reading ur msgs.

sammoe:
Monitor to base : Agent Shiningmama has been compromised...

I repeat, AGENT COMPROMISED...

MISSION ABORTED...

EfemenaXY:
Shingingmama, sorry I haven't been following up on you.

The more I read your posts about what's going on in your home, the angrier I get. Sweet Jesus! You're even having to plead with him not to disrespect you at home? He shouldn't be disrespecting you at all!

I swear, none of this would be happening to you if you were my daughter!!

I know you don't want to leave your kids but you've swallowed a lot of shyte from this man for over 10 months now. The initial advice I gave you was to help you rebuild your self-esteem. To rediscover yourself and look forward. It was given to help you cope with your situation then. Now, you need to move on from that.

That notwithstanding, the fact remains that you're a young, vibrant, married woman forced to live like a nun in servitude in your own home. Can this man survive a month without sex? And yet he subjects you with worse? This isn't sustainable. You can't live the rest of your married life like this. We're talking the next 40, 50, 60+ years. You're looking at the wrong people again and saying to yourself, if she (his best friend's wife) can manage without sex for 8 years, then what is 10 months in the grand scheme of things?

Shingingmama, throw yourself into your business o! I know you said you've started something small on the side - good on you. But you must really put your head down, girl and make lots of money! Make money, make money, make money, Shiningmama so you can get your independence. And freedom from that bondage of a marriage. You need to set yourself and your kids free from that environment. It isn't healthy. Not for you, and certainly not for your kids who see how their dad treats their mum whilst having his numerous affairs.

You husband's got you well and truly trapped because he knows you won't leave your kids, hence him treating you the way he does. Just like Cococandy suggested, keep your mouth shut and carefully, methodically plan your exit strategy from that bondage. This should give you something to look forward to. To strive and work even harder to gain your financial and emotional freedom.

The sooner you leave, the better for you. And hopefully, someday, you'll meet someone who'll love, and respect you for who you are, and not for what you can "do for him". Someone who will cherish you and treat you right. No one has the right to hold you back and down. You need to move on with your life.

Ola17:
The process works on Rooted Android device.
You use titanium backup. Not difficult. But the person must have access to your phone before he/she can do it. It can't be done remotely.

angelchinny:
I would hv left him a long time ago but I jst think twice cos of two reasons
1) Cos of my children, hw I will take them along wit me
2)Cos am not working yet, I can't provide 4 myself n my children

mutter:
Well how on earth can she take care of the baby while taking her exams!
Exposing the baby to unnecessary stress.Please thats a baby and not a toy.

Others out there are praying for their parents to accept the child. This world ! You can never please humans!

fem29:
My dear, I applaud you Oo. I know how hard it is to leave your hubby in Nigeria, specially if he threatens to take your kids. I pray you are able to flourish under such negative circumstances. Try to make yourself happy despite such circumstances. Get some self help books, at least you know where you stand which is very important. Take your kids out, meet up with friends sometimes, go to the cinema, gym, country club etc, never cheat though. Just look forward to when your kids are a lot more grown and he cannot keep them away form you. If things have not improved by then you can leave him and who knows if you can still find love. Be happy, live and love your life, you only have 1, hugs

veave:
My dear. You are on the right track. I know your heart is now from obiakpor local governtment. 8years you say? So your Oga is following the trend... show me your friend they say...

thorpido:
Men are not beasts........yea some are and you could put your hubby in that category.

For how long are you going to keep living the way you are?If this marriage is not working,you should get a separation.Find a way to get your kids with you if you leave.

chibic:
Meeeeehhhhn!!!! This is humiliation!!!! I can never say that kind of thing to my woman. But if she is the type that's always on social media chatting, then I'll say it hundred times to her face if she disturbs me.

But 10 months and no sex with your husband? Hmmm something is going on somewhere.

cococandy:
I'm sorry. I got that impression from where you said you now kneel down to greet him.

So his mom is the one stopping you from leaving with your kids?
I just wish you are my sister. All of them will just wake up one morning and get your call from abroad wishing them well.

Lekwanu wickedness.

You didn't come with kids, so she's the one who came with kids abi her son came wit kids attached to his arm when he married you?
I don't know why people can't be fair or put themselves in others' shoes.

I believe she's saying that because she found out about your plans to leave with the kids.
This kind of thing, you don't go announcing your intentions.
Just lay low, endure and make your foolproof plan and then surprise them with it.

Shey if you're her daughter, she will be fine with your husband treating you that way?

Human beings are beyond wicked and selfish.

If you're fine now, great. I wish you the best. Pls don't complain any further to his mom or anyone from his family even if he does anything further. They are obviously the type who don't think they can ever be wrong.

If you feel your situation getting worse, make your plans without any of them having any clues.

Don't open your legs in rare moments of weakness and collect HIV from him. When he's ready to reconcile, he should be willing to go for testing with you before anything else.

Floodgater:
I hope you work, i also hope you are ready for whatever the future holds for your marriage.
As it is now, the truth is your husband is drifting away from you as you dont bond. He may decide to take another wife, i hope you will not be shattered by it. You might get tired of continuing the way you are, are you prepared for the next way forward in this instance. He might also decide to save his marriage atleast for his kids sake.
I advice you pray fervently for God to touch your husband, bring him back to you willing to amend his cheating ways. I will also say continue in protecting yourself but have a back up plan should your husband spring up an unpleasant surprise so that you wont be helpless. Still, i believe God that has made it calm those past months can and will help you.

cococandy:
how do you hope to survive like this?
Someone is cheating on you and you're kneeling down to greet him?
You're enabling him.

In psychology your attitude is called a reinforcer.
Human will do whatever keeps giving them the desired effect they expect.
If he sees that rubbishing your humanity makes you so low that[b][/b] you would to any length to get him to like you, he will keep doing it because that is the action he takes to get you in that lowly position he wants you to be.

Pls stop or he's never going to stop.

babyosisi:
You are hurt with low self esteem and you intend on keeping it that way?

goldendollars:
This is serious o! how do u intend continuing like this. u cant stay away from him forever especially if you are living under the same roof. It is well babes...words fail me.

Chinum:

@bolded, I think I'm learning this for d first time.

nickibarb:
wow. difficult one. i don't think your not having sex with him is a good idea. its not like you've clearly caught him cheating. its just chats. try to have a heart to heart talk with him. tell him why all his actions are breaking your heart. and like we always say, keep praying that God brings back your man's heart

Shollypopzz:
Of course, I know. I meant that jokingly but I swear I wouldn't have the balls to say what you said.

bebe2:
Hahaha ur mouth sef,

It's all about being playful.

Some of them can be so unreasonable.

Wen my husband took me to london without informing his family , his mum called and asked to speak with me, I was thinking she wants to congratulate me but wat I heard was " do u know I own dat peni*s that u ran to in London"?

I froze, I quickly apologised and made excuses for not informing her , after much petting she calmed down and started demanding for plenty grand kids

Shollypopzz:
Bwhahahahahahahahahaha!! *DIES*

You are evil!

bebe2:
simple!

Tolerant is the watch word.

was home a few weeks back, sat with my MIL and all of sudden she started advising me,

how i shud love my husband and always ''beg'' him when i offend him and he is angry.

i kept saying yes ma, yes ma, wen she finished i asked her, wat if he offends me?

she paused, look at me and said, '' my son is not a trouble maker he can never offend anyone''

i fell to the ground with laughter, cudnt control myself, it was my SIL that was telling her

so ur son is an angel abi?

wen i got home i started gisting my frd the story but she was so angry, saying NOOOOOOO i cant tolerate dat,

how can she say that to u? u shud have answered with this or that.

i just stood there shocked, i thot it will be gud laugh o, after her reaction i jeje carry my bag and went home.

Some ladies are crazy.