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beeevan: Jessy I would give a second chance here if I were you.

theLORDreigns: Yes, we saw it and we're working on it.



Calm down, there's no need jumping to conclusions just yet.
Let's hear from the horse's mouth...

jessybarbie: I did not hit him first.

theLORDreigns: Me too.



I wish it were that easy. Domestic violence goes way deeper...





Jessybarbie has the final say.

EnlightenedSoul: Why do people drag feminists into everything lmao.
There you go changing the story to suit you.

crackhaus: Stop calling it physical abuse, it's just one slap for brain reset.

Well, it seems like you're one of the cool-headed and respectful women out there....but please be real, some women deserve a slap or two.
You need to see the things some women say and do to their spouses with the mindset of 'I'm a woman and nothing will happen'.

Note:
She hasn't told us what insulting words were being exchanged though.. I can bet most of these words were spoken by her..

jessybarbie: Women do not hit hard as men...

theLORDreigns: I appreciate your honesty.

However, I feel remaining in this relationship would be 'settling' on her part because she had an expectation to never be hit by any man. That her boyfriend knew this only makes it seem like he deliberately dared to push her to an extreme.

Now he knows her limit & her reaction-capability. If he was truly a genuine abuser, he has her right where he wants her to be & she's dancing to his tune. I pray there wouldn't be a next time but if I were her, I wouldn't bother waiting to find out.

How much more would you advice that she lower her standards? Do we wait for a second slap?

Jessybarbie, he doesn't respect you, just walk away...

anago9010: bwahhaaahaaaaaa coming from a waste of space, time and spermatozoa. coming from a product of polyandrous marriage through bestiality. that you didn't turn up braindead is the 8th wonder of the world. cos the despicable nematode that sired broke the waters, while climbing a rock, you came out head first and hit your already hydrocephalus head on the rock. imagine why your utter useless momma live in a zoo she is stationed their cure the s3xual urges of the animals when nature calls. least I forget you are the dumbest organism on the milky way.

ibietela2: Oh so you know Tunde Salami too? Mhen that guy is cursed

djfaithy: because abuja is your father's property abi, most of you talk like slowpoke.

apolonius: An adult that slaps another sure has greater problems than is manifested in the 'slapping' symptom. More often than not,if the slapper is determined to recognize this and consciously try to work on the deeper infirmity that this act mirrors they should be fine.

More importantly,many of us Naija men have this barbaric worldview from the wrong 'macho upbringing' that we had that unconsciously taught us that an animalistic physical expression of feelings is ok.

It is an infirmity we all have except for people who have acknowledged the existence of this mental deformation and worked on it.

If she loves him and he is consciously working on being better and saner,let her stay on.

theLORDreigns: Don't confuse things, I'm not jessybarbie & my opinion about whether 'getting-off-the-seat' could have prevented that slap or not shouldn't count.

It's not that simple when it comes to abusive partners. Anything else could have tripped (& can still trip) him off.

For all we know, she may have been 'getting-off-seats' all through their two-year relationship. So telling her to continue 'walking on eggshells' in order to avoid abuse doesn't quite cut it.

Both partners are/were wrong. However, she would never have 'defended herself' if he didn't hit her in the first place. He lacks self control & predictability.

Saying they deserve each other just because she defended herself is like saying two wrongs make it right.

Answer this: Would you have asked her to remain in this relationship if she told you that she quietly walked away without retaliation?

anago9010: Hey you green- nostriled, cross eyed neck mushie eating ape.With these weak lines that you drop, you'll only rise higher than yeast - keep ptyalising okpata ewu gambia. rumor has it that your crone of a mother is getting shagged every day by some village hunters - the s3x-starved locals takes turn to have the octogenarian pummelled analllly.
It's a disturbing news. We all know your ha..g of a mother ingests a h...orny goat weed every day but is that enough reason for her not to have her orifices sealed with a glue? Oh!
Maybe that's her unique way of rendering quality charity service to your community.

anago9010: priceless coming from a nematode conceived by a worm that was raped by earthworm and fisted by frogs. your Allen avenue hustler of a mum, can't even reach the height of her shoe sole till she cross to Hades to go fraternize with Lucifer.

theLORDreigns: Look for this post below;

theLORDreigns: Your opinion...

My advice to u, take it or leave it; when you hit your girlfriend once and stop, don't ever expect her to sit back & take it quietly cuz u may not be as lucky as dis guy to meet a loving woman who will not stab you with a knife, then u will learn how hitting a woman differs from correcting her in love.

jessybarbie: We were arguing about a lot of things and exchanging insulting words. I sat on a chair he wanted to use and refused to get up, that's when he did it.

freshness2020: ♈όϋ don forget say dem say na "Institution Wey when ♈όϋ enter na no graduation ceremony"
The only institution they issue certificate before admission!
School for life my broo!

jessybarbie: We were arguing about a lot of things and exchanging insulting words. I sat on a chair he wanted to use and refused to get up, that's when he did it.

The fact that you retaliated also shows you are violent and should equally be dreaded, both of you are guilty of one and same offence. EOD!

My submission, stick to him!

NB: You haven't told us the sh1t you did to warrant a slap (not justifying the slap thou) even thou it may well be justified afterall

okirewaju: Not bad. As long as I really like you then age is just a number!

kobikwelu: Simple...
peace of mind associated to having a companion
Easy access to good food

egopersonified: kai, u need to go for pidgin classes.

okirewaju: I don't think I can marry someone younger than me.

I love my men older, like way older!

elvisz: where is dis man from?. Na wah ooo. Dem suppose dey screen people b4 dem register dem for dis site. Enough monkey tail and dongoyaro. Easy with d drinking bro