theLORDreigns:

I appreciate your honesty.

However, I feel remaining in this relationship would be 'settling' on her part because she had an expectation to never be hit by any man. That her boyfriend knew this only makes it seem like he deliberately dared to push her to an extreme.

Now he knows her limit & her reaction-capability. If he was truly a genuine abuser, he has her right where he wants her to be & she's dancing to his tune. I pray there wouldn't be a next time but if I were her, I wouldn't bother waiting to find out.

How much more would you advice that she lower her standards? Do we wait for a second slap?

Jessybarbie, he doesn't respect you, just walk away...

shizzleStar:
A ship cannot have 2 captains at the same time, one of you should have backed down from the argument, and that person should have been you, unnecessary ego at play. Then you screwed up finally by refusing to get up from the chair he wanted to use, unto say you be 'ana apa ana apa' (you are a mountain that cannot be moved).



You jessybarbie, have serious issues of your own. In other words you need to work on yourself too. Oh well, my earlier comment remains valid however!

theLORDreigns:

I'm missing your point.

Are you saying she deserved two or more slaps?

EnlightenedSoul:

Well stated!
People are way too dismissive.

crackhaus:
Not at all.

Disregarding this particular case, I'm asking if it's possible that there can be no justifiable reason to slap a woman, regardless of what she did?

crackhaus:
Not at all.

Disregarding this particular case, I'm asking if it's possible that there can be no justifiable reason to slap a woman, regardless of what she did?

jessybarbie:

There can not be any justifiable reason to hit a woman!

jessybarbie:

We were arguing about a lot of things and exchanging insulting words. I sat on a chair he wanted to use and refused to get up, that's when he did it.

jessybarbie:

There can not be any justifiable reason to hit a woman!

beeevan:



And if the woman hits first?

jessybarbie:

There can not be any justifiable reason to hit a woman!

EnlightenedSoul:

Nor is a woman justified in hitting a man. It's that simple.

EnlightenedSoul:

Nor is a woman justified in hitting a man. It's that simple.

beeevan:



And if the woman hits first?

jessybarbie:

There can not be any justifiable reason to hit a woman!

Keep telling yourself that bullshit.

jessybarbie:
Women do not hit hard as men...

beeevan:



I said what if the woman hits first?

crackhaus:
You really believe this, don't you?

Maybe that's why you could comfortably exchange insults with your man and further still, seat on a chair he needed to use

Two questions:

1. Why did you refuse to get up from the chair?

2. Now that you know he can slap you when you push him to the limit, will you be testing his patience anytime soon?

jessybarbie:
Women do not hit hard as men...

theLORDreigns:

I appreciate your honesty.

However, I feel remaining in this relationship would be 'settling' on her part because she had an expectation to never be hit by any man. That her boyfriend knew this only makes it seem like he deliberately dared to push her to an extreme.

Now he knows her limit & her reaction-capability. If he was truly a genuine abuser, he has her right where he wants her to be & she's dancing to his tune. I pray there wouldn't be a next time but if I were her, I wouldn't bother waiting to find out.

How much more would you advice that she lower her standards? Do we wait for a second slap?

Jessybarbie, he doesn't respect you, just walk away...

EnlightenedSoul:

Just as with any physical confrontation, the person should be prepared for the possibility of backlash.

I've never lifted (and never will lift) so much as a pinkie finger to a man, and I expect the same.

theLORDreigns:

Yes. That's my stand.

If you feel otherwise, kindly state your justifiable reasons why any person (male or female) is liable to inflict physical abuse on his/her partner.

theLORDreigns:

Yes!!!!
You go girl!!!!

**dancing**

jessybarbie:
That is why I have explained to him that we can't be together, that we don't match but he is insisting that it was a mistake that would never happen again. He is refusing to let go, how do I make it easy for him?

jessybarbie:
Women do not hit hard as men...

crackhaus:
You really believe this, don't you?
Maybe that's why you could comfortably exchange insults with your man and further still, seat on a chair he needed to use
Two questions:
1. Why did you refuse to get up from the chair?
2. Now that you know he can slap you when you push him to the limit, will you be testing his patience anytime soon?

jessybarbie:
Women do not hit hard as men...

shizzleStar:
now there is a problem here, theLORDreigns et al did you see this?

If i understand the op, it is right for a woman to hit first afterall 'women do not hit hard as men'. What do the feminist have to say about this. For all i care the op could even be a very violent person, in fact i am beginning to take her story with a pinch of salt. Trust me, its possible she hit him first but the guy retaliated by hitting harder, and then she runs here crying blue murder.

I may as well have been wasting my time on this thtead

shizzleStar:
Trust me i do not want to see the guy as an abuser/violent.

@bolded, if i am to believe the deliberate ish, so now that he has seen her reaction(retaliation) and is the one begging to keep her, that means he is not only truly sorry but has equally seen that she is not one to just sit back and digest the slaps, but will rather fight and hit back, that means he cant have it all his way.

I dont believe he has her where he wants since he didn't get away with the slap, so next time before he even contemplates giving a slap, he will think twice, but i truly want to believe there wont be a second slap. I also disagree she is dancing to his tune, cos if she is, I'm not sure there will be an argument in the first place, even if there's an argument, she wouldn't be sturbon not to get up from the chair, i insist, she overreacted by her refusal.

They both made regrettable mistakes, i insist they can kiss and make up like nothing happened. Now they both know one major weakness, they can work on and overcome it, they can still be happy together

beeevan:



Good!

crackhaus:
Stop calling it physical abuse, it's just one slap for brain reset.

Well, it seems like you're one of the cool-headed and respectful women out there....but please be real, some women deserve a slap or two.
You need to see the things some women say and do to their spouses with the mindset of 'I'm a woman and nothing will happen'.

Note:
She hasn't told us what insulting words were being exchanged though.. I can bet most of these words were spoken by her..