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Hassanmaye:
Lol his eyes Go clear, we have many graduate working on 20k jobs

wetdspace:
I am currently looking for a job.
Been at home for 2 years now.. even if it's a 100k per month job or lower, kindly refer me, please I no mind .
My Location is Lekki.

Nemesis0147:
Women..
Can you swear that you haven’t been abusing him too?
You just penned down everything here to justify whatever reason you have in mind for slapping him

blamingthedevil:
Is this a news...who is Falz? The failed musician and/or endsars Hoodlum?

DaddyFabooluz:
Enjoying life overseas after recking Nigeria. There is God oooo

Mercychen:
Exactly!
God bless you.



You know with the female family planning comes a lot of risk and issues of mismatch or even failure which leads to unwanted pregnancies. While the male type is safer and with less risks.

BigSarah:
You don't have to do this, it's Plain attention mongering...

yorubakid:
Afonja women are very barbaric and savages..No Wonder their men despise them and prefer selling their property and running down to the east to pick theirselves Igbo ladies to marry.. cursed tribe of skull miners l! tueh!!

socialmediaman:
Many people in Nigeria are desperate at the moment and they’re not on the same page as you wanting to settle down and grow a family. Moreover, being on the same page to settle down doesn’t still mean it’s you they want to settle down with, but due to desperation they will get married to travel abroad and change their lives.

Talking about marriage, you see, many marriages may survive in Nigeria but they can’t survive abroad because there is more freedom and more options for independence there compared to Nigeria.

How often do serious problems happen with marriages abroad? I don’t know. There is really no data out there on how often this happens, but some speculations allege up to 50% divorce rate among Nigerians abroad. If this were true, It means, 5 out of 10 marriages between Nigerians end in divorce. But I suspect the rate of divorce is much lower. On the contrary, divorce rate in Nigeria is about 1% or less, for obvious reasons, some of them mentioned here

Should a guy go on to take his chances? You see, before you take your chances, you should know why marriages among Nigerians abroad fail. Like I mentioned earlier, many marriages in Nigeria will not survive abroad. Why? Because there is domestic violence involved, financial issues which accounts for one of the biggest reasons for divorce, incompatibility, both spouses are not on the same page in their lives (for e.g. wife wants to school first before kids but husband wants kids immediately etc), core values do not align, among others.

These marriages survive in Nigeria because of the economy, the society and community, the culture, the people etc, but abroad, these marriages will fail because there is more freedom, more options to choose from, more equal opportunity and a different lifestyle and culture. For instance, at 30s, ladies abroad consider themselves young and may be focused on their careers first before settling down, so it’s easy to sync into that if you’re a Nigerian. But in Nigeria, ladies in their mid to late 20s are already getting worried about not settling down

Should he settle with another nationality?
Everyone’s choice and needs are different. There are Nigerians living in Nigeria who are married to Ghanaians, Cameroonians, even Asians, Americans etc. It depends on what matters to you and who you meet. Some women abroad are ready and willing to learn your culture including language, food and lifestyle, while others are not interested. Think about what matters to you and look for a woman whose values also align with yours

The most important ingredient for a successful marriage is how much your values align with each other. Do you both value companionship and want to be best of friends? Do you both value communication and transparency? Do you both value respect? Are you both committed to making a relationship work? Are you both on the same page with what you want in marriage? These are very important questions you need to answer with your partner. For instance, if you value trust very much but find a partner who lies too much, your marriage is already having challenges before even getting started

Affection, romantic connection, even culture similarities are not enough to sustain a marriage. As you can see, people from same ethnic groups also divorce each other. If your values don’t align, you don’t know each other, and other things come to play like infidelity, my brother, your marriage will not survive abroad. Be careful. Know what matters and who you make long term commitments to.

tritt:
What if it was an Uber...try dey reason small small.

govnor4551:
Hi guys..... I love this babe but I can't marry her.
She love drinking, smoking and very easy to anger.
What should I do?
Help.

Havilaah1:
Good day all, i want to pour my heart on what's bothering me and get people's view and possible solutions to the issue.

I've been in a relationship with my boo for a couple of years now and it's a serious relationship, we're are very close.. infact we're practically besties aside relationship. For some months now i noticed he no longer gives me attention like he used to, the vibe between us dropped and it was getting me angry. He stopped doing the things he knows i like, he knows my love language is attention/care as well as complement but he stopped doing all these. I'd send him a photo where i look so beautiful and he'd only say you look good, at a point i started preparing my mind for the worse.

Just yesterday he told me there's something he wants us to talk to me about and it's been bothering him and i asked him what it was, he said it's about us. He said 2 of his siblings asked him same question on different occasions but, he didn't see it as a big deal the first time but when it was asked the second time he got angry and that's the reason he hasn't been flowing well with me.

The question was how can you get married to someone who is not close to your siblings, when he said this i was weak. I know when we started the relationship he told me his siblings are free people i can relate with, i told him i will try. I was in contact with 2 of his sisters before this year( i sometimes chat, text or call during birthdays, new month and festivities).

This year i started chatting with the 3rd sister, her wedding was coming up and she sent me IV. I congratulated her and she asked if i will be around, i told her i will try and create time so i can travel down to attend. I really did travel down to attend the wedding, she was surprised when she saw me but i noticed my boo wasn't happy with me all through the event.
Now he's saying he's in close communication with my mum and siblings, they talk all the time but same can not be said about me. He was thinking how can he get married and his siblings will refuse coming to his house because there's no relationship between us.

I'm a very introverted person while himself and his siblings on the other hand are extroverts and ambiverts, i don't find it easy building up ties with people from a distance. I have very few friends, i can be in a place and i won't talk if I'm not used to the people or there's no serious thing to talk about (that's the reason i talk to his siblings during birthdays, new month or festivities). I don't know how to build up a strong relationship with them before marriage, it's even worse because we don't get to see often cos they're in a different state but I've visited them on a few occasions.
How do i handle this issue. I was in deep thought all through the night, i couldn't get up to 4 hours sleep.


God knows i love his family as much as i do mine, he himself said he knows i care about them 100% but his family cannot read my mind to see that i have them in mind. After our discussion last night i couldn't sleep, I've been feeling bad about the whole thing. Introversion is making me look like I'm not a good person.

I really don't know how to go about this, please i need advice from people who have been in similar situation.
Moderator please help move to front page to get a wider view.
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Please help move to front page for wider view.

Iyaebe:
Well deserved.Look at how the wife is taking care of him at old age,it's simply because he was good and kind to his wife, men please be good and kind to your wife if you wish and want to enjoy your old age.

BombAttack:
So all the useless fake one Nigerian Army, Police, Navy and Air force could not rescue this young man.

He died like a common rat.

While BMC miscreants are busy roaming about shouting one Nigeria and licking Buhari's Ass

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madridguy:
This is a very sensitive issue that requires a very diplomatic approach.

First, your uncle cannot win this battle. Don't underrate a woman and he must not take her threat as a mere one.

The mistake your uncle did was not to study his wife very well when they're still young. I used to tell people, once your wife start exhibiting some characters, the best thing for the man is to start a new family somewhere.

Children are defence for their mother against any enemies, be their father or anyone. So the best time for you to arrange yourself very well is when the woman soldiers " children " are still young. Immediately they matured every woman turn to Aso rock.

I have seen many women planning on how to deal with their husband when old age set for him. By that time the children will be independent so they will just abandon the man and move to any of their son or daughter.

blamingthedevil:

For decades, the anti-choice movement has attempted to brand itself as “pro-life,” but it’s not hard to see through their charade. As “pro-life” Republicans remain focused on criminalizing abortion, it’s not lost on Americans that this isthe exact same Republican party that is hellbent on harming women and families with their regressive policies.

It’s pretty hard to call yourself “pro-life” when you’re actively working to:

Imprison or execute women who access safe abortion care.
Tear babies away from their parents and lock them in cages, with no plan to reunite them.
Silence doctors and strip reproductive healthcare away from millions of low-income people.
Stand by while the maternal mortality rates skyrocket and women—especially Black women—die in childbirth.
Deny affordable healthcare coverage to people with pre-existing conditions.
Cut programs that feed hungry kids.
Block access to HIV testing and treatment across the globe.
Incite far-right violence with lies about abortion.

unbitchable:
His standard is DubaiD'or, no one dey follow am drag dat one. You can see that the old fraud is a glory hunter who has come on Instagram to gloat once again, he did the same thing after he scored two penalties against Luxembourg but after Leicester city whopped his ass, he ran away from Instagram.

coldsummer:
Suddenly everyone has something to say. Holier-than-thou.

I HOPE YOU ALL REALIZE THAT A CRIME HAS BEEN COMMITTED AGAINST THE YOUNG LADY

SMH

Tiwa see the pr*k you dey even receive this harassment for. E small die.

Mtchheeeeeeeeeeew.

Bola146:
Sure! I don't pray I should marry liability or enemy of progress,. He MUST know, we are no more two but one. After God na him

chatinent:
I am wondering how you got a Quickteller OTP if all you gave him were fake.

Ok ok, let's assume he processed it using your BVN.


Very easy.
It could be gotten via a phished site...or some bank officials sold it out. A liaison with a fraudulent banker can empty your accounts. Many fraudsters work with bankers. Lol. Even loan apps sell BVNs. In fact, any agency requiring your BVN sells it. I cross my heart. Lol.

I know of about three other ways to get a BVN without even going to the bank. Lol. So it is not new. Not new. So now imagine if it is in a wrong hands.

A lot of people who even have the BVN don't know how to use it hence they need your credit card details. Lol. Poor thing.


Let me simplify this for you.

If you use online payments regularly, only entering your first four letters could tell if it's Visa, Mastercard, etc...

Using USSD too could unveil a bank name, and holder's name. (I am sure you know that).

On Bank Apps too, it is easy.

There is an app too that does that. It is in dark web and we shouldn't talk about it.




You have to be careful sha.

But that's an old format.

New pro fraudsters tweak your Quick Teller or Transfer accounts that it sends you a mail. When you log in, an OTP is sent to you almost immediately while you are in the app that you wouldn't even suspect it is from another user since you are also responding to the mails with the bank name..the OTP may come in SMS or notification bearing the name too (using bought SMS units)...and boom...your account balance is gone forever. But believe me, you can never track anyone who knows this method. It takes more than mere hacking. This is an expert touch...they'll end up shifting the log details to some other innocent soul..who will definitely be tracked. Many are languishing in prisons for this. Don't worry about this. In a hundred million, only one person fit sabi do this.

Some pro hackers who work with fraudsters also do hack into your balance directly, and shift logs to another vulnerable person! But it is rare to find these sorts! Why? Poor fraudsters cannot afford them. Lol...and that's what most fraudsters are finding. They want to remove the aza-man intermediary thing. Lol.

How do I know all these?

I was a darkweb geek during the days of Wapka.


Moving forward...

• you may need to use a two-way authentication on your accounts! It is very important. Both on your social media and Google accounts.

• Always view the links you click. I see many shared messages on WhatsApp ending with YouthEmpowerment using a URL Shortener urging people to share to their friends for a prize. Lol. Big scam.

• whenever a link claiming to represent sth sends a message, search on Google. It should have a Wikipedia page, go there and view their website link. If it is not the same, it is fraud.

• in Nigeria, only recognised education websites use the .edu.ng and government sites use the .gov.ng . If a site claiming to be of the government says otherwise, it's scam.

• if you ever get confused about a message being scam or not, just post it here on Nairaland and tag me, I will answer.

• be careful of apps you download away from Google Play or Appstore, some can steal your details. Download only recognised official apps on those stores. Not all apps are genuine there tho. Always read reviews (read the critical reviews.. because their team members must always join in posting positive reviews).

• When an unknown number calls you, end the call and run it on TrueCaller. TrueCaller will help you too. His name may shock you.

You are welcome.

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
That karma thing is rubbish.

E don tey since when I don dey bang married women

dlondonbadboy:
Shut it. You defend and support cursed politicians yet, poverty wan finish you.

Entrepreneur kill you there. To roost Suya and barbecue na still entrepreneur? Abokiiii

Activist001:
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I just hope I'm not the only one tired of seeing your shitty comments on nairaland.

Seun we need this block button ASAP abeg.

psucc:
Nigeria has successfully diversified her economy. This effort has been on for the past 6years but gathered momentum in the last 2years of the Next Level Agenda.

Now, Nigeria can boast of internally generated revenue from non-oil sectors such as :
1. Mass kidnapping of School Children
2. BANDITRY
3. Herdsmen
4. Boko Haram
5. Corruption